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Visit a dentist/Ortho.

What's that? What a confusing object.

Magnoliaa:
They should relocate to Mars then. I'm sure Elon would give them some form of 'help' as he's supposedly a redpiller.

Explains a lot about him. Looks it

But why would they go to Mars when women, who they love to hate, are on Venus?

Or maybe actually taking them to Mars will undo any juju that has made them irrational.

As squeezy as rat.

Opium of the people.

What do all these geniuses actually contribute to the world? Seen so many of them become people who cry over a stolen guitar, because after all these feats as children they play classical music as adults.

apatheticme:
Syrup Medamin 2.5mls daily for 10days

Never knew you were in the health profession. Hopefully demystifying it will not cause self medication among readers.

Magnoliaa:
MGTOW would have solved this...and erased most of these relational issues between men and women... just saying.

But MGTOW still centers around women. Women make the world go round.

There's no solution to jobless men's issues. They constantly have them.

almondjoy:
Yes! But I will try my best not to show it so the others do not feel "unloved".

Children always know these things.

How else do people come here and say that they know that are their parents favorite or not? You will always treat your favorite with kid gloves.

Mstick:
Almost 30 years of marriage and your Mom doesn't know how to work around your dad?

Weird.

Some men refuse to be reasonable. Some are the devil's incarnate.

Best believe it's not the mother's fault. She will do all she can, but the man is sociopathic.

Just reading comments on this thread shows how many men out there are destroying their families. Just wow.

shawante:
Mehn my father is kind of similar to your father although a bit milder.. But anytime he tries to start those his nonsense I dey enter am wotowoto before him go calm down.

It seems none of you are stubborn at home that's why he's behaving the way he does

Lol

Supreme145:
Good day Nairalanders, there have been a lingering cold war in my family between my parents and it has created a tension in my family that as the first son I'm running out of options on how to dunce this tension. My parents have been married for almost 30 years and just like another has been full of ups and downs.

I will try not to sound biased but my dad's authoritarian nature has caused a serious crack in my our family and made my mom a very unhappy woman that is just enduring the marriage for the sake of her children. Instead of the children to find solace in our home we all prefer to be far away due to the continuous rift between our parents. My dad has never laid his hands on our mom but constantly talks down on her even in front of the kids, and knowing my father you would rather prefer to be mended with 2x2 plank rather than my father letting his tongue lose on you. His mouth is filled with venom.

A while ago one of my siblings got a job as a cashier in a bet shop without my father's knowledge, we kept it away from him because we knew very well he would object because he hated anything bet. My mom on the other hand knowing fully well that the boy has been idle for a while gave her consent reluctantly. My dad got to know after he observed that the boy was dropping money at home frequently and when he inquired about the source of the money and learnt that he was working in bet shop all hell was let loose.

He called me on phone in school, which he rarely does just to confirm if I was aware which I replied in the affirmative. He said all manner of derogatory things to me, because he felt his position as the head of the home was threatened, he felt we the children was siding my mom to override his authority in the home. My siblings would later call me the following day to complain about how he spoke to my mom, the poor woman cried for days. They said my dad would never see a dime of their money if they get rich even though I know it was childish talk but that's how serious thing are.

Almost all my siblings have grown to hate my dad though they conceal it very well. His tyrannical rule is not helping matters at all, my dad is the kinda father that if you spoil an appliance in the house, it would be in your best interest to repair it before he becomes aware because the funny part is he won't say much to you rather all the aggression would be transfered to my mom. If we use the generator we would have to replace the quantity of fuel that we used. I was sleeping in lecture hall in school, my pop man insisted there was no money and even advised I withdrew from school if I can't cope only to get home to meet the news that he just bought a land lol.

While I don't expect much from him cos I'm of age, I don't like how he keeps alienating himself from my other siblings due to his nonchalant attitude to their warfare. Those kids would spend weeks at home due to non payment of school fees but he would spend hundreds of thousands fixing his car if it breaks down.

My mom called me today in tears, p man just left the house without dropping anything for Xmas, and even a cube of maggi is not at home, and its not as if he doesn't have money, I'm away of the big contracts he's working on at the moment whereas he's been spending on his car putting it in shape for travelling him.
And he was the one that told momsi not to process her cassava and sell because she envisaged that something like this would happen.

Now my siblings have been bombarding me with complaints and this is why I preferred to stay back in school instead of traveling home.
How should I approach this issue? I can't call a man and tell him how to use his money, I've been struggling to make mine so that I can offset some of the expenses from his shoulder.

