₦airaland Forum

Kobojunkie:
Is there a law against her working two gigs to make ends meet?

thorpido:
Well motivational speakers keep speaking about multiple streams of income.Guess that is what she is following.



Just being sarcastic.

profet:
That's N500 naira in Lagos

Ideylov:
1. TELL YOUR SPOUSE "GOOD MORNING"
These words start the day on the right tone. These words are powerful. It hurts when your spouse wakes up and assumes your presence

2. START ON A CLEAN SLATE
Regardless of what happened in the past, take today as an opportunity for new experiences. Were you tired yesterday? be fresh today. Recalibrate your mind and your mindset. You two have a chance to make the present day better than yesterday

3. TOUCH YOUR SPOUSE
Nothing beats being touched in the morning with gentle hands. Rub his chest, play with her nipples, kiss the forehead, rub her inner thighs, play with his beard, cuddle, rub her butt, rub his belly... even if just for a few minutes. Too many people are married but untouched

4. ASK YOUR SPOUSE "HOW DID YOU SLEEP?"
Inside your spouse's sleep is the one place you cannot be with your spouse, it is very private. Find out, did your spouse dream, does he/she feel relaxed, did he/she have a nightmare or warning to pray about, was it a struggle? It shows care

5. THANK YOUR SPOUSE FOR LAST NIGHT IN CASE YOU MADE LOVE
If last night you made love, give feedback. Let your spouse know how special it was, how you enjoyed, how you are loved right. This motivates your spouse to keep pleasing you

6. THANK YOUR SPOUSE FOR SORTING OUT AN ISSUE IN CASE YOU TALKED ABOUT IT LAST NIGHT
If you two have been having a disagreement, thank your spouse that you talked about it. Let your spouse know you don’t like it when you two are mad at each other

7. MAKE LOVE
There is something about two warm bodies waking up to each other that turns you on. Have some morning glory. A sexual high can bring about a good mood that carries you through out the day, it also helps you think better even when life is challenging

8. SHOWER TOGETHER IF POSSIBLE
Occasionally shower together as you bond and play. It also saves time and gives you a chance to connect, especially since you two are about to spend hours apart

9. HAVE POSITIVE CONVERSATIONS
Don't start the morning with issues, drama, negativity and discouragement. Be enjoyable

10. GIVE A COMPLIMENT
Seeing your spouse naked, wrapped up in a towel, dressed, ready for the day... give a compliment. "Looking good love", "I love that scent you wear", "All that butt is mine?", "Mmmh... that's my sexy King". It boosts your spouse's confidence in your eyes

11. PRAY OR SPEAK A BLESSING
Cover each other in prayer. Show love in the spiritual realm. Prayer will bring you two closer together

12. SHARE A MEAL TOGETHER
If possible have breakfast together as a family. This especially warms up the hearts of the children. Food fosters family unity

13. LEAVE EACH OTHER WITH WARMTH
As you part ways, do so with a hug, a kiss, a smile, kind words such "Have a good day love", "Go get it Babe", "This generation is blessed to have you". You will reap the benefits of this when you meet later in the day

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Day169:
Sacrifice? .. real sacrifice??
Mehn, it's marrying her o!
.. only short of putting my neck in the guillotine!!

SmartPolician:
Leadership is complicated. You can never say the people love a leader if you don't live in that country. Someone in America can argue that Nigerians love Tinubu, especially when they read comments from agbadorians who spend 24/7 online defending him and his thoughtless policies.

Traore should've responded to the concerns the Americans raised if he was truly running a transparent government and not stealing from his people. Perhaps Traore could be stealing 5% of their resources as against 50% probably demanded by the French government.

One may argue that it's better, but it doesn't mean that Traore is any better. If you accuse me of being a thief, the onus is on you to demonstrate that you are better than me by running a transparent govt.

tete7000:
And if I may ask where did Jesus recognise traditional wedding in the bible? You guys mix a lot of things together. Church wedding came with evolution of Christianity. Once Christianity evolved into a confraternity, it became necessary that it begins to set its own standard and rules. Christian church determined how its converts should live and relate. Even the bible you want to use to support your assertion is a product of the church and not the other way. Christianity came after Christ died and rose and Christ as a human person lived in the era of Judaism, he established the church but didn't practice Christianity.

semid4lyfe:
Yes, many Nigerians wear suits and white gowns, and go to church but that's due to colonization, and imposition through religion. education and law. We didn’t pick up white weddings because we thought it was fancy and cute . It became part of our formal wedding system because of power, not preference.

That’s very different from a foreigner, who has no connection to Nigeria or any Nigerian partner waking up one day and saying, “Let’s do a Nigerian wedding", wear agbada, tie gele, and dobale just for fun.

That's Cultural appropriation which is the act of people from a more dominant or unrelated culture picking and using another culture’s sacred traditions for fun, performance or profit, without any connection, understanding, or respect.

Me wey be Nigerian, I know when we dobale, it’s not for camera. It’s respect. When we kneel, it’s not performance, it’s tradition. The Alaga that leads our engagement is not just there to shout “mo gbeyawo” , she’s holding decades of ancestral wisdom and protocol. That thing no be for aesthetics.

And let’s be real, most Nigerians still do traditional marriage first, before any white wedding. The agbada and aso oke come out before the tux and tie. We know where our roots lie.

So no, the two situations are not the same. We adopted white weddings under pressure. Foreigners are copying our traditions for pleasure.

