₦airaland Forum

thorpido:
That thing doesn't make sense, at least not in this generation.
If you have to sponsor a lady,then quickly get married to her and she continues her studies from her marital home.

What if he doesn't send her to school after marriage?

Divorce/ seperation is not too hard to get for the willing.

She can also find a fresh toy boy in school.

joinnow:
And men will not learn.

Learn what?

The earth has been designed for love and heartbreak.

The matters of the heart is really not logical.

cococandy:
Don’t mind him. Forming innocence

I fear him no bi small!

PrecisionFx:
Why generational curses never destroy America

The constant push beyond moral borders might be their own curse.

Interesting discuss.

I particularly learnt front the OP the last step of conversion we don't follow up on: baptism.

And I agree with Shadeyinka on this...
We need to be delivered by self or others of generational curses. The 2nd post directly above clearly explains it.

Like Paul said, on earth we know in parts and I am glad l learnt from the OP even if I don't agree with his stance on ancestral curses. I believe he is just capturing the curse of the law which is broken automatically at Salvation.

Deborah for me.

How she shuttled priestly duties under the tree the whole day and was still a wife to Lapidoth and mom to her kids (if any)

Also Abigail if I can see one more.

RichieBrown:
one was a slave, the other, a king. One acted out of fear of death, the other, a king above the law. Understanding biblical characters psychological goes a long way to decipher the way they lived. When you use discipline and wisdom; sorry to be blunt, it is a shallow view. An example, would you give yourself to the wife of an army general whom you work under as a slave? I guess not. Why? For fear or for discipline? It is not what we do, so much as why we do it.

Joseph acted out of reverence for God and nit fear of physical punishment. He said he could wicked thing against God & his master Potiphar.

cococandy:
If you’re getting married, what are you calling her for again? Let her be or your fiancé might get offended too.

That you had to sit your lady friend down to explain your intentions of getting married means you guys were a little more than friends. If you were just friends, that conversation wouldn’t need to be serious. She would have probably even known your girlfriend before it got to the stage of marriage. We are not kids here. At least I’m not.

She clearly saw both of you as more than friends and you must have don’t something to encourage that thought in her head. Stop playing dumb about it. Just let her be.

As in....

If they were just friends, the girl would have been in the toasting process.

For him to have to sit her to explain his engagement means he toasted main chic behind friend, started dating main chic behind friend, got serious with main chic behind friend and proposed behind friend.

Which now begs the question. ... what kind of good friends are you guys that you could pull off such a time consuming project without her knowledge?

He is just trying to pacify the friend aka side chic.

akinejame:
I personally DON'T LIKE the jersey! I'm not supposed to share the same sentiments with people who want to sound cool. I preferred the concept jersey more. If you want to invoke the spirit of the 90's, that's fine, but to say the jersey is sexy to me, it isn't. That's my feeling.

Nigeria hasn't convinced me to be able to go far in this world cup. Their players aren't playing at top level at their respective clubs (except for Iwobi - who is an average player). If they do, all well and good. But I won't be rooting for them. I want to watch football at its finest.

Well,

Whether you root for them or not, they are your national team and will always represent you and everyone of us on that pitch.

ehinorlive:
look at the way they are analysing nigeria, tearing it apart like mathematics, when will all nigerians get this kind of brain

As in.....

cimag:
Can this type of woman stay a day without a dick inside her kondo?What does she mean by retirement?Does she want to keep just few men to be sampling her or total abstinence from sex that she has become addicted to?

She said she's not addicted and wanted to train her kids.

Also said she turned down. Several marriage proposals.

She sounds like she can do without.

aalangel:
And she's still looking poor.... That's to show you that devil has nothing to offer.

Hmmmm

True in a way, I will modify to the devil has nothing to offer at the end.

Some supposedly shine in the beginning.

juwoonn:
She dey count them? Perhaps she will need a special cell in hell

Why does she need a special place in hell?

News flash, she with 28k body count, a virgin who has sex 2 days to her wedding, all the men who patronize oloshos, a guy who is lying to a girl, a diligent wife who denies she has hidden savings and a loving husband who bears a grudge against his wife will all go to same hell if they all die on the spot.