I love my dad and I understand his struggles, i know what people without a father figure goes through but how can I stop the hate that is brewing towards him from my siblings?
I want our home to be peaceful.
Please I need your advice.

Simply put, your father hates your mother and is a narcissistic sadist.

According to a post by lukgaf, he is under demonic spiritual influence. Because what else can make a man hate his wife uncontrollably without forgiving herassuming she did anything wrong) for close to 30 years? 30 years of hate? He has all but murdered your mother.

You're trying so hard to love him and reconcile what you know is evil to some human side of him, because you think you're a man now so you should understand his toxicity and evil nature. But you don't realize that he's lost his humanity and no matter how hard you try and relate with him, he isn't interested in a friendship with you or understanding your siblings and your mother. All he wants is to rule. Period. In his eyes, you will never be the man he is.

If you want to change him, it will be medically induced. You can't understand him, and you can't change him.

A lesson to the boys here who are chanting the red pill and other dumb male ideologies.

You can see how without a single word of brainwashing the children have already determined to deal with the man.

In his old age, he will begin to lie and lament to the new crop of foolish young men, that it was his wife who caused it, and that they need to hear his side of the story.

Most Nigerian men are unreasonable and hide under the lies that it's women who are behind broken families and marriages. They propagate and perpetuate this lie. OPs father is what many of the misogynist/redpill boys here will become. Either that or they will try to divorce their wives for not cooking food.

Imagine where a child cannot get a job because it's usurping the authority of the father. One can only pity his mother. She's living in bondage. May she not die in it.

Irupetepete:
The suspect who said the victim few died days after the incident pleaded for mercy, saying he could not have killed his neighbour for nothing.


Na Sahara reporters dey blow grammar like this?

Lol

Montaque:
Hahaha. Wives who store cooked food in the fridge are stupid, ba? Or those who ask their friends and sisters to look after their kids while away are unwise? Please free me, the hungry kids in this case are not my children. I have mine to feed and take care of and I got no time to argue about how a mother should fend for her kids. Something that should come normally

If she didn't cook before traveling, you as a man can't cook and comfort your children? You'd rather watch them suffer because you don't know how to prepare a salad? What happened to your hands and body. The mediocrity and toxic masculinity in this story are pathetic to read.

I don't have time to argue how a father should fend for his kids.

Verysmart101:
So it's the woman that have the best sense right? A man will toil from morning to night to make sure the family is cool then a house wife who contributes nothing financially will still expect the. Man to do her work toooo baaaa? Na 2by 2 I dey knack women who reason like this

Toil by sitting in an office from morning till night? All these rumors of toil are just rumors to make it seem like men are on the farm laboring from day to day. Toil indeed. It's called 9-5 in the office. So the woman will toil from morning till morning following after the children and the man, cleaning up and all the things you think aren't toil; or isn't it physical toil where she sweats and gets burned in the kitchen? It's not toil cleaning puke and poo? He's only done it for a day and hear all the complaints and how he wants to divorce her. With all the toil taking care of the children for years did she threaten to divorce him?

Admit it, the man is stupid and mediocre if this isn't fiction. He should go and take care of his children. His money means nothing, and his toil means nothing if he can't do the basic things for them. When we say that getting money won't solve your deepseated irrational male entitled mentality issues, many of you don't listen. Get married and find out.

Mstick:
He called your dad a simp? Please copy and paste this your post on romance and sexuality section am sure he will see it.

Lol. Thought I'm the only one thinking that, as funny as it is.

Angry alphas burning women's money everywhere. Country will go up in smoke at this rate with their dependency issues.

Cyntie55:
Good day nairalanders. Season greetings to y'all. I'm so angry right now. Please I need mature advice.

My father is not a learned person but he make sure all his children are graduates. My younger brother(last born and only son) rounded up his Nysc few months ago, we're just 2 girls. My elder sis and I. My elder sis is a nurse in Austria (3 years now), she's married with a kid in Austria. My big sister send money home once in 3 months, and I have been the one receiving the money. I share the money exactly as instructed by my big sis. I have never cheated anyone, Infact my Dad and Big sis communicate very well. My Dad trust me so much.

