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Ilekokonit:
Even the bible INSTRUCTS this :- Ephesians 5:22-24 - Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

Are you a Christian? If yes, does submission to Christ feel like a burden or bandage?

Can you imagine Jesus hammering submission on the Church or telling the Church that 'He is the boss'?

Infact, if Christian men would follow that passage in letter & spirit, submission wouldn't be a hot topic in the Church.

ManOfSon:
It seems he's setting them up for failure. A husband is a husband (as in husbandry, if we understand what that means). He's not a boss.

Setting them up for failure how?

He spoke like a typical Yoruba father on hos daughter's wedding day; he also reminded Eazi that he is from a good home aka don't misbehave. Also talked about their genuine love for one another (a husband who loves you won't 'boss' you) and how they are both entrepreneurial aka (my daughter must keep growing with you).

He even started his story with how he bought two homes in Dubai for her wedding so the husband knows the kind of princess he married (I am sure he does).

I don't know why these urgent N2k NL boys are rejoicing or 'feminists' hyperventilating.

Haven't they attended a Yoruba traditional wedding before?

God bless their home. The ceremony looked so classy.

Pepperdemisback:
This is very sad. She had that child after 18 years of waiting. RIP.

Very tragic 😥 😔

May God console her and family. And also raise helpers like children for her & family.

Amen 🙏

Antiurchins:
Tinubu removed petrol subsidy which led to increase in transportation cost and virtually every other thing in Nigeria by x4.

Removed subsidy on tertiary education tuition fee for Nigerian students which led to increase in university school fees and he cunningly brought student loan, loan not grant.

Tinubu brought Telecom tax, this pushed data price up.


Tinubu wanted to implement bank tax but got paused.


Tinubu devalued Naira and unified our exchange rate which jerked exchange rate up and led to quadruple increase in commodity prices in Nigeria.


Tinubu removed subsidy on electricity tariffs and introduced band A, band B, C billing system which led to increase in electricity bill by x4.



Tinubu is introducing new tax law that will force many struggling businesses to start paying huge tax from 2026.


Tinubu has increased customs import clearing duty more than 3 times and now price of Tokunbo cars and other imported products are x 4 in price.


Tinubu introduced new vehicle ownership style whereby every owner of vehicle in Nigeria now pay to FG every year to renew the ownership of their car. So every year you pay Tinubu to verify that your car is still your car not that you sold the car to a new owner.


Tinubu is now introducing house insurance which will cause annual rent in Nigeria to increase by x2 so that people paying NGN2 million per flat in a year will now pay NGN3.5million to NGN4million once he implements the housing insurance policy and Una say this man called Tinubu should not be impeached before 2027?



Nigerians continue playing na my tribes man, e go soon clear for una eyes shocked

Well, he promised to reduce the standard of living, he is excelling at it.

reiddecuti:
The aim of this man is to kill humanity and he's quite doing well on that and his target is ignorant Africans.


The ignorant one will cheer this and call it science.

Why this guy is succeeding baffles me.

He has said his agenda, yet people keep partaking in it.

Na wa!

ambale:
See rich men na dem dey do am pass sef

Every little chance to act like a normal human being, them no dey dull am ooo

Cos their status don make them dey out of reach totally

You get it!

Hellisreal70:
From the comments, I can see the reasons why some ladies finds it so hard to see a man to marry them.
Out of wokeness and feminism, they have turned themselves to unmarriageable. Yet they will still need to humble themselves just to get sperm to become baby mama.

Culturally, biblically and even socially the roles of man and woman are outlined in marriage. And each know their roles.

Where in the Bible was it stated that a wife MUST pack her husband's plates?

Sammy5413:
From the comments I read here, all those saying the man should take the plate to the kitchen are insane and lacks discipline. During the time of our parents, the mother makes the meals, serves her husband and clears the plates when the husband is done eating. I sha blame some men who say they send the plates to the kitchen themselves after eating, they actually don't know who they actually represent in their homes. After God, you as a man you're next and don't let anyone fool and trick you into seeing less of yourself. This is exactly what these GenZ girls of these days want to turn you into. If you must pack the plate to the kitchen, it must be out of support not MANDATORY just as a man can still help his wife in washing dishes, cooking and washing clothes as well but not as a MANDATE!!!

