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Slynation:
If she was'nt good enough for that her supposed husband to be, then she ain't good enough for you. And most importantly never accept back your EX, you guys never learn because you play too much...

Just see how she carry you over 2.5...!! While she's depriving you of her puss, another guy was busy banging it 24/7 while you thought she's doing business. But guess what, she will return back crying and begging as usual and you will still accept her because your simping level is on a very fast bullet train...!!

As if half of the people are good enough for their spouses, going by your claims. Just because a person doesn't get married to who they intended to and they broke things off, it doesn't mean they aren't good enough. People break up for many reasons.

Maybe she should tell us why she focused solely on her business. You'd be surprised who was cheating, abusing or battering a lot and expecting to be taken back as if nothing had happened.

There's a lot nobody here knows except the OP. And his ex-wife, who on the forum to tell us her side of it.

defendedvictim:
First, it is not right to accept a woman who has left you for another man, back into your life. She is certainly not the same person anymore.

Secondly, you should have opened the business in your own name.
Marriage is built on trust, but wisdom is profitable to direct. If she has issues with you opening a business with your own name, then it's a flag you should look into closely.

You loved, albeit foolishly and got punished for it. Learn your lesson and do better next time.
Sorry about that bro

It's built on trust, but you wanted him to open the business in his name, while she would slave away at him for him?

Some of you love talking about red flags in women without really seeing what you feel is a red flag for what it is: another unrealistic expectation.

You didn't enjoy living with a productive woman who brought a lot to your table.

Why?

She was busting her balls to give you both a better life. Did you ever try dressing sexy and help relieve her stress? Or did you ever at any time make her feel less than? Did you give her peace of mind? Were you able to hold conversations about her business with her, or were you after her body all the time? Because this sounds like a weird story, or you haven't told us what you did to get to that point.

We need to hear her side of the story.

FireUpNow:
I wish I can do the statistics.

They would be helpful in buttressing your points.

FireUpNow:
Wasthe percentage of those thread given?

Make it available so that we don't have to read your whataboutisms.

FireUpNow:
Ar women men not marrying some disabled ladies and they have kids together?

Show us the percentage in the disabled community.

Againstallodds:
I suspect marriage of convenience

Not really. Most women will marry any kind of man without laying up many conditions the way men do. They don't have a list of all they need another human to do for them in submission, plus worship for just being born as they were.

How many men marry "severely disabled" women, and you've seen their posts pop up frequently? Right.

It's not convenience. It's love. Something many Nigerian men lack.

hammerFC:
ASSASINATED

By who? You?

Kobojunkie:
Nna na wa oo!

Nengiraw, if you want an end to this connection with this man, find out the man's wife's number and anonymously — maybe with a friend's phone or something— send her a copy of every text conversation you had with her husband after blacking out your phone number of course. That way you help the woman realize who she is married to and maybe keep that man off your parents too.

Really.

But then we have people who know the truth, and those who want it to be what they feel it ought to be.

Kajaard:
The boldfaced, truer words were never spoken. Longest time brati

Been a while crocodile

The answers she seeks lie in her words, but she isn't ready to listen to her heart. Most regrets come from listening to anything but ones heart.

tochez24:
I'm 30 years old, young, fresh and handsome guy in Nigeria with no baby, girlfriend or wife issues...

I'm interested in you.... Can we get married??

She didn't say she wanted a gold digger.

Nengiraw:
Hello nairalanders, please I need help on this situation. So I’m a lady in her mid 20’s. I’m actually very much set for marriage in the eyes of my family, since society deem it fit to place marriage as an achievement for women, and always bring up your age to remind you to. Anyways, it’s not a priority for me to get married now, as I feel like I’m not ready mentally,and I have a lot of trauma to work on, but I’m also open to it, if it’s in my face and ready. I don’t stay in Nigeria, so my family don’t know if I have a man in my life, so they decided upon themselves to introduce me to a man who is my uncle’s friend that stays in the same country as me. They were more focus on the fact that he comes from a neighboring village from us and that he was a doctor. (Meanwhile he’s actually a nurse, but he told them, that he was a doctor, he also never mentioned to them that he was married and had a child, before they decided to introduce him to me)

So we eventually started talking on WhatsApp, he saw some of my pictures already and he was mesmerized. In fact he was already kind of making me his wife in that moment. So one day he called me and we were just talking,and I heard like a toddler crying so bad and needed his attention, I asked him who was that , he told me it was his daughter, there was this awkward silence for almost five minutes of us not saying anything, so I told him I’ll call him back. I called my mother that day and was mad as hell, that they didn’t disclose such information to me, but from my mother’s reaction she had no idea, and she was also mad and she told me, she will call me back, so she could verify from my uncle, since that’s his friend. Even my uncle too had no idea. To cut the whole story short, he later called me the next day on a video call, and he started telling me about his wife( Yes! She’s still his wife, because I don’t think he has divorced her yet)and how abusive she was, and how he tried to make it work, but she was so crazy and stuff like that. That he’s actually trying to get shared custody of the child. That he’s no longer married to her. I was not really having it, because I just felt like he wasn’t being honest with certain things and on top of that his wife is still in the picture, and I don’t know if I want to settle for that. Also he just turned 40, and I’m 25. So the age gap is too much for me. Also I have not met him in real life, cause he stays in a different state from me, my family still wanted me to be open minded until I see him in person, then I could make a decision if I want him or not. He always sends me pictures of his daughter, and he recently sent me one with his first wife and daughter, I was surprised that he did, and he said he wanted to show me the daughter instead. I still felt like I didn’t need to see a picture of her. I started seeing the red flags of him that I couldn’t settle with. Also the way he talked about the wife was vulgar, and I felt like he didn’t need to tell me about her in that manner.

