₦airaland Forum

peacengine:
We eat our cake and have it, we rule the world yet we still have loving wives cooking our meals and warming our beds we also have them taking care of the kids while we work It's a man's world

Pidggin:
You should know, you are also a lady, you ought to know a sister or two in such a situation.

peacengine:
This is why women will never be equal to men. You can't eat your cake and have it, some sacrifices have to be made, if all women want to be mothers that is perfect, but you will loose out on participating in things outside the home e.g politics, and other occupations that require your time. This is why the argument that a woman's place is in the home, you cannot be the president and at the same time have to cook for your husband and kids, accept your place as kitchen minders and baby making machines

Pidggin:
I am talking to those who can't have them now due to circumstances beyond their control.

postmann:
Don't know what to say. But this topic coming from a female, indicates maybe things isn't as hopeless as they seem.

The moral is simple: There is a price to pay for every action. If you're ambitious whether male or female reconcile yourself to the cost.

When it's all done, you wouldn't need anyone to tell you what should have been, where you lost it, what you traded for material gratification , and how it wasn't worth it.

With the material gratification and wealth, the soul ended its journey unfulfilled still.

Pidggin:
Freeze your eggs ladies

LewsTherin:
Human society has been patriarchal in nature from the very beginning whether you subscribe to God or evolution. The men provide and protect, the women nurture and preserve. The modern woman's desire to change that is not going to happen in 3 or 4 generations whether you subscribe to God or evolution.

While I admire and support the modern woman's desire to get more from life, I still believe her primary role is to nurture and preserve.

The meaning of "women and children first" is basically "keep the tribe and the human race from extinction"

crackhaus:
So you people don't want to delay marriage and pregnancy anymore?
I thought career-oriented independent women could get any man they desired at any age, and get pregnant/give birth even at 50yrs of age and above?
Una don change am for us again...


People grounded in reality have always known the truths, it's women who fill their head with illusions that come for our necks when we tell them to pay attention to their biological clocks.
Unlike men, women usually don't taste or get more attractive with age...sorry to say.
Nature's a sure b!tch, ain't it?

cococandy:
This I believe they can learn from observing their parents' relationship. There's only so much that words can do if the examples set for them are poor.
You can't teach your kids (with words) that it takes love and selflessness to build a strong home when they can actually see there's no love between the parents.

LewsTherin:
Shocker! Bukatyne's daughter is 20 years!! Bukatyne is of the hippie generation?

Oh wait. It's not her own story. Sorry. Lemme finish reading.

(Those were the thots that went thru my head)

cococandy:
@topic.

Typical Consequences of being extremist.

amokeme:
All you needed was financial assistance and not a husband. I'm sorry but that's what this write up is insinuating.

In your story, "prevelege of a husband" = financial provider for both your children and yourself.
You need another story to justify the acceptance of a "second wife" which I don't see necessary since your religion permits it. But the important thing men don't talk about is that the prophet(pbh ) said you should take a second wife if only you can love them all EQUALLY which is almost impossible.
Now, about your husband, couldn't he have helped the widow and her kids without marrying her? Marrying someone to "help" the person financially doesn't even make sense. It's just like she is paying for the financial help he is rendering by marrying him.
And now that you have gotten a man that will marry you, what if (God for bids) he dies too? You will start looking for another man that will financially help your children from two husband and yourself
C'mon, this ideology is just sick.

tearoses:
It is well
The earlier we all understand that both men and women benefit from marriage, then maybe this master slave mentality " I am doing you a favour" will stop.

pass111:
you seriously don't know?

fem29:
You have said it all. If you are a good dad, your kids will be close to you.

fem29:
You have said it all. If you are a good dad, your kids will be close to you.

byvan03:
I was banned by spam bot so couldn't respond earlier. Extremely rough life @ 25 only? . I feel the money is the main blinder here, she should prepare to open more pathetic threads in future. I wonder if she thinks that walking away in future will be easier than doing it now.

igwegeorgiano:
The joy of every parent is to see their wards excelling in their chosen careers in life knowing fully well that the time to enjoy the fruit of their labor is just standing by their side.

Fellow nairalanders for those of you who are catholics, you will understand better my ordeal as a 'disobedient' child according to my father because that is what he choose to call me then.

