₦airaland Forum

olabrinks:
okay but have you married this lady and lived under the same roof? Go and marry her and she will treat you like the houseboy you are with all your baggage. She will never fail to remind you that she can do better than you. You’re just a hopeless lapdog lost in the world. You have gold in your hands but you want to throw it away for temporary satisfaction. I pity you.

Apart from driving home certain points, rest assured this is a fake post that was created to trigger misogynists.

For some reason it produced the undesired effect. Guess OP doesn't know how to put in the right emotions for the brhoes.

larryjonze:
Ooh i forgot he called her wife, i got so carried away with his narration ... even tho there is chances 7figures his pushing OP wan kind, i don't think he is a real gold digger why waste 1st chance i think OP is just a man living in delusion, women are night market until you marry that angel before you know are true color
I can't judge a man looking for peace of mind

He isn't looking for peace of mind. He's looking for a chemical engineer so that he can eat up her 7 figures with her. He knew he was in a lifetime relationship with his wife, but still went around looking another woman.

If he wanted peace of mind, he would stay where he is. Instead he's looking for how to cheat. How exactly is hurting his wife peace of mind?

Male sluttiness is one of a kind. Shameless golddiging. Is there something wrong if he makes the money himself instead of looking for a woman who will lift him in the way his family never did? What does he bring to the table like this?

larryjonze:
Just because they say life is tew short does not mean a man must go on his kneels to fight, moreover fighting for what you don't believe in, is just an intentional waste of time.
Apparently OP thinks he has seen a better choice, except that choice becomes imperfect he will never see any good in his baby mama ...so the best advice is to let him do that he already has in mind

She's not his baby mama.

She is his wife, by his own admission but gold digging won't let him rest. Wayward deek looking for soft ground that he can't work for to lay his bed.

Semaj77:
Mace or maze

Maize.

helinues:
And what was her reasons?

This na one sided epistle

Do you want her to tell us about the puzzle in explanation? Because we are still in a dazed state seeing her like that with no sign of the maze.

GeorgeTheCoder:
Northerners and pedophilia; 5 & 6.

So you say, yet it is Southerners who want to know what is wrong with a 50 year old man dating a 16 year old girl, since according to them it isn't against the law.

When it suits you, you call out against the northern polygamists. When it suits you, you fight for men to be any age they please with a teenage girl.

At the end of the day, it is all men who are interested in girls who are drastically younger than they are, since according to them it is not against the law.

No ethics, no morals.

Men who cannot go down on their knees and fight for their marriage have no virtues. Another man would do a better job. All these men who cannot be men in their homes, always looking for the quickest escape.

We need her side of the story. Because OP sounds like a nagging gold digger himself.

Zaxbash1:
U see ... This thing called ego and emotional attachment U need to get eliminate it... Now imagine person way no get 5k for account they make U craze ... Bros U dey mad

According to you, it is permissible if she has a lot of money?

camri:
Thats a woman that understand the masculine nature not like you that be ranting up and down over men's fidelity

Lol

After the masculine nature, what exactly do you gain from it eternally?

Stop thinking with your glans.

Dahustler007:
I'm actually new here
Thank Goodness there are no betting shops around! I've deleted every betting related app on my Phone and I'm going off the internet for some time tomorrow probably!!
I'm taking my sim card out of my phone... That's the plan..hopefully it'll work.


Thanks for the comment bro.

There are many threads on overcoming gambling on the forum. Several people quit it.

Your sim card isn't the sinner here: you are.

Remove your gambling card from your life and you're going to be fine. Why don't you have any other activities you do? Begin extra lessons for the students. Join choir in a church. Or go and start a farm.

Gambling comes when people don't want to work but want extravagant riches. And you want to know the truth? Unless you work for it, you can't get it. Ask Whitemoney. Nothing good comes easy. See how many years it took him to get there?

Dahustler007:
I've been there bro.
I'm trying to change my mind it's just hard! That's why I came here for some advice on how to get over this.

Delete your gambling apps and use a phone without internet access. Change your paths to avoid you're favorite gambling spots. Keep away from your old friends, tell them you're meditating or something. Face your teaching with new vigor.

You're a gambler. You will say you've heard, but you actually haven't. What you're feeling is remorse that will last until your next salary. Once that salary comes you're back to square one, isn't it?

Carchoice:
Did you see anywhere in the post that says we are dating?

She obviously left a heart warming impression on you. Hence you are here to tell us the story.