My younger brother is always angry, He said he feel cheated all the time. He shouts and talks to me anyhow like I'm his mate.
Honestly speaking, I gave my younger brother more love and respect that he could ever imagine. When he was serving, he would call telling me he need 10k urgently, sometimes 20k, that he will pay back. Immediately I will send it to him and he would never pay back. Same thing he does to my father.
If we ask him what's he using his allawee for?? He would angrily say so is becus we're sending him "chicken change" that's why we're asking jamb questions.

He said we don't regard him, he called my Dad a SIMP, he said my Dad listen more to my big sis and I....but he don't listen to any of his suggestions.

My brother is a 2:1 (second class upper) graduate in economics from UNIBEN. After his Nysc all he does is to sleep and eat. My Dad's good friend told my brother to come to Lagos and resume work with him. He refused. My Dad ask him if he wants to further his education (masters or professional courses)he said no....Okay follow my Dad to his cement shop and help him (my dad even promised to pay him salary) he refused....I overheard him on a call with a friend and i suspect he's now into yahoo yahoo.

Look at what happened. My big sis sent us money yesterday to celebrate this festive period. She said I should give my brother 50k, I should take 80k and give my father the rest (abt 250k). My Dad is always aware of everything.
I even added 20k out of my money and I transferred 70k to my brother, I was left with 60k (becus she also sent me hair and I plan to sell it becus I already had enough). You can imagine this ungrateful idiot started insulting me, that I cheated him. the fool angrily withdrawn the money from his account and SET IT ON FIRE (70k). He called my elder sister and started warning her saying "if he can't receive the money henceforth, she should stop sending him money again that he's the man of the house".
My Dad gave him a resetting, resounding, hot and dirty slaps. He pulled out a knife, deflated my Dad's car tyres and ran away from the house.

Everyone is not happy. I don't want my brother to live a wayward life. He's 24 years old. Please nairalanders Help!

Your brother joined the red pill movement, and he probably started it on this forum.

You see seeing the effects of it live and direct. So much misogyny is causing his actions. He's the man of the house, yet he collects stipends from the hard working woman of the house. (He needs divine intervention because he sounds like one of those embittered incel killers). Too much pampering and too little observing who he truly is.

But your father is a good man. Can hear the slaps from here.

LMAO.

Another tale for our entertainment. The way men garnish lies as fact here is amusing. This one even tells us he's lying/changing events because he's trying to stay anonymous with his complaint. Because he knows the elder brother is on the forum and the guy is 6'5" with the muscles of a stallion!

So he wanted to eat sardines and noodles and his wife went into the guest bedroom, shook her elder brother awake and knelt down to serve him food, while this our good brother man husband was salivating and shaking with grievous hunger? No bro code, men in hate? The story is fantastic. Pure NL fiction designed to draw reactions and abuse on the "wife". But at least this one is funny.

Montaque:
That is one of the problem in the present matter, even the least problem. The problem here is that the woman places priority on seeing her mum (or whatever it is she went for) than taking care of her kids. Who would leave her kids suddenly without a back up plan? That's the problem.

What back up plan? Isn't the husband there? Isn't he a parent too? All these negligent men looking for sympathy when they refuse to be a part of their family aside bringing in money. Now you can see how money does nothing. Absolutely nothing. She doesn't need a back up plan if he's really the father of those children.

Given the hypothetical situation, this is a thread created by a slow lying man.

Verysmart101:
Is anyone stop her from enjoying her break pls? Simple cook food put in freezer for her own kids again ur saying oga is wailing.She didn't even consider that she's starving the kids.Shame on you

Can't the man cook? What sort of mediocrity and stupidity would make a man unable to cook? Aren't the kids that he is starving his own kids too? Under the circumstances, the man doesn't have good sense. Even preparing a salad is rocket science to the man. What a spoiled troll.

This is a fake story. Especially after he claims to have a live-in maid.

showafrica:
Lol, bro we no dey quarrel na.... The guy is accusing op of labeling every other girl bad because of the wife he married and promoting only Anambra and Enugu.

So i am saying may be because the kind nyash his wife carry no dey Anambra and Enugu but he is now regretting that him for manage the size of Anambra and Enugu nyash.

Nyash and brest is the beauty of a woman, but character should be considered too if not to japa go dey hungry you like op after pounding it one or twice

Oh, so the breasts and big backside are a thing. But why did you sound so against it when it's still your spec?

True, OP is using his experience as if it is the only one in the world, and as if women who aren't from his place are terrible.

It could be that he saw that she has a good character and married her, but his own character isn't any good. Once a man with bad characters gets married, even if he married the Virgin Mary, he will still cause himself marital problems and look for how to blame her. The character thing goes both ways.

jesusjnr2020:
What Has The Birth Of Christ Got To Do With It?

