I am in urgent need of your advice on a decision I am about to make that could shape my life and my young family in about few months from now.
I am currently running successful businesses which give me a steady minimum of N1.5M per month with a potential for expansion. I have been nursing the idea of going to UK on a study Visa by September this year with the hope that I can get a well paying job that could surpass my current earnings here in naijja. I also intend to keep my naija business running but we all know trusting people with kind of investment can be tricky and risky.
What assurance do I have about earning more and having a better life in UK? What happens to my businesses I already built up in Naija? What happens to my properties here in naija?
Your advice will be of great help at this critical decision making moment of my life. Thank you
Except for the fact that you and your children will enjoy great benefits having dual citizenship.. Nigeria will not guarantee that you will enjoy this steady income for long, if what i have said are less important to you, then there would be no need to seek greener pasture.
While Tinubu is going round the country soliciting for support and votes, some elders are holding a pity party and crying, for position, they should be in the potopoto fighting for,abi they think that's how leadership falls on the laps of the unwilling. Kwantinue
UGLYSALT: Okay Our Daughter is 4 Months Now !!! ..... This Woman no wan Go !!!
Abi na 20k Pocket Money i dey Give her every Month for my House !!!
Please you Guys should tell me what to do !!!
She Came for OMUGWO oooooo .... Before you wake up in the morning , This woman don already.... ON DSTV Dey watch African Magic Showcase , With a Bottle For Cool Drink !!!
She No Wan Go Again !!!
I Don tell her Daughter and wetin my wife tell me is ..... "IF SHE GO NOW ..... HOW WILL I BE BATHING OUR BABY" ..... I Don tell her that I Can Bath Our Baby .... She is insisting that she must stay !!!
Here is WHERE The Problem dey ooooo , Read below.
Una know say .... them talk say if woman born , All her curves will come out .... I Think say na Joke oooo
As my wife Born Last 4 Months .... Chaiaa ... come see soft body and Curves ....
But do you know that her Mother Told her Not to Give me Kpekusss Untill Our Baby is 6 To 8 Months !!! .... SINCE THIS WOMAN Born . I NEVER NACK HER oooooooo , and she dey flaunt all those Curves for my Face !!!
Her Mother Can Give Advice for Africa , This woman will come to my room , KNOCK and ask me to come to the LIVING ROOM !!! She will start Giving all those village advice !!! weah dey vex me ..... Make i no dey keep friends , Make i dey drink 1 beer in a week , That i chop too much suya , That i should be going to Morning Mass (Church everyday) .
Biko am Tired , what should i do !!!
The advice she gave are actually true.
Do you know why offices don't put so much comfortable chairs in their reception?
frugal: What do you expect of him as a vp? Let's discuss it. Before you answer tho, remember that the vp position anywhere is like a PA position, even in almighty America. You can only do what the president asks you to do. Either that or you resign. And we both know resigning is not a very smart thing to do, besides being highly unnecessary.
The same people don't even have a Voters card to effect the change they clamor for, just a bunch of Nagging Niggas
JoyReportsOnlin: Jenny Slimzy has taken to her Facebook page to share the heartwarming action she took to meet the desperate needs of her husband.
During her Livestream Broadcast, the young woman revealed that her husband borrowed a huge amount of money to purchase some properties needed for the new apartment they moved into so that the family will enjoy a comfortable life.
However, the family who is currently living in Vienna, Austria, has been finding it difficult to clear the over 3 years loan they took from the bank to foot the bills of their new residence.
Jenny stated; “he borrowed some money from the bank. He bought the house things we are using in our apartment. He just wants to put everything together to make sure we are comfortable when we come. Ever since we came my husband has been paying for this bill. He has paid for this bill for over 3 years now.
I was praying to God that God should bless me to bless him because I was thinking maybe when I come here I’m going to start work and help him in one way or the other. But when I moved in here I find out that for me to even talk of work, I must learn the language.
God did it for me so I started getting money. As I am getting money I am also saving because I want to put a smile on my husband’s face. I don’t know how to go about paying this money. So what I did, I told him to go to the bank and get the details, let us know how much you have paid. I did that because I want to get the whole information.
Last night I went to his file then I brought it out and went through it. I saw that he is owing Two Thousand, Nine Hundred Euros (€2,900:00.). I then paid the money this morning. In fact, I cleared my husband’s bill this morning. Let’s see his reaction.”
