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nzebig:
Men marry who they love but women marry who is ready because women see marriage as the highest achievement of life

Assuming what you say is true, what's the big deal?

But of course it isn't true. Only in your world are men born with the love gene. Only women have emotion genes too.

Next.

Nairalander248:
They should protect them ooh.

The person that designed Engine that uses water was killed because they knew it will kill the oil and gas business

Yet Musk is alive.

Lannister360:
Good for her , na money she find go and now she don see the Money. Thief

As if.

Undilutedme:
Hello nairaland family.
I trust you guys are doing fine.
I have a little problem and I need a piece of advise on how to handle it.

I have a very wonderful mother. She's caring, sweet, compassionate, name all the good characteristics of a good woman, she's got all but there's this problem I'm still having with her. SHE NEVER APPRECIATES ME, NO MATTER HOW HARD I TRY. My mom will never appreciate me for anything I do, even if she does, she does it nonchalantly like it doesn't matter. She compares me with friends at every slight opportunity she gets.

There was something that happened. Momsy travelled sometime around this year and stayed for close to two months and she has a shop that she manages. The shop's generator has been bad for sometime and it's really stressful for her selling with dim lights but she refused repairing it again because according to her, the generator is consuming her money because of too much repairs every time. So I wanted to surprise her, I called a friend that fixes generator to come help me fix it so when she comes she'll see that it has been fixed. My friend came and fixed it. When momsy came back and I told her that I fixed the generator for her, she told me that, she didn't send me to fix generator for her and that she is not going to use it. According to her "I send you make you fix gen?. I say I nor wan use the gen again". I swear I was really hurt.

On another occasion was during the just concluded UTME exam. My friends wrote before me, a friend of mine had 330 so I told her, she was very happy. She was like, I pray you get something like this. Fast forward, 3 days later, I wrote mine and result came out. I scored 314, when she came, just happily told her, instead of being happy, she just hissed and said "You nor fit get reach 330?". My spirit just died immediately. She likes comparing me with my friends.

There are many occasions things have happened but I'll not bore you with unnecessary talks. It's really eating me up emotionally and psychologically. How well can I make my mom appreciate me more?. How can I please her?.

Ps: Please nobody should throw insults at her. I beg you in the name of whoever you serve. Thanks.

It's because she has a favorite sibling/family member/friend—and it isn't you— but she has not said it openly, though you probably know who it is already, or because she tends to desire the things others have. Or she feels you are too loved by your father, more than she is, and need to be taken down a peg or two.

Just be yourself. Do things for her, if you want to, not because she will ever appreciate you. She may not.

This pseudo-journalist again?

Perhaps he's the op.

GodWrites:
The same way people are born straight, is the same way people are born gay. Unfortunately they make up the minority, just like we have left handed people. But because of religion and cultural beliefs, they grow up hiding their identity, and might even be homophobic to deter suspicion. Done long enough, they develop internalised homophobia. A condition where they hate themselves, and others who are bold enough to express themselves. I have never seen someone as homophobic as a gay person with internalised homophobia.

Nobody is born gay. Some people were gaslighted into it (like most people in support of homosexuality tend do e.g. all over this thread), or got too curious about it and wanted to try it out. I've seen that happen. The latter decide to be bisexual to entertain that preference for any type of gratification. Nobody is born like that. Unless there is nurture into it. Unless you can show a gay and straight gene, how could anyone be born in a way that doesn't support sexual functions of the body? Why is gay sex traumatic if they were born that way? Wouldn't their bodies have given them vaginas to prevent all that trauma, since their body knows they were born gay the way they do?

With your explanation, heterophobic gays are really straight people with internalized heterophobia?

At the core of it, most people are desperate for any type of gratification. All gays aren't gay because they were "born that way". Ask them about their repressed childhood. To paint them with one brush is presumptive.

GodWrites:
As a human rights activist, yes, I have encountered numerous homophobes who ended up being gay themselves.

Due to gaslighting when they expressed their homophobic views or they were "born that way"?

RepoMan007:
Useless idea. Why build special clinics for gays?

