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Properties / Re: General Topic Thread-To Discuss Anything And Everything in Building Construction by Bejusttoall: 8:56pm On Sep 16, 2021
hamtabfawaz:



@QSFemi

Thanks
Properties / Re: General Topic Thread-To Discuss Anything And Everything in Building Construction by Bejusttoall: 8:56pm On Sep 16, 2021
naijacreativeha:

Call me , am in ibadan and an a qs on 09036346989 or WhatsApp me

Thanks so much
Properties / Re: General Topic Thread-To Discuss Anything And Everything in Building Construction by Bejusttoall: 8:55pm On Sep 16, 2021
QSFemi:
I'm available for your service.

Contact: 09012800750


Thanks so much.
Properties / Re: General Topic Thread-To Discuss Anything And Everything in Building Construction by Bejusttoall: 8:54pm On Sep 16, 2021
topsy23:


What will be the role of the QS on the project

Thanks for the reply

To price boq for tendering
Properties / Re: General Topic Thread-To Discuss Anything And Everything in Building Construction by Bejusttoall: 10:03pm On Sep 15, 2021
Good evening all.
Please I need a QS in Ibadan who will partner with me on bidding for contract
Religion / Re: Fulani Herdsmen Massacred Dozens; Anglican Families Mourn (PHOTOS/VIDEO) by Bejusttoall: 8:00pm On Aug 25, 2021
Eviana:


Not sure what you mean by the bolded?
What have I done wrong?
I am, however, doing well....blessed by God as my real name connotes.
I'm gonna have to decline your "pm". I'm not answering "pm's" on this forum anymore...sorry about that...
I hope you are well too.

Why this?
Why those points of prayers.
About pm, okay.
Just stay calm and strong in the Lord.

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Religion / Re: Fulani Herdsmen Massacred Dozens; Anglican Families Mourn (PHOTOS/VIDEO) by Bejusttoall: 1:20pm On Aug 25, 2021
[quote author=Eviana post=105164299][/quote]
Why this? Hope you are good?
Business / Re: What Business Can One Start With N15,000,000 / 29,000$ In Nigeria 2021? by Bejusttoall: 1:05pm On Aug 25, 2021
Abiodunspectre:
Hello Nairalanders
As the world economy experience fall in the global demand for commodities stemming from the pandemic. Nigeria is not left out as the naira currently trade N520 to 1$.

For many businesses and entrepreneurs, the naira fall has been a heavy burden on their operations and personal lives most especially for people who buy import goods from other countries.

Nigeria Investment Youth Funds In partnership with Heritage Bank wants to reward a Nigerian entrepreneur with a cash prize of 15,000,000 to boost their business in season 8 of The Next Titan entrepreneur Reality TV show.

That brings me to the question " What business can one invest in or start with N15,000,000/ 29,000$ In Nigeria?

I'll be in the comment section for your responses.

Invest in land. That is a sure investment with high returns. Currently, your 15 million can give you 30 million naira in few weeks if you can key to this promo on land in Abeokuta now. Contact me for further details on 08033052962
Religion / Re: Do You Support Stand Up Comedy In Church? by Bejusttoall: 12:57pm On Jul 11, 2021
It shouldn't be encouraged in any form.
Religion / Daily Summary Of Daily Devotional Of Men Of God by Bejusttoall: 11:06pm On Jun 15, 2021
*DAILY DEVOTIONALS SUMMARY*
*Monday June 14, 2021*.

1. *Pastor E. A. Adeboye, Open Heavens, RCCG*
*Topic* : Our Sure Refuge
*Text* : Psalm 9:9, Psalm 71:1-2
*Food for thought* : When God says you should hide, what it implies is that the battle is no longer yours but His.
*Lesson*: A refuge is somewhere you hide when trouble is looming. This Sure Refuge is the presence of God. Only the righteousness of God can make us victorious over the attacks of the enemy. A life of holiness makes God incline His ear to our cry in times of trouble. Put your trust in the Lord and shun all worldly alternatives from today.

2. *Pastor W.F. Kumuyi, Daily Manna, DCLM*
*Topic* : House Of The Wicked
*Text* : Micah 6:10–16
*Food for thought* : The pleasures of sin always end in pain.
*Lesson*: God who watches the actions of all men will visit the impenitent sinner with divine judgment. To cling to sin until the final fleeting breath is drawn is to willingly choose to damn the soul in the intolerable burnings of hell. The only way of escape is to quickly repent from all known sins and accept Jesus Christ as Lord and Saviour.

3. *Pastor Chris Oyakhilome, Rhapsody Of Realities, Christ Embassy*
*Topic* : “Praying In Prayer”
*Text* : James 5:17-18 AMPC; Luke 22:39-44
*Food for thought* : The earnest, heartfelt, continued prayer of a righteous man makes tremendous power available, dynamic in its working.
*Lesson*: Whatever you need, pray with deep desire, with intense passion, and there’ll be a change.

4. *Dr D.K. Olukoya, Mountain Top daily Devotional, MFM*
*Topic* : Healing From The Wounds Of Self-Guilt (III)
*Text* : Gal.5:16-25, Gal.5:1
*Food for thought* : The weight of self-guilt hinders you from growing healthy and moving forward in all aspects of life
*Lesson*: Self-guilt will land you in a bigger trouble such as depression, psychosis and other strange or terminal sicknesses; worst still, hell fire. Self-guilt is a foolish act, fueled by the devil to immobilise you and distort your vision. Do away with all regrets. Forgive yourself!

