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chiommy123:
this is the reason our society is the way it is. A guy is married and has like four concubines outside and he tells his wife he's not emotional attached to them. Who are you fooling if not yourself

Whatever you typed up there, is it a reason why men find it difficult to forgive cheating gf?

Cos that's what the thread is about. Except I must have interpreted the op's post wrongly

chiommy123:
but most women forgive their husband's

Its difficult. Except she is slutty, ladies attach emotions to sex. There's an 80% chance that under same circumstances she will still sleep with that same guy.


On the other hand, guys have sex for fun without emotions. Under same circumstances there's a 50% likelihood of reoccurrence. Note that for consensual sex to happen, the girl must fully agree.

So if sex happens anywhere, the girl permitted it.

Its the reason it difficult to forgive a cheating babe

Consensual sex is usually 100% the female. If sex must occur, the female has the say most of the time if not all the time.

If the babe sleeps with your friends. It only means one thing. She's an unrepentant slut

If they are silent, its not because they lack words or choose not to talk. Its because they lack content.

Most haven't done anything

Jodha:
I totally understand what yhu meant ...and I still insist it doesn't fit the context because "sexual assault" is a different ball game of provocation all together...and yhu can't equate it with anything else...

Plus we were trying to draw a rational conclusion void of sentiments and emotions...
That example is a very sentimental one...

My point still then remains that provocation should not warrant violence.... because during our daily activities no matter how hard we try... because we deal with different people and personalities everyday... we'll get provoked whether we like it or not....but that doesn't mean we should resort to violence...

If everyone act based on provocation ...there will be total anarchy , chaos and loss of order...

What differentiates us from animals is our ability to rationalize and deal with issues(conflicts) sensibly...
If yhu feel a particular lady is too hot for yhu ...why not avoid her. ...and find another woman ...for yhur own peace of mind and sanity...

"sexual assault" is a different ball game of provocation all together"

hmm i see..

so a lady is justified when she slaps a man for "touching her boobs", right? because "sexual assault" is a different ball game of provocation all together"

i see where this is going..... makes sense

you wanted to win... you now have...

Jodha:
Yhur question had nothing to do with our topic of argument it was out of the scope...
And here am i saying that if yhu have anything in mind to say in addition yhu should feel free....



If yhu don't want to say it ...then leave it now ..

Yhull have to ignore my "yhu" "yhur" "yhure" ...etc
That's how i type...

my question was about "REACTION TO PROVOCATION" ... sexual harrasment/nagging are just variables that could lead to provocation.. thats the point i was trying to make. the reaction is a slap (for instance) .. why is a slap for one justifiable but not the other.. this was my question...

p.s: anything that can lead to provocation is a variable e.g (insults,religion,sexual harrassment,tribalism,political views, nagging etc). i was looking at a general perspective. i hate that i had to break it down..

Jodha:
I left a question...yhu chose not to answer it...

Don't let it slide....say it if yhu wanna say it ..
Lost which words.... I won jhoor

But on a serious note hope yhu get where I'm coming from and where I'm going? Cause I get where yhure coming from...but I'm clueless to where yhure going...

YES!!!! Too difficult for me

You didnt answer my question because you felt it was sexual and a different thing.

YOU and YHU
YOUR YHURE

madam, stop giving me headache trying to read your submissions..

Jodha:
I totally understand cause and effect relationship...yhure the one bringing sentiments and masculine favouritism into this argument... I'm trying to be as rational as possible...

Majority of men? When and where did yhu do yhur research and yhure quickly running into conclusions...some men have major anger issues and lack basic conflict resolution skills ....plus even manner of approach in resolving conflict...
Women are outspoken beings ... we're meant to talk...I tell yhu personally the quiet ones are more deadly ..
Women express themselves through words ...they express their feelings.. thoughts...and everything..
Or are yhu trying to say all women are mad?...that we just go about ranting and nagging for no good course?...for a woman to nag seriously the man must have provoked get beyond her elastic limit....So how is expressing her disapproval something that warrant panelbeating from her husband?


Using sexual harassment in this context does not fit at all... we're talking about something totally different...so do not base yhur argument out of point...

Lemme use my own example...So if yhure on yhur way to work and yhu board a taxi or something....then yhu and the driver starts arguing about maybe change or something....
So if the driver starts using "annoying" words ..yhull beat him up right?... If yes then don't yhu think the world would be no place to leave in...if everybody starts fighting anyone that annoys them...


I believe my wording as been as objective as possible....hope yhu see from my point of view now ....hope I've been able to convince yhu and not to confuse yhu ...with these salient points of mine...

I'm not a sentimental person... I'm always logical in my decisions

@bold you didnt leave a question for your opponent to answer

I would have said something about the sexual harassment but I will let it slip (You made me laugh, I lost my words)

SideNote: is YOU/YOUR too difficult to type.

