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lilyheaven:

No dear, I'm using billing method.
I thank goodness,it's working

travelland:
It's because Fathers are not usually emotionally possessive of their children. If you meet a father in law with such nature there will be problem. Whereas more mothers are emotionally possessive, they can't stand the idea of letting go of their possession to another wwoman so they tend to manipulate and cause trouble for the new wife. If you meet a mother in law, who has got her life going, has things that keep her busy and a spouse or companion she is happily sharing life with, she won't have time for such things

Nna17:
A lady gets PREGNANT through RAPE by ROBBERS, with reasons, what would you advise?
Keep the PREGNANCY OR TERMINATE IT?

lilyheaven:
I have seen ladies growing fat, after undergoing family planning.
My sister went for copper T
She started bleeding heavily, I was so scared.
The implant has been removed and she is okay.
Please mothers and fathers wey sabi, what are the home remedies you have been using to prevent pregnancy.
I have two kids already and I don't want more and i am scared of all these family planning stuffs.
I know withdraw method is dangerous
My husband doesn't like CD, instead he prefers abstinence.

merahki:
I consider you boring shaa, very. However that is not a crime. The crime is meanness. Which is what makes you dance madly as you crucify women.
What are their crimes? Marrying “bad” exciting men, smokers, hunks, rich, good lovers etc. Whenever these men stray and there is a problem as we see in threads, you swoop in (with discernible glee all over your posts), questioning the poster and their choices. Why you even opened a thread asking women to choose your super-boring type! Basically that’s what your thread was all about- inviting people to misery. When you don’t beef those women, you extend it to the single ones I mentioned last night.

wisdomiskey:
All this epistle on top one person matter? Na wa o

@Bukatyne what did you do to these ladies? Lol

Maxmilliano111:
Whether you were born before, during or after his lifetime, you must have heard of the name "Michael Jackson"- the king of pop.

His song "Thriller" is unarguably one of his most successful hits. Produced by Quincy Jones, the song was first released on November 30, 1982. The song, which evokes elements of horror, won a Grammy award.

In 1983, a music video for the song was released. In the video, Michael Jackson and Ola Ray were taking a walk after leaving a movie theatre, before they were surrounded by "dead people." Jackson becomes a zombie and performs some dance steps with 'people from the land of the dead."

37 years after, the video still remains relevant as it still commands numerous views. But a lot has changed in 37 years, definitely.

Michael Jackson's girlfriend in the video Ola Ray was a young 23-year old then. But at present, she will turn 60 in a few months.

How time flies!




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See pictures of Ola Ray :

Tobrasky:
The Nigerian man won the 2020 department of civil, construction and environmental engineering outstanding MS thesis award

- Ifeanyi finished his MS degree with excellent contributions of 105-page thesis and four conference papers, among others

A Nigerian man, Ifeanyi Okpala, studying in the US has made the nation really proud by winning a special award for his MS thesis at the University of Alabama Graduate School.

It should be noted that about five months ago or so, Ifeanyi earned his masters degree in flying colours as he completed a 105-page thesis, two journal articles, four conference papers, and had a CGPA of 4.0/4.0.

On the school's Twitter page on Wednesday, May 6, he was announced as the winner of the 2020 department of civil, construction and environmental engineering outstanding MS thesis award.

The Nigerian is currently a PhD student at the University of Alabama. This is no mere feat, it is indeed commendable.

https://twitter.com/UAGradSchool/status/1258082897615036416

Congrats to our Nigerian best brains abroad representing us well.

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Undilutedme:
Its been long she started but became worse lately. My dad died when I wasn't even big enough to know what dad was. I know nothing about him or his relationship with mom. I'm the only one left with momsy. Other kids have left.

Kenmatt:
Where is Explora? Someone is around the corner to run head to head with you.

Undilutedme:
If you engage her in a dialogue, she'll pick offense. I've tried many times.

My dad is late.

Undilutedme:
Hello nairaland family.
I trust you guys are doing fine.
I have a little problem and I need a piece of advise on how to handle it.

I have a very wonderful mother. She's caring, sweet, compassionate, name all the good characteristics of a good woman, she's got all but there's this problem I'm still having with her. SHE NEVER APPRECIATES ME, NO MATTER HOW HARD I TRY. My mom will never appreciate me for anything I do, even if she does, she does it nonchalantly like it doesn't matter. She compares me with friends at every slight opportunity she gets.

