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NPTJ:
Those friends too were bothered believing that man is behind all these. But my parents are too ashamed to speak out to them. My dad still talk to her through the man's phone three days ago to know what is wrong with her. My dad spoke with the man and he keeps giving flimsy excuses about the bigger amount he pays for his children school fees and others. My dad asked him was that the reason you couldn't get your wife even a small touch light phone so she can reach her family? Was that the reason why you eloped with her and she never come to visit her family not even when her brother and grandparents died? He was just dumbfounded and keep saying he's sorry

How old is your sister? How old is the man?

She's enjoyed a decade with him, why are you trying to separate their love? It's clearly what they both want that's going on.

Didi2d:
You guys should find a way to locate your Sister, at least to know how she's faring.

She might be going through hell right now. But due to the way and manner she left she might find it hard to let you guys know. Probably cause of shame.

Your family should check on your sister ASAP

Seems you don't know how coercive men and in love women can be. He says she begged them to let her take her two kids and go live with the man. She's doing well.

Follak:
Forget about the man not paying bride price now.Everybody including your parents should start calling your sister through her husband's phone,visit her often,contact her old friends and let them visit her,invite her to family functions through her husband,infact infact both of them.You guys should force yourself into her life.Don't complain now.Win her back and gradually get her out of there or make the man marry her properly

And you think she and the man didn't agree to cut off her family?

For better or worse, whether she's suffering and he's beating the daylights out of her, it's what she wants. She left with the man 13 years ago. If she were tired she would've returned. He should accept their elopement. A girl in her earlly twenties and a man in his late 40s.

OP should leave them be before they think he's after their money.

Magnoliaa:
Wow. Emotional and psychological abuse comes to mind.

That man acts like one old man that frequently creates threads about women on the forum.

The divide and conquer narcissist. Once isolated, she's his plaything. He's drastically older than the sister. Control old man.

Find my iPhone.

Some weeks ago we were all intimated on how dangerous Lagos is at that time. Yet you people still want to move at odd hours?

She should go to the police and make a complaint.

What a story.

This is why teenagers should stay away from relationships. Most of them aren't mentally capable of handling what goes with relationships.

If he had gotten away with the crime, he would come on NL to post foolish posts about females.

Two months ago.

It was drinking sap from an herb bush. I wanted to take a picture to immortalize its beauty, but it flew off before I could.

Omicron007

How can this news be true in a part of the world that claims to be so morally upright?

All these paid threads are something else.

tensazangetsu20 might have some advice to give here

What happened to rob this man of hope?

All he needed was one genuine friend, one real person on his side. Someone who really cared. Cared enough to care.

xpressionx:
You talk too much


Also stop behaving like a kid (that's if you're not)

Don't mind them.

The kind of foolish posts we see from people who have not experienced life is always telling.

Just see how an infant can post such rubbish about a woman they know nothing about. That she still got married at 60 means it was beyond her control and something she still wanted badly. And she got it.

Ammishaddai:
This one probably used her youthful years selecting and tasting all that was available. Now she is getting married at the barren age of 60 to another very frustrated person . Tueh

Your know nothing about the woman.

Some women like this stayed virgins for long, while their mates who gave it up easily got married easily and early.

The conclusion that all women are tasting, selecting and refusing to get married is one of the most foolish things men say to tickle their fancy. And any woman who shares that opinion is just as foolish.

You don't know what happened to her and you should not try to speak for her. Women have given birth past 60 and her husband isn't complaining or mocking her. What do you know about her?

ChineduChinedu:
She said she dreamed were I cheated on her and marry someone else that's why she insisted of leaving if I didn't do the court marriage

All their family members hide this secret from me, they intend to tell me after the wedding

You guys may be wondering how I enter this problem
I wasn't into girls at all
I don't anything about girl cuz am a very shy type
For 30 years am a Virgin until I met a surger momy who toast me and took my virginity.
I broke up with my sugar momy immediately I met this girl

I don't know anything about women at all
That's how I landed into this problem
Make una help abeg

Your problem is that you lost your virginity without thinking it through. Why did you remain a virgin till the age of 30? Why were you moving with a sugar mummy? Is that why you decided to marry this lady, too, for money?

We had another thread like that on the forum. You should be lucky she isn't making you beg her. She could do that.

A lot of men here will call you a fool and try and make you feel stupid, but the truth is this: if you can live with her, you can. She even has a child for you. There are many people that marry other people with several children eg. 24 year old girl marries 37 year old man with 4 children from another woman, and heaven has not fallen.

The only problem is how she has had children consistently with that man for a decade. You will have competition. It appears she married you because he wouldn't marry her.

