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werisetogether:
And he is confident enough to declare this in public?

The ineptitude is on one side.

It is the shamelessness that baffles me

You ruled for 8 years sans your military rule and did not deem it fit to build one hospital capable of treating you and your family.

Not one. If it will be for only the 1% of the 1%

You also can't claim that there are no Nigerian doctors capable of treating whatever was wrong.

Condolences to your family and friends.

Mindlog:
And the side chick eventually gave him the peace of mind he yearned for, as he is now "resting in peace".😂😂😂

As in, everlasting peace!

Kobojunkie:
The man left you with three kids. Better buckle down, check your account and his, and ensure he didn't send anything else you all will need there in the UK to his girlfriend in Nigeria. Now is not the time to mourn but time to be pissed. You can mourn after you have made sure all of your documents, accounts, and pennies are accounted for.

True.

If he travelled all the way down to Nigeria to cheat, she might not be a girlfriend but his wife.

id4sho:
This nonsense happens only in christian homes. Muslim go bring another wife 🤷

When he has not finished husbanding the one he has.

Abi a man who can't take care of one wife will be capable of taking care of four wives same way comfortably?

I guess it is boy maths

NotOfThisWorld:
Lmao @ "Happy birthday, iron lady".

Lmao @ how have been with him since he had nothing till now he still has nothing but he shamelessly tells them how i can endure anything."



Don't date or marry broke men, you no hear.

The worst part is that when he blows, he probably would not see the wife as deserving of soft life except he genuinely loves her (?) or reposition herself from understanding wife.

It is then that she is no longer his 'type'.

Merry100:
Many women can endure hardship and tolerate a lot of the tantrums men throw. But physical violence and infidelity? Those are deal breakers for most.

You are not showing any kind gesture, yet you are violent. You will learn a lesson. Haven’t you seen men who come online throwing tantrums because their wives left without saying a word? Or those whose wives secretly applied for a visa and flew out of the country without any prior notice?

If you are serious, why are you jawjawing with someone who is incapable of grasping the topic of discussion?

I have learnt that people knowing you are capable of gbas gbos when required makes them sit up.

In essence, be kind and not nice.

Ishilove:
So much ado about proposals.

I see ignorant people talking about desperation, meanwhile this proposal things is a western construct. If after a month of dating you don't have a clear direction of where this relationship is headed then I don't see why are on a relationship. Most of these so-called relationships are just opportunities for people to fornicate. When two people have a common goal, there is no need for this so called proposal. A simple "when can I come see your people" is proposal. No need for all these nonsense drama about rings and "will you marry me?" If you won't marry him then what are you doing with him?

'When can I come and see your people' or 'Give me your daddy's number' or 'when will your parents be at home' actually sound more respectable than the OP.

Proposals don't have to be 'go down on one knee with all the romp & fluff' or public however, it should be done with decency and a manner that shows that the man genuinely desires to build his life with that woman.

The OP sounds like a charity case.

Acidosis:
Men will sleep with anything and anyone and then begin to issue memorandum of curses against other men just to scare them away from their wives. Una too funny. It's always funny how the curse is always for the man sleeping with a married woman. Never the married woman or the married man sleeping with other girls. Quota system gods. 🤭

If men sleeping with married women are not cursed, how would they deter other men from sleeping with their wives?

JetStar:
Talk is cheap. Make dem first apply to strigent rules to you first. Then we go know.

When I see the way people defend rubbish in Nigeria I get to understand why slave trade worked in Africa and why black people refused to end it. In fact, it took the might of the British navy to end it.

@bold: this!

Imagine peeps calling the nonsense above, fair?

If LASUTH was giving them dress code, how to conduct themselves with dignity, resumption time, number of leave days applicable etc., that is discipline.

Someone said because LASUTH is in high demand, it is OK to set such rules.

Na wa!

OlujobaSamuel:
When I served in AkwaIbom, what we were told is that the organisation we are to work for will provide accomodation, and in cases where they don't have, there will be allowance in lieu of accommodation, so I don't understand why this organisation is seeking for corpers' that they have no provision for.

Gbam!

If you cannot provide for the corpers, outrightly reject them.

bikefab:
The rules are very fair if you ask me. It aim to instill some sort of discipline in those corps members. Standard practice

The rules are fair?

No accommodation, no payment, coming to the hospital four times a week with N77k monthly in this Tinubu's economy in Lagos?

The above is fair to you?

Aisha needs to wait this one out.

If the goal is to unseat Tinubu and APC, then all parties should drop their egos and pick the two candidates with the highest influence to win.

If it is to have 'aspiring president' on their CV, then they should go ahead.

And this is not to Obi alone. I hear Amaechi dreams of presidency; he can start a party at his backyard.