5. *Bishop Dr Mike Okonkwo, Wisdom For The Day, TREM*
*Topic* : Jesus Laid Down His Life For Mankind
*Text* :John 10:9-18
*Food for thought* :Being a Giver of life, nobody could take Jesus life from Him; He voluntarily surrendered His life to accomplish His mission of salvation.
*Lesson*: Since dying was the only way to save humanity, Jesus had to go through it.

6. *Dr Pastor Paul Enenche, Seeds Of Destiny DIGC*
*Topic* : The Destiny-Destroying Power Of Covetousness
*Text* : Genesis 3:6
*Food for thought* : It is not everything that looks good that is good. It may be good to the eyes but disastrous to life.
*Lesson*: Beloved, the cure for covetousness is contentment. Be contented with where you are and what you have per time. Separate yourself from every friend who talks you into covetousness.

7. *Bishop Dr Chris Kwakpovwe, Our Daily Manna, MPM*
*Topic* : The Saul Destroyer And David Sustainer
*Text* : Acts 13: 16-23, 2 Samuel 12:1-12, 1 Samuel 15:1-28
*Food for thought* : “Repentance isn’t only sorrow for past sins, it’s also a determination to now do the will or God, as He reveals it to us.
*Lesson*: Sin FASCINATES before it assassinates! Rather than try to explain your sins away and justify yourself like Saul did and was destroyed, be like David, take responsibility, confess and forsake THAT SECRET SIN and you shall be sustained.

8. *C.A.C: The Living Water*
*Topic* : Show Some Concern
*Text* : Nehemiah 1:1-11, Romans 12:15
*Food for thought* : Trying times are crucible from where the rear gems in us are formed.
*Lesson*: Leaders must show concern for those they are leading. They must include them in their policies and have compassion on them. You don't merely claim that you are concerned, you act it out, How? 1. Pray and fast for people 2. Intercede on their behalf: 3. Be kind to them in words and deeds. 4. Visitation: 5. Share their grief. 6. Don’t stand the judge:

9 *Daily Guide, Scripture Union*
*Topic* : Too Much Is Not Always Helpful
*Text* : Proverbs 25:15-28
*Food for thought* : We can never have too much of God and His righteousness, but we must never use God as an excuse when we step beyond His clear boundaries.
*Lesson*: Self-Control is a great and much needed Christian character in the church and society today. Live with good balance and moderation in every area of our lives.

10. *The Daily Fountain. Anglican Communion*
*Topic* : What It Means To Be Born Again
*Text* : John 3:7-13
*Food for thought* : No matter what status we have attained in society, we must first of all believe that Jesus came to save us from sins and accept His lordship over our lives.
*Lesson*: Being born again means one being born of water and the Spirit, that is, being baptised of water and the Holy Spirit. The mystery of being born again is like the wind, we cannot see it but we know and believe that it exist, so also the Holy Spirit will confirm in our hearts that we are children of God.

11. *Our Daily Bread*
*Topic* : The Power Of God
*Text* : Psalm 121
*Food for thought* : You need God and His wisdom and power for decisions, skill, work, relationships—all of your life.
*Lesson*:God alone “is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine”. Let’s have a humble heart to learn from Him and to trust Him in prayer “because He can do more” than we ever could.

12. *Kenneth Copeland*
*Topic* : Know God's Will
*Text* : Psalm 127:1
*Lesson*: God is rearranging things, lining them up for the end-time move of the Spirit. If you’re going to keep up, you must know God’s perfect plan for your life—and how to carry it out in His power!

*BIBLE IN ONE YEAR*: Ezra 6-7

*God bless you*
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Jobs/Vacancies / Re: Should I Take Manager Job In A Filling Station Or Leave It by Bejusttoall: 9:13pm On Jun 01, 2021
simondavid:
Pls friends what is your in take about this job offer, and lesson would I learn from you guys working as a manger in filling station, is there a chance of having a good link to next level in life, pls shear your thought with me. Thanks

Take it . If you need regular supply of petrol, diesel and kerosene, reach out to me
Religion / Re: The Seventh-day Adventist Church by Bejusttoall: 6:40pm On May 15, 2021
Eviana:


Sir,
I respect your stance and agreement with the fellow poster.
Thank you for your contribution to this thread.
Happy Sabbath.
Same to you, but will like you to finish the thread o. It is getting interesting and I hope you will entertain question s
Religion / Re: The Seventh-day Adventist Church by Bejusttoall: 1:55am On May 15, 2021
PeaceJoyLove:
Doctrines are the seeds of disunity the devil sowed in the body of Christ. All denominations: Apostolic, RCCG, Winners, Baptist, Methodist, Anglican, Catholic, Jehovah Witnesses, 7th Day Adventist, etc have huge roots, stems, branches, leaves, and fruits of this well established disunity. If you really want to know God, be extra careful how you align yourself with these terrible seeds. What I am confident about is: There are no denominations and doctrines in the body of Christ. But the demons working on these things blind their victims and even empower them to use all their strength and might to push doctrines forward. If you want to find the loop holes in any denomination, just look at the so called beliefs. You will see them clearly. Hmmmm.... 28 indeed. Hmmmm.

