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Magnoliaa:
Volcano, you dey whine me? It's you I want to be like o. I just dey try.

LMAO. You're the lava in the room. I mean it. Can't you see how we ran for cover once you erupted that teeny eruption?



I just really want to see the end of this. Not that I care or that I want it to be over, but in the next five to ten years? Like, who they'll become would be so enjoyable to see. Especially if they come here to share it.

I recently saw the post of a younger man I know, and he was spilling this same nonsense we read here. That's when I realized that they could actually be brainwashing themselves offline.

On the other hand, I don't want to be a jury and would attribute all these to juvenile stuff they'll outgrow. Some kids do really crazier stuff and then went on to be good individuals. But then not everyone will turn out alright. Overriding a configuration/brainwash no be beans o. If they like, they should not be alright.

It's posterity that will judge them; and their wives and children. Because those are the people that will live with their pathetic choices.

CHoccolaTE:
Exactly. You put it so eloquently.

And the small boys on the thread are still coming out to blame failure of marriages on wives inabiility to bear difficult times as if marriage is not a union of two people. As if the success of every marriage is 100% dependent on the woman's ability to overcome trials.

What about the man? The so called superior and leader?

Such annoying mentality these people have and they dont have enough sense to see that their reasoning is problematic.

Magnoliaa:
They unwittingly and subconsciously attribute the success of a marriage to a woman's goodness or badness, yet claim women don't bring nothing to their tables and are passive partners.

Farfalla:
I don't think people are ugly/beautiful based on their sizes. Like you, I have seen very attractive people who happen to be big in size. Too many in fact.

I was only emphasizing that many catty people use the term "fat" when they want to body-shame big-bodied people from my observation. When they see those beautiful Xhosa, Zulu, Swazi and Tswana women with big, round thighs and small waists, they'll use terminologies to describe them and "fat" almost always never features there. "Fat" will only be used as an expression of disgust. A younger Omotola for instance was always described as sexy by her fans but the people who never liked her would say that she's hyped because a woman her size can neither be beautiful nor sexy.

Same applies to petite people (especially women). People call them "slim", "petite" or "slender" as a compliment but switch to "skinny" or "bony" when they want to body-shame them. At least in this part of the world ("Skinny" will be a compliment in the fashion industry and Hollywood though).

I have been both "orobo" and "lepa" and I can tell you that I always knew when someone was complimenting my size, my hips, my arse or indirectly insinuating that I should lose a few pounds or even gain a few pounds in certain areas.

Now I'm somewhere in between lepa and orobo and I don't even have the stamina to care anymore.

cayorday89:
The OP talked about how women are been bashed and how many are still there even in tough times and wants people to share experiences of how wome are still faithful as opposed to the thread lamenting of how a man's wife treated him after losing his job. Nothing more. As for men, even without asking majority will still do what is expected of them and even more in marriage and this thread is to encourage men that there are still faithful women who will stay through it all.

Magnoliaa:
Why don't you start by addressing all the questions I raised before deflecting?

You say NL women are lazy. How? How did you know that? Do you know us? Have you met any of us? Where's your proof of that?

You claim ladies don't comment because of laziness -- can you explain what you mean by that? What's does our not commenting have to do with negligence?

Is NL your basis for judging reality? You actually listen to what men say on NL and used it to judge? Between your parents' marriage and what strangers are saying online, which are you supposed to believe? Can you not think for yourself? Men say, men say, no married man say.

You also said ladies should do more -- more in what aspect? More about what?

You are a SINGLE guy that just commented on a thread, and you BADMOUTHED ladies based on what other guys are saying, now do you realize that those other guys are prolly SINGLE as you are and saying nonsense about women? How do you know all the men commenting are married? Have YOU had any (personal) bad experiences with women? Because all you're claiming is, 'one man said, one man said, a married man said.' You can't THINK for yourself, without others telling you what to think? How OLD are you?

How many married men do you know offline? How many have you met? How many comments of married men on Nairaland have you read? You want to tell me that on this thread, you can't find a man that'll have something good to say about his wife abi? Do you try to listen to the good men and the good things they have to say?

