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Defcon1:
l agree with you.

That statement was tongue-in-cheek...echoes the same scenario where some men ask their wives /girlfriends to choose between them and their career

ok then

GOATandYAMtheory:
First Lady, Hajia Aisha Buhari, has called on those working with her husband, President Muhammadu Buhari against taking bribes from anybody before gaining access to her.

Mrs. Buhari reminded them that they should thread with caution because it took her husband 12 years before getting to the position he currently occupies.

The First Lady made this appeal during an “Appreciation Dinner” she hosted in honour of the All Progressives Congress’ women and youths at the old Banquet Hall of the Presidential Villa, Abuja.

She said, “There was nothing that people did not say about the past administration. It is not former President Goodluck Jonathan that is not good but the people around him.

“So, the people that are going to be around President Buhari have to be very careful because this election ended peacefully.

“We are praying and hoping that people around him should know that it took him 12 years to get to that position and they must know that they are coming to serve the masses, not General Buhari.

“It is the people that are around him that will determine the political health of our state.”

The President’s wife also promised that the current administration would run an open government.

She said government under her husband would be different from what was obtainable under Jonathan when people were allegedly asked to be paying huge amount of money in foreign currency before they could see the President or his wife.

“I will like to inform you that in the past regime, whether it is true or false, only God knows, some people were going round and parading themselves as personal assistants.

“If you wanted to see the President’s wife, you will pay $30,000 or $50,000 and if you are seeing the President, you will pay all that you have saved in your lifetime.

“This will not happen in our regime. Whoever asks you to give a single penny in the name of coming to see the President or his wife is not our (member of) staff. He is not an APC member, it is a lie. Don’t be deceived,” she said.

Mrs. Buhari said, “Many people did not know why I was not appearing for the last three campaigns. I appeared only this time and I think it made a lot of difference. A lot of people said my husband earned four million votes as a result of my campaign.

“We were not sure but with the popularity of my husband, we thought then that he needed female support to cancel all sorts of gender bias people have been attaching to him like that he kept me under a purdah.

“He had never kept me under a purdah even for a moment since I got married to him.

“My husband is a gender-sensitive human being, having so many girls as his own biological children and then having me as a wife, then you can see the generation gap. He allowed me to go to school. To cut the story short, he is the pillar of my success”.

http://dailypost.ng/2015/06/15/i-am-not-patience-jonathan-do-not-pay-anybody-to-see-me-my-husband-aisha-buhari/

For a woman who has repeatedly said she doesn't want to be called a 'first lady' or associated with the office, this is surely interesting.

Defcon1:
Some ladies think they are the best things to happen to a guy.
lmagine.

The guy stabbed her through the heart and twisted the knife
Imagine having someone prefer a dog to you.

A lady can be the best thing that happened to her guy
A guy can also be the best thing that happened to his lady.

@OP:

The girlfriend should check herself. If she is truly as the guy painted, she will keep having problems even if her next boyfriend does not have a dog.

Funny boyfriend.

naijababe:
Yes, I mean a can in each hand. If you are just starting from zero fitness level, 500g should do. Trust me it is more than enough for anyone who's just starting out.

Thanks a lot

Yomieluv:
My fiance called me on thursday that she's converting to a moslem.

She is just wants to practice her religion openly

Yomieluv:
Actually,she was a muslim,but when the mum was going through financial difficulties while growing up,she and her brother went to stay at her uncle's place,who happens to practice christian,which made her practice the family's religion

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Salvation is personal so there is no collective religion;

She was just going to Church because her benefactor was a Christian. She was always a Muslim at heart

Yomieluv:
She has gone back this year to her mum's place,because her place of industrial attachment is very close to her mum's place.

I thought she was joking,till she came to my side yesterday,and observed her prayer the muslim way.

Such issues are never to be taken lightly; you are lucky she is open about it.

Yomieluv:
I haven't made any comment,or taken any decision on that,but my fear is that

1. This is a lady I want t get married to in few months' time.

The wedding have to wait till you take a decision

Yomieluv:
2. I practise christianity,and I know the importance of uniformity of religion to married couple,and children.

The Bible enjoins us not to marry 'unbelivers'

Yomieluv:
3. I have been worried since,am I over reacting to it?

