₦airaland Forum

kramer:
I see that you have done your research however you've allowed your fanaticism to cloud your judgement and shade you from the truth.

1) I believe all man & woman are equal. Be it white, black, brown whatever. No one is superior to me and I'm superior to no one. If you claim we are better then you are no better than the sadist Hitler.

2) In case you didn't realize, Lybia was being run by a psycho maniac, despite his pan-africanism stance hence why the superpowers had to intervene. At the end of the day it was Libyans who found and killed him in the end.

3) Abuja is better than London?? ..This conversation is over.

About your point 2 - thats how Ghadaffi and Mugabe were portrayed by western media (I recommend rt.com and moroccoworldnews.com and aljazeera for world news - leave CNN and BBC)... I used to think they were dictators too just like you until I had a closer look...This is a speech by Ghadaffi at the UN in 2009 - 2 years before Lybia was invaded and the people that killed him were rebels sponsored by western governments. This is the speech:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PBRqqa7ZpeQ&t=1182s If you dont have time to watch the video (though I recommend you do), then just read the comments - he was a fine gentle man....

Recently, Mali accused France of training and sponsoring terrorists in Mali.....

About point 3 Abuja is far better than London because it has rail, bigger and better roads, is not over populated and has fine scenery....

kramer:
Please stop blaming Europeans for the Bleep up of your ancestors.

Who were the people selling slaves to the whites? Is it not fellow Africans who were making a living out of it?

If Africa was so advanced then how was it able to be colonized? Ethiopia was never colonized so how's is it that they are not a superpower

Africa was able to be colonized because in the Berlin conference of 1884, western European countries came together and crafted a colonization plan (which included psychological warfare of promoting that africans are sub human - you have fallen victim of this from your write up).

Invasion of Lybia happened in 2011 so im blaming them for something recent they have done and invasion of Iraq as well.

Slave trade existed even in bible times and did not only start during the transatlantic slave trade. What you dont know is that Europeans also sold themselves as slaves.... its not one sided.

Ethiopia and many african countries suffer from foreign interference. Three examples:

1. Over the past 150 years, the UK systematically stole all the land in canada and claimed it as British land and stripped the natives of their land.... this was systematic and happened gradually over the past 150 years....Having had success there they came to Africa.

2. Around 1900, the British passed laws in South Africa that all south african land belong to whites.... Blacks in South Africa successfully fought them off and are still recovering their land to this day.

3. The British attempted same strategy they used in Canada and South Africa in Zimbabwe but they failed as blacks and Mugabe gave them a tough time.

You need to realize that Africa is the treasure and start valuing yourself... Even western europeans know it thats why they will never stop meddling in africa. France recently blocked adoption of eco currency this year in the sahel due to their previous colonial upper hand in the african sahel. Macron is afraid of losing its colonies in africa that he organized a conference in France this year and invited african youth - why? because african heads of state have fought him off and now he is targeting african youth....this is all aimed at them trying to retain power and control on the continent.

Today theres African Union that fights off European colonization.

Europe also try to install their chosen leaders in Africa. France sponsored Rwanda genocide - but today Rwanda is among the most developed african countries - Rwanda is now called Africa's Singapore.

You have been brain washed by BBC and CNN. I suggest you start using other news sources like Russian times rt.com and Morocco world news - moroccoworldnews.com

BBC and CNN specialize in psychological warfare that is intended to cause africans to look down on themselves so they can take over the continent.

Lybia intended to create a new African currency that is backed by gold and not the US dollar and had great plans for Africa thats why he was slain.

At some point France claimed Algeria is part of France.

Why so much interest in Africa from Western Europe - because we are the treasure. even culturally we are better - we have a warm social culture.....

I have been around all those "developed countries" and I can tell you that even with all Nigeria's problems, Nigeria overall is better than UK today. Infrastructurally, Abuja is better than London though inferiority complex wont let my people see the truth.

Stop looking down on yourself bro -- Africa is better than Western Europe and Africans are a better people...

I have also been to UNIZIK and in terms of infrastructure, land mass, quality of professors etc - it is better than Oxford, and Cambridge in the UK though most ppl wont believe it due to inferiority complex.

kramer:
Interesting.. you only hear things like this from African people, yet the continent remains the poorest, illiterate and backward thinking continent on this planet.