May God help us at this end time. God bless you all. Amen!
You have spoken well. No denomination in the body of Christ
Jobs/Vacancies / Apply To This Federal Government Internship Today by Bejusttoall: 5:21pm On May 14, 2021
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Education / Re: What Act During An Exam Made You Shed Tears? Share Your Experiences by Bejusttoall: 9:32pm On Apr 24, 2021
Zico5:
I remember my experience in Federal polytechnic, Ede about 15 years ago. Anytime I remember this experience I always felt a kind of anxiety and fear cos I will never be where I am today if I was rusticated from that school then cos that ND certificate was the stepping stone to where I am today. I was in statistics department and everyone knows that that school withdraw students like kilode. I have a friend I met in ND 1, he repeated the class when we met. We became closed friend when the first semester results came out. Nothing like checking results online like today. The school would paste result for everyone to see with ur matric no. So everyone knew his/her stand in the class. When we got to second semester ND 2, the final paper. The guy begged me to teach him one applied statistics. We went to a class for the tutorial, and the guy gave me about three questions to solve. I solve the questions in a sheet of paper because we were alone. He took the sheet away to further study it for the paper the second day.
Though we were supposed to sit in the same class for the examination but due to spacing I was asked to go to the next class. He thought I was in the same class with him not knowing I have been moved to the next class. I was surprised to see that I was writing the same questions the guy gave me yesterday to solve. I was about to finish when my name was called outside that a guy implicated me that I gave him the answer to the question. I was froze cos I couldn't understand. The invigilator gave me the sheet of paper to recognise if it was my handwriting, I affirmed it and told him what really happened. They asked how I got to the class and the invigilator in my class affirmed he put me in the class cos my former class was filled up and nobody got out. They called the guy and he said I gave him the paper to write in the exam hall. I had started crying cos I did not understand what was going on. It was the lecture in my class that stood his ground that the guy was telling lies that he should be held properly to know where he got the questions he gave me to solve. To cut the story short, he confessed that a brother to the lecturer who was his friend gave him the questions. I just thank God for his mercy, assuming I was in the same class with him that was how I would have been implicated. Though he was rusticated eventually but this experience made me to know the power of God. I gave testimony in my fellowship about this event.

God be praised o. I also graduated from Ede. Great school indeed

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Religion / Re: My Experience As A Pastor by Bejusttoall: 3:30pm On Apr 11, 2021
Miracle4all:
God bless you all niaraland members.

For a little now I have been privileged to serve God as a pastor in a newly planted church, to the Glory of God. There is no great building yet, just a temporary structure made with wood. I am not bothered about that, because humans are the church and not the building.

Now my experience is this, I have come to realize that many of us are going through economical problem, rather than spiritual problem. Anyday I am sitting in church for counseling purpose, majority of people that comes for counseling are those looking for what to eat, you will hear things pls pastor whatever you have give me to eat.

One day I shed tears, because I could not have anything to help some persons. My conclusion is this, churches should help each other. I am setting up a day for compassion purpose, even though we are not much in number yet, members we be encouraged to bring what they have to help others.
Good of you man of God
Politics / Re: How Would You Solve The Insecurity Issue In Nigeria If You Were The President? by Bejusttoall: 9:24pm On Apr 05, 2021
1. Will shun nepotism and tribalism
2. Deal decisively with boko haram and allocate sambisa and other big forests to fulani herdsmen to end clashes with farmers.
3. Death penalties to kidnappers to make it less attractive
4. Stationing of two helicopters in each state of the federation for area patrol
5. Making parents/guardians responsible for the behaviours of their children to make parents/guardians wake up to their responsibilities.
6. Will involve the traditional rulers in their domains
7. I will encourage whistle blowers because these criminals are living among the people
......among others.
Religion / Re: If God Gave You Same Blank Cheque As King Solomon, What Would You Fill? by Bejusttoall: 3:45pm On Mar 21, 2021
obembet:
I believe many of us know the story of king Solomon in the Bible when God give him blank cheque to request for whatever he want. And according to the scripture, 1 Kings 3 KJV

1 Kings 3:4 And the king went to Gibeon to sacrifice there; for that was the great high place: a thousand burnt offerings did Solomon offer upon that altar. 3:5 In Gibeon the LORD appeared to Solomon in a dream by night: and God said, Ask what I shall give thee. 3:6 And Solomon said, Thou hast shewed unto thy servant David my father great mercy, according as he walked before thee in truth, and in righteousness, and in uprightness of heart with thee; and thou hast kept for him this great kindness, that thou hast given him a son to sit on his throne, as it is this day. 3:7 And now, O LORD my God, thou hast made thy servant king instead of David my father: and I am but a little child: I know not how to go out or come in. 3:8 And thy servant is in the midst of thy people which thou hast chosen, a great people, that cannot be numbered nor counted for multitude. 3:9 Give therefore thy servant an understanding heart to judge thy people, that I may discern between good and bad: for who is able to judge this thy so great a people?

Guys.. If you are opportune to request for one thing from God as king Solomon, what will you request for?
Eternal life with HIM
Technology Market / Re: SOLD SOLD! Super Deal: Oppo A92 (8GB+128GB) + Free Powerbank by Bejusttoall: 11:35pm On Jan 26, 2021
why are you selling it?
Properties / Re: Cost Of Buying A Land Around Ibadan And Oyo by Bejusttoall: 4:50pm On Jan 19, 2021
CotenantNIG:
Happy New Year Folks

Oyo is a island/state located in south-western Nigeria. Its capital is Ibadan. Oyo State was one of the three States carved out of the former Western State of Nigeria in 1976. The state consists of 33 Local Government Areas which are: Akinyele, Afijio, Egbeda, Ibadan North, Ibadan North-East, Ibadan North-West, Ibadan South-West, Ibadan South-East, Ibarapa Central, Ibarapa East, Ido, Irepo, Iseyin, Kajola, Lagelu, Ogbomoso North, Ogbomoso South, Oyo West, Atiba, Atisbo, Saki West, Saki East, Itesiwaju, Iwajowa, Ibarapa North, Olorunsogo, Oluyole, Ogo Oluwa, Surulere, Orelope, Oriire, Oyo East, Ona Ara.

