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storm001:
My fear is ending up with a woman who want to be the man in the marriage.

Most of them are like that these days oh....

My greatest fear of going into marriage is being a victim of the female selfish nature who always do what is convenient for them at all times.... being on my own even when stuck with a woman - who tries to force me to spend my hard earned cash on her in the name of wife....

Opeyemiextra:
Being with a manipulative partner

Not surprised since u be woman. Na una dey manipulate pass. Guess you are afraid of yourself.

Mercychen:
I'm not saying it's not something I enjoy doing. I was just trying to say nothing special but the usual stressful life.
At least, with these things I've seen, I'll be well guided on the number of children to have and how to Plan our life's and routine in a way it won't get in the way of our Marital bliss.

I have some follow up questions for you....
1. Why give birth at all? i.e. bring children into this difficult evil world? Arent the children better off where they are before being born?
2. What if the born children go to hell?

People dont think about all these things!

Any thoughts?

Mercychen:
I'm not saying it's not something I enjoy doing. I was just trying to say nothing special but the usual stressful life.
At least, with these things I've seen, I'll be well guided on the number of children to have and how to Plan our life's and routine in a way it won't get in the way of our Marital bliss.

Another great point...having too many children may not be that great after all.... I also saw some points of couples who can't sleep well at night cos the child is crying etc.

Mercychen:
To me, nothing really special about marriage because I've moved closely with married people and all i see is stress, stress and more stress!

Imagine the daily routine of a woman. Especially those who are not working.

Wake up early ( when youre not ready)
Prep the children for school.
Prepare their food breakfast.
If hubby is nice, he'll help drop them off otherwise, you do the school runs.

You get home and start putting the house in order. And attend to other chores staring you in the face. Time is ticking

Get ready to prepare lunch.
Then before you know it, it's time to go pick the kids.
Come back, freshen them up.
Serve them
Attend to their home work.

The you get set for dinner so hubby can have something to eat when he gets home. Before you know it, the day is gone and you're fagged out. Same thing continues tomorrow and on and on until....

Imagine if you're a working Mom and now have to combine all these with work...

Now tell me what will make a single viewing all these want to get married?

Truth be told, that's another thing I calculate and i relax and continue enjoying my single life.

Many married women are not happy. They are silently crying!!!
Forget all that fake smile they wear when they come out. They are not happy

Even the men are not 100% fulfilled. Responsibility wan break their neck.

Let's tell ourselves the truth. Even if you're rich, it's still not that easy.

I've seen a rich couple who both drove madly to school at the same time to pick their ward and were reigning heavy curses at each other at the gate because they both argued earlier on who's going to pick the son. So it's like non of them wanted to come and it was already evening and the boy was still in school.

I guess they called the house and the nanny who was babysitting their twin babies then, told them the boy was not home.

Omor.. see the speed they drove into the school compound with. Wify packed one side, hubby parked the other way and they both jumped out of their cars rushing Into the school and abusing each other.

Wife : " You shouldn't have come" useless man" As she stormed into the classroom

Man: ori e ko pe. why did you come? You should have remained at work"

Hmmm... So much hype about marriage. Abegi!

Marriage just like life is in stages....
How marriage is supposed to be is that you get married, enjoy yourselves for like 8-10 years before you start talking of kids. However, men (and women) spend that time with girlfriends and boyfriends... the implication is once you marry within 2 years kids are expected.... so the couple short-changed themselves....

What you describe is the later part of marriage.

Finally not every woman is ordained or meant to be a mother - if its not something you enjoy (school runs et al), then dont force it. Maybe you are actually better off single. so many bad kids today because their parents never really wanted to be parents - rather society forced the role on them.

Overall good post - I like your points!

loswhite:
Watch RT...lol. They are not propaganda outlet...They always tell the truth...All news media are guilty of propaganda.

Russian Times is much better than CNN. At least let's hear non western propaganda...

thesicilian:
They call it child marriage when they should be calling it it's correct nomenclature of institutionalised pedophilia and rape.

it's better than hoeing around 18-25 b4 getting married

Maxymilliano:
https://dailynigerian.com/girls-northern-nigeria-marry/

pls isn't this better than hoeing around??

HonNL:
Godwin Maduka, Governorship candidate of the Accord Party in the recently conducted Guber election in Anambra State, has rejected the results that returned APGA's Charles Chukwuma Soludo as Winner.