Whatever, they are doing, they need someone that can pull the North.

Gracious3105:
A rich friend once said, “When you have money, you’ll realize there are things it can’t buy, you can only try. And it’s even more painful when you know you have the resources, yet still can’t get what you want. That’s when you begin to value hope and even being poor, because at least when you were poor, you had the hope that if you had money, you could have gotten it. That hope gave you the strength to keep fighting and pushing for something better. Sometimes, it even gave you peace of mind—especially when you believed the thing was just out of reach. But when you’re rich and still can’t get it, you start to feel worthless. Before you know it, you may even turn to drugs.”

Then a friend replied, “ King Solomon this too is vanity.” 😭😭😂😂😂

Hmmmmmmm!

This is gold!

It is.very frustrating when you have the money to do something yet it is impossible.

Exousiang01:
Did you find out your wife was an introvert after your wedding?

Are you asking us for an advice on how to convert your wife to an extrovert??

You are obviously an extrovert, now how will you feel if your wife suddenly ask you to become an introvert??


You are a clear example of why we discourage children from going into marriage.

You should attained some level of maturity before going into marriage

@bold:

Hahahahaha haha!

GloriousGbola:
The moment he spoke about women being on top during sex I tuned out.

Like!

That line gave away the intent of his write up...

IjeBos:
I'm sure this is a contrary take.

This is both their fault. People don't change because they get married. If she liked to travel before they got married the husband should have known that and planned for that when they got married. And if she knew her husband wasn't the type to travel she shouldn't have married him.
Kids are expensive and complicate everything and that should have been discussed as well.

My g/f loves to travel. She was doing it before she met me. So, I make sure we do trips, though I'm sure less than she wants.
The desire to travel doesn't make one ashawo (my g/f makes her own money) or a street person, and can also be a sign of an inquisitive mind (she speaks 4 languages). The last trip we spent an afternoon at a historic town and an hour in a historic Catholic shrine, looking at the art on the walls and listening to its history as she took notes on her phone .

Just giving a contrary take.
But this could also be her saying she regrets that she married a poor man.

I firmly believe that people's posts tell you their background, income class and exposure to life.

A woman regrets marrying her husband because she hasn't travelled since she married him.

You don't question why she married a man not keen on travelling if she loved to do so.

He is talking about oloshos and what not.

It tells me the OP and his cronies are not within the tax bracket to understand the woman.

To the woman, marriage is toooo long a time to patch or hide legitimate desires.

If you loved to travel and have been to 7 countries, I expect that a fellow traveller would be on tbe top of your list.

Since you married a mountain that cannot be moved, roll him gently to the next country or climb on him to see further than your immediate environment.

Streamz:
The girl is too poor for the guy. The guy should date his class

39 Characters still needed to Fulfill Se.un's requirement for posting on Nairaland going forward.

A guy wants an on-demand sex machine and pays for BBL when there are a number of girls with BBL already?

Perhaps his juju priest told him that the girl is his destiny helper.

The ROI is not worth it if it is just sex.

Except he is a psycho who is thrilled with literally building a woman to his taste.

32 years of relation/situationship/'what are we'?

I wonder how old they are now.

Congratulations to them.

chukkystar:
So it's possible to say that America wants the increase of HIV then. Cos they had been several cures but they prefer to sell their prevention and functionality drugs. Now that they have removed aid for prevention then the demand for functionality drugs after HIV will increase..

Is it America that is telling peeps to have irresponsible sex?

Trump ti daran o!

Soon, he will be the cause of children on the streets.

Since when did a woman saying she wants to marry an active Christian and a tither become an issue?

Her standard isn't money, looks, ambition, bloodline etc. but closeness to God and bitterleaf FC still have issues with it?

You guys sure have loads of bile in you!

Tufiakwa!

Bossjakande:
Am a certified marriage counsellor wit over 7 years experience . Av cancel over 25 couple before marriage in church and online. I also mentored youth about sex and relationship. Send email to my website for advice and to cancel. #Marryonce#Marryright

Eku cancelling

You can only be a canceller anyways

Fiscus105:
The way some husbands doing outside with mistress and girlfriends, if they can be doing 1/10 of it at home, marriage won't be parking up like park of card.

You will see a married man, that would be complaining and lamenting that he too preoccupied to feed and shelter his family, but the same busy husband would create chance to carry girlfriends to malls and different places.

IF COUPLES IN MARRIAGE, CAN BE TREATING THEIR SPOUSES, THE WAY THEY WANT THEIR SON/DAUGHTER TO BE TREATED, SOCIETY WOULD BETTER.

💯

Very very very correct!

Toor.

They want to reap what they have not sown.