"Why i did get married." Its a black movie with the likes of Janet Jackson,, cannot remember their names now but i tell you its really meaningful. Its about love, marriage, betrayal, Deceit, hope, faith and the like. You would learn a thing or two hopefully. i did!!!!(80/20 rule). Its out in the States saw it in the cineama dunno if its still showing now. Should be in naija in no time i guess.

My career is definately not where i dreamt it should be today. But in everything they say give thanks. I thank God for the little i have achieved, am surprised i even got this far. Hoping for the best. Factors to blame: Poor/myopic decisions on my part, Naija factors as per rite connection, God Father syndrome, Good network etc i pray for a turn around o!

A friend needs to write a proposal to a multinational construction company inviting them to come and set up a branch in Nigeria. Please give tips as to what should be included in this business proposal.

Very urgent please help.

I feel your pain. Talk to her about it. Effective Communication is the key. Take heart.

@snugle I tire o! am considering Joining

I think she likes you too but she does not want to be sexually involved thats why she avoids visiting you. You should try and communicate better with her, talk, talk, talk tell her everything you have told us here, express yourself you are the man in the relationship. Tell her about your feelings and all then leave her to think and act accordingly. But i must tell you, if you do not intend to settle down with her soon do not bother. Thats what she might be after not a mere relationship. Good luck.

Shugalump:

@Vigasimple
I am a very confident woman  despite having my flaws, like everyone else. I am unapologetic about doing whats right for me.
I asked the question for a very particular reason - and here is one example: I dated a man for 6 years. Two years into the relationship he lost his job, moved in with me and couldn't find a job for the following two years. I would go to my classes at university and come back home to find him on the same spot on the couch where I left him that morning. He ran out of ambition or the will to pull himself up. I started to look after him financially while trying my best to encourage him to find an income. Sooner or later, he started to resent the fact that I was looking after him financially but he still was not motivated to do something about it. I told him I had to leave him if we could not work together in the relationship. At first, he had no reaction, I left. He ended up getting drunk, and he is still drunk to this day. To date - he has not had a job in almost 10 years and at 41 years old - he lives with his mother.

Last year, I fell in love with a man who I thought I was going to marry. This year he hit me because I expressed my unhappiness at the fact that he could go two, three weeks without calling or checking up on me. When he hit me he said it was because he was frustrated that I did not understand how busy he was at work. When I left him for hitting me - he spent all his time (despite saying he was "busy" trying to get me back.

Despite your unfair judgment  on my personality - I do not regret dumping either boyfriend in both cases. I loved them both deeply but I had to put my own well being first. When you respect yourself enough to let go of a love that is destroying you - you are a very strong person and you should be proud of yourself. Despite what someone does to you - sometimes, even when you know they are not good for you you wish you could hold on to them or that there was some way to make them see the errors of their ways and you can work things out. At times I have wished that a man I had to dump for my own well being - would make an effort to fix things before they go beyond fixing - sometimes they do and sometimes they don't. What I was hoping to get from you gentlemen was an enlightning discussion about what makes a man see the error of his ways when is woman has no recourse but to leave until he does.

Clearly, we are not on the same page.

@poster

I like you! you are definately my type of hype. A strong woman who knows exactly what she wants in a man. Thats exactly my style. Cannot really contribute to this post unfortunately, cuz i definately shy away from break ups. I just let it fade and we go our separate ways, thats definately after all the dialogue to resolve the issues. Once i stop calling, know its time to go and most times as in your case they always want to come back.

I would be mad. Would find it hard to forgive and i would forget his own delibrately.

@oko-omoge,

Yeah, i donot see anything wrong with dating someone younger, but the truth is am not available. Am in a relationship. Sorry!!!

oko-omoge:

@oko-omoge

You guys would love to date moi!!!!!!!!!!!!! am flattered. But guys o! i have my many flaws o!!! can you cope [/color][color=#990000]


Bebe 2007, nobody is perfect , as we are all created to have flaws so far we learn from our mistakes no shakings!
for real i want to roll with you, you strike me like my dream woman.
holla me 08023563331 , I am dead serious about it.

Dream woman!!! they always remain a dream!!! checked out your profile!!! omo d age difference na die! am too old for you. You definately need a younger woman. Abi na sugar mummy you dey find? too bad mate.

