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martineverest:
Irony of life..... While he sells products that contain heavy sugar with almost zero fruit.


We can deduce that he is telling us not to consume coke, Fanta etc and buy more of hollandia and chivita products

Dude shud be sacked asap.... He isn't representing the brand

They are steps ahead of their consumers.

People are gradually shifting from carbonated drinks aka coke et al to freshly made juices and smoothies.

Sales from coke will gradually drop and bros has told you to start drinking healthier drinks aka their new product line.

Coca Cola will always be there with you

Funny though, you need preservatives aka chemicals to keep fresh juice for long.

I believe they also make pulpy.

Tinalex:
Hi....please I caught my husband masturbating, tho he doesn't know I know. Should I be worried?

Does your husband satisfy you in bed? If yes, why are you worried?

I agree it is a bad habit by the way.

kristen12:
1. He never said it.


2. My mum thinks he's not serious and she wants me to look for someone that is serious.


3. I've not stopped applying to places and presently, I just finished learning a skill. I'm still planning to learn more till when I get something doing.


4. Thanks Ma'am

1. Then good riddance to bad rubbish

2. Why does she think he is unserious? what is her definition of serious?

3. Go girl! That's the spirit.

4. You are welcome

Ikology:
First outfit is for greeting guests

Second outfit is for egg selling

Third is for wine carrying

You guys had fun.

I want to buy a crate of eggs.

kristen12:
Marriage pressure is very very real and crazy especially when your parents are not understanding. I never thought it will get to me at all.

My relationship of 5 years got broken because the guy wanted someone from another tribe and it's like I'm starting from the beginning again. Nobody is coming at all.

The one I'm with right now isn't really ready for it cos of money and some other issues and my parents aren't even trying to understand. I've not gotten a job yet and there's no money to start a business and they're talking about marriage.

It's frustrating, wish I could run away and start my life quietly somewhere else.

So you are 25yrs, cool

I am worried it took you 5yrs to find out that your ex wanted to marry from another tribe. Except he has multiple personality, he would have mentioned his preferences in those 5 yrs.

You say nobody is coming and at the same time, you have someone..... hmmm

Now, you need a serious relationship and not a wishy washy one.

Your parents have to understand in addition to putting pressure so you don't say I do to the next trousers. Again, they might seem 'non-understanding' because they see you are not in a serious relationship.

So sit your parents, list all your challenges and tell them that you desire to be married however, 1, 2, etc. is preventing it. Also tell them that you don't to be pressured to jump off with the next man and have a terrible marriage which will be worse than been unmarried.

What are you doing as regards a job/business?

Goodluck.

Lavendra:
1. well... I think I should comment. I feel cursed, any relationship I enter doesn't last I end up getting hurt,

2. I try as much as possible to avoid guyd, but of seems like every guy I have in my life have either asked me out or is still trying his luck, I'm trying to say there are just too many guys around but I no longer have the heart to love because of my emotional scars, the pain is too much, I don't think I plan to get married, my parents should please forgive me if I don't.

3. Now I barely have friends, I'm scared of being close to anyone, I'm scared of talking to anyone about my deepest fears, I cut myself off from pipz around me because I'm scared of being hurt

4. most people think I'm weird, no guy wants a wife who loves living with dogs, cats, birds, animals in general, no guy wants a wife who likes driving a bike around town or a wife who is in love with driving speed boats or swimming in rivers but these are the things that makes me happy, dogs, agriculture, swimming, adventure its just part of me,

5. it doesn't make me a bad person. I accept whatever fate awaits me in life after all we won't live forever. my last relationship taught me a really big lesson...

1. Easy on yourself, can you give examples of relationships that did not work out? What attracts you to a man? How do you conduct yourself? Are you a liberal in a conservative environ? A conservative in a liberal environ?

2. You need to take a relationship break evaluating yourself. Do not worry, you will get married. We will get to the hurt later.

3. I understand you, it wouldn't be easy to trust again

4. You think very lowly of yourself.... i will bet you haven't met 10% of the men in Nigeria yet you are 100% sure that no man would like a lady with your tastes. You actually sound like a very interesting person if you genuinely like these things and not as a result of running away from humans. You do not need to be apologetic about your uniqueness except if there is something wrong with your adventures such as sleeping around or binge drinking alcohol; that's why you are you..... You just need to be upfront about them and sieve out men that do not conform.

