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germainediva:
.......... is cheating so important that you dam all consequences .me tot its stressful,spritually grave,morally wrong,biologically dreadful.......physically,mentally and financially draining. What do you really gain? Just need a sincere answer.

I think hour husband is in the best position to answer this question.

bukatyne:
My glasses protect them

So shinning lomo

So you use glasses.... You must be one genius according to our childhood theory.

salsera:
That was funny...dont let dust enter them.
Lol

Sister Salsera.... na you be this?

Long time.

How are you doing? My phone had issues and I lost all contact.

bukatyne:


Super nice one

Why are you shinning your eyes? Don't let dust enter them oo

ferdimako:
I know that but the very one he wants to nominate is on special condition- schedule1.

He can check other state if his preferred state put it on Schedule 1

^^^^ Your chance is dependent on your English score. If you can get 20point from English, its all done.

If EA needs experience to assess you, then u must get the minimum experience required.

ferdimako:
Will leaving it till next year make u go for 189? 190 is dicey as u need to get a job first before nomination.Will DIBP honor ur additional work years that Vetassess didn't see?

Getting a job on 190 is not compulsory. It depends on state and conditions of the occupation at the time of application.

yetseyi:
Chai Mr bellong the word "roebucks" got me laughing seriously.

Mr spambot will block us from calling it what it is...

Acquilla:
Woww this is an eye opener...........I cant thank you enough!!!!!!!! I am really grateful...... .

Its a pleasure bro. I am happy it is helpful.

By the grace of God, I will send you our wedding invitation personally!!!!

I will surely appreciate it bro. I love good endings...

I see tips on how to be the best husband she could ever have in your analytical replies. May almighty God bless the source of your huge knowledge......may your oil never run dry.....may you continue to progress higher and higher.

Amen... Thanks for the prayers. May God bless you beyond imagination.

I called her just now and spoke in an unusual manner. She was dumbfounded while the conversation lasted because i was expressive for the first time ever!!! she was so happy!!!! I found alot of peace and Joy in your reply. You said 55percent could actually turn to 100!!!! given the right environment.....wowww!!!

This, you did if done consistently will build up the rush hormone you have been seeking. Not only will you make her happy, you will find peace in your heart treating your lady right.

I will definitely call you not to give you her number for someone thats gonna treat her as an "empress" though. I will treat her myself thanks . I will do a hard reset on my heart as you have indirectly suggested. I feel so peaceful. I have been unhappy and this has been a burden for awhile. God bless you abundantly!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

There is love in sharing bro, don't hoard her number...

See, a man born of a woman is of few days and full of trouble. Every man including woman will surely go through season(s) of adversity, no one can escape it, only that the nature and extent will differ. It is in this period of adversity that you appreciate a spouse for her support, encouragement and stand for you not for the texture of her skin. It is one of the reasons the bible says "woe unto him that is alone...". If you marry for the beauty and the lady doesn't share your dreams, aspirations and goals, she will ditch you in the time of trouble.

Some men and women dying of sudden heart attack are as a result of extreme disappointment from their respective spouses. You need a woman that will support you and bear the burdens with you not a signboard woman.

As you have realised this, I pray that you find fulfillment in each other till old age death do you part or take you both.

I wish you speed in your endeavours. Looking forward to the invitation.

You must this movie script to Alaba or Nnamdi Azikwe street folks. It will make a good sell.

Acquilla:
NB- I am fairly popular here and my fiancee in question knows my original moniker. so i am not new so sorry if it is a crime to create another moniker.so sorry

No worries, people create new monikers everytime here to narrate sob stories or story that touch. You are not the first and will not be the last. How are you sure that with the new moniker, your "girl" wouldn't know it is her story you have narrated here. You goofed with the opening post.

People, I need your sincere advice.

I know you will get sincere and insincere advices, my concern is "are you willing to take to the reasonable and sincere advices you will get?"

Here is my story. There is this lady I have been dating for the past two years. We have been together through thick and thin and being honest, she is a wife material.

Good to know that you know a good girl when you see one. The two years are long enough for you to know what you want from a lady for a journey of a life time. If she stood by you during the thick and thin, she will still stand by you during robust and lean of the future.

Even some of my family member’s siblings to be precise can attest to her virtues.