[b]Romance has to do with love. Its all about ones feelings for another, how it is shown or expressed.
If he is in love with you he ought to be romantic i.e gentle, exotic,passionate,simple, imaginative way of loving you. Ways of expression could be by a massage, lovely poetry, text messages,phone calls( Mtn midnite calls ), love making, kissing,smoochings, general care. It is expressed even in his attitude towards you. For instance when you annoy him, he would get angry definately but how he expresses the anger tells alot about how he feels for you. Note: A guy who opens doors for you is not romantic its just courtesy (good manners) so there is a big difference.

I took time to explain the above cuz am tired of Naija guys who keep saying they cannot be romantic. "its not our culture" etc yeye! whose culture is it It all depends on yor feelings, if you are not romantic, it goes to show you do not really love me. That is my new submission on this issue now. No more excuses i have had enuff.

I would consider a full body massage romantic anytime (loving it!)
Phone calls and text messages (juicy calls and messages o!, dnt call me up and ask about the weather!!)
Surprise visits
Surprise gifts from him and cards (no matter how cheap)
attention (God bless a man that gives his woman undivided attention always)
public show of affection (e.g say you go clubbing together he should be all over you, even if you cannot dance, not staring at babes doing the vulgar dance)
A man who helps with the household chores is definately romantic (romance is not all about smooching my body)
A man who waits for you to come first during sex is a plus!!!
A man who takes his time to know and understand you, your moods, your attitude,your goals,ambition in life, your dreams, your joy,your sorrow, your sentiments, even your body is definately romantic!!!!!
A loyal and faithful guy is a big Romantic!
Most of all a friend, a true friend you can go to when in need, when you are sad, to cheer you up, when you are happy to rejoice with you and many more.

I hear someone say A LONG WISH!!!!! i hear you my sister, if only they come like this rite!

@ poster thats my list for you. Hope you make sense out of my madness.[/b]

Traditional marriage is recognised in Nigeria. Its recognised in our courts. It allows polygamy!!! so he can stay married to his baby mama and marry you aswell. Divorce here would be to go to the ladies family and request for his bride price back. He would have to take her home, tell her people he is no longer interested and ask for his money and goodies back.

I know you love him and all but is he the only guy in the US?? babes try other blokes ok, do not get involved with this polygamist. You would get hurt. YOu could follow him down to Nigeria and meet his people. Thats the only way you will know the truth for sure. But like i earlier said, its not a good idea to get involved.

oko-omoge:

bebe 2007,
I like classy babes like u, but are u homely, beautiful at heart, intelligent and gat a job!
let hook up baby.

[b]Hey! thanks for your compliment. To answer your question, I think am homely whatever that means. I live in a home, i can clean very well !!!!!! (best cleaner you can ever have) , am an ok cook i guess (my mum will not agree to this anyway), am generally an organised person. I love tidy surroundings. So i guess that makes me homely. i love to hang out O!!!!it doesnt mean one is not homely. Am beautiful at heart definately, i get a lot of compliment on that, am intelligent ( most lawyers are anyway). Then speaking of job, i have got one. It doesn't pay so well though but it covers my bills at least for now. Hope to get the best pretty soon. Guess i have answered your questions.

You referred to me as classy!!! thats a big one o!! am i? i got to know these joints from hanging out with family,friends, toasters etc so i guess they are the classy ones.

As per hooking up!!! dont know about that. I have a man mate!!! that would not be necessary. Would be good to know more about you though.

thanks for your compliment Obinumone and Ilugunboy [/b]

@ poster, how far?let us know how the trips went now. Where did you end up taking your Mrs to?

@poster and co

Una try o! na women una take dey do yeye like this abi!!! ok o! una go see who go laff at the end.

@poster

i like your post. Its really true: sharp guy and sharp babe =FLING Its a summary of a long story. I like it!!! the truth is you got caught up!!! poor you! so how you wan take get this babe back now? the gal must be really good o!!!

@poster

Cant say much, just know its not strange, you are not the ony one in this rocky boat. I feel u totally!!!!

Scopium:

So your guy right now is all that? I won't be surprised if his name is Hype Williams. You sound as if 2k packet shirt is worst kind of asset to acquire. A lot of people are going through hell to survive and I mean both sex. Well you just spoke your Walt Disney mind where They All Lived happily Ever After

Eya!!!! did i hit a nerve there? am so sorry. Well the question said "if Girls Toast Guys" mark the word there "IF". I did not toast my present boyfriend so i didnt have much of a choice. If i had been the one toasting, then you already know the type i would have gone for. But since am not toasting i have to make do with the likes that come to me. He is close to my type of hype though, not totally anyway.Am working on that though.But do i see my type of hypes around yes of course, i pray they come to me one day thats if i do not succeed with this one.