Am in my late thirties now and i remember with nostalgia all that happened during my growing up years. I attended the oldest catholic minor seminary in Nigeria years back. after my first six years in the minor seminary i proceeded to the major seminary which is regarded as an institution of higher learning in the catholic church

While in the seminary, i knew deep inside of me that my vocation was no where to be found in d seminary because i knew i was not called to be a priest. my father desperately desired me to. therefore, i made up my mind to pull out at the end of my first degree in philosophy which is my first five years in the seminary.

I met with my spritual director and disclosed to him what i intended to do at the end of my philosophy course in d seminary. please note that every catholic major seminary is an affiliate of one university or the other in nigeria. My spiritual director counselled that i should followed my heart. it was easy for me to take this bold step to quit because i knew my calling was not to be a priest. it finally came the day i wrote my final exams in the seminary(5th year)the feeling was so great that i appreciated God for revealing it to me that i wasn't cut out for the life of a celibate.
The news of my voluntary exit from the seminary shocked my parish priest, and members of my parish. my father was so devastated and i could not gather the courage to face him but eventually i did and let him into why i quit. every bits of explations and reasons i gave for quitting the seminary never made any sence to my father because he felt i broght shame upon the family by refusing to become a catholic priest.

At twenty years old i had my first degree and was ever qualified to go for my youth service but i declined and purchase a jamb form. i wrote the exams ans passed. i got admission to study economics in one the universities in the south south. i informed my dad about the admission but turned me down. my problem with him started from that day. he refused to sponsor my univetsity education but God favour smiled on me a family in US who knows my ordeal with my dad took up the responsibity of seeing me through school without my father knowing it. after four years i graduated with the best grade in my dept and for four year during that period my father kept malice with me without recourse to the fact that being a priest does'nt guarantee holiness or a sure ticket to heaven. i only did what i know was the best for me and my family.

aljharem:
The way some women talk eh, one would think they are either immature or just have fish brain

A woman shows appreciation for her husband support and some people are talking trash. Can't they see that the husband is almost kneeling down to pick her as well.

these same women would gladly kneel down to give bj. Rubbish

Deivid10:
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A man and his wife quarrelled. After the fight, the wife went into the bedroom. A few minutes later, the husband also trooped into the bedroom only to find the wife busy packing her suitcase! He asked "You are packing! Where are you going?"
She answered "To my mother".
The man paused for a while and also got his big brown pure leather suitcase & started packing his clothes. The angry wife stared at him and said "You are packing! Where are you going?"
He replied "Oh yeah! I"m going to my mother!"
The wife replied, "To your mother??!! And what about the 6 children?! Who is going to look after them?"
The man replied, "You are going to your mother and I am going to my mother, the children should also go to their mother!
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Enjoy your day jooor..... leave Rivers Election violence for fools whom won't just be gone BT also forgotten so soon

pass111:
It Is only a fool that won't understand waz actually going on

Ujoan:
Eiyaaah. . . Poor you!

I blame your parents for raising someone with such low self esteem.

byvan03:
25years, yet so desperate!! It will only get worse, common what exactly drives you bonkers about this evil aged man? Call off that wedding, go ahead and that will be the worst mistake of your life. You are forcing this marriage, seems he got lots of cash . The cold feet thing before marriage is a lie for those that are sure of what they are doing.

aforti:
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Na your type of people them they use do rag for marriage. Op's mother is meeting you for the first time. She no offer you food as a mother would to to a child Na cloths she go bring out for you to wash as if Na house girl skills them want access and you are saying u will wash it. If you go visit your mama from a distance after you have not seen her for a while and nxt thing she just go bring pit cloths for you to wash you no go vex? This is the first characteristic of a desperado, aka fake ppl, doing things you would not normally do just to please people.

pendusky:
You guys never seen this couples before on outing.

The Lady is a medical Doc

The hubby a Lawyer and Speaker Akwa Ibom House of Assembly

visit his church you will know what they do.

byvan03:
Marriage has been ridiculed, things that shouldn't be condoned are now being nurtured. I don't even get how his ex is still his friend. You guys didn't date? I believe everyone knows where the rain started beating them. The foundation of every marriage defines the structure, hope you didn't cause their break-up.