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@all,

Please it will be good if we can stop the tirades.

Leave the guy alone.

mobuch:
Bros, I don't mean to be rude; your points are sensible but not all are valid. I spent some years in norway and briefly in uk, before returning home to continue my career n family; life in the western world especially the 1st world countries is not tough; life in nigeria is what you just described in your statement. Its not about making billions of naira and going to bed with one eye oppen; there is a whole lot of difference in living in an organised society where you can predict your life sppan. Am currently on bedrest and sedative drugs as a result of stress that comes with living in a jungle as ours and as a result of the kind of business/job I do,which has driven my b.p so high that I had to go on sick leave, and I know that if I remain in nigeria, at d current state of my health, I may not last another 20yrs. Abroad is paradise, take that from me as my last word.

Only someone who understand what quality of life is, and not the amount of money they can make, will understand what you have written above.

The politicians he listed don't even keep their children in the country not because of money. They occasionally leave the country to relax leaving gaps in governance. When Saraki was governor in Kwara, he was practically ruling the state from the UK.

Life is not about making money.

damiso:
Bellong I thought you were a priest

Yes, the priest is watching out for his clans...

@Cococandy,

I believe most parents teach chastity not necessarily telling the girls to keep themselves pure for their men but for religious reasons.

Being chaste doesn't stop anybody from reaching the peak of pleasure, things are learnt. There are enough good materials available to aid it.
And I agree with parents who teach chastity because the benefits outweigh the cons. I only do not agree with the methods adopted. There are other ways to teach your children and be open about sex while not compromising sanctity.

Like someone said a lot of wives need to free themselves to their husband to enjoy it. Some are too frigid and it is a big hindrance.

@Op,

Many of the problems in marriages are foundational. When the foundation is destroyed, it is difficult to rebuild though it is possible.

Whatever it is your wife is subjecting you to, you need to address it with her.

A summary can give an idea of what to advise.

mizzochocinco:
When a person is deprived of something at some point they will go looking for something new. Its not greed or extreme lust.

a woman doesn't just wake up and decide that she doesn't want to enjoy sex. The so-called block can be removed by trying out new things. Not every woman orgasms from actual penetration some requite MouthAction and some require intimacy gadgets.

You still didn't get it.

Phema:
OMG! You mean just anywhere? Interesting stuff. . .

"Amazing grace. . .", that sounds like a church thingy. I'm off to go try it in church with my 'brother in the Lord'.

I do hope this will not compromise my virginity in anyway. . .

Na OYO you dey ooo.... I concluded with "...while respecting free range moles"


It can't at all, at least my 71 year old mum is still a virgin.

taryour:
Its not like my mum is wicked,strict or doesn't give room to openly discussions on any issues we might have. But I think kids just don't feel comfy discussing such issues with their parents,so they tend to get such info from wrong places which either turns out good or bad.

They are not comfortable discussing it because most parents don't treat their children as friends but rather as strictly children. How many parents discuss their personal challenges and issues with their parents even if they don't understand? The level and depth of rapport with children will give them freedom to discuss anything and everything with parents.

First step is become their friend and you can take it from there.

Phema:
This thread is not for virgins like moi.

Orgasm? Never heard of it.

It is a biological experiment that requires one of the two participating moles to involuntary become a music machine by singing "Amazing grace, how sweet the sound..."

This experiment can be taught or performed anywhere convenient for the participating teams while respecting free range moles.

jnrbayano:
Op meant to write Organism.
Pardon him/her.

mizzochocinco:
I have heard too many cases of women who go looking for something outside because their partner doesn't take time to make sure the sex is as pleasurable for them as well. Im not saying its right to have extra-marital affairs (be it the man or the woman).

Most of these cases are actually not because of sexual dissatisfaction but for greed and extreme lust.

But its always best to try out new things to see what really makes your partner have an amazing time. If you want mind blowing s*x while with your wife, you shouldn't expect her to settle for anything else.