Maduka, who spoke with [url=https://www.bbc.com/igbo/afirika-59259294?at_medium=custom7&at_custom1=%5Bpost+type%5D&at_campaign=64&at_custom2=facebook_page&at_custom4=43D16990-439C-11EC-8C7F-53D339982C1E&at_custom3=BBC+News+Igbo]BBC News Igbo, [/url] stated that the assurances made by the Independent National Electoral Commission (INEC) was not fulfilled as the Biometric Voter Accreditation System (BVAS) malfunctioned in many Polling Units during the election.



Asked by the reporter what his next step will be:

pls what is the business of British Broadcasting Corporation with Anambra State and it's language? colonists pls leave us alone and face your country.

Dainy1:
Honestly, I don't understand this. Is this an act of hypocriacy or what truth are they really hiding from us?
They claimed marriage is not important, not for everyone, that you can stay single and be having children outside wedlock, so long as you can take care of them. Yet, they go about talking you down as soon as you're of age and have no wife/husband.

A girlfriend of mine in her late thirties just declared she's getting married and everyone is sharing her up, sending her congratulatory messages as if she has not been existing.

Does marriage really worth that hyping or what's so special about it that civilization is hiding from us?

Being stuck with one woman for the rest of ur life? Nah il pass.

Marriage is crap even with the "right woman".

Each person should decide/ define what marriage means to them - it doesn't hv to be church marriage. It could just be an agreement

CaveAdullam:
From @bolded,

1. This might sound harsh though, but do you guys even understand the meaning of hypergamy? You want her money to be your money and vice versa or whatsoever but don't know that it borders on equality sang from the crooked larynxes of feminists and manginas. Men bear the burden most in a relationship but were compensated with authority and control which has now been eroded by the interference of the government in family and sexual affairs.

Even in egalitarian societies, men and women still display their instincts, men want to take the lead while women want to follow. No matter the rationalisations, redpill lessons, hate etc. Women will remain women and hypergamy goes no where! It is what it is!

Even if she says no, it doesn't obliterate hypergamy from her instincts.

2. The problem of men when it comes to relationship is that they think that there's something special in a particular woman, they want to go to any length to exhume it thereby expecting women to be what they are not and expecting women to give what they don't have. And when they are certainly unable, turn bitter, angry and heartbroken.

3. To be a father and husband or a patriarch is not a job done and dusted within seconds, it is a risky business for a man that is concerned in raising sons and daughters to take care of his empire when he's deceased and further his genetic line. That's why it is pertinent that men should act from the standpoint of abundances when dealing with women. Except in short term relationship, leading women and children is not an easy tasks, if a man is not buoyant, strong, and in authority, he will lose control.

4. Women takes from everything that furnishes a man, that's why a man must understand women and know the redpill before engaging them. It is an art that men must learn!

5. We get shocked when people act in certain ways because we've boxed them in our own minds not to act in any other ways except the ones we know them for. And when they skew sideways, we murmur and complain about them, not knowing that humans are also flexible and can act in myriads of ways unexpectedly.

Men always think that women will love them sacrificially but get burnt when these women display their true biological nature.

6. The best way in dealing with women is to border on their nature and work with the currents. That way, you wouldn't become stupefied when they act within their borders. Double win for you if they prove exceptional.

Am I saying women shouldn't support men or their spouses? No! What of men, should they relieve themselves from vetting women?No! Should women remain mediocre and stupid?No! These are necessary, but a man must be prepared should in case the relationship tends to become stale when things didn't go as planned.

Thanks.

Have a nice day.

@ your first paragraph, men were compensated with youth in the girl he was marrying in addition to authority and control.

Jman06:
I am telling bro. Too selfish!

See let me tell you. In the past from the 16th century to the 20th century, women used to keep themselves for their husbands.... if a guy had an "OK girl"(no girl is perfect) relatively young and is able to work a bit (basic non stressful work) then a man footing all her expenses 100% and "taking care of her" all her life makes sense.

But what do we hv today? Girls with previous plenty boyfriends, runs girls oloshos cockkk carousel riders etc who deliberately had sex with so many people for free and now want me to pay 100% for her throughout her life under some bull shit marriage. And also expect commitment lol - at an age where she has a lot of competition. It ain't happening.