The lady then set the camera on standby, called on her husband, and revealed to him that she has paid the debt by showing him proof of the online transaction.
On seeing this, the husband shouted in excitement as he broke down in tears and started praising God for giving him an amazing woman.
“Is not about the money. A lot of things have changed,” the husband said.
His wife further advised the ladies to form the habit of assisting their husbands to ease them of the stress.
Oluboh: I agree with Yahaya Bello For someone to come fresh and become 1st runner up in a keenly contested primaries that later made him kogi governor, he must be really smart
He didn't win, he had the opportunity after the death of the winner, who unfortunately passed on before he was sworn in.
Lasunray01: Good day nairalanders. My first time post in 5yrs.
Will try to summarize the issues and seek sincere advise please.
I’ve been married before but got divorced within a year due to genotype issues(it’s a long story). So I remarried 2yrs after and with a child now, and that’s where my issues started from.
I know I have some bad sides too which I’m trying to change, which is flirting with single ladies, and this has caused multiple fight with my wife.
Whenever we have this fights, not physical, just verbal, but in her anger she breaks virtually anything around, cups, laptop, speakers etc. she can be madly angry. I’ve warned, petted her severally to desist from this act especially infront of our kid...but she won’t. It’s getting worse by the day. Now she reports me with blackmail to her parents and friends making me feel I’m the worst husband in the universe, calling me unprintable names. Calling me weak cos I don’t beat.
Now the advice I seek, we are planning to relocate as a family abroad this year, but I’m really scared. I can actually go alone, but would prefer we all go together since I have the means. But I’m scared if I won’t regret my actions to take her along with this her character. What if I get jailed or lose custody of our child abroad, because she’s a master in blackmail. She can turn simple issue overboard.
Sorry for the long epistle. Just had to pour out my mind. Constructive criticism is welcomed.
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On Wednesday last week, I contacted Xcelinteriors cos I wanted to buy wallpaper and carpet. We agreed on N90k as the amount for the items (excluding waybill). I had every intention of paying for these items as I requested for her to drop her acc number for me to make payment more than once (u can see that from our chats) but she suggested she would first go to the park to confirm how the waybill would cost so I send everything including the money for waybill at once.
She told me she would leave her office to the park when she closes for the day and when she gets there I would talk with the park ppl to negotiate for the waybill and send the full money including the waybill to her.
After our last conversation, something came up on my end so with remorse, chatted her up to let her know she should not bother going to the park anymore as I won't be able to pay for the items any more.
I 100% had no idea she had already gone to the park (according to her) cos we talked on video around few minutes to 3pm.
Around 4:41pm, I messaged her that she should not bother going to the park again and something came up on my end so I won't be able to pay for the items again (as at when I sent this message, she did not tell me she had closed for the day already and was going to the park to waybill the items).
My only advice to the seller is to always collect her money upfront before delivery and later would negotiate cost of shipping.
If the buyer had committed funds, something won't have come up later.
Omihanifa: Media personality, Mo Abudu has finally reacted to allegations of sleeping with politicians in a bid to get to the top.
Recall that in September 2021, the EbonyLife TV CEO was accused of having back-to-back amorous relationships with Lagos State governors and other top politicians.
According to Gistlovers, it’s these men who paved the way for her tremendous successes.
However, Abudu didn’t react to the claim as at the time it was trending, rather she chose to reiterate her brilliance and ingenuity.
In a recent development, speaking with Chude Jideonwo, Mo Abudu claimed to be undisturbed about the rumours rather her major concern is among ladies who may believe these allegations.
She said:
“I listen to my mum a lot and she is wise. She says, leave them, no one knows how water gets in the coconut so I won’t waste my time thinking about what anyone said, those that know me know me and anyone saying trash doesn’t know me…people were calling me to find out if there is something serious happening and I’m like, you guys, I am very okay. Yes, it can be painful because of the young girls that look up to me. I don’t want the young girls to look up to me to think that this is what I have done and if they do I worry about that because how do you do the work we have done?….
We at Ebony life studios have over 30 international projects in development from Netflix to Will smith’s company, to Sony and some not announced yet, incredible projects. I get calls every day, about how the western world works when they find someone doing magic, your information spreads and they want to work with you and that is our mission to be global not just Nigerian and African vision. I am getting busy here so let them keep getting busy with their cook up stories.
