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Lol.

This is another picture in need of investigation.

And some useless juvenile boys will come here and claim that men gain nothing in marriage. Clearly she was being drained by a powerful suction drain husband. He must've gotten better in return. Terrible.

But she has the shape of a 37 or 47 year old woman. This news should be investigated.

Klass99:
After checking the post history of ify.jos, I think you're absolutely right.

Revealing info has been tweaked to conceal her identity, she knows forumites would have torn her to pieces if she created this thread with that ify.jos account.

Did she ever confess and apologize to her sister for what she did? That thread ran into 49 pages I never followed it beyond page 3, I was too appalled. The first baby daddy she ruined her sister's life for is no longer in the picture and he's not handling his responsibilities. Isn't karma a sweet thing?

You betcha this is a dead ringer for that account.

I would have said you should read entire the responses there, and then read the ones here given to you and Gboyeg'aD respectively. And then you will realize that you are dealing with the same person. Or their twin.

In that particular thread ify_jos was bragging about sex every morning. Here there is still the same anger and reference to lust. It must be karma. Or the world's best coincidence.

My sleuthing on this thread is... Migrating.

BigBashiru:
You are truly a savage. Men marry women who make their own moni for themselves and won't be asking him for moni.

But you are primitive. Women marry men who make their own money for themselves and won't be asking her what she's bringing to the table. Mostly men touched by poverty love asking that question. But they would be happy if their sister married a rich man without having to work for anything.

A man who cannot take care of his family is an infidel. If a person born male is looking for what a woman will bring to his table, then he is a doorknob.

dominique:
That user popped in my mind as I was reading her exchange of words with those guys up there. Both of them are very identical in style of writing and mannerism. However there are slight differences in the ages of their kids their baby daddies. Ify had her child at age 15 and the child was already about 4 or 5 as the time she made that post about her sister. Also she got pregnant with her second child for the same man as the first. If not for those two discrepancies, I would have pretty much concluded that both of them are one and the same. They're like soul sisters fr, they need to look for each other and exchange notes

What if there's a little tweaking in the narration? The info is fairly similar in terms of the OP ages. Activity in one account, inactivity in the other account. Mention of a mother. Use of ownership pronoun when referring to "my guy/husband". They react in the same manner and think too alike for two different people.

I was surprised nobody else was seeing the parallels.

@Eketem Try telling that to Christians. There are too many infidels happy to read such. A man who doesn't provide for his family is worse than an infidel. If the bible didn't say that, then it said nothing about women being submissive.

BigBashiru:
Bratislava the official term for you is a WHITE KNIGHT. A white knight is a person that defends feminist mandates with the hopes that a woman who reads his nonsense posts will like him for it and DM him. You hope by your posts to curry favor from women and potential get dates from the females - in other wards you are a white knight and a loser (a chronic simp). To the topic at hand, WOMEN SPECIFICALLY MARRY FOR MONEY and thats what most of them really want; some also prioritize spirituality in tandem with money but they will not marry a spiritual but broke guy.

Men marry for money. Read the thread.

Women have been marrying liabilities in men. But when it is men that are liabilities, they will tell the women that their future is bright, even when they are bringing nothing into the relationship. They will tell the women to build with them. They will get angry that they are moving with guys who spend more on them.

But from this thread and many others, it is clear that money is a criteria for men to marry women. Meaning that men are hypergamous and liabilities for actively looking for women who earn money. Men here cannot marry a broke woman, so who is fooling who with hypocrisy? Why should a woman agree to a broke or struggling man then?

Productivity indeed. Let's just agree that men are gold digging hypergamous tools. Exactly what they accuse women of being.

valentineuwakwe:
Men dont want to marry liabilities again...

Men don't like gold diggers, but they are constantly after women with money. Why don't you guys want to grow and build with the woman? Or maybe it only goes one way? Could this liability talk be nothing more than a mantra to make women lower their worth and slave away both at home and at work so that they will have some value in some men's eyes, while men don't do the same?

A lot of men are liabilities with only money. Nothing else to offer, a lot to drain. Yet they want a perfect, full package woman. A lot of double standards. But it's what men are known for. If women say they don't want poor liabilities, we will see a lot of abuses and hypothetical bright futures.

