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Jman06:
Well, if the guy really wants to settle for the lady, let him convince his parents on why she is the best for him. But then this doesn't change the fact that another person who doesn't want to marry an uneducated person or a school drop out is also right on his/her choice.

This guy's case may also be that he is about to make a wrong choice due to sexual attraction. We don't know them so no one can be sure. Besides, some guys really don't know how to make choices of women they roll with. It is not a matter of having even a PhD. They chose wrongly based on mundane considerations. This also applies to some ladies. This is why the rate of divorce is on the rise.

Why do you think marriages lasted longer in those days when parents were the ones that chose spouses for their children? It is because such marriages were built on substance not on frivolities. Parents ensured that their sons married from families that shared some things in common e.g son of a catechist in the catholic church marrying daughter of C.M.O
chairman, or son of a politician marrying daughter of a politician too.
In the same way, a graduate marrying a graduate also strengthens the union because none of them feels inferior to the other, or feels that the other should worship him/her such that there is mutual respect in the union.

To me o, i think people should marry from their class.

I agree with you 100%.

thebosstrevor:
the ops is even an illiterate for using the title with the word "Charm" ( A real educated person doesn't believe in charm or fetish activities)

when does marriage goes with educational qualification,sorry ops you and your friends family are not exposed.

it is funny how foolish families think,they call others illiterate but act and behave in an illiterate,unexposed and archaic behavior.

what a pity.

if ops and the family was exposed enough they wont be thinking about this matter at all

OR

The family are looking for rich girl and family for their son to marry into. in other word (Gold digging).

@Bold: Tell me more.....

eyinjuege:
Why do you believe they don't have things in common?
They may have similar tastes in music, arts, films, religion, hobbies. Heck, thry may even have similar or closr enough social background. I know a rich man's daughterbwho didnt go to a tertiary school because she just wasnt cut out for formal education. "She no know book". Her parents accepted their fate, she learnt a skill and is doing well in it. Her siblings are all excelling in the corporate world, but she's fine where she is.
Being a hairdresser doesn't make one a low lifer.
There are loads of graduates, both men and women that are as dull as anything, can't hold up a conversation, their thinking so backwards that you wonder.
I learnt Bisola of the last big brother nigeria didnt go to a tertiary institution.Yet she speaks good English, she's talented and definitely sounds intelligent enough, worldly enough to say something about what's going on in her society. She may decide to be a tailor, and she will succeed in it and be respected.
I learnt Alakija, richest woman in Africa started as Maryam Babangida's hairdresser. I'm not sure of her educational qualifications, but for sure she must have been a hairdresser with a difference and a sound mind. At a point in her life, i learnt she sold plantain bunches.
Please not all people who are not formally educated are stupid.
Infact, a lot of educated folks are stupid from my experience with some people and you just want to choke them for their stupidity.
I think we should all learn to respect other people's choices.

These people are exceptions who improved themselves over time.

Besides, Deola Sagoe is a tailor however, she is not an example of your average tailor.

xana101:
how true is this please? I've stop eating cucumber since most girls on d island esp. Lekki phase 1 use it for masturbation.

Including the ones you bought in the market?

Martins4christ:
Thank God For Safe Delivery.Mary Is Here [b][/b]

Congrats and thanks for the update.

Goodluck.

Differential:
Just make sure it's a center and not a home. In any case, ask for references before placing him/her there. Some schools have daycare, so ask. My University has a daycare but they mostly use it for research.

It's good to wait at least 2 months before putting a baby into daycare, because at 6 weeks he/she has not yet been vaccinated.

Use the babies for research as in?

Martins4christ:
i really need advice. i am a student, currently pregnant. going by my calculation, my baby will be two weeks old when school resumes, i am planing on staying at home for a month to take care of LO. my concern is will i be able to drop a six weeks old baby at d school daycare, while i attend class? (i am a single, cant afford a personal nanny, and i have no family member around me) or is there a better way to go about it. am at my wits end.

If you must have sex, protect yourself and/or sleep with a person willing to accept your pregnancy is mistake happens.

That aside, congrats you are keeping the baby..... very brave of you.

