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dettolgel:
Been waxing strong for years. Focusing on raising kids and that is very demanding and exhausting. I may raisd kids late in life and will never have the luxury of time to resurrect old habits

I pray so for you and her.

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Arostar2023:
Common, it's quite obvious that I am talking about men not women. Everyone knows about women and menopause, so that's a foregone issue. There are things in life that are situation specific, this is one of them. What works for me , may not to work for you. That's it... you can chose to make your babies, when you can't tell your left from your right. That's your choice...

Women and menopause have nothing to do with what the person you quoted was saying.

50+ (except there is a delay) is too old to have a child for a man. You no longer have the strength to bring them up as required.

Also, except you have an early retirement, people get busier as they grow till they retire.

dettolgel:
Well well well variety is the spice of life. When I eventually hang boot then I don't have any excuse to stray, to be frank at this moment it doesn't move me anymore. My current woman now, knows that and she is very happy I got that shit out of my system before settling down. I have friends that got married way earlier and I know that on low key they still step out once in a while, I am not judging them it is their life as long as they are fine with it, mine is to be a friend to them not a priest .

Now I am the one grooving my lady showing her the world as I saw it as a young man. I thank God for life, I have seen things and I have done things and it doesn't move me anymore.

So each to his own.

@bold:

Let's talk when the excitement of this new lady wears off and you default to old habits.

joseph1832:
Respect sir.

I've often been lampooned and ridiculed here since 2016 for being 40 years old. Even till today, it hasn't stopped. Lol.

Once again, respect my good sir. 🙏🙌

So you are 49yrs old now?

Let me continue from where they stopped

iammarvellux:
Op this what Faith can do and strong believe in the word of God. As I was reading through your write up, that point where you said when you fasted and prayed with your wife, the sperms count improved but not as desired. What struck my heart at first was that's the solution if you had continued in prayers and fasting. It then bring me to a prophet of God in the bible who prayed for rain and it seems nothing is happening, he prayed again seven times and sent his servant to go check out the weather seven times, it was on the seventh time his servant came with a report that the clouds just formed but look little like the hand of a man, he prayed and asked his servant to tell Ahab to to run with the chariot, that its going to be a massive downpour which did happened.(1 Kings 18:41-46 then chapter 19 : 1-


I also had a similar experience like yours, when I was courting my wife to be, I did told her, I don't want to get her pregnant before I pay her bride price or do the needful. Fast forward, I did the needful got married in 2015, waited for kids nothing came and was like what's happening, I prayed and asked God its time to start putting to bed and nothing still happened. We both prayed and went for prayers. One year passed. I was desperate, we went for prayers and counseling at a Pentecostal church, the woman of God told me that we will have babies, that shouldn't go for any tests, I shouldn't fast that my body can not carry it as at that time, that even though I go for tests I would just be wasting money for drugs and tests. That I should keep that money. I later discovered that the woman of God was also selling some nice baby clothes, I and my wife patronised her, got some baby clothes and also held on to it as a point of contact in prayers.

I didn't obey her, i went for a sperm test and was given a particular day to come for the result but God did something that struck me.

On the day I came, the lab man told me I had a low sperm count, and even gave me a list of medications I should commence with indeed it was expensive, we don't have such money and even opted to borrow from our loved ones. At a point curiosity took a part of me, and I asked the lab man to also run a check on my wife because she came with me to the lab also. At that time she complained of feverish conditions, he ran malaria test and I said to him pls also run a pregnancy test on her also. The lab man laughed and said to me young man, you know you have a low sperm count go get your drugs first but I still insisted for the pregnancy test. He did it and asked us to wait for result. When the man came out, He shouted CONGRATULATIONS... at first I was shocked, then I asked him for what sir, he said your wife is pregnant.

Wow I jumped to my feet in excitement. Then he said to me that if he has not been a born again Christian was he would give me a negative result and will also collect huge some of money from me and will terminate the pregnancy without me knowing. He said its a practice some lab people do. I shouted. And indeed he was right. I said this MUST BE GOD, though I had low sperm count but pregnancy came by miracle, I then remembered what the woman of God told me also.
I could have wasted a lot of money but God had my back. I broke the news to the woman of God and she said I told you but you almost could have wasted that money yet the word of God stands.
It took me two years though before my kids came, first it was a girl, then the boy came, now I have four kids two boys and two girls. I don't want to go on again, don't know how to stop it. I told God am OK.

