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IssaGist:
A Nigerian Evangelist, Victor Edet, took to Facebook to warn Gospel Singer, Tope Alabi over wearing 'weavons, attachments, artificial nails, makeup, earrings'.

Evangelist Victor Edet stated that if Tope Alabi fails to heed to his warning, she will end up not making heaven. Noting that the gospel singer is talented and gifted, he wrote;

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See more here; http://gistmore.com/evangelist-victor-edet-warns-tope-alabi-to-stop-using-wigs-makeup-earrings

Ugosample:
you have an amazing point

Tunagee:
My wife started behaving strangely immediately I lost my job in April 2017. She leaves home to her mum at the slightest disagreement without even communicating or making to express her feelings; and to worsen it, her mum gives her a great welcome with a room and parlour for her to stay, without even calling me to discuss what the problem. Whatever her daughter says is always the final, and she concludes on that.

My wife literarily destroyed my image before my in-laws to such an extent that I can't even visit them again. She tells them i insult her and her parents, and i make negative remarks about them, that i abuse her verbally at the slightest provocation. Several lies against me that I did not allow her travel out, I don't give her money, I told her not to have another kid, that I told her not to work, her mother has decided to keep her with her as I speak without even calling me to discuss, even despite all my appeals. She has been with her mum now for almost ten months(my wife is a fully grown legally married faithful woman of almost 40 years)

All these disrespect, probably cos I lost my job two years ago of which I fulfilled all responsibilities to the home. i don't drink, i don't smoke, don't womanise(even till now) I have never beaten her, I never another child out of my matrimonial home, and never impregnated another woman.

Rather than resolve her marital problem by discussing with her husband, she takes it to her family claiming emotional abuse. Fine, I agree I get provoked cos of her persistent shortcomings, and of course, frustration which leads to unguided vocal utterances towards her, but this could have been resolved easily without having to involve her whole family. Now what she keeps telling my family is that her family said she should still hold on at her mum's place. This is the 10th month since October 2018.

The last time my mum went to her mum's house precisely June last month, she was asked if she was still interested in her marriage, and she said yes, that she does not intend leaving her marriage; but we should give her time. Her mother practically told me to go and do something meaningful, and that there is time to marry, separate, reunite and hustle. Her mum is the one controlling her movements and everything about her for now; not even giving her room to give me audience.

Pls advise on what to do.

We are legally married.

OgbanjeProphet:
Keep shining girl! It's your life, live it the way that makes you happy.

Don't mind haters, most of them wish they are in your shoes.

Ojukwu married Bianca, and Oshiomhole married his own. Even one amiable Yoruba king also married a too young girl and they are all happy to this day.

Tolexander:
What surprises me most is how these mad women give birth with ease, no antenatal clinic and less medical help. Hardly would one see a lunatic not surviving a child delivery.
But so difficult having many of our mentally ok woman having that kind of safe delivery.

Is there anything these lunatics do or eat which our women don’t do or eat?

Seems like it is more of a function of the state of the mind (psychology)

gabito4luv:
My dear NLders. Please your advice and guidance is needed once again. I lost a dear friend and colleague last Dec. He was involved in an accident with his wife (see previous link)https://www.nairaland.com/4914859/how-one-plan-funeral-close#74038218. Six months after the burial his family has refused to release the only child from the union to the young widow. All efforts to settle the matter within the family amounted to an exercise in futility. We have contacted the Min of women affairs in Benin but they haven't done anything yet. The lady who is yet to fully recover (bedridden) from the accident is really saddened by this development. Right now she has run out of ideas on where to seek help. Her current state of health isn't helping matters. Anyone with info on how to reunite mother and child kindly give your suggestions here.

PS. The child is only 2.

TayserMahri:
Beey, good to see you

bigfather:
Its so annoying ....those guys need to be shot ! The girl will be traumatised for plenty years to come !

hopexter:
Calm your tits down

blackslayer:
Thank you!!! We cannot fold our arms....no way...not on this issue!!!!

silent10:
You started well, and ended up being unreasonable.

Juliet11111:
we all have tried the bottle stuff in some point in our lives so what’s the big deal?

bigfather:
This is sexual harassment ! What nonsense !

Englishgold:
Don't look alike, maybe she resembles the mother.

Possibly ask DNA

ojun50:
with same wife

CanineOfJackal:
Babe where have you been hiding with your wahala? I know you are back with more trouble.


Guys avoid this Kenyan American trouble

Tripitaka:
Quite unfortunate. If it was actually a case of brake failure, then the man should walk, unless he has been negligent.

bentben:
So I will try to be as brief as possible, because story is very long.

Started having an affair with this close friend of my wife who now happens to be my colleague in the office now... I helped her got the job before we started having se. X. I have been her target, Infact that was why she came so close to my wife, I'm introverted, so that was the only way she could get close.

Yes she's not happy in her marriage, because her husband is promiscuous and don't give her attention . She used me to ease her pain. I consented to the affair because I kind of felt I was assisting her ease the pain in the marriage... I was totally wrong... I goofed, along the line we fell in love with each other... Deeply in love, even  we knew what we were doing was wrong.

Every fuc, king persons in my neighbourhood and office feels I'm straff1ng her, but we were never caught in the act.
The more I try to resist and stop this whole affair, the more the bond, considering we work in same office space.

She wants more attention than I give to my wife her supposedly friend .. She flares up most time when I pick my wife's call... Forgetting we are close family friends and can easily be caught.
She steal kisses whenever she visits, not minding my wife is in the kitchen.
We both have kids... That are friends.

NOW THE BIG ISSUE :

Because of the less attention she's getting from me, considering the fact that I want to play safe, she has decided to start straff1ng our boss who seems to be giving her the whole attention as it seems now.

Our boss his a nice handsome guy.

Myself and our boss are very close Pal, he knew I'm so close to her but choose to get is own pound of the flesh... Even though he claim he wasn't... But I was privileged to hack and  read their chat and got knowledge of their sexcapade...

She still wants an affair with me, she's fuc. k1ng  sleeping with two married people in an office.
I found this very hurtful, shameful, disgraceful and disgusting... Even though what I'm also doing is terrible...
I'm trying to heal and stop this whole affair... I took some days off work to clear my head already.

I'm deeply hurt by her actions, blocked her on all social media handles.

I need matured advice please on how to scale through all this without going back to my vomit looking that we work in same office space and I got to see her every other day.

This story is no fiction... Pls bash me, but don't forget to drop a word of advice for me and probably her.

I'm using a new moniker... I have been an active nairalander... I want to hide my shame.. kindly also ignore my typo... It was done on my phone.

Thank you.

MOD will appreciate if it can get to FP plsssssss.

Praktikals:
She should go and marry. Child birth when a lady is above 35 years increases the chance of having a baby with dounce syndrome

Aurielfinizu:
Abeg she is too fine to die mehn..

Why pple still drinking sniper...

Govt should ban that sniper sef

Oluwatosean:
She don crase... Why would you be morning someone that commits suicide... Depression?? Taa. Not even thinking about her parents and friends

Banee:
Because of boyfriend,That is already with another girl.Is like UNIPORT is equal to no brain.