At the mouth of two or three witnesses shall the truth be established. This lady has witnesses of her good behaviour from the members of your own family. Character is the foundation of a good home.

All the while, I have admired her qualities and in fairness to God, she has what it takes to be a good wife and till now, I am yet to cheat on her because I don’t cheat

.

You are yet to cheat on her? Does that mean you plan to cheat on her later?

After few months of normal early cravings of a new relationship, things started declining from my own end. I realized she is not romantic. This she blamed on the type of home she came from. I tried my best to teach her but maybe I’m not a good teacher. I am this kind of guy whose romantic part get driven by my girl. In this case my girl is not romantic and it had adverse effect on me too.

This "she is not romantic" phrase is too ambiguous for me to comprehend. What do you mean by it? Is it the romantic stuff you read from mills and boons or the one you watch in Hollywood? Please explain this your not romantic phrase.
If I don't understand what you mean, at least the lady understood you. She went ahead to tell you her opinion of the likely cause of the challenge. "What did you or have you done to help her through this challenge?". One of the essence of relationship is to help each other become better in virtue that is inadequate or totally missing. Love is not self-centred nor selfish but sacrificial.

I have told her couple of times that I am yet to experience that intense feeling of love one has for her boo. That intense cravings, outpour of excruciating feelings and emotional attachments that makes you so eager to ask if she’s gonna marry you…..I was quick to identify this some months after we started dating and while doing some self evaluation, I realized one of the reasons apart from the fact that I found her not romantic why I am not too attached is the fact that she seemed not too beautiful for my taste. I am this kind of guy that likes beautiful women; she isn’t ugly though I will classify her as average in all (55%) by my own standards. The funniest thing is my friends say she’s beautiful but I have never seen her in that light. There was a time she complained lightly that I have never called her pretty.

Intense feeling of love?? Bro, please stop watching Telemundo. Probably you have read too much romantic novels that created an illusion in your mind. What intense feeling attracted you to her in the first place? Love is not a feeling, it is a decision. prolly you wanted to refer to the emotional attachment born out of lust or sexual desire for the opposite sex. That my friend is not love.

Since you realised that your love bug was missing months into the relationship, what pushed you to carry on? Why didn't you come out straight and tell the lady so you both can find your happiness/love in other places.
Beauty they say lies in the eyes of the beholder. As much as you have every right to hold dear to what you want but how does the "extreme beauty" of a woman helps in building a good home? It still amazes me why you approached someone who doesn't fit in to what you want. It shows that you never even defined your taste/qualities and desires in a woman before jumping the ship. Were you led by the testosterone before asking her out? What did you see in her from the beginning that you are not seeing now?

If she could go to the length of complaining about you not appreciating her beauty, she is dying inside slowly due to lack of appreciation from you. Why hold on to her when you know she is not good enough for you. Is it because she is good in bed?

A lady with an average beauty of 55% in your score sheet has the advantage of becoming a 98% beautiful and gorgeous looking diva if she is in the right environment joined to the right man. Maybe the thought of you not seeing her as pretty is eating deep into her heart thereby affecting her psyche. This alone can affect beauty. Bro, you are giving that poor lady slow poison by your attitude.

Physiology has taught us that every female has the same physiology irrespective of size, race, shape and culture. The illusion of beauty lies in the imagination of your heart. If you reset your heart that she is beautiful, you will start to see the beauty you never saw. And if you marry the most beautiful girl in the world, she later gets involved in an accident that affects her beauty, will you ditch her?

I am not saying beauty is not important. It is very important but after marriage, trust me you will be less bothered about the beauty if you marry a Hawk. The bible says "Favour is deceitful, and beauty is VAIN: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.." Why waste your precious energy chasing vain and mundane things. It is her character that will give you happiness in the union not her beauty. Her beauty may even become a problem you wouldn't be able to handle. In as much as she has the two roebucks on the upper abdomen/thorax and the hole in the lower abdomen in between her legs, and they good enough to behold, to hell with beauty with no substance.

So, you are not seeing or looking at what you should look at. Hence you are confused because you don't even know the right characteristics to watch out for in a potential spouse.

Late last year, I got a visa out of Nigeria and my parents started talking to me about marriage

Congratulations on the visa grant. Was she involved during the visa application process? Was she happy about it when it was granted?