5. Interestingly, life doesn't give us want we desire, it yields what we fight for. If you want to live a full life, you need to fight for it.

Goodluck.

ivolt:
It is not normal in the western world, celebrities don't represent the populace.

I agree with you and OP.

It is very crass and disrespectful.

Hedonistically:
Typical bimbo who understands nothing else but Ini Edo, Tonto Dike, Jim Iyke...and Telemundo at best.

Trollop, it's not about being "lazy" (duh, you fools would regard Evans the Kidnapper as hardworking). It's about how you ALL want to eat your cake and have it. Life doesn't work that way.

I have no problem with the classical status quo. I shall bear the full financial responsibility, and also be the typical African head of the household. However, what I have a massive problem with is the African feminist rubbish of wanting the best of both worlds.. Don't raise hell when you find out that I have one or two, or even three or more side chicks outside to help me relax better as a "naturally polygamous' African man that I am. The moment you start dragging right with me, that you can also cheat or you dare to expect me to be faithful to you then that's when you must be very very very extremely mad.

Sit back, relax, and enjoy your financial obligation-free life, and be 100% faithful while at it, but don't dare expect me to give up my male privileges. I will cheat, and you should be faithful. It's as simple as that. Just enjoy your role and shut the Bleep up.

That doesn't mean I'll rub my extramarital adventures in your yellow face. Just don't think you're entitled to own me 100%, or worse still, that you have the right to "do as I do". Don't try to sing any irritating and fake 'gender equality' song at all.

That's all there is to it, at least from my point of view.

As interestingly strange and hard you want this to be, this is a lot of wives reality.

The sad part is that most don't even get to enjoy the financial free life.

MrBrownJay1:
stop writing rubbish... the housegirl/boy cooks and clean. NO married working woman in Nigeria goes home after a long day at work to start cooking and cleaning the house. get real, its only the unemployed trophy wife that does that, in between watching telenovelas!

I am not sure you are conversant with the life of an average Nigerian wife.

kristen12:
Marriage pressure is very very real and crazy especially when your parents are not understanding. I never thought it will get to me at all.

My relationship of 5 years got broken because the guy wanted someone from another tribe and it's like I'm starting from the beginning again. Nobody is coming at all.

The one I'm with right now isn't really ready for it cos of money and some other issues and my parents aren't even trying to understand. I've not gotten a job yet and there's no money to start a business and they're talking about marriage.

It's frustrating, wish I could run away and start my life quietly somewhere else.

How old are you?

Omaa1:
How do one deal with the feeling of failure?
Lemme use my story as an example;
Finished secondary school at 16, have to stay back at home and forfeit even my first admission because of fund. Stayed at home and worked for 5-6 year before going back to school. At that time most of my classmate are graduates. Graduated and finished Service at 28. No job, (most job age limit are plain ridiculous for entry level), relationship is nothing to write home about and no money.
I see most of my childhood working and doing well, some married with kids (my best friend have 4 kids with a great career), I'm not desperate for marriage though. But, that feeling of underachieved, that feeling of I'm not where I'm supposed to be, considering what I have been through is really depressing, in less than 3 month time I will 29, yet I ain't seeing no silver lining.
How do I deal with these feelings ?

Sorry about how things have turned out.

The truth is the feelings would become worse with time as more of your friends are climbing up the ladder.

You need to start defining what you want/need at this stage of your life.

The first thing to go is your relationship. If it is nothing to write home about, you don't need it. While it is politically correct to say you are not desperate for marriage, you need it except you can abstain from sex totally, live like a recluse and not want kids.....

So you would want to start looking at marriage in view now before you get older and desperate and please don't enter any undefined relationship.

Next, have you considered going back to where you worked before school? You can talk to known faces and they work you into the organization proper since you are now a graduate.

You can also explore the option of doing your own thing; look for what you are good at and monetize it.

You can also learn about online freelance jobs like fiverr and upwork.