Liabilities indeed.

einsteine:
He asked who wants to work hard and the women quit.

He also fired a lot of people in useless positions.

A lot of those women were diversity hires anyway. He can't pay 44 billion for Twitter and not cut out some fat.

Really? He asked that? And women did that? Where's all this info from?

It's good that his diversity hiring doesn't extend to black men. They would be needless fat anyway.

Eriokanmi:
Musk could be gay in disguise. Moreover,in the tech world,you hardly have time to yourself so men can fill this sector more than women. No time for make up, seeing family or husbands, going on maternity leaves , etc. Full attention is needed. That's why IT guys always look simple all hands must be on deck. Mark Zuckerberg is a good example. You can imagine Facebook or twitter going offline for a few hours...billions will be lost

This isn't a good analysis of the lives of women in tech. Unless you're speaking for yourself. He's a man who uses and dumps women, so why would that be different in his company? It has nothing to do with men having "full attention", whatever you mean by that.

It's about skill, and they were good enough to be there in the first place.

Eketem:
Actually the bible didn't say this that verse has been used out of context


The chapter was talking about taking care of Widows and the poor within the family.
Because of how the early Church was set up doing charity, many people abandoned their widowed mothers and poor family members to the church to providing for.

The bible verse Actually says " anyone " and if you read well you will see where it speaks to the children and family members of the poor and widowed and not just men.



Give proper recognition to those widows who are really in need.(D) 4 But if a widow has children or grandchildren, these should learn first of all to put their religion into practice by caring for their own family and so repaying their parents and grandparents,(E) for this is pleasing to God.(F) 5 The widow who is really in need(G) and left all alone puts her hope in God(H) and continues night and day to pray(I) and to ask God for help. 6 But the widow who lives for pleasure is dead even while she lives.(J) 7 Give the people these instructions,(K) so that no one may be open to blame. 8 Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied(L) the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

If the bible didn't say that, then it said nothing about submission.

Magnoliaa:
And don't gaslight me, please. And most importantly, don't project on me.

You and I have an "issue". I did not care for who you were until you made a snide side remark about me on a food thread by C hannah and I came for your head, and plenty times too after that. Oh, yes, I do remember that far back.

My bet is that; YOU are actually the one in search of a love flame or life partner, no spin it on my head.

I have been noticing a radical change in your e-persona these days, I mean you even greeted Brati.sl.ava "good morning" in a chill way on this OP's first thread before you modified it.

Oh, yes, I caught that too. E shock you, abi?

And then you created a thread slandering broke men.

Me, I have always usually matched energies, so there are plenty times you can see me being a "sweet" girl, even tracing back to my early days on Nairaland. There is no and there will never be an overnight (and deceptive) change about me, so don't say definitive things about me.
There's nothing to see-through, this is all to see.

Like, hell yeah, I can blow hot; I can blow cool; I can be friendly; I can be harsh; I can be anything; I can make self-deprecating jokes and I can be brutally honest and confrontational. Whichever side you see and understand to be the truth is on you, abeg.

Now, having said that: did you also catch the comment where I said I was yet to have my first kiss?

Would you like to be the one to give me that experience?

You know, to figure me out in-depth?

Answer quick o; I get plenty guys for line like this.

Modified: I talk am. You don go upload one "expensive-looking" profile picture now.

Boiling hot is the middle name, please.

As for that...

GboyegaD:
Until proven, if he didn't sign the birth certificate and the child is born out of wedlock, then it is "mama's baby, papa maybe"

I never mentioned anyone to be the problem. My point has always been she should play her part of the responsibility.

Once a man doesn't want family responsibilities his next claim is that it's not his child. No wonder there are so many deadbeats. The fatherhood bar is very low and easy.

Her part of the responsibility that you're pushing for means she should carry the entire financial burden alone to prove she's the real mother of the child and that she birthed it via parthenogenesis?

[quote author=Klass99 post=118598507][/quote]You even managed a response to my post that was crawling up every wall in here. I'm impressed. This one is going the same way.