The article is not about husbands but women who have created a big stumbling block in their hearts against reaching climax or enjoy the act. Irrespective of new thing you try, once this block is not eliminated, the new thing is a waste. And I think the author wrote it in the article.

The response of about 90 per cent of women to the question of orgasm is that ‘I‘ve never had an orgasm before or I don‘t even know what it is all about.’ This happens each time I have opportunity to talk in most female meetings, or gatherings. Sometimes, some women are not sure if they‘ve been orgasmic, or that they used to be orgasmic, but now they aren‘t. It is expected that such women would want to know what they or their husbands could do.

An orgasm is a reflex response that gets triggered when there is enough build-up of sexual tension from effective stimulation and freedom to go after it without inhibition or fear of being out of control. A lady cannot reach orgasm willy-nilly, but she can encourage or resist it.

Sexual arousal and release (orgasm) are controlled by our involuntary or autonomic nervous system. Arousal, getting “turned-on” or sexually excited, is controlled by the passive branch of our involuntary nervous system. Arousal happens early in sexual play, in our sleep and even throughout the day. Nipple erection and vaginal lubrication are indications of arousal. To get aroused, a lady has to be relaxed and soaking in pleasure, because the passive or relaxed branch of her involuntary nervous system has to dominate.

Orgasm, however, is controlled by the active branch of our involuntary nervous system. As arousal builds to the point where we are just about to go ‘over the edge,‘ our body shifts from the parasympathetic nervous system (the relaxed side of our involuntary nervous system) being dominant to the sympathetic nervous system (the active branch of our involuntary nervous system) being dominant. So, to have an orgasm, we have to get active and go after it. Many women who struggle to be orgasmic tend to remain passive during their sexual experiences, so they don‘t help their bodies make the shift to the active nervous system’s control.

[b]Sexual arousal and release are conditioned responses. If, as a child or young adolescent, you learned to block intense sexual feelings that would have moved you toward orgasm because of guilt or shame, you may, as an adult, continue unknowingly to stop your arousal before it leads to orgasm. Perhaps you learned to be orgasmic by rocking on your pillow to help you fall asleep as a child and now you have no clue how to transfer that form of stimulation into sex with your husband. Or perhaps, you were exposed to pornography or had your first orgasm in response to a negative stimulus, and now you may have to picture that same stimulus to have an orgasm. You are left in a dilemma, either to have an orgasm and feel guilty about the images in your mind or not have an orgasm and feel sexually unsatisfied. Even though a lady‘s body has been designed for sexual arousal and release, various factors may interfere with her ability to respond ‘orgasmically.’ These reasons must be identified and corrected. Any difficulty or inability to reach orgasm after adequate sexual stimulation can be caused by a lady‘s passivity or previous conditioning, by emotional or sexual trauma, or many possible medical factors.[/b]

How important is it for you to have orgasms? How do you know if you have ever had one? What happens when you are orgasmic? What happens if you have been trying, and nothing seems to work? These are frequently asked questions that need to be answered as an introduction to releasing orgasmic potential.

First, the importance of orgasms is evident, because rarely does a woman is interested in sex if she is not orgasmic. Initially she will be excited and enjoy sex with her husband, but over time, she will allow less and less sexual intensity to build and start having sex primarily for him. God designed our bodies to respond sexually, and the scripture teaches that the sexual drives of men and women can be fulfilled in marriage.

Intense arousal causes engorgement or a building of sexual tension, in the genitals and throughout the body in general. The engorgement triggers the reflex of the orgasm. The orgasm reflex sets into motion contractions in the lower part of the vagina and the uterus.

If you have been trying and nothing seems to work, you need to follow some important steps towards enhancing responsiveness.

If something were wrong physically, not all the efforts in the world would ever produce an orgasm. Start with hormonal evaluation. You may need to request that your family doctor have your oestrogen or progesterone levels measured. If you are menopausal, hormone replacement therapy may prove beneficial. If you are on a birth-control pill that is high in progestin, which suppresses sexual desire and response, you should switch to a pill that is higher in oestrogen and androgen (testosterone) activity. An oestrogen cream inserted into the vagina with an applicator will increase lubrication and enhance sensation. A one per cent testosterone cream applied on the outside genitals around the clitoris will increase both desire and responsiveness. Your family doctor may have to order and manage these possibilities.

