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Poleski:
This is where the biggest mistake in your life started! You rushed into marrying someone you didn't know. And she declined the dowry to prevent your family from meeting her father. Who does this? You ignored a big red flag!!



She was a woman on a mission and knew how to get what she wanted. You wanted to know her now, after you had already married her. You're one hell of a dumb guy!



How could you be surprised when you made no effort to truly know who you were marrying? She knew you would find out one day, and that was why she used the opportunity to inform you!



You found out too late. That's what you get for marrying a stranger! You missed getting all this information before marriage because you and your extended family were either too lazy to do the needful or too dumb and ignorant!



After all the horrible revelations about her and her mother, you still went ahead and changed your properties documents to please your evil wife! Your level of stupidity is incurable!



What did you expect from her mother, who divorced her own husband? Like mother, like daughter. Of course, her mother was probably indirectly  in charge of your family affairs. She is your wfe's evil adviser. She planned all these with her daughter.



Why would you be surprised? Why won't she claim it all? She's married to a huge slowpoke who let all this happen!



Your mistakes were many. Nobody would make those mistakes and still be happy. The major thing you've got right now is your life. Don't lose it to her!



You should kiss those properties good bye. You must blame yourself for all this mess! You saw a lot of red flags but ignored them all. She and her mother played you like a fiddle. You married a very bad woman who happened to be smarter than you 10 times. With extreme ease, she snatched every damn thing she wanted from you! 

If I were you, I would've divorced her long ago to limit the damage she has caused and still is causing you today. I understand how Europe works (I'm based there). Rich husbands lose more during divorce. I'd rather lose my property than be held in perpetual servitude by an evil woman and her evil mother!

I hope this whole predicament has taught you an important lesson. If you're going to marry again, you MUST have a very long courtship with whoever that person is, to truly know the person's past and present, and her family. 

I hope you find the happiness you so desperately need.

long courtship isnt the solution either because the girl can pretend....i will say marriage is just luck.... you just have to be lucky to meet the right person you are compatible with.... we should all be praying for God to improve our luck....

Kobojunkie:
You call me a hypocrite yet you have never been able to prove this true, not by any of my own admissions on here or anywhere. What do you think that makes you if not a liar?

Sin is as defined by God in His Law and the rule is you cannot add your own commandments, remove commandments or even change any of that which God has declared in His Law - No man has authority to do that.

Now, Jesus Christ never stated that having a relationship, bf or gf, was sin. So,how can it be sin when it is not of the Law that defines sin?.

cursed hypocrite show me where bf and gf is allowed in the bible or forever hold ur peace; false prophet encouraging immorality.

PastorM:
Don't forget to take your medication before you sleep.

Have you taken yours? cursed vagabond.

Kobojunkie:
It isn't a sin to have a bf or gf, what is instead sin is to lust in your heart after a woman aka adultery - Matthew 5 vs 27 - 28

False teacher and false prophet aka chief hypocrite of nairaland with hate written in his heart. so mr false prophet, where does it say in the bible people should have boifriends. bf by its very definition involves attraction, lust etc. you are just a jobless false teacher who loves coming to every thread uninvited.

In fact bf gf relationships are even more enjoyable than husband and wife cos both dont live together they only meet for encounters...

Saintmary:
Just wait for your time.

He's not restricted to the Christians alone.

He is the God of all flesh.
He is before all things, the very Source.

He created all things, even you.
He is the most high. If you like, rebel, we who know Him will worship Him.

P. S. There is no rest in hell. Only torment.

Repent and find rest in Christ.

Lol ur preaching at me... how cute....

God may have ordained hell for me in which case I've accepted it. I tried my best not to go but uve given up. I'm going to hell for these reasons:

1. I decided to use my head and to do what makes sense instead of having blind faith.
2. I too like woman - bum shorts, mini skirts, leggings and sekks.

I try to pray still tho.