See how...

I support adoption, but only if the parents want that. I understand what you meant about preparedness for parenthood, and adoption when unprepared. But majority of people will never be ready (mentally, etc) for a child. Some are ready to struggle with their kids. That's great.

There's little anyone can do to control childbirth. Sex is the most powerful force on Earth, only after envy. People have children for different reasons and I've met some of the most outrageous such as a woman well below the poverty line who birthed 11 in the hopes that one of them would change her finances. Weirdly that worked out well for her today. Or the teen that had a child to "shame" her parents. Or the ones that just like children.

Having children isn't what causes hardship though, because I've also met homeless people that don't have even 1 child. Or formerly rich people whose kids grow up in poverty. Jesus said that the poor will always be with us. There will always be hardship. Everyone won't be middle class or elite. So... Behold this case. On the matter of children, I believe parents should birth them however they please. Because they are poor doesn't mean they cannot have what they want. The rest of us will foot the bill as good Christians. Or as semi-honest citizens.

What is needed is adult/parent education. How to bring a child into the world. Why to bring a child into the world. What to do with the child in the world. How to care for them and build them up. Are you ready to show them unconditional love? But it shouldn't bother posters much. It's not as if they pay taxes that go towards these kinds of things. They should focus on creating billboards that advice women and men to think carefully about unprotected sex.

Plus, planning meticulously for children is pointless as the life belongs to those children to do with whatever they choose. Regardless of where you birth them, they will become who they want to be. Many raised flowers that became weeds.

Klass, you need to click the "stop sermon" button.

I'm not going to comment on this thread again. But as a serial violator, I have.

ZUBY77:
I read about the suicide thread here yesterday and observed that all the people that Jumped into Lagoon are Yoruba people.
Now this again.
Please we need to find out the cause of all this.
Depression, hunger etc.
This is not a tribal matter though but there are tendencies to commit suicide in some places more than others.

Like Japan.

dontrulee:
The ladies I love dealing with the most are those with entitlement mentality!

If you come across me, I'll show you pepper ehn. Unfortunately I don't do ladies as much as I do them before. It's better to take care of yourself and put yourself first! Ladies will always come and go, but ensure that you're at the advantageous position!

That's alright, avenger. The devil doesn't need to do his work anymore. He has delegated it wisely.

Own a house at your own peril.

Sirqt5:
she's got two baby daddies or how many . she's the common denominator in all these , she's the problem

Search the user ify_jos and check if they are the same person. Specifically the thread where ifyj_os was 19 and destroyed her sisters life.

This looks like 2 years later.

They post eerily alike.

You are wicked enough to investigate the parallels.

Sirqt5:
Right . Peeps are only wasting time advising her . U gave her several very good advice on there 2 yrs ago . It was as if u could see into the future , tried to warn her . U , Freelane33 , Justbehave , Pmoye , n several others advised her on d thread well . Somebody on there said she will get pregnant and pregnant and pregnant again if she's not careful .All of u tried warning her . She didn't heed , insulted someone on there. She will open another thread end of next year , by then she b pregnant wit 5th child . 3rd or 4th baby Daddy loading

You sir, are very wicked.

Let's give her the benefit of growth.

Richy4:
We all know that she needs to take responsibilities, but is now the best time to hammer that on her head?..

Is there a tiny possibilities that U might be doing an honourable job of telling her what to do at the wrong time? that's just my argument..

No one is saying she shouldn't be responsible...Myself, I was shocked at what she was saying... It was as if I was reading a post of a woman from 1950's.. but again, she is young and pregnant, please excuse that..

when next you see her post in 3 months time, u are free to say whatsoever, she might reason with you then..

The forum is more useful for blaming single mothers and offering no advice to deadbeats.

At this point, the deed is done. She will still have the child. So what next? She has no choice but to follow her mom in their family business.

Klass99:
Okay ooo, but you would think the first child granny is taking care of now, would have been enough experience to teach her something. How they go from one child to two, then three and more in their condition/circumstances never ceases to amaze me. They think parenting is child's play?

