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juman:
Many men are lazy.
Yes.
Why should a man that called himself husband and father wake up and do nothing?
That man is very useless idioti.
He has to work hard to pay bills.
He should know he must provide for himself and the young children.

Lazy men should know:
You cant stay idle waiting for mana to fall from heaven.
You should not stay doing nothing expecting your wife to bring food, even if she get it from her man friend.
Oh, that kind of man is really useless.

Honestly, the sort of lazy men we read about on the forum is a disgrace to those who keep posting and asking what women bring to the table in marriages.

How can a man gamble and play games while he has children that need a meal and home?

Oh well, he has a productive hard working wife. Everything is sorted. He's the head of the home, the king, the prize, heaven and earth in flesh.

sonofthunder:
Mr./Miss/Mrs. I too know, go and read the op well before quoting me. The op is self righteous, story sounds cooked up.

Sometimes you make sure something is genuine before responding to issues people bring up. So many people are clout chasers. Someone just check the profile self and said op is a man and the best you can do is throw jabs at me


Her virginity is an issue because she seem not to know why she chose to preserve it.

She thinks it's better she lived as a hoe in here younger years rather than being chaste. You also think about that.

The man was working and providing/supporting until he lost the job.... Read her statement, she looked down on the man's earnings maybe even mocked him self but will never tell you that...... She said her man swore to never work for private company again...... You think say na small frustration be that?

Vaginometer.

Once a woman is facing challenges in her marriage, it must mean she wants a license to cheat.

Her husband isn't frustrated. He's evil. And later men will say that once a woman starts footing bills she begins to announce it. When they got married where in the Nigerian marriage rules is she supposed to foot everything? For a man to be comfortable being an infidel and watching his family sink, he is unbelievably evil. What stops him from working like his wife does?

Gambling with what money? That's a frustrated man?

She mentioned her virginity because it has to do with her beliefs and her experiences. She chose to be a virgin believing in love, thinking it would mean she would have a good marriage and successful life. That's why she's mentioning it and how her promiscuous friends seem to have it better. So clearly she knows why she decided to be one. Yet you traced her mentioning it because she wants to cheat and that is repulsive. Vaginometer.

gidjah:
I love your quote;aome persons have never stollen before ,but yet live poor,some never had sex before yet ended up with HIV AIDS ,..what a mystery the world is.Bit you didn't finish your advice ,how does she handle a man who couldn't fend for the family and house rent has expired ? She also said she has no money to even pay. For the rent ? Complete your advice or counsel sir .She isn't admiring the outside world , a man like you and I is responsible for the frustration this amazing soul is passing through .Is this d only way you would have counsel if she were your only sister ?

The first sensible comment on this thread.

sonofthunder:
So what's the connection between virginity and your current predicament? Or you are in search of a pity party to encourage you to go and cheat?

Typically, when we have a problem, we need the best solution and not the best solution we can come up with.


Moving back to your parents is not a bad solution but do you think there could be better solutions you need to explore?

Why is her virginity more important to you than her gambling, lazy king?

Why is the only thing you can come up with cheating? A woman who has a lazy husband should have her virginity or vagina monitored by you when she says she has a problem with her unmotivated husband, yet you ask why she mentioned her virginity?

Why is your second paragraph as unhelpful a solution as you could come up with as your last paragraph?

Surely you would have a lot to preach if it were the husband with this matter.

It's pretty clear what is written there. The patient likely has a flu or some other discomfort with allergies. And a big headache.

6ixVille:
Ure obviously livin in bubble, 98% is even me being reasonable. Am i missing something here?..why won't you police how someone feels abt money you worked hard for?
Omo, don't know the kind of guys u meet, bt i havent really come across guys who are interested in womans money, that's if the woman even get any. To ask a woman who is not ur mum for money is like the hardest thing ever

What did u think op gained from her? or u didn't see where he said he came back home one day and noticed some of his properties in the kitchen gone?

Rest abegg

You are living in your false narrative with figures pulled out of those assumptions. Ignorance is bliss.

Please.

6ixVille:
I'm not even talking abt d girl here, I'm talking abt 98% of naija babes entitlement mentality and offering nothing. Gold digging from naija babes is not a narrative but reality, except ur living in a bubble.