Shebi the man is after God abi?

Jesus, who is God Himself, cooked and washed His disciples' legs as an example of service so they can serve others in their care.

Some women dey marry sha!

phemray:
Why then the woman need to marry a man? She should stay alone and allow men to rest and go to kitchen by self. I can't be spending on you and still be doing your known job you are trained of from cradle.
This generation ladies are very lazy and don't know how to cook reason they wanted men do Thier job.

@bold:

Means the moment she can spend on herself, you are no longer useful; no?

Tayorshd87:
You have actually slapped my face with this..

With all my life I love slim shady ladies but all have met in my life are oloshos 😢 so the one I finally marry was chubby but the wife material in her is 98% 🤔

Bro that's how I ended up marrying a statue I didn't like but d material in her is keeping us going we now 4years and still getting stronger 💪👍.

But sometimes I feel I haven't gotten to my Destination though 🤔

This thing called marriage ehn 🤔

@bold:

Sighs!

Nnamdipapa:
That is what I thought, I would forgive if she made a mistake, apologized and repentant but the dude is already meeting pastors for counselling, I am sure they would advise him against divorce like typical Nigerian pastors and ask him to pray about it.
He will have to ultimately make a decision as they are both avoiding each other at home.

He should remember he is not in Nigeria and has so much to lose.

Losing his marriage is just a tip of the iceberg.

Hopefully, she doesn't instigate him to do something brash/ crazy so he takes the fall.

Kobojunkie:
Na only for West Nigerian men dey kill their wives? 🥱🥱🥱🥱

It is a recipe for disaster even right there in Nigeria particularly with the incompetent and corrupt law enforcement with their many shoddy investigation practices.

I meant the husband is in trouble.

It feels like a gone girl scenario.

If someone doesn't want you anymore, beg to a stage and let them go.

Pootle:
why them no call tuface lol, i remember that year the argument between dbang and tuface i alwasys went for debang the kokolet now the argument between wizman and davido i still go for davido. life and time

Tu Face ke!

Abeg, let's give the marriage a chance to survive.

Sometimes, one has to behave like the Romans once in Rome.

An unrepentant cheating wife + family support + weird search history is a good recipe for disaster especially in the West.

He should lawyer up and get a divorce ASAP.

lymelyte:
She provides value. She is a jewel to David which a serious person will understand. Unlike, some girls that are liability..

What value does she provide?

That is not 'enough' for him to keep embarrassing her with his unfaithfulness in public?

It is one thing to 'brag' about your 'desirability'; it is another to drag your wife in the mud to do it.

If he wanted to feel himself, he could tell us how '20 year olds' call his wallet 'baby' without mentioning his wife.

But no, that demon must manifest.

Anyways, fairly-used mother of four has come to defend her darling horseband.

OZIOGU1:
Pls is the wife complaining?

Sometimes men are not wicked, they only find themselves in the hand of woman without value.

I am married and i call my wife who is a mother of 4 kids Inya, INYA in my native language means mother, that is the highest honor you can give to your wife, she is actually a mother to all of us in the house...so if the husband call her fairly use mother of 4, she might be okay with it coz that's the standard they operate in their home

Sadly, I concur with you.

The wife has come out to defend her husband.

Ishilove:
Love can make you do things you thought yourself incapable of.

The power of love

Hamachi:
Your points are compelling, but To Kill a Monkey might not be about offering answers or moral clarity—it may be about mirroring chaos, exposing societal contradictions, and holding up a mirror to a broken system.

Kemi didn’t fail to “show us what they could do instead” because maybe that wasn't the story she wanted to tell. Efe is representative of the hardworking, brilliant Nigerian youth, yes—but he’s also a metaphor for what happens when brilliance lacks guidance, systems fail, and desperation replaces direction. The tragedy is intentional: it’s meant to be frustrating. We don’t get “solutions” because in real life, most Efes are navigating a similar fog.