I believe your lecturers and coursemates know you are pregnant..... Talk to your lecturers that you need three months or two months at least to care for your baby and you would like to study from home i.e. read etc from home and come to school for only compulsory tests and exams. This means you will have to be in constant touch with your collegaues and photocopy/download the texts you are using so you are updated.

Again, you can get one of your relatives (seeking admission, looking for job, on long break, etc. that can stay with you for that period and care for your baby.

If the school daycare is free and you are not comfortable leaving LO with your relative alone, the person can go with the baby to the daycare and you pick both up after you are done with lectures.

It will get better.

Godluck

Chai! See life

https://www.google.com.ng/search?q=definition+of+a+cult&oq=definition+of+a+cult&aqs=chrome..69i57j0l3.15190j0j7&client=ms-android-verizon&sourceid=chrome-mobile&ie=UTF-8

According to the definition above, all churches are cults and Christianity itself is a cult. We have one center of worship (Jesus) and our lives resolves round doing things the way He would do it.

Singingbae:
What amazes me is that, you never used a Bible verse to counter all this. Pathetic. I guess you never stepped the church talk less of becoming a worker. Liar.
Best thing about this church is that they use Bible verses to back up their claims.
I'm a guy of 20 years old, born in deeper life, will not marry in the place. But I hope my wife changes and we go back to the church, I won't disturb her dressing tho. But I bet, if she follows me to that church for good two months, she'll change without me telling her. Shalom

Are you not funny?

You don't want to marry a deeper life lady but want your wife from somewhere else to become like them (at least in dressing?)

Why don't you just marry the real thing?

You want to ear your cake and have it.

GodDeyCraze:
This is what we called Afonjic lie from the pit of hell

Someone is telling you what is obtainable in his culture, you are calling him a liar.

Yorubas do not sell their daughters..... Take it or leave it.

bennynaza:
a pastor went to marry an Mbaise girl. The brides dad and kinsmen received the bride price after it has been paid and give his blessings to the union. Immediately after, he pulled out #100 naira only, put it his pocket and gave the rest back to his inlaws. During the weeding, he gave the young man a pathfinder.

Bride price does not mean buying the woman, it is a cultural symbolism that shows that the man has the wherewithal to take care of another mans daughter

Bride price means buying the bride that's why Yorubas return with 'we don't sell our daughters' line.

Even the Bible says we are the bride of Christ and have been bought with a price (His precious blood) so we are bound to always do His will.

I am trying to give you the actual picture of bride price. If it is not a sale, why do a lot of husbands quote it when the wife is not heeding to him?

It is a wrong measure to determine a husband's ability to 'care' for his wife.

kelechi50:
God bless you my sister you are a true daughter of your father, my father said any man that can not afford a bride price for his wife to be, is not fit for marriage reasons being that if the wife is allowed to marry him and a problem of 200k arise how can he solve it @giving bath and it turns to an operation what will he do. Teambrideprice.

So dropping N1m bride price and list in January 2014 guarantees the ability of solving a N350k problem in Jan 2015....

It is well.

Bonjelomo:
I was at a traditional wedding. The groom was my classmate @ OAU.
The groom from d east and the bride from Ibadan. They are deeperlife members. The bride price was paid as the culture is, but just b4 d close of day, the bride's father invited the groom's father and returned the envelope. He said: "we are yorubas, moreso we r christians, we don't trade off our children. They have chosen to be married in holy matrimony and so nobody is buying the other!

The groom's father was totally shocked. I guess he'd never seen such culture anywhere. He prayed and prayed until he nearly cursed.

Now this is the hilarious part - the groom told me later in the evening that he knows that the money being returned would cause serious fracas at home tonight. I asked him wy, he said - "na mumsy actually raise that money but as dem don carry am give popsy war go start.

We laughed over it anyway

In my place, we don't collect bride price either and even most Yorubas confirm it.

Even the traditional items are not so expensive and can be negotiated. A lot of staunch Christian families don't ask for a lot of things they think is rooted in demonic culture and alcohol.

I believe the men in the affected areas can solve the problem. They dictate the BP and other cultural marriage trends.