No you are not, infact it shows you have a vision of how you want your home to look like.

Yomieluv:
4. Has anybody been in this situation before,whereby hubby,and wife practise different religion?

A lot and some have managed to pull it off successfully (outside; do not know the inner workings of their home)

Yomieluv:
5. Should I be worried,or I insist on her to practice Christianity?

Bros, except you are the Holy Spirit, I do not know how you want to 'insist' she practices Christianity. You are husband and not her 'god'. If her uncle feeding her couldn't insist she practices Christianity, how much more you? She might do yes and revert years after the marriage. What will you do then? Insists she prays? Insists she reads her Bible? Divorce?

Yomieluv:
I need contribution,and advice on how to handle the difference in religion,if eventually we get married.

cc: lalastica

First you have to decide, do you want to marry a Muslim? because that lady is a Muslim and no amount of insistence can change that

If you want to marry her, you either:

1. Decide if you are married to a Muslim and pray for her salvation (as only the Holy Spirit can convict)
2. Cancel the wedding
3. Postpone the wedding till she converts genuinely.

naijababe:
Yes baby, went down a dress size and now wear those fitted shirts tucked into my trousers and skirts with no bulging bits


@ Zemaye, I look forward to you joining us. Maybe we will do ripped together.


Kimoni, Damiso, kilode100, bukatyne, Herzumpther how was day one? I used 2kg weights, damn! my biceps are killing me as we speak.

EfemenaXY & Edwife, you are welcome to join us o, we are all in this together

Thanks for the mention,

Will start on Thursday, done with my meds by then.

zemaye:
Naijababe
Jilian na my woman , I have done 30days shred back to back with awesome result especially inches wise. But I dey fast I nor fit add madam put for the one wey I dey. I only do balanced yoga and pilates now since no jumping involve . I go join una after Ramadan

Damiso
60s plank no bad at all o! You are in good shape

EfemenaXY
Una don shred finish you and edwife that's why she no kuku border naw

Bukatyne
Na the spirit be that, healthy lifestyle changes step by step you sef go become pro. Like EfemenaXY

Chillisauce
Abeg I dey "fas" make u no let me tear my belly with laughter. This one na dog abi na cat sef?

Lol!

Na so

naijababe:
I did Insanity for 30days and boi, the results were amazing, I lost around 7 inches around my tummy which thankfully I have not gained back but I could not do the the remaining 30 days, I was sure I would die if I continued my knees would give out, I have decided I will do it like once a year. I mentioned it to a colleague who suggested Jillian Michaels and after the first day of Shred I was hooked. Just as effective as Insanity but less impact on my knees and less jumps too. (No plyometrics stuff like in Shaun T).

If you don't have weights/dumbells, use a can of baked beans, would work just as well. So ladies, take some measurements, weigh yourselves and let's give this a go. We'll take stock in 30 days

cc: Damiso, Kimoni, Herzumpther, zemaye,Kilode100

Two cans you mean?

What size?

mutter:
I promise tomorrow. Was working the whole say today in the church.

Thanks, will be waiting.

EnlightenedSoul:
No.

I mean, if you're married to and/or dating/marrying your best friend that's great whatever works, but I've personally always made a distinction between my best friends, and my S/O. Wonderful though they are, I wouldn't date any of my best friends (male among them anyway) anymore than I would tag my S/O as some sort of chief 'bestie', or whatnot, among them.

In my mind, he's his own separate category.

We're not "two peas in a pod" as an above user described it - the attraction and chemistry is def there, but we've divergent interests/hobbies/personalities (tho they're some core similarities that bind us).

My 'EX', RIP, was the same way with the added element of the wild, otherworldly attraction and captivation that is first love's domain.

Observation: I've seen best friends fall for each other only to fall to pieces, so I don't think being 'besties' is necessarily relationship-salvaging.

Advice: If your spouse/fiancé/bf/gf is indeed your "best friend", take care that they not be your only [best] friend.

Interesting advice

Mine is.