Are you a terrible person? Are all men terrible? So when feminists say men are scum and don't have anything good to say about men, they are right? I'm curious too. Because if no man has anything good to say about ladies and you reached a conclusion, then the feminists that don't have anything good to say about men are also telling the truth.

Fire? Where? So you really believe women are terrible then? Abi. And you know and believe and are already prepared to end up with a terrible woman. OK.

cayorday89:
For my mum and dad, they have their ups and downs, but it's mostly argument.
For the most important aspect of this topic of women staying true to their husband goes thus, many years ago, my dad on the line of duty were attacked by armed robbers killing all except him but left with a damaged leg which was later amputated, mum took care of him, and she engaged in different businesses just to maintain the family source of income, although dads salary was not stopped but it was not enough because most were spent on treatment, drugs, amidst other things, he was a civil servant and he did not go to work for a period of six years and little or no promotion, mum took to paying my school fees while my dad focused on my siblings.

Magnoliaa:
Ahhh. God. They asked you to share a good story... you started well, then went off track to be yabbing women and NL women. Do you fking know any of us offline?? Na curse?? Can you not just 100% share what you want to share and leave it at that?? Do you not see a good model for women in your own mom? Or do you not see as you are as a result of the brainwashing going on??

Because if we go into this deep now, you won't have any meaningful 'crime' to attribute to women, just a regurgitation of what you've been reading!

Which more?? Really. Tell me. Which more do you want them to do? How many NL women do you know to call them lazy??

Answer me this, too. Why do you say women don't like saying their own side of the story?? Why do you believe so? And have you not seen women commenting here?

How is not 'not of commenting on posts' because of our laziness? I don't get. So, if we comment on every posts, sharing our opinions, you'll say we're addicted to attention and social media, now you think we're not commenting, you're saying it's because of laziness and negligence. Do you even read what you're commenting??

Ladies beg to do assignments in class?? Are you kidding me?? Jesus!

NoToPile:
Simple discussion they have turned it to another woman bashing thread.

TONYE001:
If we do a survey of failed marriages, we'd discover that men and women are both responsible.

Do we also conclude that men of these days are 'not men of before'?

Is the current generation of men also useless?

firstbornson:
Just saw a trend about a man telling us of the kind of gut his wife has.

I will be brief.

I've noticed countless times how marriage is bashed on this platform. If there are 10 topics about marriage, 8 will be a complain of what one spouse did to another.

What we don't understand is that we are being subconsciously socially engineered to hate, fear, and dread marriage. Too much bad news everywhere.

The kind of stories I read here, me self don dey fear marriage.

Yet, I'm from a complete family. My parents have being married for 26 years and they are still together. I'm not saying it's been blissful all through, but they are still a team, gist mates, yab mates, etc.

What I want us to do is simple:

Share a story of when your mom stood by your dad, when your wife stood by you or when your husband stood by you during a difficult time.

I won't be surprised if this doesn't make it the FP because people love reading bad news too much.

keneck1:
Most times I read comments on this platform concerning marriage coming from kids that are yet to understand intricacies involved in choosing a live partner,most of them are still very young probably still under their parents care, anyway live has a way of making people to see reality when the chips are down.Some kids saying all manner of things against women today may end up begging to marry some of the girls they are calling all manners of names.Some married men will understand my point better,live no dey easy oo

Sonnobax15:

This is certainly the most senseless advice (comment) I've seen here on nairaland for this year

Chaiiii, which kind mumu advice be this . You mean I should just lock up and try and forget the fact that the woman I'm about to share my prestigious and beautiful future with was once a community diick servicer?

Mallam Kabiru,I no blame you at all . E be like say your preek never jam pussycat wey settle down swallow am like tap wey every abokii don fetch water from .

No matter what--"Don't ever marry any Woman out of pity". Or. "Out of compensation".

Farfalla:
I don't know about Nigeria but in many places, "fat" is used to describe an ugly somebody. A woman can have a very pretty face, but if she's fat, even the ugly, slender women will call her ugly.

It's a term that's mostly used to body-shame rather than describe someone.

noble2faith:
Bros, I agree with you that the mentality on this forum is so myopic and one-sided. The thing dey always dey baffle me.