Like the Hushpuppi story, many other brands bided for it on the international scene but we won it because I, Mo was involved….we are not justifying what he did but what we are saying is that it is a story that needs to be told cos there are many lessons both good or bad for the youths.”
Mo Abudu, as far back as 2003 when i got to know her, Mo already had a thriving consulting firm in Victoria Island. At that time, most of the governor's, that bloggers have attributed to be her lover's were still running errands for thier bosses and Mo was already consulting for their bosses at the time.
She is an hardworking woman, smart and determined, all the small talks can't bring her down.
When a smart and ambitious woman has attained great achievements we always attribute her success to men.. Let's stop this nonsense.
Mineralzz: Hello everyone. Am an active member on this forum, I've have my main account but I wish to remain anonymous, i just want to hide my identity and i will deactivate this account as soon as I get a solution. I'm so heartbroken right now
I thought my fiancée was different from every other guys, despite his gentle and innocent face I never knew he was a liar and a cheat
He's fond of connecting his laptop to his smart TV (65 inches). What displays on the laptop automatically displays on the smart TV screen. See what happened, he went downstairs to pickup something, So I wanted to see a movie on Netflix, while I was looking for a suitable movie to watch, a message popped up from Facebook and it stated "Whr are U? Check ur phone...6 missed calls "
At first, I wasn't triggered to open the msg but what drew my attention was the "cry emoji". When I opened the msg my heart melted, I was crying . Their secret affair has been going on since April last year. A married woman with 2 kids, I checked her profile I saw her kids and husband photos everywhere, she has visited my fiance at home several times, I saw lot of romantic messages.
I videoed their chat conversations as evidence, thank goodness his TV screen is wide enough for the blind to see. The moment he came inside he noticed my mood has changed, he was smart enough to know I opened his msg. He's started begging me, he said he can explain. Explain what?
Am on my way home now feeling devastated, heartbroken and sad . I plan to upload the video on Facebook and tag all the woman's friends until her husband sees it. I will also send the video to instablog, Linda ikeji.. Honestly I feel dejected and heartbroken. Help I don't know what to do .
Always have it at the back of your mind that your man or woman will cheat(let me use that word) and if he or she doesn't cheat let it be a plus, it is unfortunate that he was caught a lot of men have been successful with their escapades.
However, coming to the platform to seek advice won't help you at all. Are you seeking advice from fellow cheaters.
Brace up my lady, if it's something both of can talk about do so and make your relationship work. The grass is not always green at the other side. Shalom
Togobroz: Honestly you have read my mind. I am searching for where I can enrol for french classes so that I learn the french. My plan is to find way to France or Canada.
If you have a resident permit in Togo, it will be lot easier to apply for a visa from any embassy there.
Austinboy: thank you for your comment. I agree with you that i need to avoid it but anytime i make up my mind to do this, when money enters my account like this, i totally forget about it and return back to it. I think I'm an addict. Might need help.
Delete all sport bet apps on your phone
Make it a habit to put your money in a fixed account as soon as you get alert, it would put you in check.
Get an accountability partner, someone more older that you respect that can help you check this unholy habit.
May God's grace be sufficient for you as you work this out.
chloride6: I have paid 25k on two occasions to LASTMA.
Both for one way offences that were not obvious.
Both inside VI..
My friend paid 150k at University road in Yaba (He actually landed in mobile court).
I paid 17000 at Mowe, those ones are jaguda, a state where there seems to be no functional government bad roads and pot holes everywhere, to who do you report to.
Rachel98: Merry Christmas Everyone. I promise to be brief. Pls Pardon any typo errors. I'm so confused right now. Pls I need mature advice
My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now. He's gentle (he talks only when needed, and he listens more), good looking, hard working and smart. He stays in a well furnished apartment. He don't smoke but drinks alcohol only occasionally. Everyone in his area respect him alot elderly, young even little children of age 4 and 5 calls his name and waves at him. I would be like how do this kids know you. He will laugh saying "me self tire". I'm faithful to him and he loves me. Despite my parents are strict, I always find ways to be with him.
