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@paperlace: splendid advice.

The wife should keep praying he heals. We handle hurt differently.

DeeTus:
Not getting married does not give you the absolute right to discourage other women here.

Your thread is absolutely nothing to write home about.

I am sure a lot of peeps here does not understand/ did not read the OP

She is not against marriage; she is telling us four wrong reasons to get married.

Another way to put the thread is don't marry for sex, security/money, emotional security or loneliness....

Na wa!

@Mzflexydeeva: Sex is one of the major reasons for marriage.

Sex, kids and companionship.

I agree the lonely people shouldn't get married; people who are alone should.

Good one.

They look content, simple and focused....

I can see the wife rocking her natural hair and simple earrings for her wedding.

Their whole pictures point to simplicity.

Good luck to them.

hopefulLandlord:
Hell always sounded like a cynical marketing ploy designed to make people afraid to leave or displease the particular sect. And it seemed to really kill empathy - 'god says they burn, they burn' doesn't make me think of someone being full of love and compassion and all that.

Eternal punishment for finite transgressions always seemed abusive to me. How can someone look at the idea of a being who would condemn people to that and call it love?

Even when I was a Christian Hell was just too weird for me to accept. Infinite punishment for finite offenses is an eye for an eye on steroids. Punishing people for disobeying nit-picky rules makes God an abusive parent. One reason often given for punishment is to teach the offender not to offend again, but if punishment is eternal then how can the offender benefit from this teaching? Jesus is supposed to be into forgiveness but forgiveness shouldn't involve eternal suffering. Hell isn’t redemptive, it isn’t leading to repentance, it’s simply pain for pain’s sake.

I love this quote: “Heaven and hell seem out of proportion to me: the actions of men do not deserve so much.”

and of course I get the rationalisation of hell by Christians saying its moral accountability and saying bad people go to hell;
that's nonsense and they know it!!!

If Yahweh is real and omniscient, that means he already decided that we're going to hell before he even created us. But if this omniscient deity allows for deathbed conversions, then it doesn't matter what kind of life you lead. You could be a brutal dictator who massacred tens of millions of people, yet still get into heaven if you tell Jesus you're sorry. Your victims could all go to hell for eternity if they never repented. That's how bleeped up Christian morality is.

Maybe Christians can answer a few questions for me. The Bible says that there is ONLY ONE way to get into Heaven: by accepting salvation through Jesus.

So it follows that the Christians who ran the Nazi death camps can get into heaven. But their 6 million Jewish victims must burn for all eternity in the pits of Hell. I've talked to many Christians about this and they just pretty much accept it.

My questions are:

1. How f***ed up do you have to be to believe Nazis can go to Heaven but their 6 million Jewish victims must burn? That's just sick. But Christians believe it. What the f*** is wrong with you people?

2. Why would ANYONE willingly worship a god that would act like that? Is it just a fear thing (better known as cowardice)? And

3. Even if you get into Heaven what makes you think you'll be safe with a psycho god like that running the place? What's to stop your god getting a wild hair up his ass one day and sending Christians to a place so bad it makes Hell look like an ice cream parlor? He used to like the Jews too. Or so the story claims. What makes you think you're safe?

Hell is designed originally for satan & fallen angels and by extension anyone without God.

Hell is not 'you steal a biro and gbam you are in hell' (although, if you die stealing the biro, you are hell bound) else everybody would end up in hell; we are all full of sin and work out or salvation daily hence the Bible admonishes us to watch and pray always.

God cannot see sin hence no unrepentant sinner can enter heaven and eternity without heaven is hell. He even forsook Jesus while he was carrying the sins of the world.

Same argument can be used for heaven; what can finite man do to merit eternity in heaven?

1. Nazis will go to heaven if they repent; the Jews will go to hell if they did not forgive the Navis. Tough, but that's it.

Did God claim to stop liking the Jews?

Omoluabi16:
Lol. Are you a christian? King Solomon is a product of Bathsheba and David. The child died not because it was a bastard but David had to pay. If you check out the line of Jesus, there were so many imperfect people. Rahab, David's great grandmother was described as a harlot.

God's ways are not our ways..but the real 'heir' to the throne adonijah turned out to be unfit for rulership. Amnon, Absalom, and the likes didn't have the requisite qualities.
After the child died.. then Solomon came.

I did not say why the child had to die; I said I thought it was positive.

If the child lived, he couldn't be king till his 10th generation.

Check out Perez (incestuous son of Judah & Tamar) to David..... 10 generations.

Remember that part of Jacob's blessings to Judah was that he will rule (parapharsed).

