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lilvicky68:
You must live in the North East to be experiencing all this..

It's pastors

Batam:
I'm asking of your personal experiences with pastors not hear say?

What is hearsay about people I know and went to mediations with on the matter of evil thieves, killers and destroyers?

lilvicky68:
Oya come for counseling..

You need it..

Fake pastor on the beat.

I don't believe in churches and pastors, so unless you're a counselor from...?

Lollittaa:
Most women love powerful and seemingly intelligent men. Pastors fit the bill. Throw in charisma, good looks and well tailored three piece suits, and the ladies will drool.

Most pastors use psychological manipulation on women. Why is it that they don't try to get this level of commitment from the husbands in their congregation? It's not as if the pastors who manage these cheating episodes are all charismatic, handsome or even wear 3 piece suits. Some can simply capitalize on a woman because they know she is barren. All he has to do is use her emotional state to get sex from her. These pastors are predators who aim to hypnotize.

Lollittaa:
like I said, no fakes without an original. You may have seen, heard or experienced the bad, but sincerely, there are a few good ones genuinely serving God. We can't discredit all for some bad apples.

Some bad apples?

I hope you never encounter these people when they are hard at work to do evil works of their true father.

Batam:
What are your experiences with pastors that is making you to generalise them?

Pastors are evil. They steal, kill and destroy once given the opportunity. They have hurt a lot of people and continue hiding under fake repentance and their reputation.

So I can understand that it is the pastor in the story who wants to lure the man's wife with his position and title into having sex with him. Later he will claim he has repented and people will believe that.

Longsleeve:
I'm sorry if you have had any bad experience with the so called pastors..

But Time heals and try to move on..

I don't need a bad experience to know that that is the way pastors are. I will point out one incident that made me know that all pastors are fake and need destructive judgement.

A pastor scammed me of money and every Sunday he was on his pulpit with some foolish worshippers defending him, because he had not yet stolen from them and because he had been pretending to be a good person to them. You need to see how righteous he was, all that was remaining was a golden circle floating above his head. I only trusted doing business with him because he seemed to be a person of moral standing, but that was a mistake that will never repeat itself. That was my introduction to Nigerian pastors and I will not forget it in a hurry. I will rather do business with a balabawo than any pastor.

Now, imagine some of these your big pastors who you think there is nothing on them, yet a case like that is lingering in the background and they pretend to be saints. Imagine the types that commit sex sins and will come up to speak in tongues, etc on a Sunday morning.

Lollittaa:
You sound so sure. Is this coming from previous experiences?

I have noticed the trait in pastors. I don't have to experience certain things when I have seen others experience them.

Most pastors are there for stealing, killing and destruction. It's sad that people place them on pedestals of spiritual sanctity when they are the greatest violators and deserve the hottest part of hell.

If God still struck the way He used to in the days of Moses, many of the pastors would be struck dead in their evil, wicked ways.

Lollittaa:
hmm. There won't be fakes if the genuine do not exist.

Pastors are fake. Their ministry is similar to that of stealing, killing and destroying.

Many are sex pests.

Lollittaa:
sometimes some women fancy themselves in love with these "daddies in the Lord". The resultant effect is OP's complaint.

I think there are less women in love with them, and more are manipulated by these men who try their hardest to seem like the go-to for everything. They tell people to meet them and give sermons about trusting their pastors.

Longsleeve:
Well their past doesn't matter if they've truly changed.. they are now new creatures..

Pastors can call for counseling..but won't force people to come.. people just like bringing their family and marital issues to pastors for no reason thinking to get the right answers..

Well I still believe they are true pastors.. and I thought you were a Christian..

They aren't new creatures. They are leopards with a fresh outlook looking for opportunities to steal, kill and destroy.

They call for counseling to gain trust and position in peoples lives. They buttress it with the Bible.

I don't believe there are any true pastors. Until God destructively judges these devils in angels clothing, i have no business with them.

Longsleeve:
The thing is that being a pastor does not change who you are..
A typical fornicator or adulterer that becomes a pastor might not change from his ways..


They are still good pastors but Nigerians like taking irrelevant issues to their pastors and the bad ones might capitalize on that to cause harm for their personal gain and konji..

Which good pastors? I'm sure if you investigate their pasts they are all the same, yet pretend to be so holy.

Sometimes they are the ones who keep calling up people to be coming to them so that they will be dependent on them. Meanwhile their plan is to cheat on their wives and have sex with the best pick of women in their church. If they aren't doing that they are trying to accumulate wealth.