And na even women dey worry alot abt men's money but go off. I hardly see a man interested in a woman's money or what she does with her money or have u forgotten this popular phrase "woman money na her money but man money na our money"

And OP no need tell us say she offers him nothing b4 u figure out she offers OP nothing. A valuable lady that offers something would not make OP fuss like this, to the point of even thinking abt leaving her.

State the source of your 98% fact, otherwise you'll have to realize that 98% of Nigerian guys have nothing to offer in a relationship apart from their non-existent money and policing how their babes should feel about money, whether hers or theirs. They offer absolutely nothing else. The OP offered her nothing else, and it's easy to figure that out from his post.

You are all interested in women's money, otherwise the thread will have comments to do with everything else except money. The average Nigerian man, 98% of them are fixated on money in relationships.

Why wouldn't he ignore everything else she is worth and has done for him, in favor of fussing about money, when that is all that passes through the minds of Nigerian men in relationships?

He has gained something from her, but he knows that if he whines about money you will all conclude that rags are better than your women to suit your narrative that they are only after money. Coming from people that are always talking about what women can give them, ranging from respect to money.

Please.

6ixVille:
Why the blackmailing tho...the entitlement mentality is what drives me nuts when it comes to dealing with an average naija babe, especially when they offer nothing.

Did he tell you she offers him nothing? Or you guys believe anyone reading your stories believes that these ladies just offer absolutely nothing except taking non-existent money from all of you? Even a rag offers some value, but a lot of you love your golddigging money-centric narrative so much and think anyone will believe it—well, maybe only yourselves.

There's nothing any of you have gained or looked for in any woman except her money and what she does with money.

Let the OP tell you what she offers him, rather than this one sided c&b whining.

treatise:
Ned Nwoko should remember that na second journey to river Niger killed Mungo Park

This was unexpectedly funny. Lol.

Karleb:
Even for an American, how do you have a 16, 15,14, 12 and 10 yr old kids and another 2 for the new guy.

What the hell is wrong with some women?

The men who made the children with them? Nothing the hell wrong with them?

SMoh247:
American witches are more powerful and descrete , secretive and manipulative

She better be rich and bringing more to the table in the relationship

Lol!

Or maybe men actually have no standards once they see an oven.

Black men. Lol. They (Nigerian men) will tell anyone who cares to listen that they are the prize, the best thing after marmite and that they desire only white women.They would criticize if this were a black woman. Thank God for white skin. Anything is possible with it.

Kobojunkie:
Nigeria ans Nigerians as a whole would greatly benefit from desperately diverting huge amounts of resources in to severely improving the mental health resources in the country at this point.

Lol.

But you know they won't. They will accuse the devil instead.

Kobojunkie:
lets stop feeding ourselves these ridiculous lies abeg like OP and all of Christianity!

You see, Scripture states that God does not answer the prayers of the unrighteous; the pleas and requests and every petition, praise, offering, work, plea, sacrifice, etc., of the unrighteous are tainted by their sins(disobedience/unholiness) and are hence an abomination to God. So, what is definite is that even your many pleas for the forgiveness of sins are not answered by God given that God made no special exemptions for that kind of plea. No amount of praying can cause God to change His mind regarding that which concerns the unrighteous by the way. So if you are thinking of prescribing more prayers that only means you really don't understand or know God at all.

God, however, openly bragged about how He only answers the prayers of the righteous; He delights in granting them the desires of their heart meaning that they are those who he loves. For this very reason, Jesus Christ urged His followers to seek first the Kingdom of God and God's Righteousness in order that all things— the blessings and rewards of the Kingdom of God(holiness), answers to prayers included—shall be added on to them. And as Jesus Christ explained in His Gospel, the only way to become Holy, and then also Righteous, is by way of continuous submission and obedience to the teachings and commandments of Jesus Christ, god's Truth and Law in the Kingdom of god - John 8 vs 31 - 36 & John 14 vs 15 - 23. Jesus Christ is the only way. Obedience to the Truth of God is the one and only path to Gof and to His righteousness. No amount of praying and other religious rituals can accomplish that.