Whereas countries that promote equality and sexual liberation are the most advanced and forward thinking countries... Why is that so? Are they cursed?

the continent is made poor by European colonization and invasion.... Lybia at a point was more developed than UK and France and Germany and many parts of USA but they were invaded and bombed which made them poor again. you are mentally enslaved to the white man who has enslaved ur mind thru their media.... Africa better than western Europe and blacks are better and more forward thinking than whites - that's for sure!

envoymedia:
https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=2339385182863195&id=100003752093556

would the security agents also have exerted the same rescue effort if it was a black man that was kidnapped? they also didn't ask the white man for bribe. inferiority complex has eaten deeply into the heart and mind of Africans

Drella:
Agreed.
But you should change your views.Giving a girl something doesn't necessarily mean you must collect something from her.
What if you gave your guy the money?

If a man buys a woman a phone, gives her money, etc he is trying to establish a sexual contract with her - sometimes it is a marriage contract. If the woman accepts the gift and does not perform the contract this is called "breach of contract"... girls should be wary of gifts from guys to find out if its truly a free gift before accepting - most gifts come with hidden obligations....

Drella:
That's because you are seeing 1.5m as something big!
With that money, you'll be shocked to say that her shop is not really stocked up as it should.
What is 1.5m in Buhari's regime?

regardless of the amount be it N5,000 or N10k or N1m if shes does not want she must pay back else she must be injured. There is no free gift especially if the gift is coming from a man. but then again as you rightly pointed out na men dey mumu dey carry money dey give women and dey give women special unnecessary favors.

Drella:
She is obligated?
So if you've given some ladies some amount of money in they past, they must all marry you?
If so, you'd see many men having like 30 wives.

Returning the money is debatable because he GAVE her not LEND her.

It's not debatable. There is no free lunch. No one gives 1.5m without an expectation of anything in return.

Drella:
Does him giving her 1.5M mean she is obligated to marry him?
If you like date a man for 10 years,he can have children and a wife outside that he takes care of and you won't know...all is secrecy.
Mind you, which money does the police have?If not because of bribe and extortion,where popo wan see 1.5m?

Yes she is obligated and if she doesnt want she should return the money....

Fahdiga:
After eating the man's money she want to clean mouth abi. If reverse was the case these vagina people would have bayed for the man's blood. Why don't you tell him in the beginning that you aren't interested instead of wasting his time and money.

not just eating his money but also wasting his time..... the female gender to a large extent deserve what they get excluding death....
there was even a female friend that told me a guy proposed to her and she said yes but in her mind she didnt really mean it and that the guy was rejoicing she said yes wicked gender....

FutureIsFemale:
Police officer allegedly shoots his girlfriend in Delta for refusing to marry him after she found out he is married with child


https://www.lindaikejisblog.com/2021/10/police-officer-allegedly-shoots-his-girlfriend-in-delta-for-refusing-to-marry-him-after-she-found-out-he-is-married-with-child.html

the evil gender deserves harsh punishment but not death tho

Akakanfirstclass:
Small quarrel
She don carry kpekus give other niggas..

Yo!..
In Nigeria close distance relationships don't work well, Nigerian girls will be still be playing you evil, how much more long distance..

Mehn.. I know it hurts but, you won't see true love from a girl between 18 - 27 years old cos they are on hoe phase..
Their body still they hot
Until they have seen it all and ready to build an empire with a king.

So just calm down, make money

Akakanfirstclass. True love doesn't exist. The reason 28+ seems as if they have true love is because they are looking for a male victim to take care of them now that they are no longer as attractive. True love does not exist.

That hoe phase would have continued into 28-32. The only reason it's not continuing is cos they are old by 28 and men are switching to younger girls. Another reason why marriage is a scam. At 28 most are used up - and I hv to be stuck with one used up hoe my entire life? Marriage is an idealistic scam....

UyaiIncomparabl:
Una no get work.

You all will continue to wail till eternity about us. Una never halla.

Lolz funny!

Toks2008:
I just don't want to shake tables in this aspect.

I have a thread in my head about this but I won't create it cos it will break the Internet.

Pls oh create it and tag me so I can contribute....

Lol @ break the Internet.

Toks2008:
To think that some Pastors preach that until you do a white wedding also known as "Church wedding".. You are not considered married...

I call this foolishness that has no basis in our tradition as Africans or even in the Scriptures.

I will advise any man to focus on the traditional wedding and go ahead to register the wedding if they want but if the lady insists on having a white wedding, let her take care of the entire financial demands except you have enough money to throw away.

May we be emancipated from mental slavery

In a vast majority of the cases the men are spilling money on old expired oloshos who are actually used up old hags.... what they are celebrating, I do not know!

Workch:
Whose religion is Christianity?

Nazareth/ Israeli

I think Nazareth is either a country or its within Israel.

PlayMaker14:
May God continue to bless Sir Reno Omokri for me....


