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Family › Re: Marriage Is About Balance, Do You Agree? by bukatyne(f): 11:41am On May 08, 2025
Kobojunkie:
Is OP himself ready for the conversation, given the scenarios he posed in his own comment? grin😂😂😂😂
cheesy grin

You love trouble!
Celebrities › Re: Sudden Change In Sean 'diddy' Combs' Appearance Surprises Observers ... by bukatyne(f): 10:47am On May 08, 2025
Faposky95:
Don't we jus love the next fall guy tale.....?!
Once they become famous....we can't wait for drama to take em down.....
Like he did it all alone.....
Blacks....and this mentality of ours.....
JZ does not act black..... probably why he's still.off the hook.
Pathetic.
@bold:

This!
Politics › Re: 18-year-old Apprentice Impregnates 10 Girls In Five Months by bukatyne(f): 7:35pm On May 07, 2025
He is doing well!
Properties › Re: Can A Civil Servant Ever Build A Home Now? by bukatyne(f): 9:01am On May 07, 2025
GanagiBitrus:
Man, wife +3kids =5 is not out of place.
For a civil servant?

You are referring to people earning minimum wage right?

Three kids?

That's two kids too much. Starting from Jonathan's Nigeria.
Properties › Re: Can A Civil Servant Ever Build A Home Now? by bukatyne(f): 8:47am On May 07, 2025
Bobloco:
A bag of cement is now ₦10,000.

One bundle of zinc is now ₦85,000.

2x2 wood is now ₦2,000.

2x4 wood is now ₦4,000.

Fascia board is now ₦5,000.

12mm rod is now ₦15,000.

A trip of sand is now ₦70,000.

Mason daily pay is now ₦8,000.

Labourer daily pay is now ₦4,000.


Economic Context:

Minimum wage is now ₦70,000.


Using the law of advancing hardship, calculate the probability of a civil servant with a family of 5 building his own house before he retires.

Take Tinubu/APC as constant, c.

# COPIED
Why should a civil servant in today's Nigeria be a family of 5?
Family › Re: Why Does Some Married Women Prefer There Friends Than Marriage? by bukatyne(f): 8:38am On May 07, 2025
fman:
How can one get an ex girlfriend back?
Deepspirituals
grin
Celebrities › Re: Iyabo Ojo Quizzed By EFCC Over Currency Spraying At Daughter’s Wedding by bukatyne(f): 8:33am On May 07, 2025
GanagiBitrus:
Why don't they just put a basin by the celebrant so people can spray into the basin. That's just like dropping offerings in Church.


Never knew spraying Dollars was an offence.
Maybe it's an offence in US, & EFCC is helping to enforce that in Nigeria. smiley
@bold:

cheesy
Celebrities › Re: Iyabo Ojo Quizzed By EFCC Over Currency Spraying At Daughter’s Wedding by bukatyne(f): 8:32am On May 07, 2025
doggedfighter:
She was quizzed so she can advise Nigerians.



grin
You get am!

Advise taken grin
Sports › Re: Charlotte Lavish Accuses Marcus Thuram Of Assault (Photos) by bukatyne(f): 4:23pm On May 06, 2025
It took her three years to come out and all evidences are conveniently deleted.

Again, I don't understand this men.

You have the resources to build your woman to whatever catches your fancy.

You can pay for surgeries, convince the women of that standard for polygamy, play dress up, have sex anywhere you desire, keep babymamas in every continent instead of marriage..... the options are limitless.

Yet, you entangle yourself with women who can by hook or crook, rope you into disaster.

Una nor dey learn from your colleagues?
Politics › Re: To Those Who Have Closed Their GTB Accounts by bukatyne(f): 4:00pm On May 06, 2025
helinues:
Just get to know you are an irrational thinker. You allowed your emotions to get over your reasoning.
Banks are like Dangote, they need the numbers.

The N1k monthly cost they have lost from those accounts can pay some people's salaries. undecided
Business › Re: ‘The Market Looks Weird’ — Ajebo Girl Tells Mom On First Market Visit (Photos) by bukatyne(f): 9:09pm On May 05, 2025
Metordman:
product of poor parenting. But later Night club, sisha, piercing,2sum,lap dance,fast food, iphones,yahoo boyfriends, postinor 2 WILL NOT LOOK WEIRD
What is poor parenting here?

And how does not going to market lead to the nonsense you wrote up there?

Abi girls who went to market early don't engage in those vices?
Romance › Re: Outrage As Lady Reveals Man Paid Her Rent Just Two Days After Meeting Him by bukatyne(f): 7:55pm On May 05, 2025
Linkz247:
Lwkmd... some men are super weak when it comes to women's tricks
What is the weakness if he can afford it + willing to splurge on what gives him 'joy'?
Crime › Re: Couple Arrested For Locking Children Indoors Since 2021 Over COVID Fears (Pics) by bukatyne(f): 5:26pm On May 05, 2025
Gbadugbakun:
Most people rushed into this thread thinking they were Nigerians so that they'll attack them based on their tribal names. But they were disappointed. May God continue to disappoint tribalists on this forum. grin
You are the only one who thought they were Nigerians.