Let's even assume that man was dead will she not rise up and do right by these children? That man is as good as dead to his responsibilities. Me, I like the idea of adoption especially when you realize early on (as a parent) that you lack the wherewithal and capacity for it.

We don't know if the runaway in question promised her he would do all the providing and she believed him. One thing is certain: he clearly saw she was not earning anything and went ahead to have more children with her. He knew what she was bringing to the table and was okay with it. She's not innocent for deciding to have a child with him, and he's definitely not either. In her religion and culture, he's the head of the home. Surely he knew all that and reveled in it.

The guy is gone. It's all the more reason why she should join her mother in their family business and help grow it. That way she puts in her effort and won't need to give them up for adoption. She can do it.

One thing she needs to do is grow to ignore these dangerously hot bad guys with huge schlongs and no iota of family in them. Those guys are a dime a dozen. They're all over the internet looking for vengine pics nowadays. Maybe in time she will. But she reminds me of a another user. Is she the user if_yjos?

Now that that's covered...

On the flip side, he's not dead, so why should she receive all the flack for his actions? He should be made to pay for his child. The aggression at single mothers being dependent is astounding. All the blame is hers? He shouldn't have to bring in all the money, because where in the bible is that written and that's not how relationships work, but now certain leaders in the campaign against her on this thread want her to bring it all in without telling us where in the bible it is written and if that's how relationships work? 20 years from now, the same people will side with him as he tells the children lies about why he left.

Majority seem angry at her that she wants him to take care of his children while forgetting that at the moment she is the one that is taking care of them without any input from the man, hence her rages. She's being responsible in her own way and should continue to do so. Her issue is that it's over her head. Who else should help her if not the one responsible for them?

Would you look at that sermon!

Fin.

GboyegaD:
Since we don't know the bolded, why are you keep acting as though the man is highly irresponsible?

Why have you decided that she's the problem factor in their relationship? We don't know how she came to be in that position, but..

A man is irresponsible once he has a child and refuses to take care of it. That is irresponsibility. Take it to any court.

GboyegaD:
Stop encouraging what is not. They should raise the kids together including financially. What is she bringing to the table as regards upkeep for the children?

She said she's bringing her mother's business to the table. And that Government welfare offices will be willing to help her pursue her matter.

From the looks of it, they (she and deadbeat) are religious people. At least, that's why she wants him to be the head of the home.

What is the runaway man bringing to the table, though? Did he equip her to help him? Did he not see she did not have employment when he decided to shack up with her and have a child between them? Then why would he expect her to suddenly have employment and be the one to financially handle his children? Why is he running away from his duties?

She's going to have to pick up the slack, but exonerating him from his responsibility and putting it all on her isn't going to make everything rosy. He should cater to his children, because clearly she's doing so in her own way. That's what she brought to the table.

Klass99:
The Brat .

At the bolded, she shouldn't be having any more kids period. Whether with responsible or irresponsible men.

Motherhood is not for everyone and she clearly lacks the mentality, resources and spine to handle it. It goes beyond fcking and giving birth.

Why do some women sabotage and short-change their lives like this? We need to make better choices with self care and self preservation in mind.

Klass de Klassik

I think she's a very young woman and not very equipped to handle what's happened, hence her anger. We don't really know how she came to be in this position and what the man told her before he ran off. But it is best she doesn't have any kids with another irresponsible man.

I know why I said so. The responsible are far and few between nowadays, so she will have to take time before she does that again till when she can find a man who isn't a deadbeat.

She can make a good mother. Growth.

Franciscabless:
Amen thanks I am not having anymore kids I need to focus on my life and make sure I deal with him well well for child support. Even if we will not be together anymore he should at least be taking care of his offsprings

He should take care of them. You aren't entitled for wanting him to take up his responsibility. After all, you didn't make the child by yourself.

But in the event that he doesn't want to be a man, you will just have to pick up his slack. Don't put your hopes on a man that wants to live without you, especially if you've tried talking to him about it.

Just follow your mom and help her out, grow your business together. When you can, improve your skills. It will be okay. Use the welfare you mentioned to bring him to order when you can and how you can. Don't let him get off easy then come back after 20 years to tell your children lies about why he left you. Document it. If it doesn't work out, just focus on your family.