I understand the woman's plight sha. If her husband isn't loving and he keeps referencing the BP she has no stake in, it is frustrating.

Alcatraz005:
Why are women like this? See how they gathered against kimbraaa because she broke the ladies’ code. How many Nigerian women (whether rich or poor) would spend their money for the family when the man too has money. The inference that can be drawn from Facebook post in point is that the lady is talking about spending her “rich” husband’s money and she is spoiling for war with her mother in law.

Well done kimbraaa, your type are rare in these perilous times.

I now wait for the bashing from Nigerian women.

I laugh in Spanish.

Ask your married friends how many 'finance' the home alone or the bulk of it.

Comrademajeed:
FRIDAUSA AMASA VS NIGERIA LAW SCHOOL: Nigeria Lawyer Shares Wife’s Experiences In US Military Training School

ON HIJAB, LAW SCHOOL AND CALL TO BAR

Legend Lens
14th December, 2017

“Meanwhile sources at the ICC stated that before the ceremonies were to begin, all Muslims were respectfully asked to remove their hijabs prior to entering the hall. This request was complied with by all the Muslims present except Amasa Firdaus who vehemently refused to remove hers. In the process of her protests and despite entreaties made to her by other Muslims she was denied entry into the hall by the Body of Benchers. During the ceremony, a Respected former Chief Justice of Nigeria also met with Amasa Firdaus to convince her to remove her hijab but she did not heed the pleadings as she reiterated that even at gun point she would never remove her Hijab…” (Culled from a Nigerian Law Blog site).
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Dear Amasa Firdaus, I want to address you. Please allow me share a brief story with you so that you may be inspired and remain resolute.

In 2015, my wife, a Soldier with the US Army, was told at the Army Annual Training at Fort Dix, New Jersey, United States �� that she either take off her Hijab or leave the Annual Training. My wife insisted that her Hijab is part of her and she will never remove it to please anyone or authority. Exactly like you reportedly insisted. Eventually, she was told to leave and she left the Annual Training. After the conclusion of the annual training, her Military unit said she cannot return….At another point, she was invited back to the drill and she went there with her Hijab � on her head. Again, she was told she cannot use her Hijab and she had to leave and she left. Away from the limelight she fought this vehemently by escalating the issue to the top echelon of the command. We prepared a memo to the authorities explaining why she should be allowed to use her Hijab �.
She was away for almost a year but eventually and in end, the Army Secretary under President Obama released a new regulation allowing the use of Hijab. It was a glorious moment. Her decision to remain undaunted paved the way for others who will come after her. Suddenly, the fight was worth it. All those period she had to cry became a thing of joy. We were elated that her resolve to remain undaunted finally paid off. Today, she proudly wears her Hijab on her uniform, attends her drill sessions and performs well. She’s a badass solider who’ll soon be commissioned as an officer and I’m so darn proud of her.
That is my message to you today Firdaus. You have a made a huge sacrifice and I cannot begin to imagine how sad you feel that the profession you so much look forward to joining has asked you to choose between your faith and your call to bar. You must be so disappointed that Nigeria let you down. I bet you also feel that your Muslim colleagues who took off their Hijabs � when ordered to do so should have stood firm and maybe when they realise that none of you is willing to break rank, they’d have allowed you all to use your Hijab. I get the feeling of sadness. But don’t be. You’re a hero.
You have once again reignited the conversation that has been on for years. You have brought our attention to the way the Nigerian Law School and Council of Legal Education who are empowered to train new lawyers show flagrant disregard to your rights under S. 38 of the constitution. Your courage and sacrifice remind me of that of my wife. You call to bar may have been delayed but in the end, Justice will prevail and it won’t be denied. Please, cheer up! The road ahead will be tough but Allah will strengthen and ease that burden for you.
To your friends and family, this is the time to rally round one of your own and give her all the support she needs. Her decision to fight this injustice is not stupid. Heroes are not always in uniform.
To my lawyer colleagues, once again, we have been called to task. How do we explain it that the Nigerian Law School & Council of Legal Education who are empowered to train new lawyers will themselves refuse to obey the judgments of the Court? Does that not worry us? As a Lawyer, I’m extremely disappointed. Several courts including the Court of Appeal in the case of Lagos State v Aisha Abdulkareem held that the use of Hijab � is a constitutional and fundamental right and no one can take it away. Also in Abidemi Rasaq & ors V. Commissioner for Health Lagos State suit no ID/424M/2004, the Lagos State High Court held that a circular issued by Lagos State School of Health Technology banning students from wearing Hijab � is unconstitutional. Similarly in the case of Provost Kwara State College of Education, Ilorin V. Basirat Saliu suit no CA/IL/49/2009, the learned Justices of the Court of Appeal held that the use of Hijab � by female Muslims qualifies as a fundamental right under Section 38 of the Constitution.
Despite all these decisions, the Nigerian Law School and by extension the Council of Legal Education continues to victimize Muslim Law Student who chose to cover their hair by threatening not to call them to Nigerian Bar. Are we really going to debate this issue from our religious googles or be objective and err on the side of common sense and humanity?
To MULAN and other Muslim Senior Lawyers and Judges, I once read that the Elders have said that they needed just one person who’s willing to face the consequences and stand her ground to wear her Hijab and they will take it up. Now Amasa Firdaus has given herself up. Will you fail her?