Also dissociate yourself from 'friends' who make you feel worse off due to their insensitivity and don't always project the image of a pitiful person. Also learn to rejoice with your friends as they add another feather to their cap.

Good luck

Harmonyemerald:
No idea

You need to have an idea why. Search yourself deeply

Harmonyemerald:
Hello lovelies, how are we this gorgeous morning....... like I said earlier, anyone of us can bring up a topic that we think needs to be discussed because we are all female and we all face alot of common issues.

The topic I want to throw open today is "what do you do when all your friends are getting married and your mum is not helping matters and you don't even have a boyfriend or a reasonable chykers? ".

I will run us through my experience. I have a great career and am in my twenties, pretty, ebony and super confident. Am what is called alpha female. As at the beginning of this year I was in a great relationship-two years and counting and then life happened. I thought I was even going to be the first among my folks to jump the broom and say I do.... so shortly after we broke up.... three out of my three closest friends n cousins met their men within a space of 6 months or less and are all married now......so funny...it was like the movies. Then my mum came to intensify the pressure she has been giving me since I was 17. It's like any other success in any aspect of my life doesn't count as long as am still bearing my dad's name. She has made my life a living hell like am the one to go get the husband.... the men go seek out the female. And it's not like she has tried bringing the man and I said no. She keeps judging me based on the number of guys I have met and in the course of getting to know them discovered that we aren't right for each other. With the rate of cheating, killings, domestic violence and broken/unhappy marriages should the society not let people take their time and wait for that one right person. Some are lucky to meet them sooner, others aren't but why should society push us to be marriage crazy without looking for those ingredients that make a good marriage... (when you want to make a good soup you take your time getting the right spices and ingredients else you are stuck with a horrible soup which you will continue to manage till it finishes or throw it away). Reality is I don't want to manage for the rest of my life, I don't want to be unhappy. I want the right one to find me. So ladies and guys how should a lady cope when it looks like her success is measured by her marial status or how beautiful her kids are

Why are you not seeing reasonable chykers?

Did the woman resurrect?

I read this story years back. Unfortunately unable to muster pity for her.

I am sure if she was told to seperate earlier on, she would see the person like a demon.

Tallesty1:
The same long story.

Here you are, a lady that haven't met up 5% of Nigeria men and you're already ranting that 99% Nigeria men are insecure bla bla...

I don't know where this mentality is from but I have this to say about it.
Nigeria men are not scared of successful women rather they are scared of control freaks.

The type of woman that only feels good about herself if she makes you feel less than her.

These are the women that my brothers are scared of. It is called being careful and not insecurity.

And for your information, it isn't just Nigeria men, if a host of studies are to be believed, marrying these women(career women) is asking for trouble.

If they quit their jobs and stay home with the kids, they will be unhappy ( Journal of Marriage and Family, 2003). They will be unhappy if they make more money than you do ( Social Forces, 2006). You will be unhappy if they make more money than you do ( Journal of Marriage and Family, 2001). You will be more likely to fall ill ( American Journal of Sociology). Even your house will be dirtier ( Institute for Social Research).

Have you seen that it just isn't a Nigeria thing?

Now can we the stats to back your ridiculous 99.9$ nonsense?

The same studies have found that professional women are more likely to get divorced, more likely to cheat, less likely to have children, and, if they do have kids, they are more likely to be unhappy about it.

Men are not scared of women with wealth, they're simply not ready for their endless troubles.

Nobody will willingly pierce his body with many sorrows.

Now lemme bring it down to Nigeria women.

This is what happens when a guy asks for the hand of a rich girl in marriage.
Each member of the family will buy one Laser-Sharp Binoculars that can pierce through his flesh and bones and zoom the guy's soul to search his spirit to know if he's after the woman's wealth.

Even when the Binoculars reads negative, they still won't believe it, they will become very envious and are likely to disrespect the guy.

The guy have alota work to do to prove his not after their sister's money before they can respect him.....

The mama will be like, "My daughter, that guy is after your money. He's not good for you, wait my dear, when a good guy comes I will tell you".

Who wants that?

Finally, these women, especially those working in an office or something of that nature do not know that there are things one needs to succeed in business and work.

These things are direct opposite of what we need to have successful marriage and most of these successful women do not know where to cut the line.