Most pastors deserve instant judgement from God for their wicked scheming ways.

hopexter:
As if they’re not wicked to themselves

Yet to see the one who does such a thing to humans, but you're right.

Longsleeve:
Lol..they are humans na..

But they are wicked. Just know that anyone who calls themselves a pastor is a sex pest and evil.

Lollittaa:
young men should be wary of women who literally worship "daddies in the Lord". Sometimes it can be a breeding ground for an affair

Most times it's the man trying to control her with his Bible so that he can get free sex. They pretend the woman needs prayers, etc, only so that they can get close enough to strike. Pastors are some of the most disgusting people on the planet.

SweetDipBenny:
what are u waitin for pick up ur phone and call that pastor. Tell him to stay d fvck away from ur wife.

And you think such a slimy bastard will agree that he's doing such?

Fear people who call themselves pastors

All the women he slept with are having their revenge and the last laugh, it would seem.

Bad guy, bad guy, see where it has gotten him? Plus isn't marrying a virgin the ultimate to all men?

Niorte:
How did you know she is having an emotional affair?

What is the implicating message on their chats

You kind of feel insecure....otherwise, why should a pastor talking about his marital problem be construed as a marital affair.
Sometimes, you tell your challenges to help others feel they are not the only one facing such challenge.

Be meticulous about it before concluding it is an emotional affair.

Confronting the pastor may not be the best option. seek wisdom.

Trust me, any pastor that cannot confide in his wife, and is confiding in another woman, he wants to have sex with the woman he is confiding in, that man is a bastard ready to rape any other woman if he can.

The worst kind of men are pastors. Evil men who hide under the title of pastor.

Thought marrying a virgin is the ultimate?

We need to hear from her side of the story. Some men just want sex and have no personal connection to their wives.

jesusjnr2020:
I don't know if this is a good thing or a bad one yet, but if she's bent on destroying the evil altars and system set up by TB Joshua like king Josiah did in Israel, then it's a much welcomed development.

But if she intends to continue in his evil legacy and even do much worse like King Ahab had done after he became leader of Israel, then it's a very bad thing indeed.

I'm hoping it's a good thing though.

God bless.

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Joydan95:
OP, I just woke up and this is the first thread I clicked on. I am going to advise you based on the fact that I am married and I totally understand what you mean rather than those unmarried folks giving you advise that they themselves wouldn’t take if they were in your shoes.
Firstly, marriage is like a “surprise box” you never know what you will get, and it doesn’t mean that you partner or yourself is bad , it totally balls down to the fact that you both were raised differently, your ideologies differs in a lot of ways and that alone guarantees that there will be conflict. Now , often times when angry couples decides to divorce themselves and are told to visit a therapist together , most times if non of them are seeing someone else, the matter get resolved immediately. Why is this so?
It’s is because a therapist will often give the ground for both partners to “communicate “ with each other and when the communication takes place, they talk about their discomfort, insecurities and feelings. Communication is the greatest Architect / bond of a great marriage, trust me. I got married during the lock down too .
For the fact that you agreed to settle down with your wife, it means you have a little spot for her. Marriage is spiritual than physical, you don’t like your wife and it manifest in your attitude towards her and by nature she will definitely feel the negative energy that you sub-consciously emit thus giving you the reaction you get (toxicity).
You talked about leaving your wife for you ex,what if you leave her and get married to your ex and this same re-occurring fights happen, will you keep remarrying? “The devil you know is better than the one you don’t know. You think your ex is better because you are not living together.
The best approach in marriage is constant communication, when you see that your partner is acting somehow, draw her close and ask her what the problem is. If it’s about her insecurities, please keep reassuring her that you are for her only and keep bonding/praying with each other. It has worked for my parents ,it’s still working in my marriage and many other marriages.

He's not interested in doing any work.

He is one of those men who stick in their deek, once they feel a little problem comes up, they are sticking it in a new place for peace of mind. He has issues.

All he has is a catalogue of blame and how she deprived him of being with his fantasy.

I wonder when people will realize that that person you see out there that is putting fire in your home because you think they are perfect, is another person you haven't lived with to get to know them the way you have your spouse.

larryjonze:
according to OP, he had the golden opportunity to be with the engr lady but decided to listen to his mom and went ahead to marry his baby mama, that doesnt sound like what a real gold digger will do.

according to OP, from the onset of the r/ship the lady gave him no peace which was what led him to discover the other lady unfortunately she is rich. No one is above mistake, pregnancy can happened but i blame OP for marrying a woman just to please his mom, that was childish & very wrong.