7Alexander:
I PERSONALLY detest the act of homosexuality, infact even the thought is nauseating to me, i find it utterly disgusting, same way i find anal sex even in straight ppl disgusting, but then, should that be my problem? NO. But, i can not ask that eating of snakes be banned just because i find it disgusting. I'm all for letting CONSENTING ADULTS live their lives the way they want it, as long as they are not stepping on Okon or Nkechi's toes. If my neighbour is gay, how is that supposed to be my problem, does it affect my well being in anyway, NO.
I hear ppl say that if homosexuality becomes universally acceptable, that humans may become an 'endangered specie', but, i do not think that homosexuals make up up to 10% of the world population.
The same opinion i share about transgenders, if that is what makes you happy and fulfilled, without causing difficulties for the next person, then no-one should care. I just think that every passing day, the West are thinking of how to make life easier for themselves, either by laws like this or through technology and science, and that i think is refreshing.
How can Nigerians be against homosexuality, while in a certain part of the country, girls of 11, 12, 13 years are given out for slavery marriage. Isnt that a more pressing issue? We are talking about girls who may not even be able to tell the urethra from the vaginal orifice. Minors are raped everyday, without commensurate punishments nor enforceable laws against the culprits.
Moral of the story, people should be left to live their lives happily, as long as they are not stepping on any ones toes. MY OPINION.
Happy Sunday, Beautiful Nigerians.

Have a beautiful Monday

Chillisauce:
Ok. Good but start with just 10min of the video then increase to 15mins. It's something.

Yes mummy

Will look at it

Why did the husband marry without a job? No matter How little.

Good one.

africanpea:
Check this link, this might answer a bit of your question.
Thanks

http://diaryofanaijamom..com/2015/06/my-inspiration-and-need-to-get-kids-busy.html?m=1

Thanks, I will

Chillisauce:
Are you in or not?

In What my darling?

Doing more of clean eating for now.

3Tbs oil in my soups Max.

Attached is healthy Egusi soup

With you in spirit.

dinachi:
You know the answer is never! And I have never seen any man and his secretary carrying placards and marching that adultery should be supported and accepted as good, have you?

You have sha seen posters supporting adultery here on NL?

Oya tell me How it affects you that gay marriage is legalized.

Timbuktou:
We cannot just leave them and mind our 'business', it is our business that men are fucking men and flaunting it. Babe, we are evolutionary creatures and whether you want to accept it or not, gays are evolutionary dead ends. The proper thing to do is disincentivise the growth of an anomaly.

Bukatyne, you have branched out from christian feminism to gay apology? Wonderful. As a christian, where is the line drawn for you, or is there no good and bad anymore, just relativity?

Let's stick to topic now, shall we or is This a cacaus stuff? A certain answer acceptable

What is my business that gay marriage is legalized? None... it is for me to prayerfully bring up my kids.

I know that legalizing gay marriage (not relationship) would not make a straight person experiment with homosexuality.

dinachi:
Even some women in monogamous relationships are also in there cos of the investment of the marriage. So what's your point? How does it concern you directly what consenting adult polygamists are doing in their room?

Who told you adult women are forced into polygamy? Many go there out of their free will. What of monogamous women who are forced into marriage against their will BT their family?

Should we do a survey of the number of first wives who cconsented to polygamy?

Timbuktou:
Would his father flaunt it that he was screwing his secretary? Would he not feel ashamed/embarrassed if was found to be straffing his secretary? *smh*

Don't Let your head fall off o!

This was my post here

bukatyne:
The major problem with polygamy apart from the fact it is very selfish.
MoSt first wives in polygamy are in the union because they don't want to 'lose'. their investment in the marriage.
Homosexuals are two people of same sex who decided to be together; no force.
Is it crazy and wrong? Yes but So is adultery (favorite hobby), fornication, stealing, lying, greed, excess partying, back biting, slander, gossip etc. etc.

Also, I do not understand the numerous threads online since the it was legalized;
If you are not gay, hug your guy/girl and leave them to their business. If you are gay, goodluck.
Legalizing gay marriage (not gay relationship as gays have been existing since Sodom ), would not cause an influx in gay relationships.

Chillisauce:
Yah, that's the spirit.

Oya babyosisi, I know you are offline..but join them.

Cc Herzumpther.
Bukatyne
zemaye
damiso
Kilode100

Work done set o

Thanks for the mention

dinachi:
What of incestous couples? Would you support a relationship between your adult mother and adult brother? Following your line of argument would you just look away and leave them to their decisions, remember after all they are two consenting adults.