@OP:

The earlier people (male & female) get married, the better .

I am a fan of early marriage.

@OP:

The earlier m

akeentech:
I married my wife @ 22 and that is the best age for every sane girl to get married. If you marry 30+ girl after 5 years her beauty will begins fade away reason why we see so many cases of cheating nowadays. My take.

So are you saying that your wife will be expired by 35?

Horrible.

enque:
Wow...so ede can be eaten like yam?
I thought it was only for soup tins

They are different species.

Nancy2016:
You made some salient points about presentation, but I think you went overboard with the criticisms. It would have been nice if you had tactfully put across your points. After reading so many of your comments on the family board, I can tell that tactfulness is not your forté. I have been a silent visitor to this thread for over a year and I can say some of the meals displayed here could have been better presented and in cleaner environs. Yes it is an informal forum but it is nice to do things in a professional manner. I watch a lot of cooking shows and there is a lot of emphasis on presentation and proper sanitary conditions. It is time we start emulating that in our homes.

100% on point.

I learnt too.

The eyes eats first before the mouth and other senses.

Everything has to appeal to the eyes.

I was going to question the importance of the bill till I saw that a justice was denied promotion because of this.

That it doesn't/will never affect me doesn't mean others are all fine.

Let's see what the bill amounts to.

DWJOBScom:
They just marry o

And so?

People interestingly underestimate the power of consistent small contributions and 'seemingly' petty businesses.

My shock when it dawned on me that N200.00 naira every work day = N48k per year.

My only grouse is the assault.

Throwing her out is absolutely on point.

Jayboi:
thats serious.
i still think trust is key in marriage as long as its properly conducted by the registry. this will protect the wife even if the husband goes on to marry anoda. she will be regarded as the wife by law so i still think Mr & Mrs is just ok. the Mrs here is the wife by law.

Anybody can be Mrs. X

LadySarah:
The child was meant to die at that time.how can a prophet of God giveyou guys conditions on When to see each other


You can adopt.
Some Nl guys are looking for who'd adopt them even at 30.

From the story, the child was not meant to die....

The woman killed him.

Now she is thinking of moving on?

@adoption: a 62yr soon to be single childless old man should adopt?

My dear, theory and practical life are world apart.

I commend the man's self-control; I dobut I would have succeeded as the man or his wife.

Zykod:
Guy, handle your home well na.

1. Complain to the landlord about the neighbors been unusually close to your wife


2. Talk to the so-called close neighbors about your displeasure about all this


3. Whatever excuses pushes your wife to his place, buy it and there wont be excuse


4. Your woman is loose, don't mind my tips above, but just try to fix these loose ends...


5. Call and inform her relatives


6. Bringing in one of your own relatives


7. Start initiating video calls not just voice calls.

8. It's not good for your kids to see another male figure in the house o. This is not good, why do you stay far from your wife? Always, i repeat always choose the house your rent in accordance with your wife's behavior. Your wife can't stay in a compound or area with too many people around, find an area that's secluded, an area where no idle people to rent next time

@point 8, abeg!

Lol!

ashjay001:
Guy, not all marriages work with plans.


Nigerian ladies, have ds mentality, of getting married at all cost. To achieve this, some will willingly swallow a toad whole. After d marriage, d stories that touch, will start.


U can only truly know d woman u married, after d marriage itself. Pple rarely, change their innate character.


Like op here, her hubby, probably married her cos, he was getting away with sh*t during courtship. Now, she's standing up to him, he's probably one surprised nigga. Wondering how he missed this part of her


Keep ur plans, till after marriage. Immediately, we chose d date, my/our plan/s went awry(plans, she agreed to, in writing)

Have u asked ur betrothed, her plans? Have u compared plans? Does she key into urs?

Marriage is a very humbling experience. Just avoid marrying someone petty n don't be petty too! If u both can see d bigger picture, things will pan out.

@bold:

You oversabi.

The husband did not change, the wife just got sick/open eye and started standing up to him.

No bi today we de see am.

1 100% bet that if she hands over her earning monthly and does not expect any contribution (domestic or otherwise) from him, their marriage will suddenly become 'peaceful' again like magic.

