₦airaland Forum

Maeve7:
Dysfunction is the operative word here. The fact that many see it as beneath them to take over domestic work, that ensures the wellbeing of the family , is highly disrespectful to the work mostly women do and makes the husband replaceable once the wife can provide more than he can.

Look at how many people have or, better, have not even thought of what they could do for and with their children given more time. It’s sad.

Love800:
When he is not actively providing, he is actively sourcing out for other means of making money. I can't be washing plates or doing mother roles, because am jobless. Never!

emmaodet:
Lol...you wan leave that man? you think at this point he is ROLESS?
Needs to be discarded?
In this life as a man....HUSTLE oooooooo
If a man and a lady are hustling and the man scaled first, the society and the woman expects the man to pull her up BUT if the woman scaled the fence first, she looks down at you and tell you to double your hustle if you want her to wait for you or else....sope otilo

Acidosis:
If a woman is doing much better financially, the best approach is to support her partner by helping him establish a trade, business, or other venture to elevate his status, rather than relegating him to a domestic role.

Solving a problem by "forcefully" turning one partner into a domestic spouse, whether man or woman, is evil. Both partners should contribute financially and do household chores. The idea of who contributes more in either role should be irrelevant. Experience has also shown that the one earning more could actually have more time to spend at home than the other. This is 2025.

If you allow your wife to solely handle financial contributions while she does nothing with household chores, you are setting yourself up for failure. This is the truth: you will lose her respect, and she WILL eventually view other men at her workplace as better than you.

Firebox123:
he should manage with 7 children for tinubu period

Just lol 😂

Onegai:
It's sad.

A lot of issues we have in society will be solved if we challenged and advised men at the same intensity as we did women.

There's no need for arguments about Submission once a Man is carrying out the verse after it diligently.

Feminism? Treat women properly, pay them their fair share and don't expect sexual favours and watch it mellow down.

Women are scared of being alone with you? Treat them like one of the guys.

You hate divorce? Great! Make sure men know their roles and commit diligently and stop saying "well she's not holding up her part of the bargain!". God didn't call you to judge, he called you to follow and leave the speck in the other person's eye alone.

WriterX:
I am telling you, For me Big D can gift anyone that car. I think gifts worth isn't just in the expenses but like we have agreed, emotions have to be in it.

You gave a good mention. Thank you @bukatyne

Rechargeam247:
The second line - Esp. to women, don't die cheaply, life will continue with or without you.

Kaczynski:
you never watch better series


chinese dramas are so longer than kdramas, they are very interesting btw


watch i'm married but on netflix, great taiwan short series

watch korean movies like broker, revealtion, following, the call,

Ovems:
I understand. I just think that sometimes, a drama/series gives the opportunity for the story and characters to be fully developed while it might not be the case for movies that have to be rushed.....except it's an Indian Movie that's 3hours long. Regrettable it's not always the case because even if you give some dramas 20 episodes, it will only end in regret for the viewer.

Kobojunkie:
Justice has never been about bringing back the dead but more about righting a wrong, albeit in the Nigerian situation, it is quite hard to see how anything right can come from a system so turned up on its head. That said, justice should be pursued no matter what.

2. No question that she died cheaply! Even that lady who we heard died because her husband could not pay the bill also died cheaply. But that should never stop the wheels of justice in their tracks, and it should not be reason enough to say, "No!" to justice.

aspabay:
We already know. Cause Oby actually has no reason to be there. It’s obvious she was paid.

Arise no go see this one now oo

1Sharon:
Solomon Buchi, the leader that his wife LEAD to London.

Kobojunkie:
Don't Nigerian men equally submit to their male and female bosses at work?
Don't Nigerian men also submit to Nigerian police men and the army men... Does this not equally point to the general hypocrisy of the Nigerian men who refuse to submit at home to their wives?

I am trying hard here to follow your line of reasoning here so help me out.

Mexyz:
This thread is a good example to show that people don't even read before commenting

Many commenters didn't even know Solomon and his wife are actually mocking the so called 'feminists'.

Onegai:
This is actually a lovely idea...in theory.

Children need a lot of nurturing during their formative years. They need 2 stable parents creating a loving environment.

Reality is that Human beings cannot be trusted and all the careful vetting in the world can't stop a man from financially abusing his wife, cheating and giving his time, attention and money to side chics or walking out on his family to pursue his individual happiness, leaving his children broken.

There's nothing that can predict it, as all the men I know who have done this are literally the walking definition of "He Would Never!" Aka So-Called Good (Weak) Guys.

The Bad (Strong) Guys usually have screwed their lives up in their bachelor days so they understand generational fumbles. The Good (Strong) Guys will have reminders everywhere of what is at stake. The Good (Weak) Guys never got their morals tested and are blowing up their marriages and families once the first N1mil hits their bank accounts and naughty babes suddenly start giving them attention.