@thread: I agree with OP.

Never made sense why the Church wouldn't wed a pregnant woman and marry a non-virgin.

And some churches frown at pregnancy even after traditional marriage which is truly the most important one.

Tosinex:
in Genesis, the purpose of marriage is for companionship, intimacy and procreation.

Man is the head of the family, he's to provide for the family. To protect the family, to guide the children and to bring them up in the way of the Lord.

The woman is to be an helpmate, a companion for the man. She's to take care of her husband and children well as the man provides for the needs. She's to give godly counsel to the children and raise them aright.

Thanks

Biblical backing?

Omoluabi16:
some of you would get bored and start trying say nonsense. As a Christian you should know every sin has consequences. God forgave david but the child still died. Instead we should focus more on the root cause and try to prevent pregnancy before marriage. you can't expect a church wedding with your tummy protruding like hell.

I actually think that David's child dying was a pisitive.

A bastard to the 10th generation couldn't be king so if the son survived, Bethsheba's line couldn't succeed David.

Why another of David's line wasn't /couldn't be picked, no idea.

Brought this here for more opinions. Will appreciate posts backed biblically.

Pastor & Pastor Adeboye will be celebrating 50yrs wedding anniversary in a few days... yay!

Congrats to them.

Straight to the thread...

What is the biblical purpose of marriage?
What is the biblical role of the husband?
What is the biblical role of the wife?

Biblical and not traditional....

Sorry if the thread already screens out your views.

Pastor & Pastor Adeboye will be celebrating 50yrs wedding anniversary in a few days... yay!

Congrats to them.

Straight to the thread...

What is the biblical purpose of marriage?
What is the biblical role of the husband?
What is the biblical role of the wife?

Biblical and not traditional....

Sorry if the thread already screens out your views.

Pastor & Pastor Adeboye will be celebrating 50yrs wedding anniversary in a few days... yay!

Congrats to them.

Straight to the thread...

What is the biblical purpose of marriage?
What is the biblical role of the husband?
What is the biblical role of the wife?

Biblical and not traditional....

Sorry if the thread already screens out your views.

byvan03:
I tire for them jare, how family dear?

We are good and yours?

This holiday made in China is fast coming to an end.

This is one of the shortest four days of my life.

yomi007k:
Following. ...

Na just follow you want follow?

byvan03:
Reasoning hard many of these peeps. The man must be earning at least 800k as his monthly income .The prayers don dey work for them through NPower .

Hahahahahahahahahahahahaha!

The rate people are so quick to castigate amuses me.

Again, the only thing I see commendable is that she gave the money to her husband.

Wives have been having savings/secret stach/ kolo money for ages.

I think this era of social media has made everything newsworthy.

cococandy:
I'll teach my child to wait until she's an adult. That way she understands and is more equipped to handle the implications of whatever she chooses to do.

I'm not going to teach her to wait until marriage.

As per Christianity, till marriage.

Will they actually wait? I can only pray.

Mindfulness:
See Buka wants to restrict and oppress boys now too.

Wait till marriage?

I would have s.ex in my 30s for the first time.

Abeg!

Lol @ restrict and oppress boys too

Sex is beyond physical and the fewer the partners the better.

Sex at 30s first time ain't bad you know...

dangotesmummy:
exactly. When you make sex like a transactional thing of course he will run to someone who's ready to give him front back left right and before you know it the income that should enter the house is going into the side Chic's pocket and to now make matters worse you will see pastors telling the woman to fast and pray so that God will bring back her husband. Even the day he's at home he sees you with unkept hair,bushy atmpit ,tying wrapper on your chest and reading the Bible when the person Sharing your husbands hair is always on fleek with expensive colognes and sexy looking bodies

God,if you see the generation of university students, walahi if you're a married woman who still wants to remain relevant to your husband you will run to the gym and care about how you look,even down to your bra.you won't buy bra that will press your brez inside.there are some gold studed bras side Chic's wear...chisos you need to see them on social media,then your husband let's say forgot his charger or keys and he saw your torn hair net,dirty wrapper tied on your chest and you're smelling of sweat,you think he will touch you even if agro is catching him when there's a more sleek rival out there?

You wicked o!

I agree with you esp. the transactional part sha.

crackhaus:
YOU are a slay queen, love...

No jokes.

I need the definition of a Slay queen.

Pastor & Pastor Adeboye will be celebrating 50yrs wedding anniversary in a few days... yay!

Congrats to them.

Straight to the thread...

What is the biblical purpose of marriage?
What is the biblical role of the husband?
What is the biblical role of the wife?