Learn to know your body and what feels good to you. Start with a genital self-examination. Then share that discovery with your husband and teach him what type of touch brings you the most pleasure. Discover what conditions you need for sex to be the best it can be for you. As you know and take responsibility to create these conditions, you will more easily free yourself to release your responsiveness. You may resist self-discovery or avoid taking responsibility for your conditions because you believe the myth that if your husband truly loved you, he would automatically know how, where, and when you wanted to be touched and would produce your orgasm for you. Since we as women are much more complex and changeable than men, no man can know and meet our complex and ever-changing sexual needs unless we know ourselves and communicate what our body hungers for in the moment.

Listen to bodily sensations. To know your body and communicate what you need sexually, you have to be attuned to your body‘s sexual messages. You can learn to listen to your body and to become the best authority on your body and your sexuality. Listen all day long. Listen in the shower, when you are going about your daily house chores or at work, and if you have even a flicker of sexual sensation. Listen during sex. Both you and your husband will be happier when you learn to listen to your body and go after what you need while he learns to listen to you and respond to your desires.

Lead by invitation. Sex works best and responsiveness is most likely when the woman leads with her sexuality, not with pressure from her husband. That is because a turned-on woman is usually a turn-on to a man, but a turned-on man can be a demand or pressure to a woman. If you feel like he is typically ahead of you in both sexual activity and intensity, you may shut down because of the demand you feel to catch up. Demand always stifles a sexual response.

Distract from watching. As the saying goes, a watched pot never boils. Even so, a watched woman will not respond sexually. Questions and evaluations either by your husband or by you will put pressure on you and interfere with your natural bodily response. The best distraction is to focus on the sensations of where you are being touched, on the enjoyment of your husband‘s body, and on the receiving of your husband‘s enjoyment of your body. You must redefine your goal to go for higher levels and longer times of pleasure rather than for release.

Get active and go after. Are you withholding from your pleasure because going for your orgasm would be giving in to him? Go for it! Maximise your pleasure. You cannot will an orgasm any more than you can a sneeze, but you can encourage it. When your body gets to the point when it feels like you are about to go over the hill, rather than trying to have an orgasm, work with your body. Practise what we refer to as the orgasmic triggers: when you feel like breathing, breath heavier; when you start gasping, gasp louder; point your toes; throw your head back; make facial grimaces; tighten and relax your vaginal muscles; and thrust your pelvis.

Be deliberate about sex. Most couples need to make time for physical connection if they are going to learn what the woman needs to build her arousal and release her responsiveness. Yet, couples often resist scheduling their times together. They may believe that spontaneity is better. Our consistent finding is that the anticipation of planned sexual times together builds quality and the allotment of those times increases quantity. It is important that some of these planned encounters be for connecting, cuddling, and passionate kissing without intercourse or the building towards release. Freedom to enjoy each other without any expectations is a prerequisite to your getting to know your body and sexuality. Sex doesn‘t always have to mean SEX!

Kiss passionately every day. Daily passionate kissing keeps the pilot light on so that you can more easily turn up the flame. We recommend fifteen minutes a day of face to face intimacy-sharing spiritually and emotionally-that ends in thirty seconds of passionate kissing that does not lead to sex. Many times, women stop kissing passionately because they fear it will lead to sex and they do not want to go there.

Learn to have fun and play together. Focus on what is working rather than on what isn‘t. As you are able to affirm God‘s design of your sexuality, eliminate all physical barriers, and pursue mutual pleasure with your husband. Over time, you will have longer and more intense pleasure and eventually release all the sexual potentials that God intended for you with your husband

http://www.punchng.com/entertainment/sex-sexuality/to-have-or-not/

Ifexsco:
Am already praying o! I just have 3months relevant exp between my BEng n Msc and I claimed but dats still not up to 5yrs. I hv understanding of my fate...but there is a God in heaven....didn't do this in order to decieve.will go check the rounds
Thanks. Sis.....