There was something that happened. Momsy travelled sometime around this year and stayed for close to two months and she has a shop that she manages. The shop's generator has been bad for sometime and it's really stressful for her selling with dim lights but she refused repairing it again because according to her, the generator is consuming her money because of too much repairs every time. So I wanted to surprise her, I called a friend that fixes generator to come help me fix it so when she comes she'll see that it has been fixed. My friend came and fixed it. When momsy came back and I told her that I fixed the generator for her, she told me that, she didn't send me to fix generator for her and that she is not going to use it. According to her "I send you make you fix gen?. I say I nor wan use the gen again". I swear I was really hurt.

On another occasion was during the just concluded UTME exam. My friends wrote before me, a friend of mine had 330 so I told her, she was very happy. She was like, I pray you get something like this. Fast forward, 3 days later, I wrote mine and result came out. I scored 314, when she came, just happily told her, instead of being happy, she just hissed and said "You nor fit get reach 330?". My spirit just died immediately. She likes comparing me with my friends.

There are many occasions things have happened but I'll not bore you with unnecessary talks. It's really eating me up emotionally and psychologically. How well can I make my mom appreciate me more?. How can I please her?.

Ps: Please nobody should throw insults at her. I beg you in the name of whoever you serve. Thanks.

sammychimex:
You are wise. Very wise

Simbrixton:
my fmr gf would defend dese kain of behaviour she would say is d guys fault

crackkhaus:
@Merahki

Well you've been able to communicate exactly how you feel, so that's appreciated. At least it's personal to you, and I admire your guts in admitting it.

I read your other comment BTW, the one before this - you mentioned something about her deliberate tone/scoff at unmarried people. I giggled because that right there from you who I presumed to be quite confident in yourself, was quite expository.

But I won't dwell on that.
We talk about that another time...


You called me her defender and asked why I defend her and not other people who are being bullied.
The answer to this is very simple - Bukatyne NEVER fights back or gets caught up in the web of cunning mudslinging/jabs/subs... something which most others are known for.
She still tries to dialogue her way out of misunderstandings...but this effort is always futile because the ratchets don't let up. She throws no insults and does not resort to ad hominems, yet it's constant battery...

People who are complicit in this type of action cannot be called humans, much less women... they are reptiles, because joining in to throw a punch/kick at someone who's not even trying to return the punch, is nothing more than sinister ghetto fuckery of the highest order.

And I do tend to like the underdogs (male or female), which is what these attacks have turned Bukatyne into. It is in my nature to always be on the side of the underdog even though I may not agree with everything they stand for.

And guess what? Bukatyne and I don't agree on a lot of things...
Anyone who has been on Nairaland long enough would know this.

merahki:
Tsk tsk
I didn’t expect this kind of “ergo/eureka” grasp from you @ the first bolded, not even at all
But moving on-
Stop enabling her, as she does her “dance of the macabre”. It is not a good thing, at all. It is simply just pitiable and sad, when she does it. She is easily manipulated too- maybe that’s being teachable

merahki:
Dear crackkhaus,
I know the poster is your friend, I know you are her defender and understander on here, I know she is the epitome of the ideal woman, I know the other lesser females “bully and gang up on her”, but, I don’t like her, at all. And I say this with totally no beef intended. (And of course you know there is no gang up or anything of the sort).
She is exactly the kind of daughter not to have.
Maybe the wife to have? But not the sister, not the daughter. At all. (This is of course arguable but it is my opinion)

Online friendship- it can make one do somersaults and flip around on their truths. When we can’t say our truths on an anonymous forum, then it is all over. I somehow was not going to respond here (because you asked me to leave her alone), but I saw your post and a God quip up there and changed my mind. If you had stayed away, I probably would have said nothing apart from my initial three emojis
MonCat

Aside- why do you see the “bullying” for bukatyne but not for cococandy? What am I missing?

merahki:
1. This your last line is termed “using the name of God in vain” in Christian parlance. Kaam.isha and Kanwuli.aBaby said everything I feel/deduce about you.
They just did it in a more orderly way, I would have been all over the place with my submission.

2. I hope you are happy, because it is misery that loves company .
You have your unicorn- marriage, and are supposed to be as content and happy as a cat.

3. But no, for some reason you constantly peck at the unmarried and rub their “poor, hopeless , hapless noses” on the floor. Why do you have this intense need to see them sad? You are either unhappy or mean (or both) to be this way.