OP has 3 long term options....
1. Go back to mumu mode to get/retain hubby's blesssings;

2. Pray that his ideology changes to be more accommodative to hers

3. Part ways.

I have come to understand that the basic traditional model of marriage is the best especially for our climes.

No unnecessary hassle or quarrel.

MrBottle:
He asked you to resign so that you will be at his mercy. Psychological imbalance. Do whatever you want to do but never allow the grass (child) to suffer in the process.

Very correct.

I know someone experiencing this...

The husband wants her to foot most of thee bills yet not get better jobs so she doesn't have too much loose change with her. He earns about 2x she does and she earns well.

Zykod:
You are not seeing it the way it's happening. I'm a man let me explain, the man doesn't give two hoots about the daughter, he also cares less about the family.

The man is all about the money, he wants the woman to make the money, give to him and he'll do what he wants to do, anything less than this is a NO-NO for him. He can't afford the woman making decisions and ascribes it as pride, the woman may be willing to work with him, but he wants none of it.


I've seen this kinds before, they want to be the one dishing out goodies at all time and won't settle for being a beneficiary of anyone's goodies, she married a man who needs some psychological re-adjustment if the home will stand. Little wonder why single lades are not taking some of serious. If i have a wife that can bring something to the table,i'll gladly accept it, call her to the dining table, and discuss, this and that is the way forward this is what's gonna happen.

I'm too-rich for now, but you take the lead, while i go hustle, but na lie, the pride-demon in him will not let him to the right thing, she should be helpless while he should be the one doing the sepnding is his fixated ideology about marriage. This woman here has no issue oh, her hands are clean, its the man that needs to grow up..


Not a prophet of doom, but the only way this woman can enjoy her marriage is only if the man earns more money, which wont happen, no be curse, God seeing and knowing the kind of man he is will bless this woman more and more, and more. She will keep earning more and more than him, and if he can't deal with it, it's going to create more tension between them....Divorce is not the case here, i suggest oP settles for a long term rocky relationship. This is not a happy union obviously....She married a wrong man.


Give me a woman that earns more than me, and i'll happily pull my chair saw woman kneel down, pray for her to continue to earn more, ask her to make me chicken peppersoup every night, while i hustle, i'll enjoy her success without envying it. Marriage is not a battle ground. Competiton creates strife even in marriage, the both genders are meant to complement one another and not try to kill one another in the name of you earn more than me and i can't take it. God give me a millionaire wife, i will gladly accept it, as long as it comes with humility, submissiveness and Godliness...

Thanks, this is refreshing.

Not calling madam OP a saint, however not seeing the husband's shortcomings is unfair

AntiBrutus:
After the reading his part of the story, I strongly doubt the young man wanted to rape her.

Not when she was with the keys and had time to even video the event. She was just paranoid, I am trying not to use a more implicating word. The driver too isn't very okay.


They should investigate properly. I still recommend, prison time for false rape accusations.

I concur..

Same 7 years.

hanassholesolo:
Because everyone can think with such maximum efficiency under duress. Bravo detective!!

-A trailer runs over a teenager
-Video is released showing the incident
-Detectives on Nairaland "Why didn't he lay down flat on the ground so that the truck could pass over him, surely he could have thought of that in this "emergency" situation
-Meanwhile the only thing going through the victims head is fear

If fear was the only thing in her head, she wouldn't be issuing threats on video when she was finally out of the car.

She would run away as her life depended on it.

FlirtyKaren:
in the video, i noticed the driver's door was still open as he left the car with his boxers showing, when she was complaining he had locked her side of the car.

and again, when a door is on child lock, shebi you know it can be opened from outside but not from inside?

i'm not saying the driver is guilty as accused but i just want all the parties involved and their stories to be well understood.

I have a problem with why he touched her against her will.

she told him clearly - do not touch me, if you touch me. but he still went ahead and grabbed her and that caused her to scream.

it's in the video.

Was the touch intended to be sexual?

If I hit your chest during an fight or caress your arms, you will tell me not to touch you.

Someone hearing us might not be able to distinguish.