You claim to be celebrating the birth of Christ, yet you wouldn't have had money to buy the Christmas clothes, rice and chicken which you used to celebrate it if you didn't steal it or defraud someone, so what has the birth of Christ to do with your celebrations?

You claim to be celebrating Christmas, but the money meant to pay people's salaries was what you looted and used for your own selfish and self-centred celebration, so what has the birth of Christ got to do with it?

You claim to be celebrating the birth of Christ, yet it's the money that someone borrowed you when you were direly in need, that instead of paying back the person as you promised, you're using it to celebrate Christmas, so what has Christ got to do with your celebrations?

You claim to be celebrating the birth of Christ, yet you organized a Christmas party that resulted in people getting drunk and committing sexual immorality, so what has the birth of Christ got to do with your celebrations?

You claim to be celebrating the birth of Christ, yet when you organized a feast you only invited your rich friends and those who could recompense you later on, but not the poor and needy who wouldn't be able to recompense you, but were hungry and needed to partake of such a feast, so what has Christ got to do with your celebrations?

Many claim to be celebrating the birth of Christ today, but they don't even care the least about Christ or what He stood for, if what they're doing in the process of the celebration has got anything to do with the purpose of His birth, so what has Christ's birth got to do with their celebration?

If the birth of Christ was truly being celebrated, it's important that those who claim to be celebrating it, did things in the course of the celebrations that align with His interest and the purpose for which He was born, otherwise, in truth, they would actually be abusing it and celebrating in vain, because they do things that defeat the purpose of His birth.

God bless.

Very good post.

But is there a Nigerian Christian that will go to heaven? All the things you listed is their way of life, after which they say "praise the Lord, I have a testimony".

showafrica:
May be a big nyash or big breast deceived him... Well, the best is to equip the helper to act as a mom sharp sharp. Me i no dey waste time on nonesense

If you don't want "big nyash or big breast", go and marry a man.

The way you people act as if a sexually attractive lady is bad news yet it's what you desire, has gotten old. If you can't get them, stop hating them.

Ytea:
What do you need to cook, let's give it you recipe.

If at all his story is true, he's too arrogant and provides billions of cereal coins in his homestead to get his hands dirty. He would throw your recipe in the closet until his wife gets back to follow it.

INDUSTRIALFAN:
What fvckery is this? Who de raise these kain men wey de embarrass us like this? So as a man, you can’t do any of the things you listed? How did you live as a bachelor? You even have a help in the house except ur help is also a child which in this case would be tagged child abuse.

His story is fake. Because what he's saying doesn't add up.

RoyalBoutique:
True talk.

But the main cause of banning is because people reported and blocked you.

I've reported and blocked someone who was sending me dirty messages. I don't know if they were banned. But WhatsApp will collect your last chats to determine what happens.

reXurrectionZA:
sorry ive been away for a while

i only used a hb pencil and an eraser. was a little bit difficult but i did it under the guidiance of a friend

Not bad.

Keep us updated with more.

RoyalBoutique:
Stop spamming people.

Stop posting adverts in groups.

Stop polluting the cyberspace with nonsense.

People love their privacy, so you must respect that.

When many people block and report you, you get banned.

Finally, contact WhatsApp and let then know that this is your first ban and you're very sorry for violating their policy. And you promise them never to violate their policy again.

. And make sure you don't violate their policy again .

Don't forget to add that they may have been abusive in a personal chat.

How to unsee and unhear that.

fineboynl:
Proposal in public is nothing but blackmail. And I like seeing something like this so that others will have sense.

A prostitute can not just propose to you in public for you to accept. Others who don't know the history of you both will be shouting accept it.

Have you given this much surface thought to why women turn down men?

Magnoliaa:
This comment. Chai. But overcompensate, you say? For what, do you think?

Probably thinks she's not good enough for a more attractive/sophisticated man. Or thinks that these types living the rough life are something to spice any boredom she might feel. Or she actually is attracted to them. Or feels she can buy them. It's hard to tell what one sees in such men...

Because that man is highly unattractive and so broshawo you can smell it through the pics. Bet you he's the type that comes here to give himself a 10/10 and says he's a catch for foreign women -- not! Don't be surprised he wears waist beads, smokes, drinks and has a tattoo on his bleached left cheek!

Let's just say they're friends.