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greatgod2012:
Both!
How they met each other, I don't know, but mehn, this woman I'm talking about know how to sideline someone, she literarily do everything and still accord her husband much respect. She always claim that's how he's created including everyone sha cone across.
In fact, I know a lot about her and I can authoritatively say she's a good woman, especially to her husband.

PresVA:
You see a cheat as a bad man yet still see him as a good father?

So because he pretends and the wife may not get to know, that still makes him a good parent? So a politician can continue to steal and as long as the public doesn't get to know, he's still a good leader?
Except he's a person without conscience, he, himself knows he isn't good to his family! Also, his family may not know but some other persons may know, what kinda of example/reputation is he setting?

Asides this, the person I quoted was of the opinion that she wouldn't mind her husband cheating as long as he's still a good parent? Meaning she(the wife) is fully aware in that context and was telling me nothing will change in terms of parenting. . There are stuffs pretence can't solve, the kids in one way or the other must be affected...Cheating affects our emotions and psychology a lot. ....

Whatever be the case shaa, I can never see a man/woman who betrays and disrespects his family WHETHER SECRETLY OR OPENLY as a good husband or father. . Someone that values you won't betray you!

Ps:I'm not judging a cheating man, this is just my opinion. ..

greatgod2012:
A good woman is a good woman, irrespective of people around her. Being good is inborn, it's not determined by the attitude of those around her, believe me.


I know one good, in fact, a virtuous woman who is married to a beast, yes, a beast but she still exhibit her good nature, regardless of her husband's beastish behaviour at home. She's an epitome of goodness.


cc byvan03.

fem29:
As in!

How can you catch someone red handed putting poo poo in your OWN child's mouth and you did not even slap her once!. Me ehn that I hate violence I would not have know what I was doing before I break the girls head. There is no explanation for this. Poo pooooo. Bloooood of Jeeessssuuuuusssss

byvan03:
My sister some women are plain terrible. What do you expect a man being locked by the collar to do? If I am a man, I won't promise not knocking out a teeth or two. Even as a woman,i will try to see what I can do. You know once a woman is hit, most will claim abuse and not fighting. Yes ,how one time is handled will go a long way to decide what happens next.

I won't preach divorce or separation on a one time thing but I will advise it is appropriately handled to avoid re occurrence.

dominique:
Manually washing clothes even if you can afford a washing machine or a laundry person Which kind of humility are we proving?

byvan03:



Lol, some people 's thinking faculty nah waya .

greatgod2012:
And counter thread........... "WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO LOVE YOUR WIFE" loading.......... I trust Nairalanders.

byvan03:
Depends on if the abuse is a one time thing or habitual. There is hope when is a one time thing, otherwise they are both safer apart.

kissval1388:
you are welcome dear.
ThankGOD u smiled

Mintayo:
Please where is the secretary now? I hope she has been slapped into kirikiri?

raumdeuter:
The lenght of dating has nothing to do with success of marriage or lack of. There have been people who knew themselves on friday married next weekend and are still together for decades. Some people were introduced by relatives, their dating was through letters they married and have been together for decades. Some of our grandparents even met their spouses on the wedding day. Yet we have people who dated for ages and still failed in marriage

raumdeuter:
So what does the certificate add to the union?

raumdeuter:
Who told you its only in marriage that you get such benefits? All you need is an adult male and female who want to live together. If you and a guy move to say Abuja and live together now for the next 30yrs would anyone be asking for your wedding certificate to prove you are indeed married? You know many people in Nigeria and in the world just moved in with one another and 25yrs later they are still together laughing over "You know you didnt marry me officially" living their life

raumdeuter:
So are you going to say the couple in this bold are not legit because they dont have a certificate? whereas some people have certificates of marriage and havent seen each other in decades. Husband in Italy hustling, wife in Asaba flexing

raumdeuter:
There are things more important to a couple than that certificate. Compatibility, Living together and sharing experiences good and sad moments. if you have kids raising them together. All these can be done without a certificate

TooNoisy:
Intellectual diversity you talk of sometimes comes from Gender diversity. Sometimes merit can be difficult to measure in absolute terms. If you want to choose a board member for a cooperation, there may be many people who are qualified for the job. Sometimes companies choose based on gender based on the diversity they can bring. I am not talking of bringing any woman from the street, however if a board consists of 10 members and they are all men and they want to bring in another member. They interview and find a man and a woman who are both qualified to fill the role, then adding a woman may bring diversity without compromising merit! It is wisdom!

TooNoisy:
There is some value in diversity. Merit is great but sometimes when decision making is made by people with a similar background or view, then you may not get the best views.

Even in the most developed countries, they insist on a level of diversity. The real value such women bring to boards, management, etc is just diversity.

BoboYekini:
The thread is haunted.

byvan03:
I wonder who exhumed this ridiculous thread .

cococandy:
His pot belly was discouraging her initially.


But after he got his groove back, she became attracted to him again.

byvan03:
Exactly, respect means different things to different men. I actually carried out a live experiment to determine this.

postmann:
Your number 2 is a die-for. But your number 1 seems to have its tail clipped on some controversy.

postmann:
Generally, men have a universal concept of respect. It can be roughly, or vaguely summarised in the 3 factors cited above.

postmann:
Maybe you've tried it out and it didn't yield much. Maybe something else was missing. In most cases, it's the chief of factors-- Love!

postmann:
If a relationship or marriage has no real love as its foundation, other factors, including the 3 cited above, have very limited chance to create a lasting positive impact.

postmann:
Why? Must women who see me as misogynistic happen to be feminists or feminist apologists.

Avalon316:
I wrote exactly what you wrote. I just changed few stuffs and I didn't make sense. That tells you that you also didn't make sense . Hypocrite.

You now see that most of the stuffs you frustrated women put up here do not make any sense at all.

One last thing.......men cheat if you've got tired pv$$y to give them. Why must we endure your dilapidated pv$$ies?