Now the most recent thing he started doing was sending me random stuff about marriage to my WhatsApp. I usually glance at it,and don’t reply, cause I don’t know why he’s sending me that. The one that gave me a major big red flag from him, is when he sent where Regina daniels( the actress who married Ned nwoko) was talking about marrying her husband a virgin and how it’s important to be a virgin. He then asked me if I was one. Honestly I felt really numb, because I don’t know why he will be asking me stuff like that, when he didn’t really get a respond back from me, he proceeded to send another message telling me, “No mind them sha, virgin no sabi. With a heart eye emoji. I was dumbfounded, I didn’t know how to reply to him anymore. I stopped picking up his calls and I have no intention to meet up with him anymore. Now my family is mad at me, saying that at least I should see him in person, but I don’t want to. In fact I’m no longer interested in him. Please am I wrong for feeling the way I feel? Thanks.

You're just 25. What do you need so much trauma for?

He's a 40 year old man full of baggage, baggage and more baggage. He's not divorced/separated/whatever he claims, and his attitude to his own child is enough to tell you who he is. He's not hiding it from you.

If you want him, go and be with him. But a man that age is a terrible mix for you. You would become his slave and babysitter for his other older children, something you will resent and use against them once you and him get a child together.

Return home while the party hasn't started yet. Or better still, ask his wife what's going on in their marriage.

This so called journalist is finally unveiling his true inclinations, something anyone who has read any of his misogynist drivel would have raised from the start.

Journalism has lost its meaning on the man.

Hussein035:
Forget this useless hormones and genetic lies when it comes to gender orientation. This is a complete environmental problems created by useless uncultured children from USA and their family countries.

This useless LGBTQ started like play between their uncultured children and grow in them through adulthood. When it became widespread the useless failed government decided to give it a name "LGBTQ" to make it appealing to everyone.

We don't want the useless orientation especially in Africa. Any LGBTQ whatever must die by hanging, it shall not be well with them. I even want the Nigerian Government to ban one useless season film CALLED "WURA"

The useless season movie is now making LGBTQ appealing to our sight it shall not be well with the writer of that movie

You want to say that those guys in huts who have been LGBTQ individuals before the advent of cable TV in Nigeria—let's not even talk about the Greeks who have it well-recorded from over 2,000 years ago—you want to say it came to them from the USA? Who made the Northern Nigerian men where literacy is very low very effeminate? The USA?

Isn't the country in question the same Nigeria where men hold hands publicly and nobody thinks much about it, nobody labels them gay? Talk about a major culture shock. You guys don't know what you really feel about them. Or are ambivalent at heart.

Even the *** has pictures of him holding hands with another man. You didn't say anything about it. Surprisingly he's not been jailed.

The USA is relatively tame about these things. Europe is a raging pit of all kinds of genders. The media is constantly washing it over people in order to create normalcy and acceptance. It's the culture of the day and sells.

The world population of actual LGBTQ individuals is too insignificant for the attention and phobia it generates. Their supporters are noisy and their films/claims noisier. It's like forceful conversion or their usual gaslighting technique. But they should be allowed to live.

wink2015:
Which is the best android app that can be used to forcast the weather in Nigeria accurately ?

There's nothing like accurate weather forecasts. Something just always be out of place.

toprealman:
That lady is not up to 25 years. What do you mean by after years of marriage?
Why do we allow society to define time for us? Those monitoring spirits counting their evil calendar will still ask for extra plate of food during reception.

Maybe it was 2 or 3 years. They don't look exceptionally old.

People should stop commenting on the fertility of others, on their choices and especially on things they cannot control. Simply put, people should stop mocking others.

Nobody knows what the next person is passing through. Or why.

EKONGKING:
Why do Nigerian couple conceive Twins or triplets after years of trying to give birth ? .

Only religious brainwashed idiots believe its due to miracle of God , while normal headed people knows its due to the MIRACLE OF IVF .

How many people does IVF successfully work for, and after how many tries, and with what conditions of infertility?

Styluss:
They have a child or two already, they have a lower value in the love market. They pretend to love you till you get hooked. They dont get annoyed to what a regular chick will get mad at you for.

Because you are so sincere. Because you have no ulterior motives or prejudices yourself. With this mindset, it's no surprise single mothers with two or more children will continue to dribble your "love" around the place.