Do you mean you only have three months of experience after your BSc?

coogar:
but hamilton was leading & then he was told to pit......why would mercedes do that if the race wasn't arranged by the powers that be?

mercedes have been apologising to F1 fans for such a horrible decision. they just took hamilton's glory away from him for no reason.

It is all part of the conspiracy theories, so we believe. This is not the first time they are doing this to him. Let's see where it is leading to at the end of the season.

I feel for Lewis... I am Vettel's fan though..

Anti Bukky.... Thank you...

Nico Rosberg did it..... Yay..

angrywife:
Help me ask this number to stop sending naked pics to my hubby....she sends them tru whatsapp her name saved on his phone is manny....thanks

Why is your husband not telling her himself?

freecocoa:
You should realize that some of these boobs come that way, are naturally saggy boobs.

Yes, this is true. Some package come naturally pendulum according to basic human anatomy..

I guess this should be taught in schools to guys, hence they will not take a downcast package for an expired or retired one.

pickabeau1:
As in eh...

The slippers babe is so full of confidence with all the gravity defying ones around her

We don't want no repulsion

Don't be expectant, it can't happen here except of course when they reach 65yrs upward and stage a political protest like the Aba women riot and the Ekiti street protest.

It is an open half nudity contest. They will only end up becoming more jealous of each other's brea.st.
Those with pendulum anatomy will secretly beef those with orange size.

I guess it is the beginning to agitate for cancellation of anti-prostitution law in California.

djojo:
I rep Ijebu ode Grammar School IOGS founded 1913..................................................... Up JOGS Non Nobis Domine

Fixed.... "Not unto us oh God..."

omooba2015:
Thanks for your response...
My Age...(34)
I have.... (Bsc in Accounting)
My English skill....(Excellent)
Job Experience....(2008-Till date)
Spouse....(Yes)
She has been working in a company for 2yrs now. She also do little business in her shop.
Have u ever study in Australia...( NO).pls advice me what to do next. Thanks

Age----- 25
English.... 0
Degree..... 0
Experience... Maybe 10, maybe 5 and maybe 0.
Spouse: 0

From what you have here. The maximum point you can get as at now is 35 which is not enough to qualify to fill an EOI.

If you had read either this thread or the immigration website, you will know that you are jumping the gun.

Now you have to assess your work experience and degree with one of the two bodies who can do it. After that you will write an English exam. It is the exam that will award you excellent not yourself.

If you ask me, I will tell you to start your assignment from here www.skillselect.gov.au

Good luck.

omooba2015:
No,I didn't do any text of English. I did d assessment on one of Australia assessment site, I fill the form online,immediately,it brought out the result to me,that this are categories of visa I can apply for.

What are the answers you supplied?

You have not started at all. I guess you need to read the thread to know where to start from.

Joy1706:
Well, I don't support what she did. But I equally understand being hurt to such an extent that u do what u never believed you were capable of doing. The man certainly deserved it. I would rather walk away cos I aim to please God otherwise eh.....

When you introduced the dimension of being a Christian, I want to assume that she should have been guided by the Holy Spirit in her state of anger not to further complicate things.

However, she could have been a Christian for many years but not have grown past a "babe still sucking milk". I understand why she could descend that low.

The fact that she is blessed doesn't mean God supports her action. Earthly prosperity does not equal divine approval.

ferdimako:
I tire...him don reach 85 sef

omooba2015:
Hello great people in the house, pls i assessed my eligibility in,i have the score of 75points for visa 189..... 80points for visa 190..... And 85points for visa 489. because i had B.Sc. and i have been working in firms for past 8yrs now. Pls help me what do you think i can do, I also have intension going for MBA in Australia. Is it after i get the Admission,i can apply for my visa,or am i going to fill the skilled form for visa application.pls those that know about it,throw light,i m confuse. Thanks all

How did you arrive at your points?

