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cococandy:
So in summary it's ok for a wife to tolerate shyt from but it's not normal for the husband to.

You didn't need to go into details.

Timbuktou:
This still boggles my mind.


Ok, what else is there to say?


Where is the proof she did anything?

edwife:
It is here we condone immorality not there.Have you heard of the clients of a New York area prostitution ring? The New York Gov. Eliot L. Spitzer's scandal? he was identified as an anonymous client heard on a federal wiretap.

How many presidents or big fishes in Africa have ever had a sex scandal that shook their political carrier? remember Monica Lewinsky?

edwife:
Yea,i am definitely sure some couple are both in this game-what i am patiently waiting for is the name of the big"fishes" such as government staffs,reputable individuals,judges......it's gonna be good....

edwife:
Well like i said for me moral is subjective.Based on my moral values both are as bad as the other but if i have to choose between the two,i will prefer getting laid by polygamist than a woman.

It is my spouse choice to decide to take another wife and it is also my choice to decide to stay or not(2 choices here),but if my spouse decides to take another man as a "wife"/partner then i don't have many choices here,the ONLY choice will be (to kill the mother.fucker lol ) to leave....

Timbuktou:
BeeKay, . How can you be saying yansh in public. Mummy GO, I dey give you serious side-eye for here o.

hugogerrard:
your thoughts exactly... mine is the reserve

NifemiOlu:
Quite simple. She should tell her husband to chill and stay on the job while both of them find a new job.
The guy knows what's up. Marketers, especially females, don't find it easy there.
I met a young girl in Onikan. Fresh graduate, got a marketing job. She was given a target of 60 million in 1 month. That's 20 working days. Those men with cash will ask for sex in exchange for deposit and you get to keep your job.
Some bank officials were arrested some years ago for trafficking of female workers in guise of marketing to lure men to their banks. Know the reality on ground before offering advice.

hugogerrard:
The other day I was having an argument…
with myself… on which gender had uglier shoes, the men or the women. Now, before you adjudged me to be suffering from Dissociate Identity Disorder (DID), let’s take a look at the main issue here - who has ugly looking shoes. I’d like you to take an objective look at the top men’s designer shoes - I won’t name names for fear of being prosecuted for
libel and neither will I add images (those people may have their images copyrighted for all we know). They are simply outrageous - this being a milder word than hideous. I wonder how a pointy, boat­
like looking structure is supposed to be classified as top notch footwear. Men’s feet are naturally longer than women’s but these things they call shoes are so long I’d cringe if any man’s feet are that long. And I won’t even go near how much they cost.
Now to women’s shoes - women’s shoes are generally attractive looking, whatever their class or grade. Then take another objective look, this time at women’s top designer label shoes. They are drop dead gorgeous! Again I won’t name names but
you cannot pass by women’s shoes and not take a second look. Aside the fact that I have a secret shoe fetish, each time I pass by a shop or heap of shoes, I will myself to quit admiring. Moreover, I can’t
possibly have all the women’s shoes in existence.

Pause.

It suddenly occurred to me that some men’s shoes do actually look gorgeous and some women’s shoes on the other hand look hideous (block heel alert!). “So, why am I engaging in this argument in the first place?” I ask myself. Well, the argument on women vs. men has gone on for centuries - who is better,
who lies more, who cheats more, who should be responsible for doing what, the list is endless. What’s more, we even argued about it in primary school (hello debaters, boys are better than girls ­
anyone remember that?). Ages have come and gone, the argument is still there. I think that the argument, the struggle for relevance and all are
premised on the mere fact that we are different yet alike in more ways than one. Our difference is the primary catalyst of the argument. I have observed from human relations the world over that humans struggle to accept those who are obviously different from them in appearance and mannerism. Only
recently did man begin to intentionally counter such tendencies with the mindset of the universal human nature. Decades after however, we have still not won the war against notions of human inequality.
So, without belabouring the point, the sooner women and men began to view themselves as being human first of all, the better for us all. This approach is what I believe is the key to ending all the bickering and despising and bringing about total acceptance of the other gender. Otherwise, this argument will never end.

That’s the answer I gave myself.

Oh, and on the other hand, whichever of you does not talk to himself in his head should cast the first stone and tell me I have DID.

edwife:
Yes we see it every time here whenever someone says it is a sin and disgusting,that person is shut down,that I should not see it abnormal just because people practice polygamy is absolutely grotesque.