Jman06:
Don't you know that men are born to suffer? Na JOB the sufferer them ladies dey see us as

And for their selfish ends! For any man that wants a gf relationship or marriage the first question he should ask the girl is whether her money is hers alone and my own money is for me and her.... this is will give you an indication of if the girl wants you to labor for her all ur life never mind she's already been used up by numerous previous bfs b4 she met u.... disgusting selfish gender!

StagethemTVee:
The Alaafin of Oyo , Oba Lamidi Adeyemi III, dances with one of his Queens in a rare clip. The 82-year old monarch is known to have a love for fair women. He ascended the throne at the age of 38 after a very keen 2 years contest.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xctq95Q407g

One of his queens. This is a real nigger compared to monogamous idiots.

Oduduwa707:
Sir, you're absolutely very right on all your claims. I'm not arguing that.

What I'm telling you and would keep telling you is that all the development you see today in a place like South Africa is ONLY possible where true sanity and modern civilization thrives. So far, this is ONLY found among white people. Anywhere whites dominate is where you experience real development and growth.

The black man is not wired to successfully function within modern civilization. The average black man's mentality is ape-like. I know you've got lots of lessons to teach me... it's fine but, trust me, I know what I'm saying.

At the bolded it's not true.... the Hans people in China dominate China and in China, you have progress and development....same in the middle east anywhere you see Saudi princes you see progress and development. Also in Nigeria anywhere you see Yoruba and igbos you see progress and development.

you have been brainwashed.... in the 19th and 20th centuries, western Europe embarked on a campaign to brand Africans subhuman and you are a victim of that campaign....

Realize that you are the treasure. France once claimed Algeria is part of France lol....

Development in africa has been stalled by colonial influence which continues to this day and has nothing to do with white presence.

Oduduwa707:
Baba, please try and be realistic for once...
Without the white pple, their state of infrastructure development and all would be worse than Sudan as the guy rightly said.

Do you know what the whites did in South africa? Let me tell you. Around 1900 british colonists came to South africa and passed a law that 93% of land in South africa belongs to whites in the main arable lands while 7% of the land which exists in non-arable remote areas belong to blacks. Then they began to use police and soldiers to enforce the law driving them out of their land. This was the exact same thing the british colonists did to Aborigines in Canada. After that they passed laws black can't marry white backs have their own areas and can't come intowhite areas etc.

They were colonists and played zero role in South africa s economic and infrastructual development. The goal of colonization is ALWAYS enrichment of the colonizer at the expense of the colonized....

Blacks are great. I was once brainwashed like you due to foreign media that always portrays blacks badly. Blacks developed rwanda, Egypt, South Africa, Lagos State in Nigeria, Botswana, lybia, Namibia and more.

DropsMic:
Here we go again with another thoughtless reply.

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African leaders are not any more corrupt than the ones in UK France eu and Australia bur their media wants you to believe so because psychological warfare is an integral part of their colonial strategy.

As for inec budgeting millions for themselves, thru do that because people are too weak to protest....

There are so many good African leaders that ur statement makes no sense. Robert Mugabe (I know bbc and cnn brainwashed you to think he is a dictator), ghadaffi, Goodluck Jonathan, ramophosa of South africa, Ghana president

DropsMic:
The black man is his own greatest enemy.

The only race in the world that sees nothing wrong in destroying their own countries..... Spits

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this is not correct. a ukrainian politician was recently caught looting the treasury.

ur just brain washed by the media....

fergie0o1:
SOURCE


Frederik Willem de Klerk OMG DMS was a South African politician, who served as state president of South Africa from 1989 to 1994 and as deputy president from 1994 to 1996.

As South Africa's last head of state from the era of white-minority rule, he and his Government dismantled the apartheid system and introduced universal suffrage. Ideologically a conservative and an economic liberal, he led the National Party from 1989 to 1997.

The Nobel Peace Prize 1993 was awarded jointly to Nelson Mandela and Frederik Willem de Klerk "for their work for the peaceful termination of the apartheid regime, and for laying the foundations for a new democratic South Africa."

rest in hell colonial terrorists.

ZIMDRILL:
you missed his point

remember he asking "if a man says Yes" eg want sex does the woman have the right to say No

I might be wrong but i think he trying to say if you are providing everything for her she has no right to deny what he want ? since he is taking care of her ?

but if she is also contributing financially she has the right to say no eg she works and she came back from work he wants sex and she say no becoz she is already tired

some men dont see doing house chores as tiring compared to going to work and work, so if a men wants sex from stay home house wife, he expects a yes because he see house chores as nothing that can stop a women from
giving sex to man who provides everything for her

there is a thin line between being taken care of and loved and being taken care of and taken for granted .