DroppingLiquid:
Can't you just drop the information I asked for without the whole bickering about self confidence nonsense? What is it with you people when you ask for facts, the first thing is to project your own low self esteem on the person asking. Nigga, I'm just asking you to list the inventions and post source and what not. Jeez.

IT's always the same merry-go-round bullshit with your squad.

Bros I was just trying to encourage anyone reading this. I ain't got no low self esteem. Google is your friend... just Google "list of black inventors" and "black inventors of aeroplane"

DroppingLiquid:
Let's hear this inventions then. Also post source of airplane gist.

I will give you the full details over the next couple of days. I am dismayed that the african has no self confidence due to years of colonial brainwashing, racial intimidation etc. and I have set to see that change... We are equally intelligent (if not more) but the British and French dont want you to believe that about yourself... because that belief is the source of their power over you. Cant you see how Lai Mohammed is challenging CNN? Thats how it should be. I will send you the evidence that blacks are equally intelligent.

DroppingLiquid:
why u say so?

Have you seen the list of black inventions and inventors that einstein is nothing compared to? And middle eastern and aboriginal researchers? The ascendancy in science is a title whites gave themselves - they tended to steal the inventions of others... africans were first to fly an airplane even before the wright brothers but BBC, CNN etc has done a good job of causing inferiority complex in africans.

even when the british soldiers came to nigeria in 1857 they had never seen bronze scultures before so they had to steal them - they claimed to discover river niger when people had already been living there lol.

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RenaissanceGuy:
Very good. Africa needs to wean itself from the mentality that anything European or American is the best of its kind.

I agree with you... moreover I love lai Mohammeds confidence in challenging CNN with their nonsense. #BlackPower

Femi8586:
Simping is bad... Kai

A woman has been denying you sex since you married her

She has made your life so miserable..

She is even cheating on you on top that.

She even manipulated you to the extent of changing the names of all your properties to include hers

She's now filing for divorce so that she can take over all of your properties.

She petitioning Italian government to relieve you of your job and also deport you.

She frustrated all your mum's effort to see her grandchildren till the innocent woman died.



Simping is so bad..

I hate that notion of "women denying men sex".... it's due to stupid religious beliefs though. I believe a man can and should get sex from female friends even if not officially married so long as he didn't promise his wife monogamy....

Prettiepearlz:
The woman's side of the story is online. Don't want the bots to ban me if I paste the link. Just type her name Bolaji Wiwoloku on Google, you will see it there.

Bigamy is a male right. Why is the woman bitter? Because she is too old to attract guys but the guy can??

dre11:
My Wife Changed Names On All Our Property Documents In Nigeria To Hers, Plans To Kill Me To Take Over All I Own— Italy-based Man



http://saharareporters.com/2021/11/26/my-wife-changed-names-all-our-property-documents-nigeria-hers-plans-kill-me-take-over-all

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DroppingLiquid:
Black mumu man no match for the superior Asian brain power.

It's not true blacks are the most intelligent.

dasparrow:
I hope Buhari is listening because Buhari has also borrowed a lot of money from China and continues to borrow. I always knew that China giving African countries all this loans was to take over African countries and colonize it again. I don't know why the African man has no brain. What a shame.

The brain of the African man is superior to that of the whites...

Rosement:
If there is understanding in a marriage, growth will be faster. They have become one, they have to learn to carry each others burden. Any child that will be produced from the marriage will belong to both of them. If they work hard to support their children and their children eventually becomes successful, they will both benefit from it.

Omo leave Bible talks such as "they have become one"... if they have become one that's the more reason why the money part should be a shared responsibility with a woman contributing at least 30% of household expenses but na! Women only want what's convenient for them....

Jodha:
95% of men think money is all women want...and that women will flock around them if they have money. Well I'm sorry to burst yhur bubble they're actually hard-working and contented ladies out there...and if money is all yhu have to offer then yhu have nothing to offer..