Even the topic will tell an average person that the madness is not made in Nigeria.
Business › Re: 100,000 Nigerians Delete Gtbank Accounts, 20,000 Bombard Customer Service by bukatyne(f): 11:34am On May 05, 2025
casualobserver:
To start with there are 151, million accounts in Nigeria, Less than 500,000 accounts have a balance above N1m

90% of bank accounts have a balance less than N50,000.

Assuming your mythical 1000 accounts were closed with their N50k balance, The withdrawn deposit is less than what it costs the bank to buy a Corolla for a junior manager…..and they buy them in the hundreds!

All it means is one of their Corolla’s crashed and was written off!

Most NigeriaNs dont realize most Nigerian bank accounts are a liability to banks that’s why they charge you for everything. The amount of money the bank makes from your N50k balance is less than the administrative costs of operating your account.

Countries with valuable customers offer free banking.
This cracked me up.
Family › Re: The Provider by bukatyne(f): 11:41pm On May 04, 2025
Acidosis:
My brother, it's never happening again. Too many reasons:


- There's nothing about marriage I haven't seen or experienced to some extent. I feel like I've reached the peak. The euphoria of a new journey is gone. Going in with that mindset will be unfair to a new partner.
- I think it would be unfair getting married to another woman whom I may continually expect to measure up to my (late) wife.
- I think it would be unfair to my late wife and especially the kids (if I fall into a bad marriage).
- I'm already learning to find peace in being on my own.
- I can't risk going through some trauma. Pregnancy scares the hell out of me now.
- Etc.
Sorry about your loss. I pray that God comforts you and all she left behind.

It is well 🫂
Christianity Etc › Re: Deeper Life Pastor Says It's Unbiblical Not To Bear Husband's Name As A Wife by bukatyne(f): 2:19pm On May 04, 2025
delishpot:
Bible say man go leave papa and mama cling to wife, pastors say wife go leave papa and mama cling to husband. Perverted translators.
cheesy
Christianity Etc › Re: Deeper Life Pastor Says It's Unbiblical Not To Bear Husband's Name As A Wife by bukatyne(f): 2:15pm On May 04, 2025
LordIsaac:
Keep waiting till another woman gladly takes his name.
You claim to be a Christian yet think that adultery (that is a grave sin) is a worthy threat for a woman asking for proof that not taking up a husband's surname is sin.

So in summary, if a woman does take your surname (assumed to be a sin), you will commit adultery (a grave sin).

What Church do you attend?
Family › Re: The Provider by bukatyne(f): 1:39pm On May 04, 2025
Love800:
Did you read my last line?

If, you need information, ask questions. Stop loitering at the corner!
You should read your last sentence and all your previous position on this thread.
Family › Re: Solomon Buchi And His "Submissive" Wife Mock Online Feminists (Video) by bukatyne(f): 1:35pm On May 04, 2025
1Sharon:
What's right about it? She's a submissive provider. He doesn't work.
He has stuff going for him.

Besides, he does not follow the traditional roles in marriage (according to him).
Family › Re: The Provider by bukatyne(f): 11:45pm On May 03, 2025
GloriousGbola:
So I had this friend who married a very very very smart and fine woman. Large age gap like 8 or more years. He married her as a virgin.

We became close family friends.

But my guy was a proto redpill maga guy before it was mainstream. And he unfortunately made bad moves at work. His wife actually pushed some buttons in her consulting role and got him a new job but he fked it up terribly. Summary they were living together she was paying all the bills and the guy was insisting on hot food and all that. Theres a lot more. All the man with no job imposing on breadwinner wife until things came to a head. Anyway they are separated now. The woman is doing amazingly well and the guy has just deprecated. It is really sad. Anyway she apparently really liked sex and since no more prick available she had to buy a toy. You women replacing us in more ways than one angry

Bigger, more penetrative and lasts longer undecided undecided angry
It is well.

I am glad for the woman that they are separated.

Freedom at last!
Literature › Re: My Twins Were Born By Surrogacy - Chimamanda Adichie by bukatyne(f): 11:10pm On May 03, 2025
Nice that the hullabaloo is about the ethics of surrogacy and not the right to call herself a mother/woman.

We are getting there.