Seems a bit discriminatory, considering that men aren't endangered. Most violence is on and from themselves. Hope there will be a clinic for every orientation without anyone saying it's unfair to their orientation. From unisex toilets to this level of segregation. Yet outrage that biological women want women spaces.

ItisWell22:
Is Dr Thulani in the first pic, male or female? 🤔

I was going to ask about that man. Which do you think?

shon146:
Keep playing, something were happen for my street for Abj Sunday morning also it happens just pray it didn't come to you before believing,

What happened?

ThiefnubuBandit:
A backward society in a 21st century world is a plague.

It's not the society. It is the actions of Nigerian men.

pongwa:
how? I'm talking Nigerian Constitution here

Check your constitution.

pongwa:
is that the position of the law

It's the opposite of your cultural ideas.

Farfalla:
Let alone the beautiful and illiterate girls. Even the ugly and illiterate girls get wifed, particularly if she is evil.

LMAO

pongwa:
educate me please

She's the owner.

pongwa:
whenever there are human beings there must exist a culture. Even your constitution is a culture in itself. When you say the house is hers, what does the constitution state

Visit any court and you will get to know she's the owner.

lexy2014:
how will CCTV curb "all these issues"?

Ask them again. CCTV maybe has a taser and vehicle for pursuit. As if CCTV has ever prevented crime.

What are you waiting for? Open yours to the public. Then come back and create a thread on your observations.

pongwa:
in whose culture? There is no Nigerian culture that permits a woman to do that. Prove me wrong

"Culture"? Are you ruled by cultures or the law? Why do you have a constitution? What are your courts for?

She owns that house, and there's nothing the OP and other culture bias people can do about it.

advanceDNA:
Who is this idíot.....
Local foul forming international....
Pple wey no get 200k per week for plane ticket wants to come and form posh.... This is fvnny

Embittered. Because of lack? It's a socioeconomic thing.

If you had such money for tickets weekly, you wouldn't have been giving nonsensical epistles to the OP.

advanceDNA:
Enugu to Lagos......Lagos to enugu....?? In one week??

Don't get me wrong, it possible...but it will be exhausting..........
It's not even safe jumping around the road in the current Nigeria.......

A little time apart is not so bad...will make u cherish every moment when u see...

Ghost of Hitler, deliver these boys.

Have you ever heard of something called a flight? No wonder a lot of you are misogynists. It's a socioeconomic thing.

ADURA123:
Good evening fellow NL members,
My story may be long but pls endeavor to read to the end so that you can make proper suggestions or advice.

I have been married for more than 10yrs now with beautiful kids, my marriage is one that many Young guy will wish to have, but along the the line I don't know what happened things begin to nose dive. In the last 6yrs I discovered that I struggle to make love to my wife, she will either tell you ohh, she is tire or she don't like sex much..this I have endured for all this years with no cheating.
Her qualities are
She can cook
She can keep the house clean
She can manage resources
And she is accommodating to my people
In all this years I have never cheated on her, proudly saying it coz my dad warned me of cheating on my wife rather I should divorce her and go for another wife.

My qualities are
I work and earn like about 700k net a month.
I give feeding allowance and personal total of 100k a month while I invest the rest on a project which she is aware of.
I don't drink or smoke
I don't keep late night
and I am the best friend to her and my kids.
Honestly having talk to her for over 5yrs on this issues of love making and she refused to change, then I have decided to yield to my dad advice and ask her to leave...she is not aware of this plan, but trust me it will hit her.
I allow her to do little job to have her own finance is not as if she contribute anything in the house, but she is claiming stubborn, I love her so much, it will hurt me to cheat on her, something I have not done since I got married to her.
I plan moving to a new place in February, and she doesn't fit into my plans.

My decision between now and December is
1 Avoid asking her for lobe making
2 Continue taking care of her so she won't suspect anything
3 when she comes close I avoid her.
4 February I issues divorce papers and give her like 1m to go get her life back

Is there anything more I can do for her?
Advice me pls...

