₦airaland Forum

sinestro24:
if you aint street savy enough to know that he has his boss by his balls right now. then i have no need to argue with you

hary4luv:
@gurgle my boss is married, but d issue is dat I enjoy a very cordial relatnshyp with my boss b4 now. He kinda avoids me and feels uncomfortable whenever am around (atleast that's what I've deduced). as for sacking me I think he won't be that stupid except he wants me to spill it!

edwife:
Why do all of you like the satin one?

It's like i am surrounded by women who do not like exposing much even in the bedroom.

You,byvan and Efe same taste.....i like revealing,that's the only way of teasing.

byvan03:
Choose another, that one is my own.

tearoses:
Edwife when did you become like this . .. .
Bro Bellong and coach Tv01 have been teaching you how to write epistles abi

I am confused though, cos both you and Tv01 both have good points. I was reading his points and nodding and then read yours and nodded

You know what, after all the discussions and many many posts ive read here on the family section, Ive finally come to realise that maybe theory doesnt work in marriage. Its the practice gan gan and the individuals themselves that make or break it. . . .and it takes both parties.

One person cant do it all. I dont know the least percentage that each contributor needs to input for there to be a decent balance, but I am certain that both must put in a considerable amount. One person cant keep on doing and the other receiving all the time.

Now to the age thing and the looking up to & automatic respect thing. You are right in theory. My husband is 6 years older than me. So before anything as a girl brought up to respect my elders, he has already got my respect there and then and I do respect him.

But if he was an agbaya then that respect will dwindle. So its not age alone. He too has to act his age and show that he is worthy of that respect. . .and this is the point where some people lose it.

Fortunately my husband earns that respect in every area. I see a man who is looked up to by people around him and a man who makes sound descsions. He takes full responsibility for us and puts us all first before he even considers himself. In Nigeria he will insist on jumping cab if I need to go out with the car. If we eat together he insists on leaving the better meat for me. . .like im a kid LOL. Oya bring your passport, let me hold it

A man who when 2 people are fighting he easily douses the flames. Very intelligent man too. Ive seem him tackle very difficult situations and he has a way with words where he will tell you how he feels about something without insulting you but you will know that you have goofed.

Yet today you see older men who dont have brains, so the age difference makes no meaning & so they are not respected. One was at a party telling another man who was with his wife to come and spend weeked with him jooor so they can paint the town red. "Just tell your wife you are going on a weekend course" . . .both wives were sitting beside them o!. Does he have brains? How can the wife respect a man like that

You hear stories of men having dirty conversations with other women on their phones and their wives catch them. How can these men be respected by their wives even if there was a 10 year age gap?

Sex . . .Bro TV you are wrong o! . . .talks from experience
The older you get the more you enjoy it
Maybe becssue one is more relaxed and comfortable in the relationship. .I dont know
Maybe its knowing that no kids will just walk through the door
Maybe its knowing that if you do get pregnant its not the end of the world
Maybe its knowing that you have solid contraception
Lots of maybes LOL

pickabeau1:
The bolded is the issue

I pity the dolt who marries such women. It is better to live on the rooftop alone than with such contentions heifers

I wish such men the best

edwife:
Time to get this thread back on track!

Efemenaxy your order has arrived....

https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/236x/0b/bb/ca/0bbbca1b641619845517e9513ad6c1fe.jpg



https://www46.babidou.com/pic/2009/4/20/koolshop88/%E7%9D%A1%E8%A1%A3/10417.jpg


https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/236x/16/7d/b6/167db64be7ea90f6445cc5493fc4a0de.jpg


Those are what i call "avant gout" before the real deal.We still early in the day,we shall resume at night.

moca:
Cococandy,
Welcome to the club.
Congrats.

For u guys.

jpsmart:
you are right my dear, not all he said are true. By d way, which part of e/e are you from? Me umuida

cococandy:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DwIixnU5Bwk

cococandy:


Respect yourself Mr Troy.

keppyy:
Bukatyne, thank you so much for your words...*falling in love*.

cococandy:
thanks

shaybebaby:
May these words be written in stone. Words rarely get me thinking but damn girl! you be oracle ooo!!

Jamean:
We can all see why some marriages won't work; when the whole responsibility is vested on the woman like she is a magician. So men are for bed and provision chores. Your proposition is faulty.

I am a woman. Domestic chore is my favorite hobby, especially laundry. But I won't be able to do it all the time because I work. So, I will engage the services of a house assistant, dry cleaner or washing machine.

I am a woman. I like to cook, and can cook well. But I won't be able to cook fresh meals everyday because I work. So, I will cook quite a quantity and refridgerate. Some times we may have dinner outside.

