₦airaland Forum

ufotunang:
...but the bible is against it

Exceed15:
Keep denying ur husband sex o.. ur eyes go clear soon

Onatounkiki:
I think he's good for me
We've bonded so well that sometimes I don't feel he's married
Our relationship has been mostly distance since it started

Onatounkiki:
Good day, I'm a lady of 29years, I have a married suitor who sincerely wants to marry me.
I have known him for years and I have always known that he loves me. We started seeing each other last year , his wife knows about us so his children and they accepted me wholeheartedly. I have spoken to his mum and sister too.

I told my family about him and he's willing to come over to see my parents anytime they are ready but my family hasn't agreed yet. Mind you, we've not had sex but this man checks everything I have ever wanted in my husband.

Is there anything wrong in getting married as a second wife

Note: We've not had sex and we are both Christians

TheChameleon:
Nothing is wrong with PDP...

People just grossly underestimate Bola Ahmed Tinubu, even his supporters.

I am sure even Remi, his wife doesn't fully understand him.

People are putting the blame solely on Atiku... but who else can PDP turn to?

Bukola Saraki? Or who? Tinubu will flog all of them mercilessly.

Just wait patiently till 2031. Only God can remove Tinubu no one else.

Someone who mocked a sitting President for being a serial loser and crying.

Someone who flogged President + Vice President + Senate President + Party Chairman and CBN Governor COMBINED.... is a man to be feared

A Don

tunapawizzy:
Even the Tina Mba in her advice still said “See, the signs are always there. Don’t ignore it. Watch him, watch her.
And that is true, most times people are not paying attention to the most important things. ( i said most times, not always)

A man that will tell u to stop doing your craft, would have [
lovingly told you while dating, i dont like the stress you're going through, I want you to rest and enjoy my money and make me pamper you. He is all about you enjoying enjoying enjoying, not so much about your career- nothing along the lines of "i cant wait till you become a Director at your company, I cant wait till you become Best Actress in Nigeria- Most babes will see that as, woow he is intentional, he adores me -and Yes that is true, that sounds like it, but if u listen deeply, there is an undertone of what may come down the road. Is he using his money to pay for your 20m vacation instead of paying for your professional exams, or sponsoring your movie as an actress.
Marriage is sacrifice, Love is sacrifice yet people dont want to have the hard talk with soemone they want to go into marriage with. In my opinion people dont really change.

tunapawizzy:
I see some young ladies using this advice to console themselves-shouting good advice
-U no collect advice from omotola jalade
-U no collect advice from Omoni oboĺi
-U no collect advice from mercy Johnson
-u no collect advice from chioma chukwuka
-u no collect advice from Dakore egbuson
-U no collect advice from adesuwa etomi
-U no collect advice from Linda ejiofor

Na Tina Mba single mother of 2 advice dey enter your head. The ground you choose is the ground you must sleep on. The calabash you shape holds the water you drink

HaneefahRN:
Then don't go and marry an actress or one that acts the kind of roles your dislike. Simple

Diligence:
This is when Ace Actress Omotola tosses this note into dustbin & tells U: there is life after acting. Learn from her template...

Dogalmighty17:
I don't think a divorced mom of 2 is the best person to advise anyone on marriage.

ReacherSaidNoth:
Transportation 10k

Jughead29:
Am sure if you check this lady's bag you will see some toys that will amaze you 😂

Eriokanmi:
Not again. All these DNA brouhaha should stop. I understand how we men feel after finding out we're not the biological father of our children. But sincerely, would you now send away all those children you've been fathering with such great bonds? Don't hurt those innocent children, send the woman packing instead. Accept them and continue to play your fatherly roles. What if you're the main problem here but the woman was only trying to cover you up, even though her decision or approach was very wrong?

Several men in Nigeria today are impotent, according to a recent shocking revelation by my friend whos a gynaecologist. Men drink all manner of nonsense and lived very dirty lifestyle before getting married. By the time they begin shouldering their responsibility, they'd try and try and nothing would happen. The woman is okay but the man's sexual life is in ruins. Nobody was there when you were taking kolos, energy drinks and weird stuffs to enhance your performance. Some guys can sleep with several women in a week. The more you do this, the more you are at risk of infections that could end up ruining you.