What is it with some Muslims' continous disregard for rules?

Christians don't go about doing something contrary to Christianity and expect the laws to be bent or broken; they abstain.

Why can't you Muslims do same? If the dress code of law is against your religion, why don't you leave it? Why do you want to continually eat your cake and have it?

Hmmmmmm..........

With my little experience, UK bagged masters + hair dressers (except you are talking hair stylist aka bobby's signature's type) are universes apart and should stay apart except in exceptional cases like a very broad minded deep thinking hair dresser who is willing to further her education and grow to bobby's standard.

Strange story which should be investigated.

It is either the police is working with the hoodlums hence a successful gang rape in an open place or someone's story is not adding up.

The contractor should also be made to pay what was agreed.

I sympathise with the young lady

E pain the girl!

Lol!

Sound like paternal grandparents.

Congrats girl

Beauty and brains,,,, perfect combo.

KreativGenius:
1. There's too much confusion, ideas, fail-break mechanisms and other war apparatus they set up in their heads and minds that spoils relationships.



2. Nah. From 27 upwards men are better and are more in tune with themselves in terms of expectations and realities. Men are psychologically prepared for challenges from 28.For ladies, i'ld say 23upwards


3. For men, character evaluation and continuous review and purification makes a guy/lady better. Without continuous and regular self assessment and improvement, nothing can work for a long time.

Just seeing the updated post.

1. It goes both ways. I met my husband when he was 21 and trust me, it helped a lot. The trust issues people have today we don't because we were each other's first serious relationships. I knew this all along and have always wanted someone on my level even if older.

3. For men or for everyone abi women don't need continuous improvement ni? And I totally agree with you. Even meeting a fresh boy/girl is no guarantee that things will work out without continous conscious improvement. You both will mix with others, develop new habits and have new things rock your boat. You have to grow with one another.

For me, the earlier you meet, the easier to find someone who rocks you in a lot of stuffs or mould yourselves to rock.

KreativGenius:
Nah. From 27 upwards men are better and are more intune with themselves in terms of expectations and realities. Men are psychologically prepared for challenges from 28.For ladies, i'ld say 23upwards

What is the difference both posts?

If a man marries at 27 and a lady at 23, using your analogy, are they not both in their 20s?

And everybody have different mental/emotional growth pace. Some people unfortunately never even grow up.

A 20yrs old boy who had to fend for his siblings financially/emotionally will be more mature and prepared for marriage than a 3yr old who is still looking for a job.

Have you wondered why people in the village who have a source of livelihood (farming, hunting) etc. marry earlier?

Infact, this formal education thingy is making us mature later. At a point in time, initiation into manhood was as early as 13yrs.

KreativGenius:
A lot. The other guy was right, a lot. Needless Attitude, Lovelessness, Fears, Insecurities, Character Issues, Burnt from past relationships that were not treated properly, a lot. A whole lot. Freshers don't have these issues and are open minded to trust better and cleave better,no matter how nice ladies are after they've been dumped by multiple lovers, it affects their psych and stains the sweetness good relationships should give them when it finally turns up. The other brother can help explain better

Baggage is at both ends and comes with age.