It is bound in the north by Kwara State, in the east by Osun State, in the south by Ogun State and in the west partly by Ogun State and partly by the Republic of Benin. Oyo State covers approximately an area of 28,454 square kilometers and is ranked 14th by size. The landscape consists of old hard rocks and dome shaped hills, which rise gently from about 500 meters in the southern part and reaching a height of about 1,219 metre above sea level in the northern part. Some principal rivers such as Ogun, Oba, Oyan, Otin, Ofiki, Sasa, Oni, Erinle and Osun river originate in this highland.

Ibadan is the capital city of Oyo state, in south-western part of Nigeria. It is the most populous city in the state with a population of 3 million. It is the third most populous city in Nigeria, after Lagos and Kano; Ibadan has the largest geographical area in Nigeria. The city was the largest and most populous city in the country at Nigerian Independence, and the third in Africa after Cairo and Johannesburg.

Islam is the dominant religion in Ibadan with the overwhelming majority of the core Ibadan City Center inhabitants being Muslims. Christianity is the 2nd most popular religion in the city. Ibadan dwellers engage in marketing of cassava, cocoa, cotton, timber, rubber, and palm oil. The city embodies several industries such as Agro allied, Textile, Food processing, Health Care and Cosmetic, Tobacco processing and Cigarette manufacturing, Leather-works and furniture making Etc.

Today we would be looking at the cost of buying a land around Ibadan and Oyo State.

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Agbowo| Agodi| Ajibode| Akobo| Alakia| Alalubosa| Apata| Asejire |Challenge| Eleyele| Iyaganku| Jericho| Moniya| New Bodija| Ojoo| Oke Ado| Oke Bola| Old Bodija| Ologuneru| Orogun| Samonda| Wakajaye

Land can be used for residential real estate, commercial estate, farming purposes, or left to appreciate.

The average price of land for sale in Ibadan, Oyo is ₦1,500,000 per plot. The most expensive land costs ₦48,000,000 per plot while the cheapest costs ₦378,000 per plot.

Agbowo
The average price of land for sale in Agbowo, Ibadan, Oyo is ₦7,000,000 per plot. The most expensive land costs ₦10,000,000 per plot while the cheapest costs ₦3,500,000 per plot.

Agodi
The average price of land for sale in Agodi, Ibadan, Oyo is ₦70,000,000 per plot. The most expensive land costs ₦150,000,000 per plot while the cheapest costs ₦50,000,000 per plot

Ajibode
The average price of land for sale in Ajibode, Ibadan, Oyo is ₦1,300,000 per plot. The most expensive land costs ₦2,200,000 per plot while the cheapest costs ₦397,000 per plot

Alabata Town
you can actually buy a plot of land at Max Ville Ibadan for ₦600,000 Per Plot at Alabata Town. Take Advantage of this offer

Akobo
The average price of land for sale in Akobo, Ibadan, Oyo is ₦8,000,000 per plot. The most expensive land costs ₦15,000,000 per plot while the cheapest costs ₦1,000,000 per plot

Alakia
The average price of land for sale in Alakia, Ibadan, Oyo is ₦900,000 per plot. The most expensive land costs ₦5,000,000 per plot while the cheapest costs ₦700,000 per plot.

Alalubosa
The average price of land for sale in Alalubosa, Ibadan, Oyo is ₦55,000,000 per plot. The most expensive land costs ₦65,000,000 per plot while the cheapest costs ₦30,000,000 per plot.

Apata
The average price of land for sale in Apata, Ibadan, Oyo is ₦1,400,000 per plot. The most expensive land costs ₦4,000,000 per plot while the cheapest costs ₦900,000 per plot

Asejire
The average price of land for sale in Asejire, Ibadan, Oyo is ₦1,500,000 per plot. The most expensive land costs ₦1,800,000 per plot while the cheapest costs ₦900,000 per plot

Challenge
The average price of land for sale in Challenge, Ibadan, Oyo is ₦2,400,000 per plot. The most expensive land costs ₦15,000,000 per plot while the cheapest costs ₦400,000 per plot.

Eleyele
The average price of land for sale in Eleyele, Ibadan, Oyo is ₦1,280,000 per plot. The most expensive land costs ₦1,500,000 per plot while the cheapest costs ₦1,200,000 per plot

Jericho
The average price of land for sale in Jericho, Ibadan, Oyo is ₦6,000,000 per plot. The most expensive land costs ₦20,000,000 per plot while the cheapest costs ₦600,000 per plot

Moniya
The average price of land for sale in Moniya, Ibadan, Oyo is ₦1,050,000 per plot. The most expensive land costs ₦5,000,000 per plot while the cheapest costs ₦600,000 per plot

New Bodija
The average price of land for sale in New Bodija, Ibadan, Oyo is ₦20,000,000 per plot. The most expensive land costs ₦25,000,000 per plot while the cheapest costs ₦13,000,000 per plot

Ojoo
The average price of land for sale in New Bodija, Ibadan, Oyo is ₦12,000,000 per plot. The most expensive land costs ₦35,000,000 per plot while the cheapest costs ₦8,000,000 per plot

The price is an estimate not the real price, lets be guided this year
No insults please

https://pwanmax.com/2021/01/16/cost-of-buying-a-land-around-ibadan-and-oyo/"

Nice one.
Religion / Re: How Do I Grow My Spiritual Life? by Bejusttoall: 4:42pm On Jan 17, 2021
macnino399:
Good day everyone
Please I need a guide on how to grow spiritually besides just going to church. Thanks.

