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RealMrNigerD:
Easy for the Bukatyne to say as a lady. The pressure is never on the lady. She can do whatever she wants in life and no one really labels her.
For the men, if they pursue satisfaction in the current system, they might end up not being so financially made and it's you women that'll still label the men as... and prefer the wealthier men for marriage so as to have the family secure.
So in the real world, the man usually has to abandon passion and pursue money, and he'll smart for it even if he makes it cause there'll still be a void down there.
Yeah, yeah, I know you'll name a few who might have made all the cash while pursuing their passion but the point is life ain't math and it doesn't always work out. So for many men, they choose between getting satisfaction from their societal status or their passion.

Donald3d:
Look for them wherever they are, don't say a word, spread your arms out, grab and hug them from the front deeply from the depth of your heart for at least a minute. Look them in the eyes, smile, walk away and carry on with what you were doing, without saying a word.

Oh, I forgot, it works on kids too.

It does a lot of magic.

ccffwx:
Correct, but we don't know what you are saying for a fact. That might not even be the scenario. We all blame the mother because the child is her responsibility. It is on the same premise that I blame the child's father. Notice most people didn't remember the father because many of us subconsciously downplay a father's role. A child brought into this world is not for the mother alone. Fathers must be encouraged to be responsible. If the father had been there while the women messed up, that child might still be alive.

OchoL:
Yaay!!

OchoL:
At least these dim-witted biitches are off Buka's perky titties!

Bukatyne, you must give me credit o.. please acknowledge me

ccffwx:
I will blame him just as I blame the mother. You don't just impregnate/father a child and go and sleep. You owe your child a responsibility. Men should quit thinking a child is in safe hands because they are with the mother. Why did he feel comfortable leaving this poor child alone with this woman? Do you really think he has been playing father role to the girl or maybe left all to the incapable mother?

ccffwx:
Not being married doesn't mean that dead girl is fatherless. I'm rather concerned about the father to daughter relationship, if at all, than the man to woman thingy.

ccffwx:
Mother of this cute child did wrong and should be punished but I wonder why nobody is asking for the father? Or is the father not supposed to take care of his child too? Shouldn't he be aware of the welfare of the child?

Ariza:
You are really good at making enemies, very good at it! But then I'd be a fool to be offended.

First on page on, it wasn't bullying but reactions to your post. I offered solution to avoid provocations, you went defensive, I ignored. I only told a guy not to trouble you. I went offline only to meet several pages of both men and women reprimanding you. You responded to ladies only which I find intriguing though. Your banters became interesting when it was you and Kunta alone aside the disturbed kid chest beating all over the thread, I was entertained. It got disturbing though when monikers popped out. And I did protest that.

But in your mind I called the mods when my "friend" got involved, that's laughable! Dande has every right to post what she wants. She wasn't even in your fight but you have a way of making everything about you isn't it. I have even called the mods before I saw her post.

Woman, that I called the mods doesn't mean Im looking to be on your good side. I don't know you! I've told you this before, I only called mods to curtail an absurd situation. If you think every female is your enemy, your loss not mine. I'm not the one carrying that burden.

And like I typed earlier : You will be alright!

Omoluabi16:
I should have put it in quote.Someone up there moaned about your 'perfect life' ..whatever that means.

Ariza:
You will be alright, believe me you will.

ibkayee:
Let's rest here

ibkayee:
Putting words in my mouth...strawman fallacy

CHoccolaTE:
Please shut up

I was feeling sorry for you before but not anymore, you came to mock me after I tried to see things from your point of view. You are just a pretender, pretending to be gentle. I hope the women on this thread rip you to bits and keep ganging up against you.

ibkayee:
You literally said 'discover your purpose...but not work because it doesn't give you satisfaction (and by saying this, even though I did not explicitly say it can't be your purpose, I am implying that work cannot be your purpose because it doesn't give you satisfaction) especially compared to having a family'

Lol make your topics clearer and I will do my part to understand yeah

CHoccolaTE:
The one inside your azz

Shove your head up your azz you will see it there

Omoluabi16:
If this isn't bullying..
I just wonder why we don't respect people's opinion. You either agree or disagree. No need for the diatribes. Whatever happened to counter threads? If e too pain you, then waka pass.
Bukatyne Don't let anyone run you off Nairaland or cow you into silent mode. I dey gbadun lowkey sha.. you and your perfect life.

CHoccolaTE:
@bold,

YESSSS!
But it's kind of annoying to see women who actively drag female emancipation down in a country and forum where woman hate is rife

OchoL:
Ignore that dunce! She created that account less than an hour ago and labelled herself (m) .. that's a tranny right there

fieryy:
As in, I'm actually starting to feel bad for her. It's not that deep. If she wants to be that kind of wife /woman, let her be. I just think she shouldn't be projecting her beliefs on others. As for her stance on rape, those have and should be rightfully called out.

ibkayee:
I said you insinuated that marriage is a better purpose than work.

You say everyone has a duty to fulfill their purpose then contradict yourself by saying 'work in itself cannot give satisfaction hence replacing your family with 'work' always ends in tears.' and 'That is a work/job: it gives you money and the fine things of life however, it can never give fulfillment.'

You're not the first person to have contradictory views to someone...your messages are just confusing sometimes and your tone often comes across as imposing

Also, all this 'we saw you and went bonkers' talk, as humans we naturally have impressions of people and things. If someone has a history of a certain thing, it's normal to associate you with a type of topic and vibe. It happens to everyone, you're just a little more polarizing than the average. You're the same person who made a topic justifying marital rape, it's not unreasonable to have a 'strong' opinion on someone like that lol

CHoccolaTE:
Very true but she doesnt know that.

I get that she has a need to make the world a better place, underneath all the funny threads her intention is to be objective and realistic and to help people but the messages in her threads are a bit misogynistic and controversial
And even deliberately attention seeking sometimes
In any case it doesn't warrant ganging up on her sha, everyone is entitled to their opinion no matter how shocking it seems, I saw someone saying buka should not have daughters up there, Haba that is taking it too far nau.

Elder00001:
Women like her are one of the reasons why patriarchy is still well grounded in most societies.

Elder00001:
32 and you act more old school than the real old school folks. Interesting.

CHoccolaTE:
And she thinks she is very intelligent ooo