Christistruth02:
Jezebel was a Feminist
You say? grin cheesy
Family › Re: The Provider by bukatyne(f): 9:36pm On May 03, 2025
Love800:
Marriages are modernised now a kind of. Its now partnership. Who traditional or basic marriage help?... Both of us(husband/wife) are putting heads together in this. But when things are becoming tensed, a man assumes all the responsibilities himself!
@ bold:

cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy
Family › Re: The Provider by bukatyne(f): 8:23pm On May 03, 2025
GloriousGbola:
goddam science

yes this also happened in the replacement olympics
shocked
Family › Re: The Provider by bukatyne(f): 7:57pm On May 03, 2025
Maeve7:
Going by this thread The Association of Single Married Women is ever growing.
grin grin grin grin grin grin grin

May God help us.
Family › Re: The Provider by bukatyne(f): 7:54pm On May 03, 2025
Acidosis:
Relegating him to a domestic partner means assigning him primarily to household tasks, like cooking or cleaning, mainly because he is unemployed or perceived as idle. Intention/motive is key.
Relegating means you think household tasks are beneath him; fine.

So I ask; if this man who thinks chores are beneath him loses his source of income, what is his usefulness in the marriage? What other values is he bringing to the marriage at that point.
Family › Re: The Provider by bukatyne(f): 7:51pm On May 03, 2025
Kobojunkie:
That is the major problem with the traditional marriage system. It is too rigid in requiring that the man provide all of the time while the woman submits all of the time. We now find ourselves living in a time when that model can no longer hold as it used to, and it follows that a more flexible system that insists that the man becomes the submitter whenever the woman becomes the provider, and another that allows both to share provider and submitter responsible is what is needed. grin
As a Christian, it is love and submission; not provision and submission however, I get your point.

I honestly don't have a problem with the traditional system; it is actually better than what a lot of men offer.

My problem is that you are traditional, fine. And then life happens, you can't provide for a while. You can't decide to ease the burden off your wife as a show of solidarity. You want her to keep up her part and play your part while you do nothing.

Like how is someone in a marriage and content to do nothing? Even if it is I will prepare the kids for school and make dinner when you are back home while the wife continues every other thing just to show love and empathy?

It is well.

Later, they will say women think they don't need men when they make money.
Family › Re: The Provider by bukatyne(f): 7:34pm On May 03, 2025
Love800:
And who told you am just sitting down in the house? At that duration of no job, i go on job hunt, networking, purchasing skills, getting hints about business. These are my usefulness!
Ok.

All those activities above does not translate to money; you are still depending on your wife to fund the home and your job hunting. She is fuelling the car, putting money in your pocket etc. It is all motion and no movement.

Imagine this:

Your wife is not earning and the domestic partner. Instead of cooking, she roams the market and comes home folding her hands. Instead of doing the kids homework, she flips open their books and closes it back. Instead of making the home warm, she notes what needs to be done and does nothing. Instead of cleaning the home, she scatters the whole house as if she wants to sweep and does nothing.

What value is she really bringing to the family?

Flip it to yourself and tell us the actual value you are bringing to the home.
Family › Re: The Provider by bukatyne(f): 6:40pm On May 03, 2025
Firebox123:
sex is what i need gan gan
Only sex?

Your wife is super duper lucky grin cheesy

No domestics, house keeping, child raising, family management..... Just sex!

You are doing well.....
Family › Re: The Provider by bukatyne(f): 6:30pm On May 03, 2025
Helpout12345:
1. This mentality of women believing that usefulness of a man to them is solely based on money and ability to provide for them is why

2. women have no moral standing to demand monogamy from a man who is financially capable.

3. If I am nothing to you when I am broke,

4. then you are nothing to me too when I make money and capable.
1. It is men that confined their usefulness to money in marriage. On this thread, almost all the men have inferred they cannot pick up domestic chores or any other 'motherly duty'. Then it inferes that they are bringing money into the marriage.

2. This redpill drivel is laughable at best. Poor wretched men are cheating; men whose wives are feeding are cheating; students still eating mama thank you are cheating. A man's unfaithfulness has nothing to do with his pocket. Secondly, faithfulness is expected from you in a committed relationship/ marriage. No one asked you to wait till you are rich before you commit yourself. It is like a woman saying 'because I worked out or learnt how to be a great housekeeper, no man has the moral right to demand faithfulness'.

3. If a woman said you mean nothing to her while broke, you move on to the next woman who will accept you broke and not adding any other value to her life or you level up on money since you do not want to do any other thing.

4. If a woman wouldn't accept you while broke, why are you bothering yourself with her when you have hammered? Shouldn't you have moved on to another woman worthy of the rich you (who also deems you worthy)?

Like I say, to cure the madness of crazy gender takes, just flip it:

Imagine a husband who provides and still does the domestics while he has a wife. What is the usefulness of the wife to him? (Doesn't even compare because the wife will still birth kids but let's put that aside).

You think the domestic part of marriage is beneath you; OK sir. Oya handle finances, story enters it.

What gangan do you want to bring into the marriage?
Family › Re: The Provider by bukatyne(f): 5:38pm On May 03, 2025
There is nothing wrong with the traditional marriage system; just make sure you never lose the ability to provide and provide well if you want to maintain that model.

It is a travesty if you want to maintain a traditional model while you are broke. Then you become like 'P' in psychology.

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