He made me realize that “White Wedding” is the European traditional marriage and made me see how we Africans lavish so much money for European Traditional Marriage. (White Wedding)

More like Israeli/Nazarene traditional wedding - it didn't originate from Europe - they just like to claim it

womenareapess:
this one opened thread to deceive people

I keep asking this question, "what can a woman offer"

There's nothing beneficially in marrying those black baboons
Rather to be single than having the remaining rest of your life living in regret marrying those piece of shiit.

When I see young men getting marry, I always pity them for they do not know that what comes next is a path full of regrets!

Marriage only favour on particular gender and that's the plain truth!

men get companionship from women especially as they age - no?

and also children - no?

and also sex - no?

SensualMan1:
Trace the root of this matter, this woman must have lived in the North, schooled in the North or grew up in the North. Fulani people and machete. This is one characteristics of associating with Northerners. U imbibe their traits unknowingly. Now u killed ur own husband with ur hands, a guilt that will take you to the grave early.

no it can only be traced to money.

brandsoncharlie:
It is vague to say that, certain criteria other than what u are saying is used in categorizing Countries such as first, 2nd or 3rd world countries? , a better way to put it, is developed, developing and underdevelop

my dear not really. uk is a developing country compared to canada; while uk is a developing country compared to Rwanda. It was English and French colonists that invented those terms to make you to continue to look down on yourself. Rwanda has been dubbed the Singapore of Africa! UK is not really a developed country - it is only developed infrastructurally... its not that hard to build infrastructure and Africa is quickly catching up....

Patrioticman007:
Good that a third world country is giving these crusaders & colonial masters though time.

Stop calling yourself or any country "third world" - this is a term invented by colonial masters to enslave your mind...
Nigeria is actually better than USA in terms of gun violence and mass shooters; you are more likely to die of gun violence in Chicago, Atlanta and New York from gun violence than in Enugu or Kano Nigerians wont see this. Emancipate yourselves from inferiority complex.

Nigeria is also better than USA culturally (in some areas).

Nigeria is better than USA in terms of investment opportunities.

Akathriel:
This is the only sensible comment on this thread.

You know, it is disheartening that 90% of Nairalanders follow the heard mentality.

Open any thread on Nairaland, especially those on the front page. You would notice that the first person’s comment is ALWAYS echoed by the other comments that follow that comment.

If the first comment on any thread abuses the subject or OP of that thread, the rest of the assholes too would follow suit.

If the first comment on any thread praises the subject or the OP, the rest of the Dundees too will follow suit.

You know why? Secondary School Children & brain-dead nonentities have hijacked Nairaland.

This is the reason I have drastically reduced my engagements on Nairaland, because I can’t be wasting my time & energy arguing with nonentities that are not even up to 23years of age.

Now, back to the topic.

Several assholes said via “re-echoing” (because one asshole already mentioned it) that there’s nothing to gain in what the OP wants to do.

If there’s nothing to gain in it, why then are the vast majority of Nigerians indulging in it?

Or isn’t our society no longer a reflection of we the people?

I am angry because 99% of these bastards telling the OP otherwise are doing way worse behind closed doors.

I am not blaming the OP’s wife for her wayward lifestyle in school but the OP too deserves some fun. In fact, he should explore.

Using God to cage or scare anybody doesn’t work anymore in this useless Country.

After all, we all agree that “Life No Balance”

I hate cheating in my life. And if you must scold me or accuse me of anything in my life, then just make sure your own yansh too no get shit.

I will not judge you and I will never scold you but make sure you come with your clean yansh - if you must do it to me.

I am more pained because I know that the OP’s wife can never EVER change.

Once an Olosho, always an Olosho - especially all these useless Nigeria Oloshos.

If you have fvcked any one of them before, you would know how damaged and irredeemable these greedy & covetous ladies are.

One was telling me the other day, that the last guy who fvcked her based on hook up smoked SK or Colorado (I can’t remember) and the guy fvcked her “roughly” for over an hour without ejaculating . She said she was crying & begging the guy that she was tired and could no longer take it.

The guy did not listen, and was just pounding away until he ejaculated.

She said when she was going home in the morning after collecting her 10k for the hookup, she started crying. And this girl does hookup like 4 times a week.

She equally told me that one day, she got a hookup on another day and after they already agreed on price, when she got to the guy’s house (a one-room apartment with rug smelling & oozing due to water that poured on the rug).

The guy has tattoos all over his body and lives with his friend and then told her both of them would fvck her for 5k. She got up angrily and left and it was already late around 11pm in Ijebu-ode.