May i remind you, ur gender strongly believe "their money is solely their money" .. that a man finds a cuppy today does not guarantee jackpot, i assure you women aint that generous with their money, IF OP could afford to wed, cater for his child and a wife that has no job, lets give him the benefit of doubt he is not lazy, isnt it obvious what he brings to the table is independence

On contrary my advice to OP is not all that glitter is gold, no go carry weytin be big pass you, even if she is independent as her man you still have to live up to certain standards orelse inferiority complex/insecurity go kill that peace of mind in no time.

Face the fact: your gender are gold diggers incapable of truly loving another person but themselves.

The only peace he's looking for is a lot of women's money that he didn't work for. Talk about men and their unique laziness. My money is my money, but her money is what will give me peace. Typical thought process of men.

It's a golden opportunity to you because it is a man involved and because your are a man. Nobody told him to listen to his mom. He was already in a relationship with a child, what did you think he should do? Dump that one and get this new one who he will still cheat on and dump as is the way of such slut men? Having money never kept a wandering deek in one place.

When I said it on the other thread, you were asking how a doctor in the UK is a gold digger because of a pair of shoes, well here you have it yet again that men are only after money in relationships. You even call it a golden opportunity. You people keep pointing at women and money to hide your own golddigging and pass it off.

That is if the story is true. It's been so easy for you to believe it, such a one-sided story because it comes from your gender. When men are ready to do nonsense they hide behind "peace of mind". Because they are the only people who deserve it.

Let him get on his knees and fight for his marriage. His post is one big excuse and he sounds like one of the immature nagging golddigging red pill men who are constantly looking for ease in relationships while they bring nothing but destruction. They always want peace but don't carry peace themselves, just hate, blame and more old internalized hatred.

Bye Felicia.

Contact customer care.

Are you the only one with access to your phone?

Human beings are immeasurably wicked to animals.

8 years?

For 8 years he didn't know she was poor, but now at the end of a long time dent in her life, he and his family have realized she's illiterate and poor.

The things ladies go through. How can you even be serious with a man who doesn't marry you after 1 year?

OP needs a conscience.

She's better off starting afresh with someone who will agree to marry her in 6 months. 8 whole years of promising to marry her only to come to up with issues before it happens. At this rate he will drag it on while avoiding marrying her.

Sometimes one wonders if racism is real.

Good for him. Liberals can be some of the most intolerant people.

Stephen2324:
When you hear a woman say “I built him” she means she had sex with him and bought him one singlet and boxers

https://www.nairaland.com/6788283/husband-acts-immatured-marriage-come

Some of you need to grow up.

Where do you people find these evil red pill boys to marry?

Is it that you never checked his social media or you didn't notice his overbearing nature or you decided to overlook it and play house with a man who has his own agenda?

He's a typical self-centered modern man who thinks the world owes him so much. Entitled red pill boy. He's trying to control you with all his attitudes. He wants your full trust but will never trust you, and is only there to take and demand from you. He feels anything he does is doing you a favor, hence he married you and yet you're the bread winner while he plays tricks on you.

Who told you that a woman is supposed to take care of a man? Any woman who believes those lies men tell online is setting herself up for this kind of situation. Only a manipulative man demands or wants such. There's nothing such as wife material according to men's standards.

Davash222:


A female doesn't have to put on nose or ankle rings to become a prostitute, an average Nigerian girl has an inch of prostitution in her.

Same goes for the men who join themselves to prostitutes. The average Nigerian man is one.

They're all one and the same, the men are prostitutes. Especially the ones with earrings and the other things that men use as markers on women,eg tattoos, haircuts

They are prostitutes the same way they think females with nose and ankle rings are.

This isn't something she needs to come out and say.

To all broke men, all women are harlots. Everything to them must have been gotten through sex. Even when they make money, it must be from sex. Such is their life.

She's looks strange, though.

Jarchi:
Quite fascinating, but why our news reporting no dey get pictures or video in this digital world where phones have better camera than some professional cameras?

Looking at the rural picture provided, your expectation is not possible.

People who can't afford windows, let roofing sheets will be unable own high resolution cameras.

It's unfortunate the person reporting such an interesting topic couldn't go there and take even just one picture except this one from a distance.