To succeed in business, you have to be stubborn, in control etc. Bring these things into your marriage and you are in trouble.
Some successful women would rather blow the house up and everything in it than compromise or take personal responsibility.

Who Wants This?

Women Naturally want to exert control over everything. They enjoy to make those around them feel inadequate, insecure, nervous, angry, anxious and physically sick.

Go to married men that have richer wives and ask them, they will tell you that the message their women pass in everything they do is I don’t trust you to be able to do it right; I don’t respect your judgment; I don’t think you are competent; I don’t value your insight. I can do it all alone.

Stay Alone Then.

If you're rich and no man wants to marry you, it's because you're not good.

Stop consoling yourself with the Nigeria men are insecure around women with wealth.

Acquiring wealth doesn't mean you should get married automatically.
There are many broke single women out there and many rich women are getting married even as we talk.

Work on yourself.

According the op, the women was sent parking because she was rich, and I ask, all these poor broke ladies that gets divorced all the time, is it their wealth that intimidated their husbands?

Stumbled on this and I must say hilarious!

Women need to seek men their level.... not necessarily financially but mentally.

The Ooni's palace looks like royalty!

The extensive 'ancestral' walkway does it.

Already makes you feel you are approaching the throne of HRM.

Ikology:
Forum members finally held their traditional marriage rites in Abor, Udi local government, Enugu State. The event was held on 25th November, 2017. Thank God for his mercies on lives , while we pray on his continued protection and guidance for the new couples.

Nairalanders please wish the brand new couples happy married life.

Congratulations OP, God bless your home.

Why does your bride have 3 outfits?

Thane:
My gfrnd has this issue with her hair. She is always asked to relax her hair by stylists everytime she wants to have a hairdo. Evn after that, her hair is always rough and thick after two weeks of relaxing her hair making her to do her hair almost 2-3 . Please any hair cream or remedy at all for hair.

mynd44
lalasticala
dominique
seun

Too much relaxing will spoil her hair.

Her hair is rough and thick because it has a fasr growth rate hence it has 'undergrowths' which the hair dressers want her to 'relax'.

There are two types of relaxers: lye relaxers (which is tough on the scalp and gentle on the ends of the hair) and non-lye relaxers (which is soft on the scalp and tough on the ends of the hair).

The lye relaxers burns your scalp and leaves the ends soft aka relaxed while the non-lye doesn't burn your scalp however, the ends will be hard like sponge.

She can rotate both types of relaxers every quarter or at least every 2 months.

Now to her hair itself: she needs to make her hair naturally soft and unfortunately, the hair dressers don't want to deal with 'thick' hair; it wastes time and money is going.

I used to have very thick sponge like hair and relaxers never worked. I decided to go natural (fire) and actually learnt to care for my hair and make it softer. Stuffs I did include:

1. Greenhouse effect: after washing my hair, I dry a little with towel and added extra virgin olive oil. Then I cover my hair with shower cap overnight and style as desired the next morning (without washing the hair). Do this as often as possible. I also do this anytime the hair feels dry.

2. Moisturize: very important: after washing my hair, I add liquid (either not drying my hair fully or rosewater), oil (extra virgin olive oil and/or extra virgin coconut oil), cream (any moisturizing cream e.g. cantu, Emily millionaire, damatol, virgin hair etc.) and ori to seal all the previous stuffs you have added to the hair. She should not add everything at once, it defeats the purpose.

3. She should mix olive oil and/or coconut oil with water in a spray bottle and spray on her hair (her own hair or whatever she has on it ) everyday.

4. When going to the saloon, have the mixture in point 3 handy and spray whenever the hair is dry. She can also do point 1 the night before so the hair is soft.

Goodluck.

P.S.: she should also avoid applying heat to her hair or I'd she must, use heat defence (e.g. coconut oil, Shea Butter etc.)

Shaw007:
Jeff Bezos made $2.9bn just on black friday.


Also, see how crazy black Fridays can get

http://listverse.com/2017/11/24/10-times-people-died-because-of-black-friday

They made $2.9bn profit or sold $2.9bn worth of goods?