The men also have lots of issues to deal with.

I do not agree with the article and still say 20's are the best time to get married for both peeps.

When will wives learn to face the problem: the randy husband?

If she drives this one away, will she also chat the next ones in line? Or is she planning a whatsapp group for her husband's lovers?

Happy birthday Faith.

I met my husband in 100L and married 8yrs after.

Their previous pictures look like jambites or pre-degree students.

Congratulations to your sister, God bless their home.

Very beautiful lady.

Statsocial:
You would be amazed at how much people financially bless pastors which is biblical Gal6:6
Secondly, do you know that after the Forbes report he said 1) that is an insult 2) I don't see myself laying that much in my account.

No 1 went viral but no 2 didn't go viral because the enemies of the Church love controversies rather than clarity. We later discovered Forbes had valued Covenant to come up with the ridiculous 150million USD tag(mind you Covenant infrastructure is worth more than 250 million USD). Covenant is registered as owned by WMA not Oyedepo hence cannot make up Oyedepo wealth.

I am not doubting that Oyedepo is wealthy but don't be too sure you know how much he truly owns.

@Statsocial,

I like facts.

Agreed he is not that wealthy as the whole Winners Corporation was valued, as you saying he lives solely on people's gifts?

That would be commendable.

I also hope that those people equally reach out to the poor amongst them.

No.

Christianity is founded on the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ the 2nd of the God head.

Nigeria and miracle of marriage, job and visa.

Congratulations to them.

It is well.

Statsocial:
I HAVE NEVER EARNED MONEY FROM MY BOOKS-Bishop Oyedepo puts to rest arguments on how much he makes from his books.

By Leke Beecroft

In no unclear terms, the presiding Bishop of the Living Faith Church clarified the argument on his income/royalty from books he publishes. Till date, Bishop Oyedepo has released over 110 books and over 10 million copies have been sold since 1993 when Dominion Publishing House (DPH) the printing and publishing arm of the ministry was established. According to him, his first two books were released in 1985. Presently, the DPH owns a state of the art printing press with machines imported from Germany and yet the books are among the cheapest sold.

In his words while announcing the new Bibles being published by the Church:

“We are venturing into production of Bibles into all languages across Africa.
Publishing is to us a ministry, not a business.

I have never drawn a dime from my books once-we only feed from the testimonies that come in.

No author from DPH earns a dime from the books in DPH yet it sells round the world.

We sell the cheapest of all Christian literature and we produce among the best.

The Church has never drawn from DPH since inception.

Why are we so blessed? We are doing the right thing.

Is it wrong to get money from books? No, but that’s not my style with Jesus” the Bishop concluded.

Some new books authored by Bishop Oyedepo and his wife, Pastor Faith Oyedepo and published by the DPH were announced at Shiloh 2017, among them are:

1. Guidelines to Effective Personal Bible Study-Faith Oyedepo
2. The force of Joy-Faith Oyedepo
3. The force of Hope-Faith Oyedepo
4. Dating: A personal guide-Faith Oyedepo
5. The breakthrough power of vision-David Oyedepo
6. Not by Power nor by Might-David Oyedepo
7. Understanding the Power of Faith-David Oyedepo
8. The Turnaround Power of the Word-David Oyedepo
9. The Exceeding Riches of His Grace-David Oyedepo

https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=1234485350028667&id=444807728996437

Lalasticlala

How does he make his money?

He doesn't claim the proceeds if his books;
He doesn't spend the tithes of members;
He doesn't have a day job as far as I can tell;

So how exactly does he make his plenty money? He is one of the richest pastors o!

The amazing thing is that I have not heard any pastor engage Daddy Freeze intelligently or with Biblical facts.

Just rants, insults and curses.

When satan tempted Jesus with the scriptures, He responded with the scriptures.

martineverest:
ur conclusion isn't totally right..... Chivita and Hollandia � % juice doesn't contain preservatives

How do they preserve it for so long?