God deals indirectly with the unrighteous, the same way He deals with the unbelievers including the wicked and the ungrateful and that is by pouring out His mercy and kindness on them daily. So every time as an unrighteous you feel that God has answered your prayer know that at that same moment, or moments before that, God also provided the same mercy or similar to someone else across the world — or maybe just across from you— who does not even believe in God, nor asked God for anything. So, if answers from God are what you seek, then do what Jesus Christ said you should, which is to seek first the Kingdom of God(holiness), and then God's righteousness, in order that all these things —the blessings and rewards of the Kingdom of God(including answers to prayers) can be added to you.

I won't lie that I read anything you posted beyond you exclamation.

Calm down. Then type it again. It looks long and aggravated. Today is world mental health day, anyway. What do you have to say about that?

zinaunreal:
You need to watch videos how isreal uses jets , point them into civilian buildings and fire into them at close range killing people without mercy women, children and men. Not today oh. I'm talking regular phenomenon in Gaza . I watched videos and shed tears and mainstream media never report non of it


When you push someone to the wall and there is nowhere else to go, in his own land, this is the result


These figures are no where close to what isreal has done over the years and as they kill, they grab land. Go and study the map of palestines over the past 20 years. Palestine is the largest open prison in the world right now. Its not a country. Evil barbaric isreal. Stealers of land.

Stop watching mainstream media they are bunch of liars. I dont even watch tv again. Educate yourself , do your own research and your eyes will open to what is really happening in the world not just palestine alone

Isreal is just seeking justification to shed more blood. I was a strong supporter of isreal till I went back to my history books. Can never be deceived again. Evil callous religion called judaism

They even killed journalists without bothering about the consequences and now they expecting sympathy. Israel and their president are war criminals so as the mainstream media painting palestines as terrorists.

Have you heard of human shields before?

There's a video of a Palestinian man with his daughter held above his head, jubilating at the death of Israelis. She is under 10. She is holding a rifle.

If she is struck now, will you say that it's unprovoked when clearly her father is a terrorist and hiding behind his daughter after killing Israeli people?

If you're watching news from people who kill others then use their children as shields, you'll have a long way to go in supporting terrorism.

Taciturn1:
While this shows an unbelievable will to strive against all odds, it still poses a precarious situation to the safety of passengers and the driver, who's apparently operating the vehicle with an incomplete sense and awareness of the surroundings caused by deafness.

His passengers can hear. Though it seems dangerous.

Tkeke:
Not being spiritually sensitive early enough to find out that it was some of my siblings who I have loved like life itself that were behind the battles I have been fighting until it was almost too late. Mind you, I am the baby of the house o. They saw too much glory from their realm and couldn't take it that I will be greater than them all.

Explain this more.

How did you discover they were your enemies in disguise? Did they say why they really battled with you?

Are you from a polygamous family?

siofra:
Lol see this jobless thing!

Lol.

What won't one see on nairaland? Guy is a writer.

This overflogged misogynist message again.

You want to preach about sex, but your message is about how women who have sex are evil and men are the victims in it—meanwhile men are willing participants themselves who deserve the cane and messages in which they are made aware that they are evil too. Is your message biblical? That is to be debated. Two epistles among your billions, always about the evil of women.

You know why the men you're trying to make to despise women for being carriers of everything evil in sex aren't listening to you? You know why even right now they're done with casual sex with someone?

Because you aren't preaching. You're just demonizing women. When you are ready to preach to men, Interesting15, they will listen.

Not this gospel for women, by men, for men.

Xkale1996:
useless foool
Keep supporting evil Israelites

Guess you're in support of innocent Palestinians who killed 300 Israeli civilians and are parading their bodies for fun, and celebrating the "win" worldwide? They can't possibly be evil.

A lot of you are hypocrites. Even in your Ukraine stance. You don't know what evil is. Not in a war.

Where are the pro-Palestine antisemite users in the forum, the Christian ones? Because they're as funny as the Nigerian Nazis. Black people who support Hitler because they hate Jews, but they are black and would've been sent to lagers.

alphaconde:
There are a lot ways to dress modestly other than this

The way they police women's dressing, you'd think men don't need to dress modestly.

Plus the dressing depicted is irritating and self-righteous.

FarmTech:
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A modestly dressed lady can cause some men to think about Christ and eventually repent. Not all, but some.

Lol.