4. You deviously add career/work to your “beef” but I know that your grouse is really with the unmarried who are daring to dare, to have orgasms, to “prostitute”, to either live or try to live as the case may be. Who don’t do your shiloh-living because well, because they don’t roll like that.

5. A good (fair) soul would be happy for these “poor demographic” but not you, because, you . I once made a post and you quoted me with a “why?”. That, and other threads I have seen from you decided my opinion about you. I remember I replied you with a zed

6. I had typed a long post using myself as a case study, however I decided that any thread from you would not get to catch a glimpse of my life/soul, and so deleted it. I will leave that for another (better) thread or for any direct question about my life(outside of your thread).

7. I kind of feel crazily sorry for you sha.

8. And please try as much as possible not to come back with the “ I know you are secretly unhappy and wish you had my marriage bla bla bla”.
Cheers

blank:
My work and my calling is to help people account for their money and keep proper records. I am fulfilled and will die empty.

I am glad i pursued work and career first. If not, i would never have known true fulfillment.

I don't hide it when I tell people that my job fulfills me and if I did not have kids, I would be sitting pretty right where I want to be.

But I have made my compromises and I have made my peace with what I have chosen.

Phut:
Probably no groceries at home. Times are tough all over the world. The man is dressing up to go out with the oldest. Why not buy take out for all the children (not just the oldest) or use the money to buy foodstuff to be prepared at home, for all.

Netochi:
Thank you

Iffffffy:
So many body insecurities I'm still dealing with.

RaymondFantasy:
Don't make yourself too available, use absence to increase your respect
Because scarcity gives value to a product.
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Do you Agree or Disagree.?

Netochi:
I prefer he bullys than for him to be bullied

Netochi:
My hubby said he was like that but if you see my hubby now, people are afraid of him right now. He is very confident and a go getter right now

Confusedwomsn:
Thank you so much.

I had s long discussion with him about our issues last night and I must confess that I do agree with most points you said.

He said I made him this way, that I made him lose focus for his life and become lazy and s pastor told him I have negative spirit. That he has checked out and I irritate him. That he is not succeeding but I am succeeding that I should search myself.
I then asked if he wants to separate and he first said he is not sure and when I said he should decide he said yes.
I've accepted that we are no more together and I have to move on, his cousins are currently staying with us, so I want to share the foodstuffs and toiletries St home because Ill only be responsible for my child and ward.
I'm no more going to cook or be responsible for everyone. We are now officially roommates until we sort out our accommodation.
I know it will end in praise

Netochi:
Please I need your help please. My Seven year old son behaves like someone that have inferiority complex, he get easily bullied even by little kids of 2years. It really breaks my heart to see it and even my younger daughter have started following that foot step though she is better than her elder brother. I don't know what to do to raise a stronger son who can stand up for himself. I plan to enrol him in a military school to harden him. Please I need your advice to raise my kids to be wiser, more confidence and brave

crackkhaus:
Lol, okay.

Taking it like a champ. I like it

KanwuliaBaby:
Here you go again.
You start a proxy-thread “pretending” you want to discuss “whatever”, then your main focus is soon exposed to all when you finally land on what you really want to express. Do you think NL is full of preschoolers?

Why the deception?

Just open a topic in the “Dear Diaries” section and continue your fallacies of circumlocutIon from paragraph to paragraph as you wish. . . . undisturbed.

You know?
What we write online gives a true pictograph of our states of mind offline.

What marriage means to me?
I could write VOLUMES! I am an EXPERT on the topic. No need for me to be opening threads UPANDAN to discuss it. A VERRRRRY BORRRRRRING TOPIC TO ME.

Guuuuuuuuul!!!!! You can NEVER grasp or comprehend this “marriage concept” in a million years. I am living it. Are you? After 20 years +++ of marriage, you wanno ask me? I was married before I joined NL in 2008. . . . and still married TO THE SAME MAN o!

Na KPOMO? ? ?

You do not sound like you live a life of content.
We all lack in one area or another with the hopes that we accomplish a measure of fulfillment or satisfaction at the end of our toils and endeavors.

You are a looooooong way from understanding the essence of life and living.

You do not come across as a content being.
Your have a soul of eternal yearning and you remain mostly spiritually and “physically” unsatisfied.


I hope you you find “your way to peace”. . . . . . Sooooooon. Children of “God” don’t have to be THIS miserable.