NemoDatQuod:
When you talk about what the scriptures say, you should quote it. Else, I won't listen or respond. I don't have time for so called men of god.

You should also read my comments well. Maybe you will understand. I use the logical part of the brain I have been blessed with.

Search your scriptures and in doing so you will see what you don't want to acknowledge.

Logic be damned—this is "submission". Any talk of submission isn't logical, especially not from the person who brings it up. It is "scriptural" and it is just emotion and ego conflation for men and hangers-on to see submission as the silver bullet that solves all relationship issues.

A man who cannot provide for his family is worse than an infidel. - Guess where from?

Franciscabless:
It was my mum fault she choose implant , of course i I will take care of them along with their father by the time I take him to welfare they will deal with well well and he will provide by fire by force

Lol. This woman, "by fire by force".

This forum

May your God see you through. And don't have any more kids for any other irresponsible men, because you haven't yet learned to assess responsibility. Follow your mother to her business and everything will be alright.

GboyegaD:
Which law states that. I wonder how men date ladies like you though.

According to Nigerians, what does "head of the home" mean? Or it suddenly doesn't apply to finances? What is "submission", according to Nigerians, and why does it apply to finances?

NemoDatQuod:
You're a very confused individual. It is the same bible that you are quoting that mandated "mutual partnership" and that the man should "be submitted to and respected" and regarded as the head of the house. It was not man who decided that for himself. It's like someone said earlier: you take from the bible only what supports your point of view. You even go further and distort what the bible says for your own benefit.

It is women like you who are sounding the death knell on marriage.

You go to work everyday and you submit to and respect your boss at work, since you are part of a team with the aim to achieve results. Then you go home and you decide you will not submit to your husband who is also a member and leader of your "home team" which is seeking to achieve a goal.

God did not say anywhere that you should submit to your husband so that your husband will carry you as a liability and take care of you. He says you should submit to your husband because both of you are members of a team and there must be a leader in any team if the goals of the team are to succeed, just as you need to submit to your boss at work in order to achieve team goals. As women with your mindset are refusing to submit to team leadership, that is why marriages are crashing every second and we ourselves have decided not to bother getting married.

Just as He requires you to be submissive, He also has requirements for your Team Leader(husband). He should love you as he loves himself, listen to you and understand where you are coming from and take your interest into consideration in all things. It is your responsibility as a woman to do your homework before you get married and be sure the man you want to marry is going to be the right boss for you. When you indiscriminately open your legs and get entangled with a man who turns out to be a nightmare boss, you don't get to come here and ridicule God and men. You made that choice of a boss.

I know a number of friends who declined the offer of good jobs simply because they examined the individual who will be their boss before they took the job and decided they didn't want such persons as their boss. Do your homework and change your mindset. Stop twisting things.

God also said that if you a woman, does not work, you should not eat. You should go hungry.

England is playing Iran at the World Cup. So, today I have time for all of you.

A man who cannot provide for his family is an infidel.

Same bible says so. Why can't men read that part? Nowhere was it said that a woman should earn her keep by sweat.

It is men who are cursed to do that in that bible. So why should women have to toil the way you expect them to?

A lot of you only want the bible when you need a slave. Not when you need to be men. Submission isn't the part of the bible that teaches deadbeats to be men so it is pointless to drag women through what men should do for themselves to make themselves better.

Submission isn't the cure for deadbeatery.

Religious opiate.

Red pill baby daddy. Typical weak man.

He's not man enough and wants your mother to woman up to his responsibilities.

You should be blamed for not seeing him for who he is. He probably controls you with his emotional baggage. This is why women must have standards. Forget the nonsense that deadbeats post here: pick a man who will provide for your family.

If he's not able to, he's a doorknob.

elkharpone:
No Bad Dogs
Just Bad Owners

Anthem of dangerous dog breed owners.

UnusualEmissary:
But what drives them?

I thought dogs are supposed to be domestic animals...

Not all species were bred for human companionship.

And usually, the more foolish, reckless and inconsiderate TT a person is, the more pitbull-loving they are.