Thanks for asking this very important question.
1. Develop the habit of reading the scriptures daily and meditate on them.
2. Talk to God always through prayer
3. Constantly fellowship with Bible believing church
3. Exercise your faith by putting to action all what you are reading and listening to.
Family / Re: I Almost Had A Fight With My Mom by Bejusttoall: 1:24pm On Jan 13, 2021
kennywagz:
Hello nairalanders, I know how you felt looking at my post before opening this, but pls know one thing am not a bad person or a foolish son, I just happen to have a *** mom..

The thing is me and my mum almost got into a fight yesterday. Now pls let me explain something to you... I understand how yall love your mother's and would do anything for her, I wish I could say the same for mine.

Anytime my parents get into a quarell my mother won't want to talk or do anything again. She goes to work and comes back late, lies down and sleeps.

It's over 5 months, she doesn't contribute anything, doesn't say anything, does not concern whether the children eat or not because of their quarrel..

I don't fight anyone but if I have a quarrel with my friends or bro, 2 days or the next sef we are talking. He will stay in the room by herself after work while we'll be in the palour eating, She will be in the room sulking.

I once came home and my junior ones told me they were talking about something and laughing and mom came out and said sheybi they are all laughing and very soon they will start crying. Like what kind of mother says that.

If you are looking for woman that curse and swear no one pass my mom.
She has fought every of our neighbors, every last one of them. I can't count how many swear and cursed she has said to my father and even to we the children. My father's brothers and sisters, she has been keeping malice with themsince a month after her wedding. That's over 20 years ago. Something happend and she hates them. If you are seen with your aunt or uncle you'd be in serious trouble.

She has this toxic nature/character always wishing evil for others. If she doesn't like you and she sees you happy it's sadness for her... How can someone be like this.

Today one woman she has quarrelled with had a fight with her brother. My mother was happy, saying e don catch am, laughing and praising God. My father is sick and doesn't even have the strength. They don't talk, she stopped talking to me cause she says me and my dad are always planning what we will eat, that am now the wife abi.

I can't express how hateful I am towards this woman, my heart is full of bitterness towards her.. I can't possibly type everything that I personally go through because it would seem as if I came here just to spite my mother. No matter what, she is still my mother, I am just looking for advice.

I give the children money sometimes when they are angry and I cook the food cause she doesn't do anything. She's sees me as her enemy when you don't want to do it, we should come and be begging you. Everytime we get into a fight for very petty things I always go and beg her, you must beg else you and her are enemies she won't talk to you.. I greet her and she says next time I greet her she will swear for me. This negativity is too much, I am a very Sane person, I won't come and write all this if I ain't pained... I have a father I love and my siblings, but it's this woman now.

Pls what can I do, everyday everytime person go dey beg you for the most unreasonable and petty things, after swear and curses with bad words Don follow steadily.

With prayer, take her out to eat and drink(malt).. Lavish her with love, and then talk to her on how deeply you love her, and how you want peace in her home. She will change for good. Don't forget to explain something to her with the Bible. You are blessed
Education / Life Lessons With Professor Oye Ibidapo Obe by Bejusttoall: 4:43pm On Jan 05, 2021
*LIFE LESSONS WITH PROFESSOR OYE IBIDAPO-OBE.*

*"Take Responsibility For Your Decisions”*

Professor Oye Ibidapo-Obe, former Vice-Chancellor (VC) of the University of Lagos (UNILAG) has been back in the classroom doing what he loves most -teaching- and generating research papers.

While climbing the ladder to the top at the university, Professor Ibidapo-Obe, a First Class graduate of Mathematics, was the brain behind the creation of the consultancy unit (UNILAG CONSULT) in the university in 1982 , which enabled the institution to generate its own cash to execute many projects outside government subventions.

And this initiative has been replicated in many universities in Nigeria. In this interview, he shares the lessons he has learnt rising to the pinnacle of his professional career. Enjoy the reading.

*Lesson 1: CAREER*
*"A timely move can mold a destiny."*
When you are in a position of authority, you have to be sensitive to others and sufficiently knowledgeable to know when to stick your neck out and pursue a just cause. This may be costly but it is worth it.

When I was the VC, there was and still is this Quota System for admissions-a procedure whereby admission quota is reserved based on states of origin, i.e., catchment areas, educationally less-advantaged states (ELDS) and on merit.

No discretion was accepted. I had those two candidates for Medicine who had been classmates together from the beginning. They went to primary school together; they went to secondary school together; and they took JAMB examinations together.

One of them of course did better than the other which was reflective of their absolute academic ranking. However, the university policy at the time offered admission to the one in our catchment who did not do as well as the other because of her state of origin.

The two parents and the two candidates came to see me as the Vice-Chancellor. We tried as much as we could to convince the other child who did better (and never visited the state nor town of origin) but was not admitted to do a change of course or school, she neither understood nor agreed on the rather ‘obnoxious criteria’.

Clearly, she was not going to be a nationalist as she felt ‘cheated’ and was very sad. I was touched by her predicament and decided to test the system’s fidelity with the support of the UNILAG Senate. The University admission office sent her name to JAMB with a detailed explanation, and that worked. She was offered an admission.

Years later at the 90th Birthday of one of our elders, Chief Jonathan Obafemi Olopade, OFR, last year; the referenced lady who I could not recall neither her face nor name was one of the guests. She is now a qualified medical doctor.

Clearly, barring any unforeseen circumstance, a person like that would ‘die’ for Nigeria. That is what we need to try to cultivate in this country through orientation and doing so that people will see a reason to die for Nigeria.