If men are OK, their women won't go outside to have kids as most women prefer their husbands father their children. I know of 2 ladies who have been married for years. One of them is my close friend. We never had anything together, just friends. She confided in me that her husband is impotent but the guy always differs. She had to force him to the hospital one day and kasala com burst after seeing the result. If I wanted to get her pregnant, I'd have achieved that with ease, long before they visited hospital cos I'm her confidant and she had jokingly pushed the idea to me once, which I jokingly rejected too. She has everything, beauty, stature, shape and character. But what's bad doesn't have 2 names. She's still without a child as I speak.

I had an uncle who's impotent too. He had hepatitis. The wife had seduced me stripping her cover clothes when sleeping on a sitting room couch one night, my uncle I was staying with travelled. On getting to the sitting room after waking up to pee, I saw her, she pretended as if she was fast asleep, she was even supposd to be in her room. I deliberately hit my leg on one of the stools, thinking the sound would wake her up, na lie. God is my witness to this, if I'm lying. My thing was stroke hard. She turned her backside towards my way. I paused a minute and God's message visited me and I walked back into the room they gave me. I was single then, just started a job after my nysc. She later got pregnant for a man outside. They were fighting one day and the woman said, see you, can you even father a child? The man brought out a knife and the woman ran away. They later split. My uncle remarried twice, same issue

So as a man, what if you're the cause and you resort to adopt those children? I'd suggest while you think of running a DNA on those innocent children, go to the hospital first and check yourself out.

Chilipepper:
Nigerian lady who is the daughter of a pastor, reveals why she'll never go to a pastor for marriage advice

Mistersolar:
no be hookup girl expenses wey you dey calculate for yourself na so brain should tell you per month

stonebil:
Truth be told from N130k, if you are single. You can manage well

Kobojunkie:
BINGO!

Akalia:
You are not entirely spot on. Take myself for example, I have being married for 5+ years and I still have a strong sexual attraction for my wife. In such on a few occasions that I cheated in the past, came to the realization that the women I slept with didn't give me the high level orgasm I usually get when I do it with my wife.
Unfortunately,my wife seems to have realized that I am sexually drawn to her strongly even after birthing two male children, she deprives me sex often citing tiredness or comes up with some flimsy excuses. She has weaponized sex.

I no gbadu cheating because of the fear of GOD and I also do not get the same high level satisfaction with other women like I do get when I do it with my wife. So it's not entirely true for all men that their sexual drive towards their partners wane with the passage of time.

Where I work I have a lot of female IT intakes and colleagues but I have never being moved to approach them discreetly with a sexual motive, just don't find them sexually attractive even through they got all the right features.

Gabrielshow24:
One thing, I have come to know in this life is that you can never satisfy everyone. If the man doesn't have money it's a problem 🤨, when he doesn't touch her, it's also a problem🤨. Everything these days can be weaponized as a problem 👀. How can I work to provide and my wife will be worrying me with "emotional dramas" related to sex after producing two already? Is it sex that will provide food on the table? It's just a fleeting desire! These women are not like our mothers that their husbands will not touch for over six years and still they won't cheat, neither will they throw tantrums👀. Modern women and sex are like five and six🤨.

abbey621:
People really think divorce just comes out of the blue, it is a build up of marital degradation, either the wife becomes undesirable through her physical and emotional traits or the man becomes undesirable due to his nonchalant and emotionally inept behavior!

Marriage is not all about sex, it starts with communication, if you spend majority of the day ignoring each other or fighting, how will you be comfortable in the bedroom enough to do the do?

As a woman, you uwant your man to touch you but you dey nag all day and behave like witches from your village, you don't shave, your PH is out of whack and so on!

As a man, you want your woman's touch but you killed her mood, she dey smell Amaka's perfume on your body and saw lipstick stain on your shirt, NO BE JUJU BE THAT?

Sunmolar:
What led to her been untouched for 2yrs. Blame game tactics that ends in crocodile tears

Oyerinde16:
I am very disappointed the way you brought yoruba into it...

If it was an 8yrs old Yoruba boy that was kidnapped and now 16 and could not find his way home earlier than this, I will blame the boy, and the guidance as well...