Yes, We do have intimacy in our relationship. Now here is the problem. He prefer to have sex with me in an Hotel, which I hate so much. If we're together in his house, he will just say let's go out, the next thing we're in a hotel. He wastes his money on hotels. I don't like it. Maybe we can go there to eat in the restaurants, swim or drink but not to sleep over. Me personally I don't like it. But I have talked to him about it yet he won't listen. I angrily asked him if he's an occult, ritualist, or something.....Or will he die if he have sex in his house. He said God forbid!!
What he displayed yesterday got me really angry like I'm fed up. I'm an auditor in my uncle's firm. My uncle celebrated his birthday/end of the year party in our firm yesterday. There was food and drinks. We the female staffs were the ones that prepared the food. I reserved like 4 take-away packs of rice nd chicken, cake and 3 5alive drinks for my boyfriend. So I called him that I would bring food for him. When I got to his house I gave him the food, he was happy as usual. So He said I should follow him to his car, he tried to touch and have sex with in his car like I'm a prostitute. I told him to stop. I was so angry, I took my hand bag and I went home. He has been calling me since yesterday (16 missed calls now) I haven't pick.
I don't know if I should end this relationship. He behaves like I'm a prostitute or something....I need a good advice I'm confused.
Thanks to the few people that gave me mature advice. Seriously, with some comments here most nairalanders are really frustrated and bitter.
Please nairaland mods should try and control these frustrated people. Ladies are suffering in this great forum. How would a foreigner feel when going through all these comments??
Steve Harvey once answered a question like this on his show. You must set a target for your self. Post me your handle And i will search and send the video to you. I believe it will answer your question.
ChiomaCa: Hello everyone, I'm in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.
We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.
I adhered to that for more than a year, which I'm still doing that till December 23 of 2021.
My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read " Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again"
I was forced to check what's this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he's not interested that he's Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.
I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he's doing something else within his short break and free time.
Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?
I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.
Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I'm not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.
I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I'm sad and I'm not happy, I don't know what to do.
I can't discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.
He doesn't talk much, keep friends nor drink.
I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light?
Reading some of the comments here, I want to believe you are at the wrong place.
How do you want to hear honest opinion from some one who doesn't have an idea of how marriage works.
A friend of mine called me 4 days ago that he received a text message from a strange number the message goes thus:
"You have been hiding and running this 2022 anywhere you are we will get you and we will shoot you and also gun you down try don't forget this word this date 10th Jan 2022...You can not hide till we get you. We will show u that to get money is not easy."
Immediately he got the message about 30 minutes after he received a WhatsApp text from another strange different number a lady sending him pictures of her trying to lure him into a business and for friendship please what should he do?
This my friend is an online business man and when I asked him he said he never had a deal with anyone involving money .
Pls.what should he do
He needs advise thanks
Be sure he did not borrow money from the Loan sharks, when you are sure file a petition with the Nigerian police for proper investigation.
guobe: Babies and kids need alot of milk to grow,are they trying to say people should stop giving birth in Nigeria.I am seriously perplexed,please how did we get here.I tire.
Buhari grew up healthy with fura dey nunu.., let's ask him for the magic.... Ohh my. I pity the poor kids
CondemnBattery: So I saw a thread earlier, and decided to educate husbands in the house how to play the home politics, just as adviced by my pastor's wife.
My pastor's wife thought me a valuable lesson. She legitly told us to be smart as husbands, when the kids did something wrong in your absence and your wife did not discipline the child, but waits for you to come back and discipline them, don't. Make sure she disciplines them herself, otherwise your kids will think you are the wicked one and the evil one.
Don't always give your wife all the money to buy things for the kids, take the children out to the market, buy them clothes, take them to the grocery store, buy the provision in their present. Let them know you are the one buying them. If you buy them shoes or anything, make sure they are aware that you are the one buying them. If you do all these, the kids will love you more. This is 2022, don't allow your wife rob you of your years of labor when it's time to reap.
You can add your own way of playing the family politics.
Please if this is front page worthy, kindly move to fp, so men can learn 1 or 2 this new year.
May our wives not take all our glory all in the name of I'm too busy in Jesus name. Amen
bigpicture001: My girlfriend whom I have planned to settle down with simply started acting cold and eventually stylishly slide out of our relationship because I sat her down and made a family financial support proposal to her in which she will be financially committed to running the proposed family we intend to raise...
These are the proposal...