Ishilove:
This Black Friday madness reminds me of the subject matter Stephen King's novel 'Needful Things'. Man is a consumer who keeps consuming and consuming, even when he doesn't need those things he is going out of his way to buy. We live in a generation of self aggrandisement

I think a major part of the problem that we no longer live in a communal system so we are no longer resourceful.

Else, the people who can afford the price slash can sell the stuffs they but last year to some others who cannot afford to do 'black Friday' and it goes down to the lowest people in the society so there is really no waste just recycling aka hand me downs of goods.

Again, some are merchants who will resell the goods.

Lovely picture.

God bless their home

amnesty7:
But the background didn't show any wedding sign.

She wore it to Banky's wedding.

Of course, they will push you to do what they can't....

Ask how many of the so-called friends will wear same or introduce her to their brothers.

Yeye

elantraceey:
I can't agree with you more and a lot of people male and female inclusive don't understand this, they just say whatever they like without thinking about the impart it'll have on the hearer.

I think verbal abusive is different from been rude or reacting in anger.

Ditto physical abuse.

Problem arises when you try to mix the two up.

Couple raising hell at each other ain't verbal abuse; they might be rude, uncouth bla bla but they are not 'abusing' themselves verbally.

I very much agree with Next2bezee

Destroying your future for the present!

Wise man.

This is what happens when we try to be smarter than ourselves.

Common sense tells us that if you do not want sex, you DO NOT give out verbal and non-verbal cues suggesting otherwise.

It is also common sense not to sleep about in men's houses you do not plan to have sex with. If you are constrained and must sleep there (going to download films with free wifi doesn't apply), you conduct yourself properly if you do not want sex.

All these will interestingly backfire on women as most women would want to be seduced/persuaded/chased before giving in to sex.

Except a husband injures his wife during trying to have sex with her, 'rape' doesn't really apply because the marriage institution is designed to provide everlasting consent to both parties.

When you said 'I Do', It was a blanket consent except in exceptional cases.

FYI, A lot of men are also 'raped' if we go by the definition in the OP. Even in the family section, a lot of wives have been advised to cook, wear red pant and bra, and in extreme cases spike their husband's food if he refuses to have sex with his wife.

And I honestly doubt that a guy will sleep over the house of a lady or strip himself to his boxers in the room of a girl he doesn't intend to have sex with.

Imunose:
I love them on other people, but unfortunately, it doesn't look good on me

Aiye le

Just joking

Chokers are cool especially with pony tail styles.

SalamRushdie:
Useless satanist trying to find fault with everything Trump does . This is the first time the white house will be celebrating Christmas in 8 years because Obam kept celebrating something called happy holidays

Well, this is not celebrating 'Christmas' and a happy holiday theme would have been much better.

onuhabel1:
Yea, if what Jesus said to one person, he says to all

Don't u know Jesus was with God from the beginning and he's God?

If he told Abraham, it applies to us as well, Paul the apostle also spoke abt tithing, u knw?

God told Abraham to sacrifice his only legitimate son, does it apply to all too?

Not against tithing.

Children, if you don't like how your father is 'spoiling' madam Toke, warn him....

If he no free despite glaring evidences, go to mountain. ...

Confronting Toke makes the relationship stronger.

If the story is true.

Knew her divorce was a ruse.

[quote author=oyb post=62744986][/quote]Hausas who have been named pedophiles still cut off the private part of a rapist!

Every sensible person knows what rape is and will vehemently oppose it.

Sometimes, applying logic will save these girls present and future headache.

This girl is so fish brained thar she doesn't realise that publicising her one night stand will ruin her relationship (with referenced bf or new one), ruin her chances at a serious relationship cûm marriage (if she uses her real names to open her twitter account) and ruin her chances at a job.

Ruin your future chances for 5 mins of fame?

And tomorrow she will say the world is 'unfair' to women.

No reasoning.

Me thinks if she is thinking of her future, she will be mindful of the reputation she's building on and off line

LadyGoddiva:
Like I said before, sometimes we do stupid things without expecting the terrible outcome. Since Nigerian men here have proven to be wild animals with no iota of self control, then we have no choice but to guard ourselves against them

You agree girls sometimes do stupid things?

Could it be that guys are also capable of doing stupid things?