Would you support your father Bleep.ing his secretary?

mutter:
I was younger and had more energy. But it still drove me mad and was very exhausting.

Thanks but the answer was not specific na

I wanted specific instances

Chillisauce:
Smoking also causes death but people still take it. It's all about the choice you make as an adult.
if you know about all these and still insist, then what's the problem.

My own ish is forcing people to accept polygamy due to fvcked up tradition.

People should be able to make a choice if it DOES NOT affect others and the environment.
Most polygamy aren't based on mutual consent.
Polygamy was better then because of manual labour that was needed in cultivation, War etc.

These days we don't need it.

The major problem with polygamy apart from the fact it is very selfish.

MoSt first wives in polygamy are in the union because they don't want to 'lose'. their investment in the marriage.

Homosexuals are two people of same sex who decided to be together; no force.

Is it crazy and wrong? Yes but So is adultery (favorite hobby), fornication, stealing, lying, greed, excess partying, back biting, slander, gossip etc. etc.

Also, I do not understand the numerous threads online since the it was legalized;

If you are not gay, hug your guy/girl and leave them to their business. If you are gay, goodluck.

Legalizing gay marriage (not gay relationship as gays have been existing since Sodom ), would not cause an influx in gay relationships.

Woged2005:
Hmmmm! Many posts here might be right. I don't know what's going on between them at home. Perhaps my shock is that I was raised as a home-girl not to raise my voice not to talk of screaming in the public. When I was a little girl I got into a school fight with a boy (because I attended a Co-ed). My mom was more furious that what if the boy stripped me and disgraced me in the public. Maybe i was wrong by saying that it was caused by freedom in the USA. but A lady should be a lady. Honestly I detest people who call names during arguments, be they men or women. It's just too petty. when u call names you are avoiding the issues.

@Bold: you were

@OP: That was rude, crass and classless.

EfemenaXY:
Ahhh...Bukky. Na your fault na. We were trying to avoid you.

Anyway, Edwife fine eh, choi! A real show stopper.

Lol!

NEXT time call me for blessings and sanctification of the thread

Her back view is very nice So I figure she will be a show stopper.

Besides, Why are you avoiding me?

Jdesilentkiller:
In Nollywood, somebody wanted to commit suicide and he shot himself in the head................THREE TIMES!!

Lol!

His head is strong

mutter:
I have coped for twenty years without help It is hard but the best thing for the family. You learn to share responsibilities and you learn teamwork. It also equips the kid's for later.

How did you learn to work around it?

When the kids were young, etc.

Thanks

EfemenaXY:
True that.

See wahala. By trying to dodge Bukatyne's ever watchful eyes, pessin come dey jump from frying pan to fire.

Already made up my mind to press the "ignore' button. You should too, dear.

So you wan go church? I haven't even made up my mind yet. Still toying with the idea of hitting the gym instead.

Okay, later babes...

hahahahabahahahahahahahshahahahaha!

Oro ti e fe ki baba gbo, ohun na la pari e

Meaning What you do not want the father to hear/know, he will be the one to settle it.

Funnily, I rarely visit This thread; just drop in to read and say hello.

Why don't you girls PM the pictures instead? That way, you have total control over possession as some people can be funny here.

Permit me to laugh again.

Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahshahaha.


Happy Sunday to y'all.

babygirlfl:
Makes a lot of sense. While most people I have met outside nairaland have been nice and pleasant, one person who I never met but got friendly with by replying his pm has ended up awful. Op is right about secrets. People don't know how to keep secrets even though they will be the one to ask you to keep theirs. If a nairalander knows anything about you and you ever disagree with them, that thing will be revealed and used against you. You don't even need to insult them or anything. You just need to disagree with them. It's a shame. Though not everybody is like that, some immature ones are. Just one awful person can make you scared of making friends with nairalanders outside Nairaland. It certainly did for me.

Sorry for your terrible experience.

cococandy:
the poster is funny

Great sense of humor

Trust Kanwulia na

How are you and family?

byvan03:
Babe I deyooooo, how your corner?

Cozy

caesaraba:
Twale Madam! I wish those ladies who've been vibrating on this thread learn from you. God bless you.

Amen and you too