Don't sort out your problems offline. Bring them to little boys, so they can spit on your wife for you and give you terrible advice.

ruffhandu:
Approach your relatives and summon her. She can remarry, but whe has to leave the former husband's household, go raise a new family in your new husband's house. Make it clear to her. And also find a way to reach out to your maternal uncles (her relatives) and summon her there too. Let your maternal uncles reach out to the new husband and read the riot acts to him. She cannot do what she wants to do, let her marry and go with her husband, not in her late husband's house.

Why can't she live in her own home? The emotional comments on this thread are pathetic.

Men supporting men in the mud.

Xkale1996:
how comes ur dad just die last year and your mother has started misbehaving anyhow

Guy no Greee as I tell you
Report them to human right

She has every right to remarry. And she is the rightful owner of the house. If the man needs to live with her, it's her choice.

Unless men really hate themselves, it shouldn't be a problem.

pongwa:
throw your mother out of your father's property once she remarries

It's her property.
She's not going anywhere. Let him go and build his own house.

efelicity:
I live with my mother, a single mother, since I lost my dad over a year ago and we haven't been having issues until recently
The problem with my mother is that she wants to remarry but I never wanted that because she planned to move in to the house my father built.

After a heated argument, she claimed the house as hers but I rejected! I didn't stop her from marrying any man but what I am against is moving the man into my father's house. More to that, she planned to open a business for her husband to be on my father's land. I know the consequence of allowing that to happen: he will later claim the land.

Since my mom met this man she stopped treating me like a son. One of her sisters told me that the man was disturbing my mom to send me out of the house so he can move in asap.

When I approached my mom with this, she cursed me because she believes I'm against her will.

How do I prevent this man from taking what belongs to me?

This appears childish.

Even if she doesn't live with him in the house your father built, even if they live on Mars to make you happy, he is automatically the co-owner of that property.

It doesn't belong to you. It belongs to your parents. And your step-father to-be is a parent. Irregardless of his motive. Unless you kill him. But you dare not.

So let it be. You don't want her happiness for your selfish reasons. You're a greedy son.

Geniemoi01:
I am sorry sir,but you'll be an idiot to follow the words of a woman. She doesn't mean you well at all! If you wanna build do so with your money from start to finish. She wants to contribute chicken change while planning her escape route with the house should you both divorce. She's already eyeing your future property. You better be wise. If she doesn't want to rent with you, let her go.

All this divorce fantasy, in Nigeria? Some of you have imbibed the red pill to the extent you've forgotten your patriarchal geography. As a seer on his wife, why don't you go ahead to tell him the exact date she will make her dangerous intent known and the date she will divorce him.

It is worrisome there are 15 idiots giving you likes.

Lol.

He looks unwell. He needs psychiatric help.

Unless it is an acquired taste.

Nigeriagood:
well I'm not him so I'm not pained👌🏾, just take care of your health sha

You are clearly a colleague of his, and you are pained by what happened to your bro. It almost feels like that could've been you that day. It's just that there was no "evidence" to get you arrested. Hence your noise about "evidence".

That is why you replied numerous times to one post, that is why you began to turn insulting.

"Absence of evidence is not the evidence of absence." A quote for the reasonable and wise to discern.

Nigeriagood:
ode 😁😁😂 you go cry tire no evidence 😂

You are not as sensible as his club and country who have taken positive action (which you are ignoring in favor of your ignorant ideas on "evidence", and that is why you are airing your unexposed views as wisdom.

You think they don't know that rape lines like demanding "evidence" are unreasonable? He is off the pitch. Suck on that.

Ode to infinity, you are.

Nigeriagood:
can you reason?(no offense 😉),there was evidence against greenwood and well he has reached a compromise with his girlfriend,the problem here is this are just wordings which can be fabricated maybe Anthony did it but without evidence there's no base for a crime,so until there's evidence of a tape or anything he's innocent and police can't do shit to him

You definitely aren't capable of reasoning.

And it is a waste of effort reasoning with a rapist/rape apologist.
Or a batterer/battery apologist. His club and country are by far wiser than you, in your ignorant state.

What you are posting as logic is simply the lack of reasoning and exposure. Red Pill/misogynist logic is stupidity. Please, don't express it beyond this forum. It's the only place such stupidity is seen as wisdom.