All these catchment, quota system and Federal Character may have been put in place for good reasons, but the reality is that it is frustrating our brilliant young men and women and making them to lose faith in Nigeria.

*Lesson 2: ATTITUDE.*
*"Pride and over confidence will cost you fortune."*
I learnt a very big lesson early in my academic career in Canada. No matter how brilliant you think you are, there is always someone somewhere who is far better than you.

I went through the University of Lagos and by the Grace of God, I did very well and I got a Commonwealth Scholarship to do my Master’s and Ph.D at the University of Waterloo, Ontario, Canada.

Those successes almost got into my head?
In those days at the University of Lagos, only one candidate emerged as the best overall student of the entire University to be awarded the Vice Chancellor’s prize as well as several other prizes.

I got that Vice-Chancellor’s Prize in 1971. There were five universities in Nigeria and they ranked pari passu with the best in the UK. So my performance came with a lot of publicity and that got somehow into my head. I thought that I was a celebrity? The first cultural shock came during my 1st semester at the University of Waterloo.

In one of my courses, we were given a test, I did what I thought was ‘sufficient’ to have a First Class. When the results were published, the lecturer, certain Dr. Bursuski indicated on my examination, ‘See Me’ in Red with a score of 76 per cent.

In my arrogance, I thought I had done excellently well. Under our system at that time, if you scored 70 per cent, that was Excellent. So I went to see him, I opened his door with a gentle knock and I was welcomed in. He had a visitor’s chair in front of his table, and I noticed that that teacher did not offer me the vacant seat as I expected.

I wondered, and quickly concluded that he was a racist! This was in Fall of 1972. When Dr. Bursuski finished what he was doing, he told me in clear terms that my performance was far below expectation and par. I was shocked with 76%?

What happened was that in my class we had people from all over the world. Everybody studied till the morning; I just studied till about 8p.m and went to bed, having been satisfied that I had covered all that I was taught. I was so sure I knew everything. He gave me the performance chart and if you draw a Bell (Normal Distribution) curve, my 76% is at the left of the curve, there were classmates that scored 90s and 100s.

I felt ashamed and this is me, brilliant, First Class from Lagos, Commonwealth scholar. I was right there, 76. So for the first time in my life I learnt that when you do a competitive examination, you have to push yourself beyond excellence, because the grading and ranking of the result is what is important. It is not the absolute score.

You should target more than 100 per cent. So anything I do in life, I want to be the best. That was a big lesson.

*Lesson 3: LEADERSHIP.*
*"Take responsibility for your decisions."*
I returned to the University of Lagos after my Ph.D from the same University in 1976, and then, I was deeply involved in research and publications. Professor A.F. Ogunye and V.O.S. Olunloyo were my twin coaches. AFO ensured your welfare whilst VOSO took you through the publication grill.

Naturally, you got noticed in this group when the slogan of the University was ‘Publish or Perish’- that was Professor Ayodele Awojobi’s anthem! I was comfortable in the company of successive Vice-Chancellors- J. F. Ade-Ajayi, K Adadevoh and Akin Adesola at that time.

I became a full professor during the tenure of Professor Akin Adesola. He gave me my first out-of-academics assignment as the Managing Director of UNILAG CONSULT in 1983. I knew he had a soft spot for me but he was very firm and admonished me that I was free to make my decisions but a fatal decision might lead to instant termination!

He told me that it was quite a good job for me and it would help me to learn how to manage people.

In any case I took up the assignment, the first formal university consultancy in Nigeria. How can universities impact the society and still make money for the university?

I did the job and a lot of things played out. I understood machines but have learned human dynamics.

The lesson for me is that you must be a man of yourself. You have to grow up, you make decisions for yourself and you should be ready to take responsibility for your decisions. A clear lesson in Responsibility Acceptance-no buck-passing as a Manager and that played out better in subsequent assignments.

That experience showed me the different types of people and that people are more difficult to manage than machines in spite of Artificial Intelligence and Robotics, I was busy understanding machines but machines are not emotional even with pattern/facial recognition. I then saw that people are not like machines; they are not fixed. Their behaviour is not fixed.

*"Accommodate other people’s opinions."*
By the time I became the Vice-Chancellor, I learnt a lesson, and that is that you have to listen to the other persons. They would come to you, but if you gave them the impression that they were not welcome, they would back off.

And that is not good for you as a leader because you are going to miss some vital information. They may not be useful as such, but there may be some vital information which if you have them you will have few problems.

In the University of Lagos, we have staff and students protesting against one policy or injustice or the other. The strategy is to invite the group and be open in your discussions and interaction with them. I will share the entire budget of the university, and this reduces the demand for subventions. Sometimes with the students, no agreement is reached but we have communicated.

*"Be focused."*
A leader must have a focus as to what he wants to achieve and a leader must be prepared to swim in his own soup. If everything is fine, you are good, if anything goes wrong, sorry, you carry the ‘gauntlet’. But what do we have today, leaders who will not want to take responsibility for anything.

They only want to be praised but not to be blamed when things go wrong. That is not leadership. Leadership is sacrifice, it is a total sacrifice. When you are a leader and you leave being a leader, you don’t look back, you’ve done your own, and that’s it.

*Lesson 4: RELATIONSHIP.*
*"Simple courtesies can take you far."*
I must also say that I have been able to segment. I am able to understand the thinking of people, especially the elders. I communicate with elders with ease. Justice Atanda Fatai Williams, CJN, was a former Chief Justice of Nigeria and the former (2nd) President of the Metropolitan Club of which I am a member.