The Vigilantes were already out and parading for security. They held her and wanted to rape her. One of the security guards from a nearby house came to her rescue and lied to the Vigilantes that he was her boyfriend and that she came looking for him.

That was how that girl followed the security guard into his shed and the guy slept with her all through and never paid her a kobo.

She said she had to allow the guy to sleep with her because it was better than being raped by over 15 Vigilante men.

This is just two out of about 5 events she told me. If not that I was high on alcohol that night, I nearly wept for her - seriously.

Please, just imagine how all these useless & uncultured Yahoo Boys must have damaged her.

I really felt for her.

Now, I want you to imagine the unfortunate guy that will now settle down & marry this kinda Olosho.

Please tell me, why won’t the OP feel cheated?

Omo, if I no see the woman I am craving for to marry, I swear, I go just dey born throway dey go - because for Naija now, 96% of all the women na Olosho dem be (including the married ones).

You can take my word to the bank.

the grievance of the OP is that he kept himself for marriage while the wife was having her fun.... it's unfair and I'd feel cheated too...

I think he should have his own fun too even in marriage.

and yes God can't be used to scare me any more becos I think I have nothing to fear so long as what I'm doing makes logical sense (having my fun) and I'm not hurting anyone e.g. sleeping with a married woman....

Oyiboman69:
after going through some comments on here...I really understand where you're coming from.

the only problem you have is trying to weave your spouse in your situation as the cause. however, you can take a break, tell your wife that you'll be traveling to a far away place, go on,drink beer,party, bang enough pussies,met different people and come back after one or two months. don't forget that there are some generation who don't use hand set and computer which we are enjoying today cos life is not always fair . I strongly believe this will ease your anger and you'll definitely see life in different perspective...happy marriage life

This is good advice....

prekumohtim:
Don't envy women. They have a different life from us. Ladies go after men that are ready financially , not men that are struggling. They are not born to suffer . Until you put your house in order a woman cannot come in . It's normal. A lady from a poor background can always live a better life always if she wants to utilise her opportunities. God created man to provide for the family and the woman helper of the man, every other extra thing or suffering that a man is passing through is because of his fellow men. Men prefer to help ladies be causes of yansh that to render help to their fellow men who have been serving them for 10 years. I have been in establishment where my boss would rather give #1m to a lady he just met that to give me #20 who has been with him for 6 years. Men are the problem of their fellow men

You need to listen to yaself... how can woman be helper if they don't go after men that are struggling? They are not helpers..... they are only helpers if/when it's convenient for them....

OloshoMan:
WTF is your problem, man.
She did all these white in school and you want to do it, now you're married. Your anger isn't channeled in the right place tbh... you May end up destroying the marriage in the process. Get a grip, man. Not her fault.

my guy didn't have his fun.... he was prolly restricted. guy should go and hv his fun biko but sin though e.g. sleeping with married women...

Pussywar:
The fact is that women are “used”? And if you’re asked to bring up a research to back it up, you can? A clown. Cursed is the one that ends up with you.

there are "used up old hags" and "noble older women who did not sleep around" (5 or less is okay by me - temptations do happen etc) - these are two different sets of women. For a used up old hag who has slept with so many guys in the peak of her youth to now want to scam one holy deeper life brother who is a virgin or nearly one is a scam. this is a fact.

if a used up old hag is presenting herself to a used up old man-whorrre (aka male ashewo) for marriage - then i guess its a match

I only have issues where a used up old hag is trying to scam a deeper life virgin or near virrgin brother who has kept himself into marriage. In fact God Himself no go gree... He would shatter the marriage and demand the girl to go and marry her male match.

Pussywar:
It’s not factual. It’s an opinion based on misogyny. Call us whatever. But if sentiment isn’t enough to show you how bitter you are and how false your statement is, you’re a lost cause.

the facts are there. counter the facts with facts.

Pussywar:
With your logic, your mother is a used up old hag. May you people heal from whatever is hurting you. Cos there’s no way you’re hoping to marry from a group of people you speak so disrespectfully about.

I knew the your mother crew would come. the facts are there.

sirjamesjnr:
There is no sure thing as a sexual quota. And there is no such thing as a ‘hoe’. Men that slut-shaming women are not mature to be in a grown-up relationship. No lady is not accountable to any man for her past. It's none of a man's business.

That lady A has one guy she sleep with when she was 15 till she clocks 30 and married, lady B has a body count of 100 before her 30th birthday. The truth is the two ladies have sex and they don't owe you any explanation.