UnfairLife7:
na broke men abeg. If you get money you'd find a good woman. There are good and bad women. Likewise there are good and bad Men

Preach.

They're using their socioeconomic backgrounds to denigrate anything they can about women. They can't even differentiate between their experience which is one in a billion, and the actual statistics devoid of their sentiment.

Tallesty1:
The reason she is a single mother is irrelevant as far as I am concerned. Single mothers are great, don't get me wrong. Some of them are victims of men's heartlessness, others made careless mistakes, while some are just victims of one thing or another, but neither of these is any of my business. I can't date a single mom, talk more of marrying one.

I don't have the energy to prove that I am a better man. I don't have the emotional strength to withstand their manipulation. I don't have the finances to raise another man's child.

Some of these women with no valid source of income will fight for custody of the child just so they can use it to source funds. "I am a single mother please help me"

If her ex-partner is an issue, that is a problem for me because I will need to prove that I am better before she can be committed. If she was the problem in the relationship, then she is still a problem. Forget how nicely she treats you; being nice to you and being a nice person are not the same.

She will love the child from the previous relationship more than the ones she will have with you.

I just can't deal.

If I end up a single dad, then I want women to avoid me. I personally will avoid them until I have raised my kids into adulthood because a second wife will mistreat them once she starts having her own kids. She will turn the girl into her slave, and the boy will suffer and get killed if she has her way.

Because you're so certain you haven't made a woman somewhere a single mother.

The amount of conjecture about single mothers in your post is the Hallmark of not only the stereotypical but the dishonest posts we frequently see from boys still sucking at the teats of single women.

Some people posting here were denied the experience of having a father due to the unrealistic tales of single women. Because single men don't exist. Because all men weren't born of single mothers.

Men and their fantasy "standards". For every post that you can't deal with imaginary things single women do, there's a man marrying a single woman.

BoldBrainz:
Smh.

Clearly, even exposure doesn't often equate to proper mannerism.

Your clear lack of exposure? Or your assumptions that are in need of exposure?

Cars with legs. SMH.

BoldBrainz:
Your attempt at mockery is well recognised.

If you had put the same energy into reading my first response to you, you certainly would have seen where I emphatically quoted "Legs" and the words that followed it.

Cars do not have legs. The entire suspension system and tyres are however, simply described as "Legs" in local Nigerian parlance. You may actually have heard of or known this before. But just because you're trying to portray others as being idiots for the entertainment of the reading public, you have opted for mockery and sarcasm.

How could I have known or heard about it before? Am I a soaker of "local Nigerian parlance"?

Not everyone knows what ever it is you call your car parts. And frankly, to expect me to know it reeks of assumptions.

And yes, it sounds idiotic to see cars that have legs. At least there was someone who explained it without assuming I would know anything about your cars on stilts.

Cars with legs. Lol

Persephone1:
Two mistakes:

Trying to fly when he was on coke the previous night

Trusting and befriending a devil

That's not a devil. That person saved lives.

Bliss62:
Joints of the tire

Thanks for this.

But why are they called legs? How did they come to be called legs?

It's kind of funny and unbelievable to me that there's a part of cars called "legs". Let me update my urban dictionary.

BoldBrainz:
I want to believe this is you being sarcastic.

Cause basically everyone who knows about cars in Nigeria knows what's meant when "Legs" are used to label certain parts of the car.

So it's a Nigerian thing that cars have legs? Educate us.

I've never heard of it before. And I'm shocked to see that cars in Nigeria have legs. Cars with legs. LMAO.

Ceeman2o:
Guess you hadn't driven a car before talk more of owing one. You would have known what it means to say car legs. That terminology really pass you. You'll know someday. Keep hustling

You sound arrogant in ignorance. What car has legs? I'm sure you haven't been in a car since the day you were born in 2000.

chronique:
That’s obviously technicians slang for the suspension and I'm very sure you know that.

I have never heard such a term before. Cars with legs.

Kobojunkiee:
So long as he is 18 and determined to live according to his own way, my advice would be that you leave him be, let him carry his cross on his head until he gets tired of doing it all on his own. You cannot force someone who is determined to do things his way to do it instead of your way. And the worst thing you can do is enable him by giving him money and allowing him to stay in the house and rob everyone else of their peace of mind. He doesn't sleep in the house, good.

As a matter of fact, since he is so grown up and no longer willing to abide by the rules of the home, your mother should ask him to move out to his own place— of course, paid for with his own money too— where he can live by his own rules. Allow him breath and leave him to his fate.

Surprising that he hasn't been kicked out yet at 18. If he's old enough to do drugs, he's old enough to live alone.

A car has legs? What sort of car is this?

Of course you have this complaint if your technician tells you that your car has legs in need of fixing. Legs.

met him on Nairaland many years ago and have fixed a few cars requiring minor fixes(legs) with him.

4 samples, just like that?

Meet a vet to euthanize it.

But if you really love it, just make it comfortable until it goes.

benjazzy009:
U should have gave opportunity to those that are in love with u before it get worse like this

She should accept anyone out of desperation, just because he loves her, even if he isn't worth it?