CsRockefeller:
I don't know about others but I am always surrounded by virgins anywhere I find myself. It even makes me wonder if the scarcity of virgins is being overblown on the internet. At my current workplace, my seat colleague is a virgin and very light skin (The Igbo type) but she's kinda local and has constant mood swings.

The first day I contacted my current lady here on Nairaland, I immediately knew she was a virgin and she recently confirmed it, but I knew all this while. I also had a very short interaction with 2 virgin ladies here on Nairaland but unfortunately, we couldn't proceed further.

They might be scarce to other persons but not to me, perhaps it's due to my type of personality.

It's one of the reasons you're hanging onto someone you know you will cheat on: virginity. But this your discernment that you immediately knew she was a virgin, and she confirmed it, how much older are you than she is?

I don't believe virgins are scarce, rather karma is returning to men who lost their virginity and deal recklessly with ladies.

olabrinks:
Light skin beauty.. light skin children. Is it not stretch marks, saggy breast and green veins that will take over once she gives birth to to 2-3 kids after 40? 80% of light skin women bleach and they give birth to dark children. You will see them bleaching their innocent kids to cover their tracks. Forget packaging, beauty fades. Al these insta babes, if you see them naked and raw.. there’s nothing but flaws everywhere. Even girls as young as 25, stretch marks and discolouration everywhere. If you want your babe to package better, that’s a different story. But if you’re looking for a raw near perfect beauty, you have a long road to enter.

"80% of light skin women" do not bleach.

People are born with light skin. Everything isn't bleaching.

You people are always at extremes once you hear about light skinned ladies. What crime did they commit to be born that way?

Some are jealous and look down on light skinned women, others are just after them as if they are the only women that matter.

Magnoliaa:
This one that everybody on this thread is just hitching up with virgins ear and dear, watin dey occurate?

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But if that girl is truly as intelligent as you portrayed, op, I hope she dumps your silly ass! Nonsense. Forming sensible grammarian but no form of depth. Mtcheew.

The new trend is virgins.

The same men who constantly slut shame women, call them whores and bitches are all suddenly about to marry virgins.

Wonderment! Is it that virgins aren't scarce any more?

These people are comedians.

tensazangetsu20:
Why won't I laugh. See Nigeria is finished. Even dividing Nigeria won't solve anything as the country is extremely poor. It will take 80 years of serious hatdwork by the new independent nations to even get to the level of middle income nations like Mexico, Brazil, Chile and Uruguay.

The only advice I have for young Nigerians is to avoid marriage completely, find a means of learning a tech skill because no matter how bad shit is with a good tech job you can always survive and work on leaving the shithole. Nigeria cannot be saved. You know it inside you. I know it inside me. Let's not deceived ourselves.

Only 80 years? That is too optimistic.

CsRockefeller:
She's the sweetest lady I've ever met. She's 24, but I've always wanted a very fair lady. I'm scared I might cheat, and I don't want that in my marriage.

Something as petty as skin will make you leave the so called sweetest lady you've ever met?

You can cheat because of color? What is so special about light skin that you are ready to give up on true happiness to pursue it?

You're bound to cheat always.

CsRockefeller:
I'm in a similar situation. It's tough because she's tall, smart and also a virgin. Not that she isn't beautiful, but she isn't too fair, and she's not from my Geo political zone.

Right now, I'm trying not to be too committed, just place myself in the middle so that I might fall in or out if the need arise.

Its a tough one because at a point, I really wanted her. But now that marriage is in the picture, I'm beginning to have my doubts.

How old is she?

Why are you so concerned by color? Sounds racist.

PhilipReigns:
Its a long story but I will be as brief as possible

2016/17 I had a particular course that almost got me into an extension in school because one money-loving lecturer (lecturer A) was bent of frustrating his generation (Not me). So I took d matter to one of my uncle who happens to be a lecturer (Lecturer B) in d same institution, after playing d recorded call of my convo with Lecturer A to him, my uncle promised to help talk to him but he never did, instead he came back to me to tell me the man (Lecturer A) had refused to pick his calls. Miraculously, the result was pasted and I had 68/100. That, I ignored.

2017/2018 when I was posted to Lagos for my youth service, I rented my caravan (situated at my uncle's uncompleted building along d road)out to a woman who paid a token for it, It was temporary cos I was going to return to my business after youth service, my uncle called suddenly one evening with such an angry tone asking why I rented out the caravan, and if I was d owner of the land that I would rent d place out and collect money from it, I asked within me if it would have been better d caravan rot away in idleness? He never bordered to congratulate me on my clarion call, which was really strange. That, I ignored.

