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naijababe:
I reckon it's a good idea to have a separate thread for us aspiring fitness junkies........... here is to a our hot summer look. Imma have a pic here just for today. Will take it down after today


cc: Damiso, kilode100, Zemaye, Chillisauce, EfemenaXY, Edwife, Cococandy, Bukatyne, Kimoni, Veave


Day 4 of Jillian Michaels 30 days Shred. My arms are hurting less now, although I can feel my thighs shaking as I sit and type this

Usual suspects, come in and report.

@ Kimoni, there's no hiding from me o . Where is your report for yesterday?

2CatWoman:
We work together for the sake of our home. There are things that I do better than him so he just lets me get on with it and vice versa.

So because he cooked the meal that now makes me the head does it?

VictoriaBee:
I have done that.

Tallesty1:
In her house.

femi4:
You are right.
A successful man attracts girls while a successful woman repels guys enemies of progress

Tallesty1:
She can motivate him to hustle more.


My ex did and I still respect her for it.


The girl is gotta put in some effort y'know, nothing good comes easy

mutter:
I don`t really know how to explain it but I put tried to find means to make things easier.- I don`t by things that make dirt. I avoid themlike popcorn. . Anything I buy, dec, furniture, cloths i asses the ease oor difficulty of getting it clean.
- I pay more emphasis on keeping clean than tidying up because you can clean all you like for hours, you achieve nothing if it get`s scattered faster than you clean.
- one of my major cleaning methods is disposal. It is amazing how some people just have so many things hurded, you cant make it look tidy.
I try to make things easy in the kitchen. Like I wash my beans for moi moi in bulk and freeze them.
I try to get as much help as I cam from my husband.
I don`t enslave myself to my chores. When I am tired then it has to wait for another day.

You have to learn to stop putting preasure on yourself. You cannot be 100% mother and 100% career woman.

DO YOUR BEST AND LEAVE THE REST TO REST.

Truckpusher:


I think it's high time you guys begin to disassociate yourselves from some of these bitter lesbians and angry women that are hiding under the auspices of feminism to preach hate against men thereby destroying the true face of feminism.Because the fact and the truth is that without men making those bills and passing them into laws to promote the cause of feminism and gender equality to protect women won't see the light of the day.You guys still won't get that voice by noise making no matter how high the noise.

cococandy:
As in.

honeric01:
Before nko Bukayatulahi.

akaglue:
In the Christian circle, so much is said about the Proverbs 31 woman. She is a true model to be emulated by women, wives and mothers. One aspect of her that was highly praised by Solomon was her industrious and diligent nature.

The proverbs 31 woman adds value to her home, she is financially wise and responsible. She has the best intentions and helps her family to attain their financial goal. She sees a business opportunities and takes advantage of it so as to contribute positively to the welfare of the family.

The husband of a Proverbs 31 woman feels safe and trusts her, he has no need for spoil, meaning that he can trust her with the family finances, knowing that she will not cause him financial loss and pain.

The Proverbs 31 woman is also very creative and focused, meaning that she is not wasteful, she looks to the future and builds an estate. She finds opportunities to add income to the family, save for the family and invests for the family.

The Proverbs 31 woman is not afraid of the snow for all her household are clothed with scarlet, meaning that the financially virtuous woman is proactive and is a saver, she plans and budgets well for her family. She has emergency funds and ensures her family is secured with all necessary items at all times.

Are you a proverbs 31 woman?

No lazy woman is a proverbs 31 woman.

No waster is a proverbs 31 woman.

The Proverbs 31 woman is the perfect woman, strive to be like her, study and copy her.

As a woman, even if you are not earning any income through paid employment or business, you can save from the allowance your husband gives to you and invest it for the family.

Feel free to add more characteristics to the Proverbs 31 woman.

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dangotesmummy:
I'm not a virtous woman and I don't plan to be


an imperfect man and woman produced me so I can't be one

.by the way I see bukatyne aka bukky in the building

dangotesmummy:
you can bet the dheek whipped women are on their way.


The same people hailing bukatyne today are the same people that will beat her blue Black or rather have been beating her till she takes off


just a little more patience. Team I like my husband slapping me are on their way


Let me serve the breakfast before their arrival

lilmax:
When bad, sinful, unethical, vile, wicked,lazy women speak

Bu.katyn.e is a virtuous woman non existent?

honeric01:
A Real godly man is proud of his wife and proud to talk positively about her at work and with friends.

Husband is not just a title, husband is not just the ability to get a wife pregnant. Husband means great responsibility. It means House band,the band that binds the house together. A godly husband is a priest, a provider and a protector. 
As a priest; a husband subjects himself to Christ and opens the Word and leads his family daily through worship. 
As a provider; the husband works hard to ensure that the family is well fed and nourished decently dressed and taken care of in all areas. 

As a protector; he shelters his family from physical, emotional and spiritual attacks/harms. A godly husband the man of the house will stand up for his marriage and defend his wife and children and fight for his family's salvation.

As a husband never hold on to your wife's past mistakes ( which are many) be ready to forgive her even for the ones she is yet to commit. Practice forgiveness daily
Husbands no wife has ever died from too much love, care and affection.
Don't be deceived, bad company corrupts good morals watch the friends you keep, make sure your friends are those who value marriage creed and have less singles as friends. 

