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5minsmadness:
Where was the term "side chic" coined from?
Who glamourised the term "Baby mama"? And made it such a thing of pride that our ladies started making headlines with it?
Are those African terms?

Sure we have always had mistresses and the philandering husband and secret wives but we didn't glamourise it. It was a thing of shame actually. Unfaithfulness occurs everywhere, even in your precious west. In fact it became so rampant in the West that laws had to be enacted to discourage such behaviour. Hence your "respectful" western men who are only respectful because they fear the law courts. It doesn't stop cheating though as evidenced by the TV series of "cheaters" I watch daily and the level of divorces still at an all time high in the US.

I know this might come as a rude shock to you but the US is a festering cesspool of unfaithful men and women. I know, I know, have a hankie



As per your example of men going after the girls sure that happens. But for you to deny that girls also go out of thier way to chase married men shows you being biased (as usual, nothing new here), or you must have gotten married really young and had innocent friends as well. There are frequent reports in my office of single girls throwing themselves kamikaze-like at married men whether or not they wear rings and it's really tasking and laborious trying to discourage them or push them away. These girls know the said target is married but are undeterred, in fact some have admitted it's a kind of turn-on for them as they view married men as more "responsible" and "matured".

All men have the tendency to be polygamous of they can get away with it, even your precious white men in the West. It's just the courts like you said that holds them back.

Bro 5mins,

Can you state specifically where the Bible says men are 'naturally' or 'have tendencies' to be polygamous?

I know you believe solely in the Bible, your submission thread pointed that out

Thanks

Can the exalters of adultery in the counter thread come and explain the topic to us?

Good one tpia

cococandy:
Are you one of the terrible ones?

How are you and family?

Back to ghost mode

Almost a year later

Happy Sunday peeps!

winner01:
Rome was not built in a day, training begins from infantry,...the little things overlooked will grow to be a monster.....parents are 85% responsible for rebellious teens, they should also lead by example,...A teen can still be spanked in my opinion.

Very correct.

Had to read it to my colleagues

See laughter

5minsmadness:
Obedience is acknowledging the man as the head and yielding to his instructions. It can take many forms. Do you have any particular example in mind?

I don't; thought you would.

Anyways, tell your wife to be what your definition of submission is.... Bible definition, dictionary definition, personal definition and ensures you both are on the same page.

TV01:
This is your first post on this thread - https://www.nairaland.com/2421673/ladies-what-understand-term-submission#35402011
Please answer as asked so I am clear, or provide a link for me to follow.

Everyone is well thanks, albeit we are wrestling with hayfever.


TV

https://www.nairaland.com/2421673/ladies-what-understand-term-submission/1#35411532

Apologies, it was mine 7th post or thereabout....

Get well soon

naijababe:
Yay!!! You joining us?



Oshisko! Show off buruku!!!


@ Thread,

Day 5, my thighs still stinging but not as bad but mehn my arms during the workout, kai!!! Feels like they would break off.


I should mention that you do not have to do the whole program in 30 days, you can stretch it to 45, 60 or even 90 days where you do level 1 for 15,20 or 30 days and follow suit with levels 2 and 3 respectively. The last thing you want is to get put off, it helps with the discipline to fully commit to the whole program if you don't over do things especially if your fitness is at level zero to begin with.

@ Bukatyne, I heard you can buy stuff on amazon and have delivered to naija now, you should try that if you really want to buy the DVD. I bought mine for £5 which is around 1,700 naira.

Thanks a lot

TV01:
Does the bible state that women are to be submissive to the leadership of their husbands and to accord him final authority in their home?


TV

^{...Bukatyne, you are greeting me with qweshun...how Yoruba is that. How is Oga !}

I have given my opinion in my first post on this thread

I asked you a question...

How are you and family?

5minsmadness:
No.
A wife is humble to her husband's decisions.
A husband is humble to the position his wife has recognised in him i.e the position of a leader.
Pride should come from the woman towards her husband and not from the man towards his position.
A proud man is impervious to the suggestions of others. If he is someone who is "always right" it might work in his favour, but ultimately he is bound to make a mistake and fall. Pride does not allow for growth.

Thanks for the response...

I modified my post but I guess it did not go through...

What are the instances of obedience?

IamSassy:
Hello nairalanders, pls, i just need you guyz to explain something to me.
I want the married people here(unmarried peoople included) to please tell me what it takes to be married. How to know that you are ready for marriage. And how marriage affects ones life (as a woman).
Thanx in advance.

Sweetheart, none of us can help you

You should be having this discussion with the man you want to get married to.

bellong:
Very possible. Career is something you build throughout your professional years as well as the family till death do you all part in old age. Finding a balance in all these tasks/aspirations is the key to having it all without stress.

In achieving a peaceful and united home front with productive career, you should be thorough in spouse selection process. If you are joined with the wrong man, marriage will not be the institution meant to enjoy. However, if you marry a great and nice man, heaven is the only thing that "best" it.