Jodha:
I'm not supporting a woman that nag .... all I'm saying is it doesn't give a niggur the right to touch a lady ....


I'm done pls... it's obvious yhu don't want to see things from a different light...

speaking of different light... you are failing to understand that theres somethg called cause and effect.

The majority of men who raise their hands dont do so over mere misunderstandings... They do so when the women escalate these misunderstandings and keep on nagging over the issue that may have been forgotten... such repeated nags results to provocation.



speaking about right to touch a lady...

if a random guy touches your boobs in public, and u slap him as a reaction to the provocation...do you have the right to slap? if yes, why? and how is your slap (result of a provocation) different from a mans slap (result of a provocation) on you



please let your submissions be objective and devoid of emotions and sentiments (most women run away from intellectual discussions that are devoid of emotions. I am assuming you are rational)

Jodha:
Lool we learn every day...

I don't see the part in the bible that says ..if a lady doesn't restrain her lips...she should be beaten to the pulp...

My point is that nobody is perfect ..we all have our excesses ....if yhu don't like how yhur lady is talking...yhu tell her when she's calmer....if she doesn't change and yhu feel yhu can't deal with it.... yhu take a walk....instead of beating her...
That's all I'm saying

My dear Nature and God abhors women who provoke men to anger...

Here's what the bible says bout a nagging women... That statement by that guy wasn't dumb. Its the best advice a woman who loves her home should adhere to.




Go and study Proverbs.

Jodha:
Nagging nature or not...that does not warrant anyone to touch a lady...

If yhu don't like how she's talking avoid her and that's it....

Oga first of all....what Bible portion is that....before I go further...

I dont believe you are wiser than Solomon. If you are, lemme know so I can adjust


The bible says he who restrains his lips is wise

Jodha:
Him saying "a closed mouth stays out of trouble" isn't dumb?..

Like a lady should be a robot and agree with anything a guy says ...and if she doesn't he has every right to turn her into a punching bag..


And that's supposed to be not dumb?

I'm sure he was referring to the nagging nature of ladies...

Even the bible says

"In the multitude of words lacketh no sin"

Jodha:
This is the most dumbest shit I've seen all year...

Acquire sense pls

Hello dear, how is that dumb?

lavylilly:
So I went out on a date with this guy I met from Facebook, he made it clear to me he is looking for a mature and God fearing lady to settle down with. Everything seem like it was going so well, he looked mature and responsible, we were having a good conversation with laughter and all till he said to me "baby can you do me just 1 favour?" I was like "sure" and he went on to say..

"You actually looked bigger in your pictures, please can you add some more weight for me?"

I thought he was joking and told him that my plan is to lost and not add more weight. He went on rambling on how he love them big and bold. That was about the last time we saw.

I began to wonder how he could forfeit the nice time we had over extra flesh?

It brings me to this point, when it comes to looking for a partner a lot of people say they are looking for someone with good character, mature, god fearing and all the bull crap because they feel that is what is expected of them but in the real sense what they need is big ass, hips, big boobs and light skin.

I have been observing posts in this wonderful platform, I see big boobs, ass, light skin even with the dumbest captions having 1k plus like and comments with a lot of guys shamelessly shooting their shots while there are post of some very beautiful sisters with interesting profiles with much lesser likes and comments.

In as much as I respect people's choices I just hope we are not getting it wrong when it comes to the criteria for choosing life partners because the rate of divorce is becoming alarming nowadays.

Having said this, I would only appreciate friend request from mature singles (38 years and above). Please note: If you live at Bora Bora and have no plans of visiting Nigeria soon, please don't come and waste my time with online love. Thank you �

Actually we all have different likes and wants. I particularly like slim girls. Don't like big ass one bit

Taywon:
Never impressed any girl b4....

Instead i benefited from financially, materially and food wise while in school.

The one that almost got me was this calabar babe of mine, told me she got a job at shoprite which was true, then she asked me to borrow her some money for tfare pending when she get paid, i told her to call me the following morning .... Naxo i switch off my fone.... She almost lost the job.... She survived it... Few weeks latter naxo we gam for bustop i just dey smile.... She con dey look me..... We are still friends though but not like b4

Guy this was bad oo.. When someone is in genuine need. Don't hesitate to assist if within your capacity. Forget all these talks we say here. That was a genuine cause. You fvck up. Recharge card, hair, data, tfare etc are some of the stupid things but she had a sincere need.

Snipper007:
Real G, no time

Actually I don't like it

Nothing. Absolutely nothing.

I find it difficult to impress people. A weakness

Divay22:
Asking you for tfare? It only means she feels she's doing you a favour by coming to see you.
Sorry
I dey reserve my Amen for tomorrow prayers

Just imagine. A girl will be thinking that she's doing ME a favor . Very laughable.