So, until you can trust Men to commit fully to their vows and be strong, grounded-in-Christ or whatever religion they believe in, with tested morals, and stand for their families...it is best for women to always sleep with one eye open.

And by the way, Women do also blow up their marriages and families in a crazy manner. The devil is very much a believer in Equality. Just that they tend to do it at smaller levels than others. I know some and the result is always the same: Regret.

MrJames007:
What will she do with that kind of powerful vehicle?

I like it when celebrities make their wives number 1 despite the number of females at their disposal. Nice!

WriterX:
No one should attack me here


Clearly this gift is worth it. But I always get this idea that gifting a car, house or something to someone like a spouse is just an uninteresting show of affection.

Honestly, I think for a woman who knows she could simply ask and still get that car on every other day. You as a spouse have to be on your toes when it comes to gifts.

I take a cue from very successful and wealthy people in the western world, birthdays, weddings, celebrations are intimacy focused. They are not a show of how much money one can throw around at a go but rather how much can I do to show her or him I really love them, how important they are and always think of them.

Sometimes the simplest things in a relationship hold the biggest and most impactful meanings to women and men.

I remember how my lady got me a slippers, I never knew she had noticed for some time i was struggling with mine due to the new environment. She got me those slippers and till date, I still remember how nice it felt. She has forgotten about it. But i know i would never forget it.

Gifts have to carry more meaning than expense in relationships. For me, my woman, my kids. For me, each celebration has to be more than just a show of money.

Is chioma pleased with it?
Did she need a new car after of course she has more around to go in?


Some women would prefer a good dinner or single day with their lovers alone than all the gifts they can be given.

I have been on date with my woman on my low pay when all we have is a bottle of coke and a meat pie and we talk so much about everything and laugh over it that we want to do it again.


An idea

Chioma enjoys cooking, i know this for sure. How about bringing in some kids or friends and all. Surprise her with something that interest her personally. What would get her emotionally invested. How about invite some world class chefs and they get to team up and cook a special for everyone of her friends you secret invite from all over the world. Imagine that! Your gifts have to make an emotional statement not just a financial statement


Me as a billionaire in the making, i look forward to celebrations of my wife and kids and those close to me. Its not an advert to get the media restless and hung on. Its about the person I am celebrating and letting them know how much they mean to me. Thank you

Sunisonflex39:
Good evening nairalanders, it's me again.
Here is the soup made with #2,900

Let me not bore all of you with big big talks

Meat #1,000

Water leaf #250

Ugu. #250

Kpomo #500

Isam #200

Crayfish #100

Oil. #400

Onion #100

Knorr cube #100


To be young bachelor is not easy o..we learn to cut coat according to size...

Rate my cooking and management jare..
Let me manage Nigeria economy

CodeTemplarr:
Lol... nutritional horror movie

bukatyne:
@bold:

Your definition of serious is the start of the problem.

Some guys have given you signs to greatly help especially joinnow below:

joinnow:
1. Consistency Over Time

He doesn’t only show love when it’s convenient or when he wants something.

His attention, communication, and respect don’t drop once he “gets you.”


2. Future Inclusion

He talks about the future and includes you in it.

He uses “we” when talking about plans, not just “I.”


3. He’s Transparent and Honest

He tells you the truth, even when it's hard or inconvenient.

He doesn’t avoid tough conversations or hide things.


4. He’s Emotionally Available

He’s not just romantic—he’s vulnerable.

He shares his fears, goals, and even weaknesses with you.


5. Your Values Matter to Him

He respects your boundaries, faith, family, goals, and dreams—even when they challenge his comfort zone.


6. He Invests in Your Growth

He encourages your personal growth—not just what benefits him.

He pushes you toward your purpose and supports your wins.


7. He Integrates You Into His Real Life

You know his friends, family, routines—not just his phone calls and dates.

He’s not keeping you “in a corner” of his life.


8. He’s Reliable During Storms

When conflict or stress hits, he doesn’t disappear.

He stays, listens, works things out, and doesn’t manipulate you emotionally.


9. He Respects Your Time and Body

He doesn’t pressure you into sex or rush the relationship for selfish gain.

He’s patient and honors your process.


10. He Makes Sacrifices

He sometimes chooses what benefits you both over just what benefits him.

Real love gives, not just takes.

GloriousGbola:
wetin pesin n go hear for nairaland

maybe because it is a useless game where a woman [the queen] is the most powerful piece and the king is a cripple who can only move one step at a time

red pill rejects the emasculation of kings !!!

Ovems:
Good morning.... I haven't seen First Frost and I don't really watch movies. My main interest is dramas/series.

Kaczynski:
avistaz



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