A wife is not the only person that can give the over estimated sex na

Kobojunkie:
abeg go whine somewhere else.

You are the whiner. Go elsewhere!

Dollish:
you have been noticed u can now crawl back to your hole...look at how pained u sounded Oga loosen up High BP is real

I don't care about being noticed and I'm not a rabbit that I'd crawl back to a hole. I'm not pained at all. I just like stating facts and logical reasoning. Kobojunkie take note.

Nemere2020:
President Muhammadu Buhari attends a working lunch with French President Emmanuel Macron today, at the Champs-Élysées Palace in Paris, France.

Run away from France. Nothing good can come from them. They don't mean well. They sponsored the genocide in rwanda in the 90s. They refuse to withdraw all thier soldiers from mali which really is neocolonialism. Kenya awarded a French company a 30 yr contract yet France never awards any contracts to African countries. Wake up africa!

CampussNews:
I can only imagine the amount of stigma she's receiving from every corner... From people that are way worse than she is sef.
Baby girl if you can read this, what you did wasn't good (no doubt) but taking your life is really extreme. The world will forget all these, just give it time.

[color=#990000][/color] still dropping trending campus gossips since 1852 though

Twerking is a mating dance/mating call....there's nothing wrong with it....

Dollish:
you told them the bitter truth but selfishness n wickedness will not allow them see the truth. If they are not ready to take responsibility they should remain single.

If the woman is not ready to take on responsibility too then she should remain single.

There needs to be motivation for a man to "taking up responsibility". What exactly am I getting in return for taking care of a grown woman who should be taking care of herself? Did she not go to school and get a degree? And wants to milk me dry and use me as a slave under some nonsense marriage.

What's in it for me?

If na children, isn't thr child hers too? So she should bring moni

wunmi590:
Abi

If the woman is not ready to take on responsibility too then she should remain single.

There needs to be motivation for taking up responsibility. What exactly am I getting in return for taking care of a grown woman who should be taking care of herself? And wants to milk me dry and use me as a slave under some nonsense marriage.

Kobojunkie:
Again, Um... Two becomes one exists even in the business world where contracted partners in business operate as if one unit. Marriage is such a contract agreement between two parties.

It's not OK to be blinded by your hate of others.

I hate no one.... na you hate us!

Kobojunkie:
Um... Two becomes one exists even in the business world where contracted partners in business operate as if one unit. Marriage is such a contract agreement between two parties.

It's not OK to be blinded by your hate of others.

@ur last sentence - that's just sentiments....stick to the facts...

In business two don't become one as business and politics is ruled by permanent interests.

You correctly assert that marriage is a contract agreement.

You seem to have been blinded by holy books and are therefore beyond redemption...

Acidosis:
The truth is that women cheat for the simplest and thoughtless reasons. The theoretical postulations on this thread don't work! Bang your wife like you gonna die the next minute, make all the money in this world and work like a heartless donkey all year round, woman wey go cheat go cheat oo!!

A woman can cheat on you for the sake of "exploring" So how're you gonna avoid that??

The tendency to cheat has NEVER been about what you do or what you failed to do. I keep saying this.

Well said...cheating for a woman is tied to her greed...

For men, the notion that a woman shouldn't cheat if they do this or that is often tied to idealistic "marriages" set forth in holy books....

MJBOLT:

if you check very well most of the women shaming him are expired evening newspapers who failed to cash in on their youth after wasting it fvcking men who were decades older than them,I have never come across any married woman who gives a fvck if a 40+ year old man is in a relationship with someone in her 20s in fact they will tell you that's how it's supposed to be.

Men cannot be shamed out of nature and will continue to gravitate towards youth and vitality.

Kobojunkie:
No, splitting of bills should be an option, not a must, abeg!

So what happens to this equation of yours when life hits and one partner is without employment employment an extended period of time or business goes burst?

Abeg, make we try maintain sanctity of and even sanity in marriage. The formulae is still two becomes one, abi?,

The problem with religious ppl is they do not question their beliefs rationally. "Two becomes one" only exists in the holy books and not in the minds of most women....