Sleeknigga:
Those two above me speaking their native tongue dem no know say this forum Na for Nigerians

There's one female moniker and a male one who frequently come here to speak their igbo language and the rest of us tolerate them with their tribalist posts.

Surely innocent hausa which the rest of us understand can't be that big a problem, can it?

Carchoice:
I met a Tanzania lady that told me if we start dating and happens to go out together and I see a lady I like to smash, She could talk to the lady on my behalf.

I was like are you normal?

She told me story of her last relationship of 4 years. Her man took her to a club and She caught her man staring at another lady’s asx, She walked to the lady and chyked her for her man. She said that night She was Sleeping in one of the rooms in her boyfriends house while her boyfriend was having fun with the new lady in another room.

I asked her why She allowed such in a relationship, She said Tanzania women believes men are polygamous in nature and are free to have something new outside the relationship.

And you're still in a relationship with her because what you described above proves she's the best woman in the world, right?

AmazonTopaz:
You married a 22 year old that may not be mature for marriage and is supposed to be free living her best life.

You said she is a jovial person so that is how she is and besides she knew that guy as a friend before meeting you so you gotta accommodate that.The only problem is that she isn't mature enough to know that there should be boundaries and she shouldn't over do it.It is a good thing that she is open to you about it.

She is still young and don't cage her because of marriage or that she should let go of someone she has known for years because she married you.

Just tell her to minimise it and draw boundaries.

Lol.

Two months after marriage he locked her out of their house, to show her what a macho man husband he is.

Ladies are suffering so much in a bid to please men. A small girl of 22 made into a ridiculous case online, to please a hard-faced misogynist husband who seeks to control every aspect of her life.

How she married him, and why he went for her, those are two interesting things about this OP.

This is the woman they are punishing 2 months after the wedding. After all this, sleeping outside on a bench on the verandah?

Desperation is a terrible thing. Avoid misogynists who claim to love you. Get self esteem.

EmekaChiwe:
Are you people stupid in this country. You this village boy

Don't you have sense, if they rape and murder her in that spot, who will be held responsible.

If a man treats your sister like that, i believe you will be very happy.

I can know a man economical background by the way he treats his wife.

I've been saying the same.

You can tell a man's economic background by the way he thinks about women.

Zordgrub:
God will bless you. The man is very smart and knows what he is doing. Person way dey run ads by himself, he claims to even know my job more than me but ordinary admin status, he's claiming not to know. He gave me two options, either find my way into the Google ad account of which is impossible or write an undertaken. Just yesterday I mentioned blocking his card and removing it from my money, Baba no wan answer. You can imagine human being

He's one of those difficult and violent men one prays not to meet everyday.

Do not sign his undertaking, because for all intents, the way he's behaved himself shows that he can do anything out of spite to deal with you.

Did you at any point tell him you don't want the job? This is how someone tried telling his boss he would like to leave him, and suddenly the man picked fault with him and accused him of theft and wanted him to sign an undertaking. All this was to spite the guy for daring to leave the job. The boss said he was a good guy, that why would he leave?

Tell him to open up his admin account and help him delete it. Why did you let him have this upper hand? You should know that old men who have interest in tech are usually crafty and wicked.

greenie77:
It is not about American laws but human emotions that is universal. If you forcefully have sex with your wife against her will to prove that you are the boss, what do you expect to be her perception of you after the act?

If she goes too far with revenge by adding a little something to your water or food with the aim of gradually depreciating your health, who do we blame?

We have read several stories from a part of Nigeria, of females who got arrested after stabbing their husbands to death because of forceful sexual encounters, feel free to Google

A women who feels sexually violated have no issues with handling a knife with intent to revenge.

If a woman feels raped, you can't convince her otherwise.

You still have time to explain to people who deliberately violate human rights because they feel it's not in the law?

The same way they are 40 and look for relationships with 16 year old girls, because according to Nigerian law they can.

Many people are bereft of sense and ethics.

chatinent:
Baba, lol, forcefully doing it will bring more harm than good. Remember, rape does not become irrelevant in marriage! If it is not consensual, it is rape! You will be jailed and treated a rapist! Peace always wins. What's the use of having sth by force you no go enjoy las las? No bi juju?