If you are going to marry for 'purity" look for a virgin girl. Do not condemn a man who wants a team player, homemaker, companion, and someone who can resonate with him. A virgin girl can tick all the boxes agreed. If you found that virgin girl with these qualities good luck. There is a lady out there for every man. Time is hard, while the world is moving forward, the Average Nigerian man is talking about body count. Shouldn't you be worried about a lady who can build a great home with you so your generation won't abuse you? Whether you are wealthy or you are coming up, I will like to think you need a proper woman to build your home with you.

My time in this uncertain world, both in the corporate world and among great minds. What we care about are ladies with decent character, basic moral values, ethics, cleanliness, abilities to accept responsibility, and willingness to learn something good. Never for once within this circle of friends and learned mind do we care about what a woman does with her body. What you do when you are in a relationship with me is what matters.

To that man who is in a decent relationship:
I know how you feel. When you develop strong feelings for a girl, it’s hard to think of her being with other guys. Even though you can rationalize that her past relationships happened before you met, it doesn’t make it any easier to accept that there were others who had been intimate with her. But you can’t dwell on this. It will destroy you, and it will destroy your relationship with your girlfriend.

Unless your girlfriend is the kind of girl that is very flirtatious, and who loves all the attention that she can get from guys, you probably don’t have anything to worry about. If she were a “hoe” she wouldn't want to have a decent relationship. So how do you get over this? There are only two things that I know of that you can do:

1. Don’t torture yourself with the details. There is no reason for you to know with whom she did it, how many times they did it, what positions they did it in, how big the guys were, and if they were better in bed than you or not. As tempting as it is to ask her these things—don’t! And stop her from volunteering that kind of information. Knowing these things will not help you or your relationship with your girlfriend in any way. They will only become mental and emotional burdens to you—obstacles and barriers that you will constantly have to overcome in order to treat her the way that she deserves to be treated. You protect yourself and you protect your relationship when you avoid rubbing your nose in her past.

2. Change the way that you look at people. Start realizing that every one of us is screwed up in some way. There are no perfect people. Every single one of us does dumb things and makes mistakes in our quest to find love and belonging. Your girlfriend is no exception. Choose to see her through the eyes of love and compassion, rather than through the eyes of judgment and condemnation.

To our ladies. I have one thing to say to you. You don’t need to apologize for your past relationships, and you don't need to explain yourself to any man. Simply understand that all you need is to be loved by someone, and if it didn’t work out, move on and build your life. Hopefully, your next relationship will work out for you.

Me personally? I’ve never longed to be with a virgin except for an ex and my girl(I am not with her because of sexual purity). I prefer my sexual partners to already know their way around their own sexuality. That means they’ve gotten some practice. Now I understand that as a man you need some certain confidence that some of you may are probably still forming. But when someone says something derogatory about the woman I’ve chosen to love I don’t reconsider my love. I conclude the person saying it is an idiot and ignore them in the future. I have faith in myself which leads me to have faith in the people I choose as partners.

Ladies out there, know the class of men you allow into your life. Be responsible for your actions.

I'm not spending millions of naira to get married to a used up old hag....its not happening!

and I'm not contracting an std from any such biatch!

Toks2008:
You are very right. Thanks for the correction... Well noted.

I think you should take down or modify the said text if not already done so so as not to mislead guys.

single mum's exemplify alpha fuckjs beta bucks (provides). she has bleeped and has sex and a child with a sexy attractive alpha that doesn't have money. and now she needs a beta provider man to take care of her and her alpha offspring. quite disrespectful of a woman to new suitors!

Martinez39s:
SMH.

why smh... imagine a Nigeria where men killed themselves less? I think it will be a better Nigeria. my support of feminism is only to the extent to which it benefits men and women.... I think men can do better in the area of handling issues with less violence/brutality no matter the level of provocation.

Martinez39s:
I am still surprised that a massive mangina and feminazi like BigBashiru would later overdose on red pill powders and chew the capsules raw without dilution. What is going on here?

theres actually only one area where I agree with the feminists and that's in the area of "toxic masculinity"... open any newspaper in Nigeria, most crimes are perpetuated by men.... against both men and women..... men also resort to violence over the most minor things e.g. security guard kills security guard over N100.

theres also toxic femininity and it manifests itself in hypergamy/divorce....

my gender views are balanced and are not one sided.

Never spend too much for a wedding unless the girl is truly worth it

- This means no retired oloshos, repackaged/rebranded runs-girls now turned religious sisters, no girls with high body count who will be comparing my sex with her with that of her numerous previous partners and no girls with nagging/other bad behaviour etc....these girls will still be demanding expensive weddings....pls tell me what exactly am I celebrating in the so called wedding??