1. She earns about 80k wile I earn about 300k.. I asked that we jointly contribute for all the children's Career funding starting from when we get married even before any of their birth.. I proposed 10k monthly from her and 40k from me to a trust account. From it we plan to fund all the children's Career from kiddagatten to varsity or which ever path they choose..
2. That sh choose between Nepa bill or DStv or gotv sub monthly..just one for her
3. I will be responsible for rents
4. We pay into another joint account for vacation once in two years..like sh puts in 20k I put in 50k monthly..
5. I provide all the heavy food stuffs required in the house in large quantities including gas ND change of electronics, but sh provide all the daily food supplements to mk mine complete.
6. She buys her clothes ND I buy mine but we can both surprise ourselfs with gift to the other..
7. I will buy the family car ND maintain it. If she buys no p.
8. I didn't rule out surprise gifts once a while and outting which I bankroll ND expect her to do same occasionally..
Plz oo nairalanders are these responsibilities to a wife too much for her, I mean one who works and earn over 50k...?
While i may not want to interfere in your sharing formula, i believe you have done the right thing.
It will give you peace of mind when you are eventually married.
It was also good she ran away, it was for your good. Congratulations
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AmancalledGod: Good morning friend's, please i really need an urgent answer to this, thou for now I'm still staying with my people (parent's) pls is it proper for a friend to carry a woman to your parent's house to sleep over obviously to have sex with the girl, when your parent's is not around. He has be begging me to allow him come over with the girl.
I have agreed shaa, but I'm still thinking of it if i could have a change of mind.
Do you have a separate room in your father's compound or flat as the case maybe, if not.
That's a total disrespect to your parents and the value i believed would have been instilled in you.
Tell me, would that same friend of yours allow you to disrespect his parents.
So elated that my wife finally found a teaching job after so many attempts.
It has not really been easy watching her being a full time housewife, as I feel she would tend to forget what she had learnt at school and by implication become dull, though she had been an amazing mom to my son.
I just need her passion reignited by practicing what she learnt at school, the start up pay is N20,000 but notwithstanding I would place her on a monthly stipend of N20,000 also to cater for her transport fare.
The school is a stone throw away from where we reside so she won't be spending much on tfare, and I also plan to enroll my son into the school's crèche, as it has a very conducive atmosphere for learning and it's also kid's friendly.
so guys what do you think?
As I would be spending more on her working, compared to her staying at home.
You have done well, when the time is ripe to own her own school she would have horned her skilled at that time.
Supreme145: Good day Nairalanders, there have been a lingering cold war in my family between my parents and it has created a tension in my family that as the first son I'm running out of options on how to dunce this tension. My parents have been married for almost 30 years and just like another has been full of ups and downs.
I will try not to sound biased but my dad's authoritarian nature has caused a serious crack in my our family and made my mom a very unhappy woman that is just enduring the marriage for the sake of her children. Instead of the children to find solace in our home we all prefer to be far away due to the continuous rift between our parents. My dad has never laid his hands on our mom but constantly talks down on her even in front of the kids, and knowing my father you would rather prefer to be mended with 2x2 plank rather than my father letting his tongue lose on you. His mouth is filled with venom.
A while ago one of my siblings got a job as a cashier in a bet shop without my father's knowledge, we kept it away from him because we knew very well he would object because he hated anything bet. My mom on the other hand knowing fully well that the boy has been idle for a while gave her consent reluctantly. My dad got to know after he observed that the boy was dropping money at home frequently and when he inquired about the source of the money and learnt that he was working in bet shop all hell was let loose.
He called me on phone in school, which he rarely does just to confirm if I was aware which I replied in the affirmative. He said all manner of derogatory things to me, because he felt his position as the head of the home was threatened, he felt we the children was siding my mom to override his authority in the home. My siblings would later call me the following day to complain about how he spoke to my mom, the poor woman cried for days. They said my dad would never see a dime of their money if they get rich even though I know it was childish talk but that's how serious thing are.
Almost all my siblings have grown to hate my dad though they conceal it very well. His tyrannical rule is not helping matters at all, my dad is the kinda father that if you spoil an appliance in the house, it would be in your best interest to repair it before he becomes aware because the funny part is he won't say much to you rather all the aggression would be transfered to my mom. If we use the generator we would have to replace the quantity of fuel that we used. I was sleeping in lecture hall in school, my pop man insisted there was no money and even advised I withdrew from school if I can't cope only to get home to meet the news that he just bought a land lol.