At that time for whatever reason, I can’t remember, he called me on a landline and he left a message for me that I should call him back. That was on a Monday, when I got home, it was very late but I got the message and I told myself that I could not call Baba that late since I would see him tomorrow, I would discuss the matter with him when we meet.

When I met him the next day, he wanted to know why I did not return his call – my excuse was of no consequence to him. He told me that any time you get a phone call, you must return the call. You must show respect for elders.

At that time, there were no mobile phones.
I learnt a lesson there. Even now I strive to return my missed calls. That lesson has translated into respect for elders. If you respect elders, you will go places.

As it relates to my road to becoming the VC when I did, there were several elders in the university that were not interested, nor considered qualified to be a Vice-Chancellor on account of age and the sometimes hazardous nature of the job. I linked up with all these elders and they were my ideas bouncing boards -advisory committee.

And that helped because they always support whatever I presented at the Senate. Sometimes they purposely came to those meetings just to give me the necessary support. I remember with gratitude- Professors I. A. Adalemo, Siyan Tomori, Abiola Ojo, Dokun Adeyemi, Isaac Agbede, and others too numerous to mention. I was their ward and mentee. My project was like their project; they wanted me to see me succeed. I owe them gratitude for a successful outcome as Vice-Chancellor at the University of Lagos.

*Lesson 5: Family/parenting*
*"Communicate."*
My children are all grown up now and they are very supportive. When they were young, they told me that once I was getting home they quickly went and got everything in place because they didn’t want me to be upset with them.

I hardly give corporal punishment because it was unnecessary. My wife did an excellent job raising up those children. I pray that they will be luckier raising their own families. We communicate always and attend church together on Sundays to be followed with an Ice Cream Eat-Out. I tried to find out what they were doing in school, and I respected their teachers.

I think we must earn that respect. In other words, I believe I earned my respect from them. They know that if there are issues, I will listen to them.

However, I don’t think we should just allow our children to do just what they like at all times. One of my children was an expert in Nintendo Computerised game. He had very high scores. At a time we noticed that even when he was asleep, he was playing the Nintendo. What is that supposed to be? I asked. We then decided to take the Nintendo away from his reach, so the time for school was cleared off the Nintendo and that discipline worked!
You must remove the potential for distraction for your children, you need to do that. It may be tough, but you must take that decision.

As for my wife, she is a friend. She understands me very well and she knows what I like. So, it has been a very blissful and productive marriage. We thank the Lord for these blessings.

*Lesson 6: Money/ investment.*
*"Money will never be enough"*
When it comes to the issue of money, you must have contentment. The problem with money is that it will never be enough. I have learnt that money will never be enough. If you are first contented and you do your work well, money will come, you will never lack.

That’s my experience. I’ve never been lacking; the Lord provides bountifully. I have never lacked what I need and want. Intervention will always come from somewhere. Things that impress me are very simple. If you ask me, what I have enjoyed most as a teacher, you won’t believe it, just little courtesies from people that passed through me as students.

That’s all I need. I believe in the idiom ‘To teach is to touch a life forever.’ It is not that I want to buy a skyscraper in Ikoyi or all my friends now have houses on Banana Island and so that will like to have one. No. God has blessed me sufficiently in my own way.

So I have that satisfaction. I also have that believe that if you do what you are doing very well, you will never lack. For me wealth means the ability to live well, not living extravagantly. Wealth is not cash.

*Lesson 7: SPIRITUALITY*
*"God controls everything."*
For me God is central to everything I do. He is that unseen hand controlling and directing everything I do. Sometimes we don’t know why or how things just happen. Everything that has happened to me and all the things I have received, I believe God preplanned them.

You see the reason why we have to continue to thank God be that since we don’t know the nature of God, we don’t want him to change his mind about his original plan for us which must have been excellent. Look at the human body that is working very well. If God just looks somewhere else and malaria deals with you, you will understand what God is doing for you.

I believe there is heaven, but bad people, before they get to heaven, they will suffer on earth.

*Books*
➢ The Bible
➢ Autobiographies like those of Awolowo, Ahmadu Bello, Nnamdi Azikiwe, Obasanjo, and of course, regular persons who are not poli

➢ A publication that challenges DNA, a brief history of human kind and The Emperor’s New Mind, etc.

➢ Mind and Body.

*Advice*
The advice I got from my parents to marry my wife. That was a good advice that has really worked for me.

They chose her because they understood her parentage and her background is good.

The other one is the advice and encouragement I got from my teachers including Mrs. Bruce at my Primary School, Professor Saburi Biobaku, the Vice-Chancellor when I graduated to go and do postgraduate studies, Professor T. P. Prasad, Professor Akinkugbe, et al., that greatly helped me to advance in my profession.

*Health*
My health is very good. I do exercise every Monday, Wednesday and Friday. Of course, that does not mean I don’t use your regular drugs to keep ‘aging’ at bay for as long as possible. But most importantly, my wife has been of tremendous help. I am a happy man; she gives me joy.

*ONE MESSAGE TO THE PRESIDENT*
Scrap the quota system and Federal Character. They stifle creativity.

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Romance / Re: A Nairalander Dukeprince50 Is Dead by Bejusttoall: 9:53pm On Dec 21, 2020
May the Lord be with the family he left behind.

Let all periodically carry out a check on the blood pressure.

Also, let try to get closer to God in preparation for eternity. Jesus is coming, the world will end. For dukeprince50, the world has ended. There is life after death, let us be a good ambassador of Jesus Christ.
Business / Re: Register Your Business/ventures With Cac Without No Down Payment by Bejusttoall: 11:16am On Dec 15, 2020
Good morning. I'm still taking orders. Thanks.
Religion / Re: Malawian Pastor Godwin Maere Leaked Nude Pictures With Female Reverend by Bejusttoall: 11:07am On Dec 15, 2020
vickydankal:
I don’t get what people gain from exposing men and women of God who consented to Indulge in sex. If it is rape it’s a different thing. These people are human like us and can make mistakes.