My mum likes her a lot but my father is just indifferent about her. Well probably because my father and I kind of share the same taste in terms of pretty women (my mum is beautiful).

If your MUM likes her a lot, then she is a big catch. Fathers don't too get involved in their children's decision about marriage except on rare occasions. So indifference may not be because of her beauty or lack of it but because the choice is yours and he doesn't want to interfere. He is respecting your territory.. so stop reading deluded opinion to his action.

Now I have to decide as soon as possible and I am really scared because my decision will either make or mar my home. I want to get married to someone I really love to the bones yet I don’t want to hurt her. Not someone who I will have to think twice if anyone asks if I really love her. It’s not as if I don’t love her at all but maybe not strong enough to talk about marriage. I am yet to feel so deeply in love with her after two years. I have had two ladies before her and I know how we were all over each other. In her case, I even don’t regularly tell her I love her yet I used to be very very romantic in my past relationships.

My advice, please ditch her. Inbox me her phone number and I will connect her to someone who will treat her like an "Emperess". Your understanding of love is the biggest issue you have. Love is not emotional butterfly, it is a decision to be fair, just, sincere, honest and accountable to your spouse. Love who you marry bro. If your first two relationships were full of emotional butterflies, why did they end? Why are you not marrying them?

A real man sees a challenge and confront it not running away from it. She is not "romantic", you have not done anything to help her with it. At least nothing to that effect from your write up. You don't tell her you love her because you have created a barrier in your heart blocking the "love hormones" to express your feelings. Until you break the wall of Jericho of beauty in your heart, I am sorry, you will never love her.

I do not have any other lady catching my attention I have just been indifferent. As a matter of fact, when I wanted to leave Nigeria, my parents wanted a formal introduction but I wasn’t sure if I want her for a life partner after two years and I don’t wanna hurt her because she will be broken psychologically. On the other hand, I get scared of losing her because women with such a good character like her are very rare to come by these days. Nevertheless, I am certain that if I meet someone with same character as her today and let’s say 75% rating, I may be carried away so easily without looking back. I don’t want to marry a woman I will likely cheat on after marriage.

You are a confused bro... Your parents wanted an introduction, that shows that your dad was not against her after all. The best way not to hurt her is to let her go now. She will hurt but she will get over it. The earlier you realised this, the better for her.

You can never find anybody like her. No two individuals are the same. It is either you get someone better than her or worse than her. If nature/providence placed a rare gem in your path and because of vanity you throw it away, I am sorry you may never get such a gem again. Life has a way of paying back. You may think you got good package in the beginning but events after will show that you entered a "one chance". Since idea of cheating is crossing your mind now. even if you marry a beauty sent from heaven, you will end up cheating on her. Most people that cheat decided to from onset with this type of mindset.

One last complicacy is the fact that she is from a broken home. Her mum got married to several men at the early stage of her life and had children with them (I am not judging). I had to lie to my parents that her parents had divorced several years ago. Even at that they immediately started questioning me about her sisters: if her sisters are still in marriage and if they are doing fine. This alone haunts me sometimes because I don’t tell lies.

I wouldn't say this is not a cause for concern as it may have a generational effect. However, if she has the determination to make her marriage work, then there is no cause for alarm. You only need to be prayerful. I don't have the info to what caused her mother's several marriages but if it is character deficiency, your description of this lady doesn't show someone that will tow that path.

My dad had six wives and other concubines I can't count or know but it didn't turn me to an "harem". Rahab was an harlot but from her lineage came forth the "Rod of salvation". As much as her background is important, the girl in question is more important.

Now, I am at a cross road. Sometimes I tell myself that with time I will learn to love her as my wife and in the same vein I tell myself if after over two years, the love had dwindled from my own end to this extent what will happen in marriage? Can I learn to love her truly overtime? Should I let her go? Please help me!!!!!

Please let her go. I am willing to help you. Send me her phone number and she will totally forget about you.


I wish you well in your decision.

Aquila...

You need to act your name.

Will respond soon.

coldgate:
Hello house,
Anyone in Adelaide should let me know. Pleeeeeeeese.

I sent you an email two days ago but you have not responded.

^^^^ The early darkness is because of winter. Shorter days and longer nights. Winter solstice.

sniperr007:
It's easy to advise ger to tell him but put ursef in her place, its very hard.