In this eleventh hour, a simple “babe..baby..you are still angry? Stop snubbing me naw. Ok ok, about what happened the other time..yeah, I must say I was very angry and overreacted..but you know you really also made me angry sha.” (Try teasing...lol, of course, she will leave-me-alone you. Don't give up, throw some bubbles of Shakespeare's sonnets..don't just make it 14). “Babe..we are bigger than this naw. Okay, to show I value our peace than being right, I take the responsibility, I am sorry.” (Tease again...and tease...until the leave-me-alone becomes as weak as Nigerian’s economy...and it surely will). Every normal wife will welcome peace especially if the husband kills the pride and apologize. The problem is that many men would rather die than apologize!

Let's embrace peace.

Pride doesn't do it!

Stop waiting for the first person to come and make it up. What if the other person too have vowed not to? Take the initiative! It doesn't make you a loser! It makes you mature! No bi because of uncle conji you go remember rites. She has her rites too!

You are welcome.

Finally, a NL man who uses his brain for good and is ready to call out evil for what it is.

You must be (single and) a player to do this.

1Sharon:
I get what he's saying by saying he 'wanted her to beg'...he wanted her to have more of a reaction then he'll lay it all out.

But at least he felt some remorse and kept his distance..

Why must he manipulate her into begging him? He has no point and is unreasonably wicked to try that. Why can't he be the one to beg her, knowing he's the one with his dirty secret? Too much entitlement.

Fortunately, she knows that she owes him nothing, thus she isn't moved to play his gaslighting games. He was banking on desperation and the lady has refused to bend to his will.

If she had begged him, he would be bragging.

abobote:
Reconcile with her, but don't beg, just find a way to do it, like surprise outing. Don't tell her about your daughter first, make her to fall more in love for you, before letting the cat. Even we wey marry still de keep am secret at times to enjoy fresh pusy

All the manipulations will do what?

He shouldn't beg her when he's clearly at fault, but he wanted her to beg him for hiding deep secrets from her?

Lol.

Anakojum:
You are not just watching too much nollywood but you also practice every act you watch.
Had it been you were honest with her from the start she would've still accepted you.

The days when women would marry single fathers are long gone.

Nobody wants a used man. He should've cast his lot with a single mother.

sweettease:
The mentality of an African man, rather than come clean you decided to punish her for your lies and and manipulate her into a compromise after begging you. I hope she never takes you back. Rubbish! You deserve to loose her.

Honestly, the kind of rubbish males post on a daily basis is no longer surprising.

He said he wanted her to beg, can you imagine that? The average control that men seek is to be begged even when they are wrong, so that it will show that she's wife material.

It is good she's refusing him. He thought he could eat his cake and have it.

They cry about paternity fraud, but what can we call this?

The male version of paternity fraud.

Let's see how they excuse and water it down.

He says he wanted her to beg, because she's the one with the child out of wedlock or what? Isn't that all Nigerian men want? They do evil then want her to beg them.

That lady is wise to cut him off. If they get married, he will cheat and keep it secret until one day it spills. And then he would expect her to beg him to prove she is a good woman.

Too many diseased people.

apatheticme:
Honestly, these are truly "endtimes"

You can say that again.

Nothing they say is surprising. They are all just depraved.

See him quoting you again.

YoungDaNaval:
That was 2015 when my little cousin of 5months slip from my hand and fell into a well with water inside. I quickly join her into the well so I can die with her there. The way we were both saved is still a mystery to me till today. Happened in Kaduna

You're a strange person.

JaneYave:
That's exactly the paradox in reality. A man loves craziness, rocks craziness but picks a cool headed lady to mother his kids. His search for someone crazier has just began right at the wedding venue.The wife allowed it even. What a kind wife!

He's like the men on the forum crying for virgins. What will they do differently?

Insecure men who want a woman who doesn't know if they are bad at sex are at it again.

As long as men refuse to be virgins at marriage, and since virginity brings nothing to them, there's no point trying to dictate virginity for women.

People will get married. Virgin or not. The way non-virgin Nigerian men act like virginity is everything is disgusting and hypocritical. Being a virgin suddenly sorts out marriage. Lol. The kind of stupidity on the forum is astonishing.

Myhusband:
I state it the way it is, I'm not the cause of your worry kid

And I've told you that it is you, not me infant.

Johnrake69:
How much is the card? He can block the card from his app and request a new one. Case closed. This is really not an issue

It's not an issue, but the man is making it an issue. Do you think the man doesn't know he can get a new card?

There are just some difficult people who think they're smart.

iamtardey:
Try it's your first time makes things better you should be a bit comfortable more having someone to say hi hello with

The only time I've spoken to anyone is on long haul flights. For a 45 minute flight, I don't think we need to talk. Unless you begin the talk first.