Why am sharing this is to encourage you the reader, you may be passing through this issue of child birth, hold on strongly to God, don't give up at the end you will be Victorious. Amen.

Op thanks for sharing.

@Bold

Osanobua!

Peeps actually do this?

Nnamdipapa:
Genital circumcision and painful intercourse leading to no-existent libido.

As a Christian brother, it was no sex before marriage. Hehehehhe

I followed your story and really understand your frustration....

You worked hard(and kolokolo) from a young age, married very early and should have enjoyed the fruits of early marriage which includes early rest and flexing with your wife earlier.

Did you ever consider sexual counselling and therapy? It is not too late though.

Also, lead your home spiritually so she is under your spiritual leadership which amongst things will correct her over-religiousness.

Nnamdipapa:
Second WHAT.

I am trying to escape one marriage and you are suggesting another.

I will give anything to be single with FWB. I will never marry again. It has very little value to a man at this point for me.

Sorry, I found this very very very funny 😁

dettolgel:
Well if you married late as a man and you didn't have fun or build anything tangible while single then you probably would have been better off marrying early.

The reason for marrying late would best be to see the world and build a sustainable life. Forget what people say about retiring early and having fun. There is no fun at old age, you will not travel much different ailments for most of them. Falling asleep every 30 mins even when they manage travel they can't even do much. Just sit around in bus while being driven, can't stay out late can't grove at night.

If they forget their blue pill no knacking for them, their wives are already too tired to be knacking like mad

Guy between the age of 22 and 40 for a guy that is your peak you should be able to travel the world, date women across boards attend raves and Bleep like mad. Once you marry and kids start coming as a man your life is over. As for women that solidifies their lives.

Women are built differently, they peak early and would convince men to slow down with them and before the man will notice otilo. That is why some randy ones will start running around outside to catch a glimpse of what they missed.

Life sweet sha. Imagine waking up to fresh young kpomo for Santorini. Then walk around the beach at night she no wear pant... The next summer you dey Mallorca with a different babe same cycle. Arriving hotel room very late from the beach, knack till your third leg begin pain you. Some nights you go attend raves when you no know the organizer.

Every weekend groove dey ground to attend it you dey mobile get EU kpali and small extra change, bro you be machine. Hiking with friends person most collect prick for forest. Go for long walk with a female friend you go shift pants. Guy youth is a blessing and please enjoy it responsibly while you can.

If to say you marry na normal vanilla waka you dey waka. Normal vanilla holiday no kukere walka. Even if una run amok chances dey say within short time pikin don show once pikin show church don close.

Watch your parents they stay at home all day watching Africa magic morning till night Monday through Sunday. Even when they come abroad to visit you they stay indoors all day. The best they could do is stroll to the city center. The sad part is that their kids are so engrossed in their work and raising their children that they also don't even know how to groove let alone the best places to take their parents to.

@bold:

Apart from the different women in your scenario, what stops you from having that with your wife?

folake4u:
More reason I will be very selective with the omelette chef I give my eggs to. Masha Allah.

NL doesn't allow only emojis anymore.

So my era of one emoji post is over

ChengHun:
As a woman if you behave well and relate well with your husband and your in-laws, you wouldn't have any problem. You will start having problem the moment you start disrespecting and competing with your in-laws.
Make your in-laws your friends, love your mother inlaw the way you love your mother.
Remember, your mother in-law used her entire productive years to raise your husband.

And disrespect of in-laws (if true) justifies this demonic behaviour?

And someone was defending you guys a few posts later that men are not that demonic

Pharaoh4rin:
Some ladies misbehaves, disrespects and are so rude to their parents that lay curses on when they'll get married. Some mothers will tell their daughters that that the sorrow you caused me today, you will witness it 10 times over when you marry.
Karma is Bae. Some horrible experiences by this gender is an inherited curse. Men are not this demonic.
I'm just saying.

@bold:

They are just demonic agents to mete punishments

Fearurcreeator:
A man you build with wont treat you this way. I say it to you . When be say na ready made una want so he will treat you like trash , and again to those crying mother inlaws , when their own to marry them.dey worse pass mother laws... People wey naturally wicked. You don't know them until the position for power you go fear.

@bold:

That is a lie of the devil!