So you can't say Amen.. You don't mean well for me and you are supposed to be a friend

Divay22:
Hahahahahahahahahahahhahahaha
Girls don show your pocket fire

I'm no longer dating broke girls. To consider a babe for dating, her monthly income suppose reach like 100k. Imagine a babe coming to see you and asking for tfare. God forbid. I reject those girls in my life... Help me say Amen

modsfucker:
You and I know the truth, that your sisters have taken prostitution to International level... They've even outgrown Nigeria, to Italy, Spain etc... and their parents are proud of them...

Is it not in your region that we see teenage girls being camped and being fuccked by useless men in the name of baby factory? Security officers have uncovered many with several yet to be uncovered.

You and I know that even after marriage, your sisters don't give up sleeping around... I swear to God I have an Igbo co-worker who has been disturbing me to sleep with her because she stays far away from her husband... But I wouldn't yield to het demand.

You and I fully know that sex before marriage is very common even among your so called religious leaders...

FYI: Nassarawa State in its entirety is not a Hausa Community, as such any lady you see there speaking Hausa has her own tribe, go and ask her... My parents would never allow me to pick a wife from either Nassarawa or Niger States, because of the difference in tribe.

I would have love to continue but seeing that you are both Hausa and Muslim. Its a terrible combination for a sound argument devoid of emotions, insults and irrationality

Peace.

GoodGirl2021:
I agree totally. This guy sends porn to me and when I rebuke him, he would say I'm not holier and after all I'm his gf.
This guy has messed up my reasoning and is always describing how he would burst my cherry.

I shouldn't say this but when he does burst your cherry, he would find another cherry to burst. You are wallowing in lust. Be careful oo.. If you know you won't feel bad if he leaves after the sex, then live your life as you want otherwise your buy plenty handkerchief cos your tears go plenty

The doctor is probably thinking of settling with you. Such unfortunate soul

pocohantas:
Sign my promise card first. I don't even know why you will not have money sef. The Nigerian horseband should be able to provide.

Your money will make me have money. I will be able to provide for you with your money. Case solved.

Your promise card... What are we promising ourselves my love?

GoodGirl2021:
Not sex per se, many things make girls cheat, men inclusive.
Like i stated in d main post, sex is wat is driving me away from d baby daddy.

Your post says you are moving towards the baby daddy indirectly. The Sex chats you guys are having has filled your imaginations with expectations, desires and lust. I can bet that it won't take long before he has his way with you...

It does look like you want to experience the real pleasure since the chat sex gives you great sensation

modsfucker:
I advise you leave Nairaland and and go back to School. Your writing is so terrible

You are just vexed your folly was caught. The Supposed proof you gave isn't diff from what they have all said but like a typical Hausa who is headstrong about his beliefs (e.g religion) and would never see sense in others, you are unyielding.

GoodGirl2021:
I get

An Innocent question.. What makes you guys cheat? Do you people like sex that much?

pocohantas:
Come and sign my promise card. Give me money.

But you rich and I'm broke

The only document I want to sign right now is one that binds us together forever

GoodGirl2021:
Yes i want a good man.
But d baby daddy seems experienced. I've always dreamt of marrying a guy that is far older.
What do I know

That's not the point. You cheated on the doctor by dating the baby daddy. If he was closer, you would have long fvckked him. Your Eye go clear then sha... Continue

pocohantas:
Leave me, No talk to me...

Baby, I wish I could help it. Can't live a day without talking to you. Whatever I did my love, I'm sorry you know you mean the world to me

pocohantas:
Peak of which career? All these small boys sef. You think life and love is dy/dx.

You just had to. why so mean

MrCork:
..expect another dumb thread from llamina any second from now....by the way, he is a male pretending to be female on nairaland

You spelled correctly

GoodGirl2021:
Please guys, I need matured advice.

I'm 24 dating two men (I'm sorry but I just found myself in this situation). The first guy is a doctor and is God-fearing but he's not romantic at all, he behaves too official and is insensitive to emotions yet claims to love to me. He attributes this to his regimented childhood, I love this guy but I see a boring future with him...
And i heard doctors are serious flirts.. Should I leave him?

The second guy is 11years older than me, he's very funny, outgoing, mature, romantic but loves sex too much. Note that I've not met this guy b4, we met online and have been in touch for a year now. He has a kid whose mom is married already. He looks promising but loves attention too much and always disturbs me for sex video chats. I'm tired because I'm new to that and its really uncomfortable and disgusting.
Please what should I do?

So you were dating the doctor yet accepted to date the baby daddy.... Ask yourself do you deserve a good man

victorian:
Don't bother to fall in love so quick, I'm taken.

Too late I'm swimming in love

Now I feel like its you I have waited for all my life.

You are not taken. If your fingers have no ring, our fingers could still cling