I am a woman. I like to baby sit. But I won't be able to because I work. So, I opt for a nanny, daycare or even my mum.

Men should get a hang of these things and stop making marriage a privileged burden for women.

Your marriage can be successful when you both work in love and understanding.

adanmaonu1:
Hello Nairalanders,
My name is Adanma Onu,I am married with a 1 year and six months old baby girl,i have an issue going on in my life that has almost destroyed me.
Here is my Story, I am thirty-two years old,my husband is five years old older than me,we live in the Uk,I moved in to the UK six years ago as a student ,i met my husband in the UK too as we were both studying in the same school.i fell in love with him because he was a christian and i loved him dearly,fast warded we got married two years after we met.The quest for pregnancy began,i eventually got pregnant and had my baby January 2015.i started working after i graduated from school.my husband is working up till date and we both share the bill in the house,he pays the house bill,car-loan and i take care of my student loan,food,electricity,and council tax,he insisted we have a joint account which i oppose,i suggested that we can take a fixed amount of our monthly income and put it together towards our investment plans for the future.I discovered that he was not pleased with that idea and he says i am been secretive as am not open*Note that he knows what i earn in a month,He also made a rule that when i changed my car that i must buy the car in bought our name ,it was strange to me but i succumbed so as for peace to reign,When we have a fight and i talk he tags me as a Rude ,Non submissive woman,and i don't want his progress in life.

Fast warded he had an investment idea which require that we pump in some money,i had a saving of 500k and i gave him to support this cause,He doesn't appreciate what ever i do to make the home process go on smoothly,and whenever we have issues he would call his parents back in Abia and report to them this had open several times,Due to his way of stressing me i have had 3 miscarriages.3 weeks to the birth of my daughter he slapped and kicked me that i had to go into emergency labour before the excpected due date at the end of the whole process i had to go through cs section to save the life of the baby as i was in coma for hours after the delivery process.Now i have been thinking a lot as any little fight he involves his parents.Last month i was diagnosed with High Blood pressure which i never had before i married him,

I feel i am been used ,we have fought several times,My Brit neighbor called the police the last time we fought,when they came to our house we had to cover up as if everything was fine.he doesn't feel remorseful about the whole thing,My aunt in the Uk requested that i move in with her as she does not want to lose me that the trauma is too much for me to bear,He told me that if i misbehave again he would report me,My good nairalanders please what am i suppose to do in this scene,Genuine Advises are needed no insult please

Lastly is joint account a MUST in a marriage
How can a woman be more submissive in her marriage.

I am loosing it i don't want to Die because of Him.

Thank you all

mentorandfriend:
News reaching me now from my colleagues has it that this nice doctor is dead.
He had a head-on collision with his Toyota Corolla into an oncoming trailer.
He was two sets ahead of me in medical school. We trained in same University. I know him personally. Very nice gentleman.

Rest in Peace Dr Henry. This world is just worthless.

Lalasticlala, please find a way to let people know this, so the search and all the harshtags trending on twitter and facebook in search of him can end.

keppyy:
My mum will always shout, nag and scream, work hard for your money and never depend on man for money...

That's the only power a man can use to control you...An Independent woman is a queen, royalty and a rara gem...

Over the years, this has been my guide but I think it's a problem with Nigerian Men...

Someone told me last night that "I'm too independent to be married"...

I'm not a rich brat but I'm soOooo Sooooo career and money-making concious (I must admit)...and people think I'm proud...


Cc

Coogar
Pickabeau
Freecocoa
Bukatyne
TV01

All the men here...

VictoriaBee:
That's a Canadian site not American.
I was shocked when people started mentioning America.
Obsession, I guess.

VictoriaBee:
You have a point.
I came across a polyandry in ireland(?) thread and saw how Nairalanders were spitting venom about "end time things".
End time things evacuates when it's polygamy.

cococandy:
Here we go again.

We also know prostitution is the fault of feminists.
And Las Vegas came into existence because of feminists. As ridiculous as that sounds it's nice to accept it.

that's the whole sweetness in the arrangement. No one is forcing anyone into it.
CHOICE. CHOICE

Who no like am, make e follow another road pass.
Simples.

Damalex4luv:
Never bothered to read all that. But am also a graduate of OAU and have been roaming the street of lagos for up to 8 months now without a job. Abeg if anybody fit get me a job i'll be glad ooo. Is not easy surviving without a job, life is just getting more and more frustrating on a daily basis. Abeg pm me oooo if you have anywhere you can hook me