2019, my dad contacted him that my fiance was pregnant and communicated my intension to marry her to him, he suggested to my dad that d baby be aborted, that am not financially ready to marry yet...Lol. I told my dad to go and tell him that if I had wanted to abort that child, he wouldn't have heard about d pregnancy in the first place. The wedding was a success after much battle from him and the rest of my family members that wanted to stop me. My daughter was born same year, he reluctantly called to congratulate me. That, I ignored.

2021 some years after NYSC, I decided to go and investment in real estate in a student environment, bought some plots of land with hope to resell some when it appreciates, told my uncle (Lecturer B) about it, partly because the man I bought the land from said so many bad things about him, belittled my uncle right before me, so out of curiosity I decided to I inform my uncle about my land vendor's remarks about him, after everything I noticed the man somehow started acting up towards me. First he lied to me that he has sold his building that's along major road where I had earlier mounted a caravan, forcing me to remove d caravan last month. I later discovered he lied about the sales of the building. Secondly he lied that d vendor man who had earlier criticized and badmouthed about him was among the people that came to his office earlier that week to negotiate for the price of the building (he told this lie probably with calculations, he wants me to go and verify from my land vendor, thereby subconsciously letting that one know that I have told him about how I purchase a land from him and also give him an impression that I must have told him all that he said about him(Lecturer B). I didn't care, I just went back, asked my vendor if he had any encounter with my uncle which he denied and further boasted that if he knew such building was for sale, he would buy it. He said my uncle is a Wicked man, that he probably isn't happy with the news of me acquiring a landed property which is true. I have made up my mind to ghost him and whoever have an affiliation with him, including his children forever. I have had enough.
My question now is, why are some so called family members (especially uncles and anties) unhappy when thier nephew/nieces are progressing?
If you have had any similar encounter in the past, how did you deal with it?

How is he wicked when you're the one who began renting his property that you didn't own?

You are the one who caused his reaction. Who knows how the land vendor wronged him and is now saying that he is wicked?

All your issues with him are entitlement ones.

Samiah33:
This is so messed up, I have a daughter and must say I am scared to my bones

That is why you must not keep quiet about such things, and why you must push for proper judgement whenever there is such a case.

These sex fiends thrive when a blind eye and silence is used to treat them because of fear of generalization, even when they really are guilty.

Mrkumareze:
What is funny in insulting someone's parents

Help us ask them.

Batam:
It's more dangerous for you not fear God.
My advice is that do not continue in sinful way rather continue to pursue purity with your acclaimed 'clean enough' and it will give peace that surpasses understanding.

Tell that to your fake pastors.

descarado:
They are trying to get on your nerve

I understand your aversion to these bunch of jokers. What I have seen these guys do in the name of the anointed ones made me ditch going to church. It will take a lot to sway my personality so when everybody is busy screaming and worshipping pastor , I observe quietly and record.
They are just bunch of entertainers. Simple. Give Nigerians steady electricity, enabling environment for job creation and good healthcare system, more than 60% will not remember the name of their pastors after 2 yrs.
Poverty and herd mentality are one. The white used that to conquer us. Fulani is using that successfully in Northern Nigeria

They can't get on my nerves, because I know enough about pastors to know that they are evil and fake. I can only conclude they haven't encountered pastors fully.

Honestly, nobody is supposed to give any pastor any room to make noise. They are among the most decadent and pretentious members of society. The church is within, so there is no need to go to church and listen to any scumbags at the podium.

The way people are reverent and worship them is the reason they go about doing evil unendingly.

As you say, give most of these people a counselor, access to decent healthcare and basic amenities and they will stop praying and seeking these gods of men to sort out their issues every Sunday. And these pastors know their game.

The pastor is question is even from one of their popular churches. These members never learn.

Batam:
That means everybody is evil including you.

So we all are. You inclusive. Then why elevate evil men?

lilvicky68:
Oya let's talk one now and another one in 10years time..

You will sponsor the former and I will sponsor the later..

Let us see how the government will sponsor it for us.

Batam:
What are your personal experiences with muslim clerics(alfa) and herbalist since all pastors are evil?
Are you a pagan or athiest?

All religious leaders are evil within.

mohims:
You are feeling for a wild animal that shows no mercy to man. Wait till you have a one on one encounter with it then you will have a rethink about what you just said. I can never have pity for such animals.

And what makes you think I haven't seen those animals in the wild? People captured them and did this to them. In the wild, who goes to challenge them? Look at the case carefully.

Batam:
What of if you become a pastor tomorrow

I would rather remain a sinner.

lilvicky68:
Public counselor..

And I don't receive payments in cash..

Well you must believe in something and I'm ready to hear..

Lol. I believe in vacations.