Biblical and not traditional....

Sorry if the thread already screens out your views.

byvan03:
Some people are daft ,do you think that the house wife of a broke man can save 700k in 3years , ofozia in 7months? Give you that kind wife indeed .

Lol!

You dey vex!

N100k in 7 months is a whole lot of loose change.

I think the guys should also pray to be like the husband.

dangotesmummy:
they're brought up to think that marriage is all about prayers,fasting, cooking and cleaning and taking care of children. Any other thing pertaining to sex is totally alien to them

They forget that marriage is a process sex has to take place for children to come so after the sex and children come they now have to put up with the real rude shocker of what marriage is all about.

And because they just understood their sexuality too late in marriage, their husband no longer finds then sexually attractive. Infact sex with them becomes more of a duty rather than something that bonds couples and to be enjoyed

African mothers have really bastardized the minds of their daughters regarding sex and that's why you see side Chic's having the upper hand and are able to steal their man because while they were washing plates,running errands to the market,the side Chic's were reading, travelling, partying and foorkeen men,so they understand men's physiology well and know how to make them drool and come running to them and then you see the wives become bitter,angry and resentful, taking care of the children alone and paying all the bills while daddy is somewhere in side Chic's house,giving side Chic's durgie style or cow girl.something the wife of the house can't do because her body will be shaking or inflexible to do all that so of course the side Chic's will be spending all the Mans money

Ask ladies the real reason why baby mamaism pays than being a wife. You have the best of both worlds.you have your kids and still live the single life and exploring your sexuality without inhibitions

I am happy you really have the true picture of side chics and I laugh when women say theor husbands come back to them.

I really agree with you that a lot of women aren't in tune with their sexuality that's why they see sex as a chore/duty/favour to their husbands.

I think a balance is needed; teach boys and girls to wait for marriage and gradual introduction into the beauty/importance of sex and sexuality as they grow by both parents.

The woman is very pretty before the makeup.

Infact, the major change is the tribal marks; her skin is very smooth underneath.

Can't some Christian artisans have a union since this is becoming rampant?

I honestly cannot understand how homosexuals can't get off the fact that dome peeps wouldn't do business with them.

I don't think I would even bake for a polygamous couple how much more gays.

They have the freedom of association; they should extent same to others.

I am surprised Carol eventually left her marriage if true.

There is nothing different about her husband so I wonder what she is reacting to.

She looks unappealing....

Maybe that's why he likes it at midnight.

Can't understand why these people don't know what's sacred.

greatgod2012:
Has it reached this level


Na wa o!


And this same set of ladies will be shouting gender equality upandan!


Gender equality indeed!

But gender equality doesn't say a woman shouldn't find a rich husband na...

Funny strategies sha.

What about the women there? Are they all married?

Destined2win:
What exactly does a lady mean when she says, "I need a God-fearing man"?

Your answer wasn't specific

This was my quote below:

bukatyne: God-fearing man

Agreed it means different things to different women and men for that matter.

A man who is God fearing would love his wife genuinely.

And a pastor is not necessarily a God-fearing man. Being the wife of a pastor also comes with some responsibilities not every woman wants to deal with.

I would assume most peeps here are not married else they would know that marriage comprises of many parts and desiring a 'God-fearing' man doesn't negate wanting a romantic, sexually capable etc. husband.

I would say women looking for God-fearing men should develop characters that make them attractive to the God-fearing men.

And there is a difference between God-fearing and religious husbands...... The later make terrible husbands.

@Maga: I have since realised that any man who genuinely loves his wife is a mugu/maga. We complain of men who are brutes yet complain of men who are not.

https://www.nairaland.com/3999718/what-ladies-mean-when-say/4#59664493

supersystemsng:
God forbid at your comments a man that loves his woman must be a mumu or somthing of such... any woman try am, my brothers will change it quickly

Please speak english

Destined2win:
Nice post.

But you haven't directly answered the question

What question?

PaperLace:
Well said. They are obviously not married. I endorse the emboldened, Nigerians don't like seeing a man being mugu for his wife _misery sure loves company.

My sister, in some cases, experience is the best teacher. When I was seeing they still want a romantic husband bla bla, I knew that they not yet there.

Misery sure loves company.

gwama:
Ask the Catholic sisters and the priests

Catholic sisters and priests are not 'single or childless'.....

They belong to a family of fellow fathers and sisters touching lives.

If you are not influential (touching lives) and belong to a group of people who are obliged to you, it;s OYO when you are older.

So called single people abroad have pets who belong to them.