While I don't expect much from him cos I'm of age, I don't like how he keeps alienating himself from my other siblings due to his nonchalant attitude to their warfare. Those kids would spend weeks at home due to non payment of school fees but he would spend hundreds of thousands fixing his car if it breaks down.
My mom called me today in tears, p man just left the house without dropping anything for Xmas, and even a cube of maggi is not at home, and its not as if he doesn't have money, I'm away of the big contracts he's working on at the moment whereas he's been spending on his car putting it in shape for travelling him. And he was the one that told momsi not to process her cassava and sell because she envisaged that something like this would happen.
Now my siblings have been bombarding me with complaints and this is why I preferred to stay back in school instead of traveling home. How should I approach this issue? I can't call a man and tell him how to use his money, I've been struggling to make mine so that I can offset some of the expenses from his shoulder.
I love my dad and I understand his struggles, i know what people without a father figure goes through but how can I stop the hate that is brewing towards him from my siblings? I want our home to be peaceful. Please I need your advice.
Your number one priority is to make sure your mum doesn't lack money and your attention. When you come of age then you can call popsi to take a chill pill.once you begin to talk he will know that you are the heir waiting on him and to guide him at that time of his life.
akpunda86: Good morning fellas and compliments of the season. Some are happy some are not but we all thank God for life. Happy Christmas all.
Well fellas sincerely wish I have the power to terminate my marriage I'm fed up 200%.
Is Christmas season of love all families stay together but my wife left home to her villa to see mum, yeah is a gud stuff going home to see parents, but if well planned. We planned after 25th she can go at least stay with the kids, suddenly she said she wanna go, I let her go, just yesterday wanted to eat, our helper said no soup in freezer, Kai I have to go buy soup outside. Today 24th, I'm gonna go to market to buy soup stuff.
It is very painful. I regret getting married cos in this season any sensible person knows families gonna be together. In fact kids need to enjoy it as we did during our time.
Salad we can't do, not that I don't have the money but I can't do it.
Her mum I told I'm not against ur daughter coming to see you, but she has to put her house in order first before embarking on a long journey.
Makes me regret a lot of stuff marrying outside my state, infact one can remarry, my spouse no go pass Enugu/Anambra.
Her mum sick, going see her I'm not against, my kids all crying all day long mummy mummy, I try pacify them.
Every December Na stress. It is true it is women that are mostly good in taking care of parents though we guys also do our best, but my wife has 3 brothes all married, as it is Xmas none of the wives is around so the daughters fall on.
I'm not writing this long epistle just that I feel bad as I don't know wat to do, sexually I gain noting from her, financially she doesn't support, it is only challenges she brings to me. If it continues like this, I'll leave the house for months 4 her and let her brain reset.
I don't want to put stuffs in your end, at the same time be sure she is really with her mum,i won't say more than this
I have been a guest reader on this platform for many years and I have seen people provide great insight on issues thrown out on the platform.
Please I need a guide on the best path to relocate my family to Ireland.
We are a family of 6 and I have been working in the middle east for the past 16years, my family has been here with me for more than 10years.
I am planning to relocate my family to Europe, Republic of Ireland to be precise as I am in-love with the family orientation in the country and it is an English country.
My wife has a diploma from Nigerian Polytechnic and I am looking at the possibility of her and our four kids relocating to Ireland while I stay back in the middle East. I, personally earn better here and not thinking of relocating but will be visiting my family routinely.
For people that are already living in Ireland, could you guide us on the best way to achieve this and any risk or challenge to expect especially on the two listed below.
a) Have heard going through school route is a viable options which I am willing to explore for my wife, I am concerned if the country will be able to give my kids visa too to join their mother while she study.
b) Also what would child care/nanny support be like for a mother of 4 (kids age 11, 9, 7 and 4), heard it is expensive in Ireland, what is the possibility of having my mother-in-law stay with them to provide child care and save that extra cost.
Thank you
For the little i know about Uk education, only students going for Masters program are allowed to go with their families, your wife would probably go for a Bsc program and these puts her in a disadvantage position.
I will advise you try other European countries that have low cost of living and are not strict about dependants.
You will also need a lot of money as proof of funds to support your application
Travel › Re: My Plan To Relocate To Uk by Bishop(m): 5:54pm On Feb 21, 2022