A mam will treat a woman depending on how he values her. If he loves her, he will treat her like diamond whether she was Barbara the builder or not. If he doesn't, even if she built with her blood, he will justify getting a replacement.

Besides, most men do not like Barbara the builders after the building phase. That's why they get sweet sixteens they can bugga for. If the man really loves the Barbara, he turns her to his sweet sixteen.

Peakdesign23:
Married men's greatest r£gr£t about marriage: you could learn from this too. Separation is better than divorce, I love that.

It is nice to see that the regrets are bore out of their shortcomings.

There is hope after all.

AJSfan:
It is personal revelation not doctrine. God didn't say he will kill his son but that his son would die because God sees the end from the beginning. Who knows the events that would have led to that?

@bold:

These are two different statements with different meanings.

One is a threat/punishment, the other is a warning.

It is well with him and his son.

Considering one has seen/heard stranger things....

The story might be real.

Offpoint1:
No man on earth is capable of doing that... Nothing comes between a man and his kids.

The story is bullsheeeet

@bold:

Even you, don't believe this

Shimran:
Surprise.
No any attack of child marriage stuffs. It's only applicable to Muslims

Multiple standards!!!

You are the one trying to be funny.

One, multiple posters have complained about their age.

Two, these are two children getting married. Not a child and an ancestor.

Onegai:
I don't know if you can get HIV from clippers (it's possible sha).

But I do -know that almost 20-30 years ago, when HIV awareness was just spreading in Nigeria, my sibling was one of 2w w Dr's that was part of the newly formed HIV 22 unit at LUTH.

And it was filled with widows and some infected children.

But mostly widows of unfaithful men. Their husbands had either developed full-blown AIDs or had passed away.

I will never understand Infidelity. It is stupid and pointless, expensive and frankly not worth it (Nigerians, male and female, are all bad at sexx. Y'all lack the freedom and creativity. Even other Africans are better than us. Y'all don't even have sexx appeal).

@bold:

🤣 😂 🤣 😂 🤣 😂

DrAkpa:
And she is dating married men now I believe

And?

Hezzyluv:
Truth be told, It's a honor for him to meet Mr. president. Hate Tinubu or love him, same goes to over 90% of us here when privilege to see him one on one.

Very true.

bigpicture001:
May is just foolish... Sh should start to display a man.. get pregnant and have a bby..

First to do no dey pain.. na last own dry pain pass.. and sh should remove Edochie from her surname....

May should get pregnant, carry the baby for nine months, give birth and start the process of raising another child to 'get back' at Yul?

And how does May having another child today affects Yul? How does it get back at him?

Angelfrost:
She is running her own company with solid endorsements... Has her children with her, and can befriend any man if she desires.

What did she lose exactly?!!

She was supposed to be better off as a co-wife to an average Nollywood (Asabawood) actor?!!

Even Bill Gates, Elon Musk and Jeff Bezos wey their individual wealth big pass Naija, their wives divorced them and moved on.

You Nigerian men with your overestimation of your value to the world

SMH!!!

@bold:

This!

AK481:
Moral of the story : don't let anybody push you to divorce your husband .

Live will just go on ,while you will become side chicken to another man's husband .

Maybe the wife rather be a side chic than be cheated on

It is her choice.

Contrary to the sakamaje you feed women with, a side chic has the better part of the man.

Who doesn't want all the goodies without the responsibilities?

omooba969:
Guy-man just dey load this woman steady.

May don lose o.

Strong something!

What did May lose apart from her son?

Great answer.

Kaydra9:
Hello, I read your post about signs of feminine women. So what if the feminine woman is dealing with a man who tries to manipulate and she’s being stubborn towards him due to that..
that’s not feminine? Also, what do you consider feminine job/career titles?

Sorry, just seeing this today

How has life been treating you?

Do you still have same questions?

Modified: this was actually your only post it is well.

Omo ologo, carry on! 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏

Onatounkiki:
Does being a Christian stop one from marrying as a second wife? Are there not men of God who married more than one wife in the Bible?

Toor!

ufotunang:
.. those men disobeyed God instruction and commandments..the bible says in Hebrew 13:4..let marriage be held in honour among all..let the marriage bed be undefiled..for God will judge the sexual immoral and adulterous

And Leviticus 20:10 says..a man should not have adultery with another woman or another man's wife..both he and the woman will be put to death because of adultery

Oh well!

You are very serious then.

You are right, the Bible frowns against such madness.