As for the women, maybe the point was to show everyone’s hypocrisy and complexity—not just Efe’s. His wife taking the offshore money after condemning the source is the contradiction of survival. Anita might have had her own agency and motivations we weren’t shown because, again, this isn’t a moral tale—it’s a maze.

Even Mo’s seemingly shallow investigation could be Kemi’s jab at institutions that don’t really care about truth—only headlines and arrests. The same applies to the lack of resolution with his sleazy supervisor or his daughter’s choices: they are threads left loose, like in life.

Yes, it could have been executed better—more depth, more inner dialogue, more clarity. But maybe what you call “poor execution” is actually deliberate discomfort. Maybe To Kill a Monkey isn't a guidebook—it’s a warning.

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Thank you for the shift in perspective.

"But maybe what you call “poor execution” is actually deliberate discomfort. Maybe To Kill a Monkey isn't a guidebook—it’s a warning."

Hmmmmmmm.

P.S.: the overall post was a very good read.

Validated:
Op, have you been to Redemption Camp lately?
If not, please go there next time there is a progamme. GO said the infrastructure is now overstretched and creating spillover hold up in traffic. The water system and sewage system can no longer accommodate the surging crowd.
Pastor Adoboye, hate him or like him has done extremely well. I do not think he is hungry. If your father, brothers or sisters, uncles and aunts are not among the billionaires donating, how is that your concern?

@bold:

Very true, I agree.

However, I have a question:

If members/ sons/ children donate for EVERY project, what is RCCG/ GO using the funds generated through offerings and tithes for?

CADAM, their rehabilitation center for drug addicts was soliciting for funds.... so the funds don't go there.

There was a time the management of RCCG wanted pastors to donate to 'sponsor' the children of elders to Redeemers' university.... so they don't use church funds to subside running the school & scholarships.

Pastors are not well paid; infact, pastors pay for their own life insurance and the mission discourage young pastors from.entering the mission full time; they rather part time pastors who have the resources to run the church.

What exactly is RCCG using the trillions they generate each year in titles and offerings that they have to solicit for funds for EVERY project?

Yorubastardz:
In as much as I hate gay
Evolution will always happen there is nothing we can do about it.

Back in 2000
If a lady wear trouser it was looked at as OS. I remember vividly how a woman wearing trouser was seen as OS
Now girls wear trouser to work to church it is now normal.
They even wear far worse revealing clothes now.

It's called Cultural evolution
With time gays will be openly accepted.
There is nothing you can do about it

If you don't accept it the next next generation will accept it. There is nothing that you can do

Wearing trousers and homosexuality are two different things.

The Bible is very very very clear on its stance as regards homosexuality.

Israel5:
She's almost 12 now.

So your son is 11.

If she thinks a 12 year old can do proper chores, an 11 year old can do also.

Na wa for men allowing trash in the name of 'let peace reign' as long as it doesn't directly affect them.

One would think they are so considerate and easy to deal with.

The OP knows what the wife wants to achieve. As long as it is doesn't directly inconvenience him, he will play the ostrich.

If you can't protect that girl, please send her back to her family.

Happy birthday Papilo,

Beauty of using football age; it never leaves you

Pygmalionn:
I watched a full grown Kanu play for Ajax when I was in Junior secondary.
And now I'm almost the same age with Kanu
It's either time-travelling or Something is wrong with me 😂😂😂🤣🤣

@bold:

It might be both

ddippset:
Normally Uzodinma nor get sense..

He lacks emotional intelligence and tact.


If he had sense he would have hosted the players of Imo state origin.
That would have made more sense devoid of criticism.

Hosting a particular tribe smacks of ethnic bigotry...

I was going to ask if it was all Imo state players or Igbo players.

If it was Igbo players, it was very unwise of him (To put it mildly).

dollytino4real:
ok, if u divorce, u will remain single till u die n if u remarry u are committing adultery and it is sin and sinners will go to hell. So those are some of the reasons we stay

I am interested in this conversation.

Ok, do you think that God wants you to stay in an abusive marriage? Or what is your definition of abuse here?

Nnamdipapa:
Ah, no be small thing o. I once got an urgent call from school from my daughter, na so ran from the office to go buy pads, drove 30minutes to her school.