Give me one advantage of homosexuality.

edwife:
I don't have any problem with gays, i just have a problem when i am forced to see it as normal.

edwife:
Is open marriage good for those who believe in it,YES.

I don't believe in it my instance about marriage is this,be honest with your partner-if a man decides to be with more than one spouse,it is his choice and i have the responsibility to decide if i want to partake in it or not.

Life is about choices.

byvan03:
bukatyne come chop.

edwife:
Yea i got that part,was just saying the 37 M people are the one we know,other sites exist of course.Just to tell you that the number of married people seeking extra marital affairs is higher than we want to admit.

This is what someone said and i quote:Just who says we're supposed to be monogamous ( some phony religious Arrow? ) turns out that recent scientific research demonstrates that the entire biological world is promiscuous. In fact the delusional human is the only monogamous creature variety (and genetic variance) is good for any species -- humans are inbreeding and will crash the species if they keep it up.

For me,when you are in a relationship you can do what you want as long as you don't infringe on the right of the others. I think it is safer for the law to preside around ethics rather than morality.

freecocoa:
This one pass liability sef and seeing that the man even suggested borrowing from her, I don't think he has control over her and she's even withholding $ex, she's just really a bad woman in my opinion.

freshvine:
In most home married women believe that the husband is the Head of the sole and so therefore MUST assume the Financial Responsibility Head. They believe that the husband's money is for upkeep of the family and by extension their extended families while the money the make is solely for fashion and extravagant purposes. They hardly contributes to the running of the home and it get worst when they know the husband earns more. Such women are actually the C in C of the homes as the husband has been relegated to a mere figure head. These women put expensive things and live flamboyant lifestyles while their husbands expend their meagre resources running the family and each time they are broke due to family financial challenges borrowing money from their insensitive wives naturally becomes a herculean task. This to my opinion is what the Op is trying to portray.

A man who is the C in C in his family will naturally control the wife and her money. Such men mandate their wives to surrender all her earnings for his management and the woman is sure to comply.

Any woman that borrows his husband money to take care of her biological mother is a control freek and she runs the home as the C in C. That's why Op explains that the said woman withhold sex and other matrimonial obligations to punish her "Husbandmaid"

freecocoa:
Okay I get your point now but don't you think regardless of what, the wife shouldn't put up attitude? it just paints her in a bad light.

Vyolet:
This is the type of woman that would not pay for her own healthcare believing it is the husband's responsibility too.

Anyways,we can't be quick to judge,every individual behave according to how the family affairs is being run.

corperscorner:
naso bruh

esscence00:
thanks ma. appreciated.

freecocoa:
I'm confused, please help me out here, c in c of what/who exactly? How is it remotely reasonable that he "must" pay?

TooNoisy:
Answer freecocoa na, we are all astonished at your level of extreme intelligence or idiocy!

freecocoa:
What then are you giving your opinion about? The mentality behind the woman's behaviour? What is the difference between the said mentality and the woman's behaviour?

You ignored me when I asked for clarification.

I take the "madam hot" as a compliment, thank you.

freecocoa:
Coco nwanne'm, please I know you have the right to your opinion and it should be respected but seriously? You understand what she's saying? How can you blame the man in a situation like this? Even if his wife was a maid sef, how can you see reason in keeping malice and acting up over the money she used to treat her own mum, nne ya o, hia!

Mehn! No matter how many ways this matter can be interpreted in, it's crazy to want to pin this on the man.

Btw, I get that you don't support the woman at all, but don't encourage buky, what's wrong is wrong

Efeswerve:

leave ha jor
bukatyne na confam olodo

TooNoisy:
I have said it more than once before that you should refrain from quoting me.

I was speaking to 5minsmadness and I adviced him to ignore trolls. All the comments so far have been objective expect for someone who just wants to argue for arguments sake.

Please, avoid quoting me!

cococandy:
Bukatyne I get what you're saying.
Never mind.

Those kind of men that believe their wives have no say in the home and in turn the wives adapt the role of glorified children and leave all decisions plus responsibility to them.

In any case, this woman's own pass siddon dey look. Her own mother?

That means her kids will even be hungry and she will wait until the head of the family comes home before she will useful to herself and to humanity.

This is the height of it.

God forbid the man's own mom gets sick and the man doesn't have any money at the moment, she won't even use her own willingly to take care of the lady. Since she can't do it for her own mom.

If I'm her mother, I'll disown her.

5minsmadness:
NO wonder.
Her response surprised me sef.

Noted, thanks.