As if men are thinking about how a modest woman will make them genuine Christians. Let everyone, whatever their gender, work their own salvation. Even if you dress like a letter box like some religions do, the men will still marry many wives and go to hell.

shynox:
That's a fake photograph 'without makrup", when taken a good check you will notice her nose is pointed and not broad like the one on the fake...funny enough you can do a makeup but can't change the natural feature like shape of nose or lips except through surgery...
That's not Cardi

But she looked very strange and not attractive at all when she visited Nigeria, before she put on some make up. That has to be her without make up.

We've seen a million make up transformations before, and she fits that bill. Her nose with make up is still broad.

DMerciful:
But why take her not so good pictures without makeup?
This is her still

What reduced her lips and nose and dark eye circles here?

defendedvictim:
I get the point in your second paragraph. Apparently, she asked to start a business. It was not imposed on her by the man.

Every gender have their own red flags which should be looked out for. Looking through too, op mentioned that they always had quarrels which is another fundamental problem. We don't know what the quarrels were about...

The man's fault in all these is being beclouded by his emotions, and not being proactive to avoid this situation.

The woman's fault, among others is prioritizing the business over her spouse/family.

By proactive you mean untrusting.

You said trust meant that he's experiencing all this, because if he had opened the business in his own name (if that is possible) he would've been able to pull the rug out from under her feet to teach her a lesson after she'd worked so hard to build the business. Effectively making her a slave who slaves at his pleasure. Even if she asked for a business, to set it up in your way is a recipe for marital failure. There's no winner in marriage.

Nigerian women are suffering as slaves in their marriages if this is the mentality of Nigerian men.

As for the true causes of their unions breakdown, on this forum men are always lying about what happened to their marriages, or too stuck in their ways to realize they have half of the blame.

airsaylongcome:
As innnnnnn! That man would have died there on the floor of the national assembly if his health condition had been a catastrophic one. It just goes to show the shambolic level of health care in the country. If a prospective minister can slump in the glare of the entire nation and no emergency health care was on hand to intervene, it means for mere mortals like us there is absolutely no hope.

It's surprising.

defendedvictim:
I think we use the word 'slavery' in marriage a little too frequently and it's disturbing. Running a business and earning money for your use is not a slavery.
Using your capital(money) to start up a business in your name is never a crime. Deciding to put your wife to be in charge of the business is a trust. Every responsible man would will his fortunes and estates to his wife and children as a priority.
A man should learn to lead his family and take charge of things. This does not relegate a woman's role. Both men and women have their roles and where we have a lot of conflict is when one or both parties fail in their role.

In this case, the woman failed in her role as a wife..due to the business. If the business is in her name, she can do whatever she wants. If it is in his name, he can call her to order.

It is slavery, wherever you like it or not.

The reasons behind why you want it in his name indicates you aren't ready to be sincere about trust, rather you want him to position himself to be the "winner" and she will work towards it for him, but the day she doesn't meet up he will take away all she worked for. That is not trust. That, to any being, is a red flag. Especially a being you are married to. If it is agreeable, would he have liked to be in the position you believe she should have been in with your interpretation of "trust"? Would you? Certainly not.

What you are proposing is the genesis of marital problems engineered by men who don't trust their wives: power play.

If men and women have their "roles", why was he making her do business and not be a house wife? Are you forgetting it is his "role" to provide everything financial in his home, and her role is to birth and clean? A lot of you love talking about red flags when it appeals to your sentiment.

defendedvictim:
What's the problem if he opens the business in his name? If the profits are going to her?

That's not what trust means. You expect her to work for his business so that one day he will take it from her after she's put in all the hard work? Any woman with such a man is better off poisoning him.

Trust indeed.

airsaylongcome:
So even at the National Assembly there are no trained personnel that can administer BLS and CPR? See how they are mishandling and unconscious person, forcing him to sit down when he should be put in the recovery position immediately!

Looks like he has a lot of people who wanted to watch him die. Nobody appeared that concerned and astonishingly there was no ambulance service or even any form of support.

How can prominent people convene with no health support as a matter of protocol? They are likely all old and sick and in need of emergency services most of the time. Not even a first aid kit.

Probably had 4 children before him, but they want untouched teenagers in Nigeria as their "standard".