At the end of the day, all I’m saying is, if you no get any tie to Nigeria, no partner, no family, no lived experience, then leave our culture alone. Observe, enjoy from afar, even learn. But don’t turn our traditional wedding rites into a theme.

Our Traditional weddings carry weight. Dem no be costume. Dem no be content

Simple!

.........And for those saying but you do white wedding, I didn't. This quoted poster knows cos he was there.

Mynd44:
When Nigerians are having full-on English weddings inside churches with Suit and white wedding gown when the couple are not related to or have any English ancestry, it was what? Not culture appropriation?

Or because they colonized us we lost our senses and adopted ther culture and tradition?

Before anyone comes to argue, "white weddings" are not church weddings. They are simply traditional weddings based on the practices of English people and being done in a church.

Nothing will happen if you wear Agada and Aso Oke to church, it is still a church wedding. Then there is also the fact that the only wedding recognises in the bible is the traditional. Nowhere did Jesus or God ask you to come to church to be married.

joinnow:
Please don't quote me.I won't respond.
I am only following a principle.

BIBLE VERSE FOUNDATION

Deuteronomy 22:10 (KJV)
“Thou shalt not plow with an ox and an ass together.”

Here:

God uses this farming law to teach spiritual wisdom.

Don’t mix what’s not meant to be mixed — it brings frustration.

Therefore to avoid frustration
1.Catholic Church should marry their members
2. Anglican Church should marry their members
3. Methodist Church Nigeria should marry their members
4. Nigerian Baptist Convention should marry their members
5. Presbyterian Church of Nigeria should marry their members
6. Christ Apostolic Church (CAC) should marry their members.
7. The Redeemed Christian Church of God (RCCG) should marry their members
8. Living Faith Church Worldwide (Winners Chapel) should marry their members
9. Deeper Life Bible Church should marry their members
10. Mountain of Fire and Miracles Ministries (MFM) should marry their members
11. Christ Embassy (Believers’ Loveworld) should marry their members
12. The Lord's Chosen Charismatic Revival Movement should marry their members
13. Synagogue Church of All Nations (SCOAN) should marry their members
14. Dunamis International Gospel Centre should marry their members
15. House on the Rock should marry their members
16. Daystar Christian Centre should marry their members
17. Common Wealth of Zion Assembly (COZA) should marry their members
18. Salvation Ministries should marry their members
19. Omega Fire Ministries should marry their members
20. Foursquare Gospel Church Nigeria should marry their members
22.Others

Note. If you are based in Lagos and you have check ✅ your area and didn't find your spec go to all your church branches in Lagos and all state your church is located you go find your spec.

tunapawizzy:
Children are practicing different religion from their parents, their father and mother are not loving them less.the children are not loving their parents less

Siblings are practicing different religion, they are going through life together loving one another and sacrificing for one another.

But when it comes to marriage, even inside same religion, it suddenly becomes a problem to go to a different church as your spouse.

majority of the people in marriage just want to fulfill the expectations of the society. Are you really in a marriage or in a camp.

If your partner MUST attend the same church as you, why not marry your church member

penearth:
Most of these problems are caused by women because they REFUSED to marry from dia same church instead go for dia heart. Now dia heart has condition of which church they should go or d hrt doesn't include attending man's church

Okeytech:
if i may comment, I'll say lying is part of the lifestyle of 98% of men. So for me i think if you trully love him, you can manage him and also try to change him. Always be encouraged by his good side, like they say everyone has their good sides no matter how bad they seem.

This is my personal submission oooo. I rest my crayon!!!

StillDtruth:
Compare with Leah, Mary, Noah's wife, Job's wife and VIRGINS.

As we all know, one touch baby don enter.

StillDtruth:
Sorry to spoil your joy but infertility is a Curse laid upon unholy people.

semid4lyfe:
The other day he played football with African Legends.

Now it's this uncommonsensical and obviously fake story.

His PR and image laundering is on steroids.

Gloriagee:
That blowing was too quick imo. Not even flat, duplex; the exotic cars;

Samantha125:
You guys should then also marry your friends... It's simple.

Deepspirituals:
Equal right ,Gender Equality . I can do Whatever he does .
.He is a Graduate, I am too .

Marriage is not by Force or Imprisonment.

Marriage is not for Every Woman .

The Alternative is always there , You must Be Equal with your Husband , That won't stand . Women,The choice to stay in Marriage or Leave to go and Marry your friends is yours .

Gloriagee:
Well, i'll say it was a nice movie particularly cos I'm a Christian but I found a couple of scenes too incredible for my taste -

1. the speed with which the guy blew up in lag even after his shop was burnt,

2. the accents of villagers sounding foreign,

3. the reoccuring guardian angel and

4. the propensity of the drummer boy to repeatedly resort to violence on street urchins was quite distatsteful imo

blowjohn:
When will we discover someone in the sciences , social sciences or arts?

Na so so Guinness records

abuhlawal:
There's sense in every nonsense.
that is considered as idle and wayward people activities
Indeed with GOD Almighty everything is possible.
Struggle and Hustle pays but greatness is Divine

CrisNews:
My Girlfriend went for a wedding and posted pictures from the event and I notice she Tagged her Ex-Boyfriend on the Facebook Post. On Easter, yesterday she also tag him on her post!

Should I confront her because I feel like something is wrong somewhere?

Advise me on what to do please