To me, she shud hit him abt d issue but coming out 100%, I no fit sabi.

I don't offer any advice without putting myself in the situation. It is based on what I would do if I were in it.

If you think your fulfillment, joy and happiness is dependent on the other person and cannot do without them, it is easy for you to hide info about you.

Marriages crash today because toddlers are marrying toddlers. People do deceive their spouses about who they are and after the marriage, the game changes.

No matter how difficult, honesty is the best policy. In fact telling him and being opened about you is an eliminating strategy to know if the guy is sincerely i interested in you and can stand with you in the times of storm.

We may share different opinion about marriage, so we understand differently.

No matter the situation, I wouldn't advise anybody to lay a foundation of deception, dishonesty and partial sincerity for a relationship. They are recipe for marital destruction. Too many cases abound.

The temporal relief you get from hiding stuffs is nothing but temporal compared to the pains and regret that awaits in the future.

If you sow wind, you shall reap whirlwind.

Not telling him is laying a foundation of deception. What gives the people this idea that every guy is first interested in the woman becoming a baby factory than in her alone first?

If she doesn't tell now, they will still go for medical tests after marriage and the truth would be revealed. Better face the demon now than be put to double annointing of shame, rejection and regret.

Hire a heavily built guard to follow you around. People will know you are the boss and big madam.


NB: The picture of the small stature or ....

Ishilove:
How is 'ipado abija' related to the topic?

I wrote "Ipada bo abija". In response to I will be back.

It is related to the string I commented on which is related to the topic progressing.

My first comment should have been hidden then as asking for the movie director is not related to the topic.

Ishilove,

Why did you hide my comments?

^^^^^

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Check out for subclass 189 and 190.

Everything you need is there.

@Dav6,

Since you are currently employed, your employer will write the letter on their letter head paper following the instructions.

The manager or your supervisor will sign and stamp it. You can your offer letter to it.

There is no need for certifying it in court. It is simple and straightforward.

Goodluck

Both of you are not serious.

If she quits the job and she gets asked out in a new job, she will also quit?

At least the boss is not forcing her, she has the right to politely turn down his request.

And what help do you need? You want people to close your gf's boss' mouth from asking her out?


What answer did she give her boss?

@Coldgate,

When are you leaving and where do you plan to stay?

You have the legal right to be given 6 months advance in notice.

Did you sign a letter of agreement to the notice?

You will not be taken to court, they will get a kangaroo injunction against you. That is how it is done in Lagos. The case will be done without your knowledge and they will get eviction judgement from "jankara"

To forestall this, if you have a lawyer friend, tell him to help you file a case against your landlady and give her a notice to meet in court. Apply for injunction to stay action against your eviction. This case can last till Jesus come. She will be the one to beg you and settle out of court.

However, always learn to pick your battle. If you are up for it, show them that not everybody can be cheated.

I am surprised the pastor son is in support of this.

Why did you resign?

Platnum1:
Forget abt part two, go down on ur knees and pray for your home. They say the first few months/years of a marriage comes wit too many challenges. Pray,u need it.

Who are the "They" that said this?

What are the too many challenges that first few years of marriage come with?

Is this what you feed yourself?

Lest I forget, congratulations Woged2005.

Send us the IV when it is settled. Fear not, the guy will pop the question...

Who is the director of this movie?

The story needs some adjustment before hitting the market.

Why not....

The only problem I see is the guy. Does he have the emotional and street intelligence to manage the lady?

Higher degree does not equate wisdom, tact and smartness. If the guy is very smart to understand the boss weakness, the rest is history.

I can marry the CEO of my company if she is willing, her position is not a threat. Women can be easily handled and very difficult at the same time, you only need to know the right button to press.

As per calling her madam in the office, it is no big deal since it is official work where you get the daily bread. The late Bola Ige was always addressing his wife Justice Atinuke Ige as my lord in the courtroom anytime he had a case in her court.

Summary, is the guy matured enough to lead the home?

As she laid her bed, she is lying on it.

^^^ You need at least 7.0 in all the band and not average of 7.0

Go to Engineer Australia website to see the requirements for assessment. Those are the two stuff you need to kick start your goal.

^^^
Didn't see the game... that was an ass-whooping game..