Their local churches will handle this. Exposing some things about the body of Christ will reduce the faith if the world in the church . That’s why I love Catholic Church, whatever happens there stays there.

Not often will you hear about our brothers in other religion public or on social media discussing about their lmam on sexual vices.

Strike the Shepard and the sheep will scatter.

You are blessed for saying this

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Business / Re: Register Your Business/ventures With Cac Without No Down Payment by Bejusttoall: 3:33pm On Dec 14, 2020
Thanks for the trust. I really appreciate
Religion / Re: You Can Never Miss Heaven If You Understand These Three Simple Facts. by Bejusttoall: 1:54pm On Dec 13, 2020
Toks2008:
Do you know that the main reason why people find it hard to make heaven is because it is ridiculously easy?

But unfortunately, it is difficult for many people to fathom the simplicity... no thanks to the doom and gloom preachers that constantly preach heresy thereby making it very hard for many to come to Christ.

Some years back, GOD revealed to me that there are millions of people in Hell who have no business being there but because they were ignorant of some simple facts about salvation which I am about to reveal to you.

If you understand these three facts, you can never ever miss heaven and you have no business with Hell...


1. No matter how terrible you think you are, Jesus says just come...No matter how unimaginable your sins may be, to Jesus it does not matter, he says just come. And coming to Christ simply means accepting him as your lord and saviour and this is so easy...No matter where you are on the surface of the earth, just ask him to forgive you all your sins and accept him as your lord and saviour and your name will automatically be included as a citizen of heaven. O YES! it is that easy.

Matthew 11:28-29 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.

Romans 10: 9 ''If you openly declare that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.''


2. Invite the holy spirit to help you in your journey of salvation: This is the most important part of salvation many people ignore. Do you know that you can still sin recklessly even after you have accepted Jesus as lord and saviour? This is because many people think they can overcome sins by their power so they struggle to live right and it is at this point many people give up their salvation simply because they feel it makes no sense calling themselves believers when they still sin like unbelievers and most people who give up at this point hardly ever come back to Christ.

When a child is born, he grows from an infant to adulthood and an adult human is not more human than an infant and in like manner, a mature believer in Christ is not more born again than a new believer but the only difference is growth. The good news is that there is a process called sanctification( A process of growth or development in our salvation), and it is only the holy spirit that does this. So please don't ever give up your salvation during this process cos the holy spirit is so powerful that it will cause a positive mutation in you and by the time he is done with you, the sins or terrible habits you once find pleasure in will disgust you so much that you will begin to wonder how you ever loved them.

Only the Holy Spirit has the power to make the changes God wants to make in our lives. Philippians 2:13 says, God is working in you, giving you the desire and the power to do what pleases him.

3. Ask for forgiveness if you ever fall into sin...Ok now you have accepted Christ as lord and have invited the holy spirit to sanctify you so what next?...Well the truth is that for some, the process of sanctification may take their life time but that does not disqualify them from heaven neither does it make them an unbeliever. Jesus said in John 6: 37 ''All those the Father gives me will come to me, and whoever comes to me I will never drive away'' ...this simply means as long as you have accepted Jesus as your lord and saviour, he will never ever give up on you or drive you away because you are still in the process of sanctification....just don't take his grace for granted just as Paul warned us in Romans 6:1-2 ''What shall we say, then? Shall we go on sinning so that grace may increase? By no means! We are those who have died to sin; how can we live in it any longer?''.

And finally, just as it is clearly written in 1 John 2:1-2 ''My dear children, I write this to you so that you will not sin. But if anybody does sin, we have one who speaks to the Father in our defence--Jesus Christ, the Righteous One. He is the atoning sacrifice for our sins, and not only for ours but also for the sins of the whole world.... This means you can always rise up whenever you fall into sins as you get better and better. Don't find pleasure in sin, submit yourself to the workings of the holy spirit and if for any reason you fall into sin, ask for forgiveness in Jesus name but don't ever give up your salvation because Jesus will never ever give up on you.

These are the clear road map to heaven and i hope this blesses someone.


More anointing. Nice one

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Religion / Re: Is It Proper For A Christian To Be Using Internet Cheat? by Bejusttoall: 1:51pm On Dec 13, 2020
seunlayi:
Happy Sunday to you all.

I have this short question to ask.




Is it Godly/proper for a Christian (someone trying to live a holy life and follow the part of Christ) to intentionally or unintentionally involve in the use of cheats - using different illegal means (codes,VPN, bypass network protocols, capitalising on network glitches, etc) to gain access to the internet?

If found in this shoe, what should the person do?







Not good for any good ambassador of Jesus Christ. He/she should reject such offers
Business / Re: How To Open A Business Name In CAC With N12,000 In Just 2 Weeks Without A Lawyer by Bejusttoall: 12:50am On Dec 11, 2020
kehnnny:
Someone should please say something
Leave it. don't sign it
Business / Re: How To Open A Business Name In CAC With N12,000 In Just 2 Weeks Without A Lawyer by Bejusttoall: 12:49am On Dec 11, 2020
kehnnny:
And also the remitta receipt for the 10,000 I got a email saying the status of the payment is "Failed" even tho I have been debited and the receipt of the payment is on my CAC portal which I have printed already...can I continue with the registration without the remitta receipt?

Yeah, you can continue

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