Marriage is a union/ fission of two becoming one, feel your wife's pain and regard her problems as your challenges, seek to feel what she feels,desire what she desires. Give her the same consideration you give your own body.
Your mother is your mother no one can change that, but your wife is you and should be seen as you. Treat her with much love and respect. No one will treat her otherwise including your mother.

Husband, there is nothing that threatens the security of a wife than the thought of another woman competing for the attention and affection of her man. Nothing is more disrespecting, nothing is more insulting please avoid that road. Every wife needs to know she is still the one and only for you. Reassure her daily.

Don't preach to your wife, don't demand love and affection,respect and attention from her. Rather show her how it is supposed to be done. Live your sermon don't preach it. Demonstrate your love.

A woman who doesn't ask for anything deserves everything.
Finally Husbands and wives whatever you do separately will separate you. Marriage is TEAMWORK. Have a blessed weekend.

Remain Blessed!.

-Gift Samson-

aflyingbird:
everyborri, drop what you're doing and wish me a happy birthday.

tolu4you:
I had this chatting with my woman yesterday. She asked me if i love my daughter more? Fellow nairalander, anything wrong with the question? Coz the question dey somehow.
How on earth asking such a question from your husband if he love his child more than you.


CC : lalasticlala

CFCfan:
If folks are serious about equality, they should call for the abolition of bride price. The bride price culture is a strong pillar of the patriarchy in Naija.

cococandy:
I do think Twitter or social media affects opinions but not laws so much. Be it traditional or secular laws. Hence not effective enough for me. But it still works in that the more people say it, the greater chance someone who's among the decisions makers out there will bring it up for consideration.

Btw, I don't do Twitter.. Nairaland is my social media so whatever I have to say, I say here. It doesn't mean I'm not serious about my opinions.
I'm still trying to get what you're implying. Because I haven't started a Twitter campaign, it means whatever else I say about it doesn't count?

How does your second paragraph answer my question. You detest feminists, what have you done about it? When are you going to start a Twitter campaign for polygamy that you advocate?

Does your starting and stopping on Nairaland also not count as no action? you're the only one who's serious but others who haven't started a Twitter are unserious?

apolonius:
I am sure the mothers of these females will disagree with them. A vocal few are pontificating as speakers of a happy and fulfilled majority. Nonsense!

They can go and leave anywhere in the whole wide world if they so hate the Naija culture of male and female relationships.

Most men work hard, provide for their wives and die as slaves to the care concept of marriage. How many of them are complaining?

Ours sisters must get real and stop reading too many soft magazines in the West and cease watching reality shows of jobless women in the US and the UK.

We are Africans. We are conservative; we love and respect our women. And most of them are happy with us!

Truckpusher:
There are some women that do not go through those things ,they came from good homes and where well taken care of by their parents but because of their sexual orientation and bad choices they made about the kind of men they roll with ,they feel that the only way they can express themselves is by being aggressive to men and unfortunately they hide under the umbrella of feminism and they abound in this forum right inside this thread now.


Most of these ladies often mistaken misandry for feminism and I personally do not spare them.Because they will have a problem thinking they are feminists.

They are not feminist but bunch of deluded fellows who would soon learn through the hard way mark my words.

cococandy:
It would also be nice to see you ask same of those whose breathing moments all but consist of saying derogatory stuff about black women.
Where do you usually go with your 'objectivity' when such situations arise?
No you part them on the back.


Much as stillfire is not being fair at the moment by the generalization, it is well deserved. since we no fit hear word. Every few minutes someone is looking for something nasty to say about black women and if that's fine, I don't know why hers should be termed hatred.

babygirlfl:
True. Nobody has the right to take life.




I don't think the law was protecting any gender. when a marriage breaks down, the proceeds from the marriage is divided between the couple. However, when kids are involved, the kids become the priority and it only makes sense that the spouse who gets the kids keeps the house. You do not expects the kids to leave the house. In other words, the kids get to stay in the house with the parent who gets full custody. If the husband gets custody, he stays with the kids in the house while the wife leaves the house. If the wife gets custody, she stays with the kids in the house while the husband leaves the house.

People exploit laws wherever possible. Men in Nigeria exploit women everyday because the law favours them. The same man goes abroad and starts shouting exploitation. Have we not heard of women being chased out of a house she built with her husband? So my dear, most people will exploit the law when possible. Most of the men who go home to marry are also exploiting the Nigerian laws and culture as they hope their bride remains bound by the Nigerian law. Unfortunately, for the men, most ladies will change.



Respect is reciprocal and both partners should respect each other.



I understand what you are saying. People go through a lot sometimes to go into and get their stay abroad. Some women went through same thing and went home to marry a man only for the man to get his papers and divorce her to marry another woman. Do these men deserve to be killed?

Your story is one sided. Have you spoken to women who married these kind of men? Most of these men want them to remain perpetual slaves because they brought these women abroad. You need to first of all understand the psychology of most men who go home to marry. Most of them are men who want a slaves and not a wife. The almost always leave a girlfriend abroad to marry one from home. They want women they can control. They go for those women they think they can control. With this type of man, having an opinion can be interpreted as arrogance because they expect you to jump at their command.

You need to also understand the psychology of most of these women these men marry. These are women who want to go abroad by all means. They don't care what type of man he is. They just want any man that can take them abroad. Some of these women even go into nursing school with the mind that these men from abroad can come and whisk them away.

Now this two people getting married is disaster. It's just a matter of time. If anything has to be done to curb this menace both sides of the divide should be addressed.