Joy1706:
She's still a christian. Anyways she's rocking her life now. She married again and her new man worships the very ground she walks on

It may not be true and it may be true.

No matter how well she is enjoying now, her action is not excusable. This is not to say the husband was right.

If you think the path she took was honourable, then no point arguing further,

Joy1706:
Look at you. You don't know what a scorned/hurt woman is capable of doing. I had this friend who got married as a virgin, good christian girl and everything. Her husband was her first and only boyfriend. She told her husband several times that infidelity was something she would never tolerate. The stupid husband not only cheated on her but impregnated one of her colleagues. What did she do? [b]Don't 4 get that this girl was a good christian [/b]virgin girl o and was beyond faithful 2 her husband. She slept with her husband's best friend on their matrimonial bed and made sure that the husband caught her. To say the man was speechless is an understatement.

You used the word "was".

It is right to say that she did the abomination when she was no longer a Christian.

Under no circumstance should erratic and stupid decision be taken. How is she enjoying herself now after her silly act?

Where is the father of the *boy* in this matter?

Why does he need the approval of his mum before doing whatever he has to do?

I pity the girl because if the woman cannot understand that they are just starting life, she will always put them in debt in order to meet up with the Jones and Janet's.

A successful ceremony is not strictly dependent on the amount of money spent but how well organized it is. A 5million budget event may still become a flop if not well organized while a 1m budget can be a great success. Depends on planning and organization.

I know that 1M may not be enough considering the ridiculous increase in prices of goods and services but a 5M . Does she plan feeding the whole nation?

The boy had better fixed a date with his father and stick to his economic budget before his mama ruin him before even starting life.

Be grateful that you are breaking away from a man who doesn't know what he wants and cannot stand for what he wants.

Be grateful that you are leaving a man who doesn't have the final say on issues except it is taken for him by another.

Be grateful that you will not be joined with a coward who cannot face you after taking a decision albeit not a freewill...

Need I write more? You have many things to be thankful for.

Meanwhile, are you sure it was the Pastor's statement that made him change or he only capitalize on it to get rid of you as an opportunity to?

So you are selling part A of book for three thousand bucks?

What you wrote must have been given to you straight from heaven to attract such price.

And I think you are talking to yourself on this thread... viz-a-viz Aries and darlington.

steeze:
Thanks bro. I don't even want to worry about my son for now. Just want to focus on myself as an individual. In time he will come to know the truth. If not, too bad.

This will be a terrible move bro.... You should worry about the poor boy not minding whatever circumstances you are. You have a fairly paid job for now and should be able to cater for the boy.

Timbuktuo has given you the right thing to do for the boy in this case. Please with all your strength pursue doing it and be religious about it. You will commit an unforgivable iniquity abandoning that little boy.

As for the girl, you know what is good for you. DO NOT AND NEVER ABANDON THE BOY, EVEN NOW. IF YOU DO POSTERITY WOULDN'T FORGET.

Bro, I covet your grace.... If you could forgive an adulterous wife, I want to believe the mother-in-law issue should be a walk in the park.

Don't let her actions and in-actions bother you. We understand differently. She is only acting in her understanding.

imas:
OP I understand what you're going through, I've been there, God will see you through, am also angry and confused because where I work, there's this Christian brother who does not partake in the corruption going on in the company, but two weeks ago he died in an accident, and I ask God why this one, when the corrupt ones are going about healthy; I have been so unhappy and confused since then, I have even fasted for God to tell me why.

Because sentence against an evil work is not executed speedily, therefore the heart of the sons of men is fully set in them to do evil..... Ecclesiastes 8:11

@Op,

For Christians, death is not the end, it is just the beginning of a new dawn with the King. There is big Victory in death. No wonder, Paul said, "For me to die is gain....." God loves her more than you all, hence the need for her to go home.

It is painful losing loved ones but the comfort of eternal rest should console you and others. I pray that God grants you and the entire family fortitude to bear the loss.

I leave you with this scripture 1 Thessalonians 4: 13-18.

It is well

@bossladymo,

I sent you an email.