Guys should learn to work on their personality, attitude, general approach. I'm not saying yhu shouldn't have money ..but if yhu think having money is all there is...or if yhu have money yhure a total catch and ladies will flock around yhu regardless of how yhu behave...then yhure wrong.

U never reach 40. And by the way men are the selectors not women....

TOPCRUISE:
Says a 40 year old single lady

She nova reach 40 if she don reach 40 she no go dey yarn dust.... she go dey talk any man however you are, I will manage u

Rosement:
Two of you should have waited and become financially stable before getting married but still she does not have to put the whole pressure on you, both of you are in this together, she knew your status before she married you. She should have found something doing before she settled down, a woman should be an helpmate not a liability.

Marriage is for better for worse, you might have to take her to your spiritual father for counselling. Good women build their homes, she has to learn to stick to her husband through thick and thin. You guys just have to work together and the storm will be over eventually. Don't overthink things, you cannot do more than your power.

As a responsible man, you have to strive to provide for your family but she also have to assist you. Don't allow misunderstand to enter your marriage, try to work things out.

As for the last paragraph both ppl have to strive to provide for the "family" not just the man. What happened to the woman's hands? And what's the man getting in return for all the stress?

Rosement:
Two of you should have waited and become financially stable before getting married but still she does not have to put the whole pressure on you, both of you are in this together, she knew your status before she married you. She should have found something doing before she settled down, a woman should be an helpmate not a liability.

Marriage is for better for worse, you might have to take her to your spiritual father for counselling. Good women build their homes, she has to learn to stick to her husband through thick and thin. You guys just have to work together and the storm will be over eventually. Don't overthink things, you cannot do more than your power.

As a responsible man, you have to strive to provide for your family but she also have to assist you. Don't allow misunderstand to enter your marriage, try to work things out.

Omo leave that for better or for worse crap. That'd what the church uses to deceive ppl. Marriage isn't for better or for worse.... it can be called off at any time and no one should be made guilty for leaving a marriage that doesn't suit them due to some religious shit.

lyricaldaboss:
To each his own, marriage is not for everyone. The worst thing is to look back and regret.

Marriage is indeed not for everyone.... and ur quite right about looking and regretting.

Exodora:
Oga you really don't know what you are saying, there is this guy who is asking for my hand in marriage probably because of one time, his friend locked him up on an empty stomach when his girlfriend came visiting and the guy was homeless and hungry, so he came to my room and I felt sorry for him and I prepared him something with my last card and anytime he comes to my room I do offer him what I have and whenever he is in need and I have it I will just give it out without having anything in mind. My landlord allowed him sleep in the security house.
Now he has secured a job and wants to marry me but I don't have any feelings for him but he is insisting that am the mother of his children and that God told him so .
Is getting to two years he has been asking for my hand in marriage and I said no but he wouldn't take no for an answer. His mother wants to see me and he is inviting me again this season since I couldn't make it last season but for me is not for marriage shaaaa because his parents wants to see me so am considering visiting him if not for nothing at least for old time sake.
Though I don't know if he lives same life style as his friend but I watch his friend come back as late as 1:am with different women. I watched almost all the women leave with saddened heart and I asked myself if he is any different from his friend though he latered got his own apartment after his friend locked him outside and he looked innocent but I doubt if he is any different from him.
They say show me your friend and I will tell you who you are.

girls and these una feelings.... are u so fickle that u make major decisions on feelings that come and go?

okay you develop feelings for him and after 3 yrs the feelings fade - what happens? u move on to another guy

OBIPLUS:
That was then , today ladies will find this difficult.

Keep low and you'd get who/what you want.

How many guys want to marry into one room apartment with a separate kitchen ? How many gals want to endure with a few men who wish to marry into a room apartment with the description above? Everyone is just chasing shadows. Men too are busy craving a lifestyle which is often a mirage, before they think of getting married.