But the thing be sey if the victim know wetin the guy dey into, she no deserve any RIP.

EddyNumerouno:
the mother of your children?? wow.
you have little regard for the person you married.

Ryda:
R.I.P to her

There's something spectacular about some women. They don't listen, they want all the lies you can tell, they love deceit.

Long as you can sponsor there lavish lifestyle, it's a go!
Same things goes with the one who love being beaten by their boyfriend.

They will never listen especially the insatiable ones

Magnoliaa:
Really? I don't even know jack about him save for his name, that little detail and that he is one rich man interested in space.



Wo, if they like they should fly to the Sun. Nothing korchin me.

pocohantas:
Hahahaha. BRA done vex o. Tbh they keep to time with morning flights. That is not to say there won’t be situations like yours sha. Disappointment is a Nigerian thing. Sorry about your experience ehn.

TheGreatIYANU:
Well, we didn't exactly taxi on the runway as that would have been impossible given the traffic situation above. We utilized the normal taxiway but delay came from the guys who were landing.

At the end of the day, you are right. This experience is only best IMAGINED.

pocohantas:
Yes they are. If you don’t want stories, take the first flight of the day. They are capable of leaving few minutes earlier sef.

123readygo:
Hmmmmmm.
Asaba to Abj. 4:30pm came and we all boarded the flight and was about taxing to the runway and the next thing we heard was that we should disembark. Alarmed, I inquired what the problem was and was told that the pilot said that 'a light in the cockpit refused to go out'.... And that is how we waited for some engineers to flown from Lagos to Asaba to rectify it... The flight eventually left by 9pm but the amazing thing was the you could literally hear a drop of pin throughout the duration of the flight

TheGreatIYANU:
Re: https://www.nairaland.com/6896135/passengers-visit-toilet-panic-grips

I saw the above post recently and it reminded me of similar experience I had just last month.

Here goes...

tensazangetsu20:
He's learning it for coding interviews. He wants to earn 4 million a month and bang the hottest oloshos on Instagram.

apatheticme:
Lol!

I'm actually a medical doctor in one of the top teaching hospitals in the country (won't mention the hospital for privacy reasons).

@bolded it shouldn't ideally, because it's just a multivitamin supplement for children.

Merry Christmas!!

BABYharder:

Guilty as charged
Especially pretty lass

Yeah it is

BABYharder:
It's a locally made banger like someone stated above.
You add match stick flammable head on the silver knob.
Cover the knob tightly
Lastly, with a great force, hit it against a hard surface. KPA!!!!!
Everybody is happy, matchstick finishes.
You collect from the kitchen again and repeat.






Though in the ghetto i grew, it was always used by ajekpako kids to scare ajebuta kids.

Vinnie2000:
Not an Indomie Generation
But
I Can't relate with this! This local invention never got to my Area

BABYharder:
Have you eaten your morning indomie dear?

tife4eva:
Hello,
My mom is lovely but lately I'm getting fed up with her. She is someone that requires people to do every single thing for her without lifting a finger. Asides earning money to train her children, which I'm forever grateful for.

I can say that all my life, I can count how many times I've seen my mother cook or pick a broom, talkless of lay her bed.

Growing up, I thought it was very normal since our culture is one where you have to be very respectful and help your elders. I have many siblings so we all did everything for the house and for her. But lately, with the older ones settling down and moving out, I'm left with her.

It has gotten to the extent that my unmarried siblings also avoid the house because it's not easy living with her. We got her a maid to help around but it's not a permanent solution especially with expenses.

I'm a student and I came home this break while the maid travels back home for Christmas. The whole situation is quite tiring for me. I was baffled today when, while I was choked up cooking Christmas food for us and guests coming later, she called me to rub cream on her foot, like why can't she do it herself. The fact that she didn't even help with any of the cooking and arrangements was painful enough.

My siblings have given up on her as they believe she's used to it already and she can't change. I've been told that my late dad pampered her and got several maids for her so she has been doing this for so long already. My father died when I was little.

I've taken it as not a big deal but I'm beginning to think of moving to another state after graduation just because of this issue.

I don't know whether to confront her about her attitude. Or whether that would make me disrespectful or ungrateful to her.