Your moniker though.

Lovely post

Re career building: I always wonder when people say they want to build their career to a stage before getting married.

akaglue:
Thanks for the contribution.

You are welcome

5minsmadness:
To me Submission means "Obedience and humility".
I like using the example of A Team and Teamleaders.
Anyone in the team can make a suggestion, some suggestions good, some not so good.
But at the end of the day, the final decision is taking by the Teamleader.
In the instance of marriage (sic, Christain marriage), the teamleader is the husband as ordained by God.
There are many marriages in which the woman is the breadwinner and dominant member of the partnership, we are not addressing those marriages here.
But even in those marriages one of the members is dominant while the other is "submissive", to say they are both exactly equal is to believe in a mirage, to deny reality. IT IS JUST NOT POSSIBLE.

A woman ought to be submissive to her husband i.e she can give suggestions and advice and if the man sees it to be good he can take it, there is no harm in that. But the main aim and direction of the marriage is determined by the man. IF a woman does not trust a man well enough to allow him make the right decisions concerning how thier home will be run, then she shouldn't have married him in the first place.

Let's not decieve ourselves, hypergamy is the watchword when a woman wishes to marry, unless of course when she is desperate in which case she marries whoever comes along to satisfy her whims to procreate or answer Mrs to the satisfaction of herself and society. A woman naturally seeks out a man that impresses her both physically and financially and also intellectually as well. No woman here will agree to marry a dunce, unless he is an extremely rich dunce. A woman always marries upwards. It therefore stands to reason that the person she marries has something she doesnt have (the person is a level above her in sommething---sounds ugly but its true) and so she will be more willing to submit to the higher level, nay, it is natural for her to do so, for bringing the man down to her level defeats the whole purpose of her wanted something greater than herself.

The last passage may be difficult for some ladies to hear but it is the plain truth. For those of you married you married your husband because there was something you admired, something you saw that made you feel he would be a great leader in your journey together through life. Whether it be money, leadership skills, intelligence, godly behaviour, managerial skills etc it doesnt matter. SO it is natural for him to be the head, natural for him to lead, and natural for you as the woman to follow(submit to)him.

Thanks for the robust reply

Do you think humility is only expected from the wife?

Ewuro4:
SUITS fans..

What did you think of Racheal Zane's reaction when Mike Ross told her She's now his property after the proposal? For a Lady who can hold her own, secured for life, good family background, great career & independent to boot... I expected a tantrum not a passionate kiss

'You don't own me , ain't superior , Blah blah'

Going by the bolded, my husband is a carnivore and I should be scared when he says... 'baby let me eat you'.

I should even be very scared of Yoruba's popular

'E ma lo ra yin gbo; e ma lo ra yin pe'

You both will use yourselves old; You both will use yourselves for long.

Context matters

@5minsmadness,

You have not said what 'submission' means to you

TV01:
3. Your equating submission to unquestioning servility/slavery is at best disingenious - no one has ever claimed that. It's even worse when you take a wordly definition and then try and apply it in a christian context.

What is your definition of 'Submission'?

Since the dictionary definition doesnot apply

damiso:
Naijababe kimoni day 3 done this sweat no get part 2

Did you just have your bath?

teambuck2u:
Tenk mami. on the cheek o. Ehen

You are.welcome

It is

teambuck2u:
Could you be kind as to provide a link to the thread?

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https://www.nairaland.com/1933513/love-submission[/hr]

Na work you give me so

Check If it would work.

teambuck2u:
Banned for derailing.

What's your take on submission in marriage considering the bible's stand?

Pele

I 100% agree and preach it. I even have a thread on it.

You need to catch up.

jasab:
What type of love is this, when wife get her salary she gave all to her husband, but when husband back from the place of work he didn't show his wife the statement of his accut but wife always doing that. What she do to correct that?

How are you related to the couple in question.

teambuck2u:
BeeKay, can we have discuss submission? Actually, I just want to pick your brain on the topic. Are you game?

No problem

What happened to your previous moniker?

naijababe:
What are are you talking about, you don't think I am innocent? Butter no go melt for my mouth o

If I put water for 10hrs, I will meet it there When I come back

5minsmadness:
It is generally accepted that in any sane marriage institution the wife is meant to be submissive to her husband. Wether Christian or Muslim or pagan, the wife has to be a good follower to enable the man lead properly or else chaos ensues.
Just as you can't have two drivers in a car, you can't have two leaders in a marriage. Even a team has a Team leader.

So what does it mean for a wife to be submissive? And where does one draw the line between submission and slavery? Is there any difference between the two?

@bold: What Does submission mean to you?

naijababe:
Yes, if you tv has a USB port

Yea it Does....

Will download it tomorrow

Will try the warm up exercises tonight

Your face don't match your posts you have an innocent face.

Good one

opella:
Why not download it, or you just want the dvd?

How would I be able to follow it?

Download + transfer to a flash + play on TV?