In my case, once God approved of our union with proofs even from more than one man of God who barely knew each other, we proceeded. I married my wife into a room with a separate kitchen outside. Once it rained in those days , we'd be busy diverting erosion away from the kitchen.

Today, we've achieved everything man has come to earth to achieve. I've dined with world leaders including Barak Obama on a special invitation to Washington DC. As I type this message, I'm inspecting my new edifice in lagos (the best in the whole estate). God has also blessed us with intelligent and God-fearing children all in a boarding secondary school in one of the best schools in Lagos.

My salary was 11k while my wife's was almost same when we got married. Barely a year after we got married, I began to change jobs like clothes and always with official cars, brand new to cap it all.

Money isn't everything when it comes to marriage too otherwise, DJ Cuppy wouldn't have been looking upandan for blind dates. It's God's institution. Try it and see things fall in pleasant places for you. Pray for your own and it would come, don't look at that pocket before you take a decision on this.

Its not God's "institution" as we have been fed. Its a choice....

Hkff:
“He said the reason why some ladies get really old without suitors coming their way is because they must have ignored a lot of guys during their prime (20-28) and once reality set in they become desperate.”


That is the main reason bro

I have to dump a girl after spending a lot on her she said no sex until I marry her despite the fact that she has been having sex with her numerous ex but because she saw someone that has achieved a lot and wanted to settle , she blew it . I just got angry and dumped her immediately

Most of these girls are their own problems

Nice one. This is red pill philosophy and how girls should be treated. No pedastalization and no over glorification.

Harddiskng:
@Pocohantas, All prejudice aside you know that the bolded is true. A case in point is my cousin, i have talked about her once or twice. When she was young and beautiful she used all the guys that came her way to catch trips. Now that is getting less beautiful by the day, she is now serious about getting a man.

One of her old suitors actually came back and confided in me about his intention. I consider him my brother (once our bond of friendship is strong you become my brother).

I reminded of when this girl was beautiful was the prize every one around her wanted, how badly she treated him, so she was so non-chalant, he couldn’t get through to her. She didn’t consider him in her prime, why is he considering her in when he is in his prime; great job, a car, sweet house, everything is going super well for him. I told him point blank that he deserves better. There are more beautiful and sensible babes and my guy-man reasoned with me

Trust me i told my cousin about this event, she cried her eyes out. I could see the anger in her eyes, but she knew the repercussion if she moved mad against me.

You can’t eat your cake and have it.

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By the way even from my set way back in university, there are girls are not so fine (but they are really smart), they got married almost as soon as they were done with NYSC.

All these girls are still happily married, funny enough is the boss-chick, boss-bit*h that have trouble finding husband, even when they do the marriage doesn’t last up to two years.

You have written well. Also a man will always cheat on an older woman. Why settle for an old woman when you can have so many flings with young girls? There's nothing like "cheating". Girls cheated themselves by misusing their prime time when every guy was after them.... biologically men are attracted to hot young things and this why men cheat on their wives with 19 yr old housemaids etc.

revolt:
Feminism. Feminism feminism... it destroyed the western women. Destroyed their marriage institution as men are no longer interested in marriage. Sexually liberated women and ofocs gave rise to babymamas everywhere and generally destroyed the quality of men who were raised by single mothers. It's also starting to creep into nigeria. Lagos is almost gone. It'll be a miracle to find a wife in lagos now. Nearly every chic is sexually liberated. As they call it. Synonym for promiscuity.

I've sexually liberated myself too. I'm still free even after marriage.

Under current dating market conditions I don't recommend married men to be monogamous. Never promise ur wife exclusivity and enjoy urself for they also enjoyed themselves in their peak with so many boyfriends.

joyandfaith:
If marriage institution is destabilized, families would be destroyed and our society would pay for it. Bad families, bad societies.

I hate when marriage is called an "institution"....its a nightmare in which guys have to cope with greedy selfish women