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bangleslover:
i knew you were going to come up with that holy spirit stuff.

The flaw is the bible.

Bible is filled with contradictions. It has caused more harm than good to this world

i will end here as both of us won't be able to reach a reasonable conclusion.

No problem

freecocoa:
Seen, surely you don't believe what you wrote

I do

Else I would not have written it

okotv:
What type of marriages do you guys get into today. I would never get into that situation.

Lols

Strange things are happening

cococandy:
when it is everyday new story at that igando and ejigbo court houses.

The problem with Nigerians is that we love to solve other people's problems before ours.

Stop it o!

Is Ejigbo or Igando in Nigeria?

If we are solving problems, it is even better.

We are very hypocritical and condemn people doing same things we are.

peppyluv02:
I love this ...

Thanks

freecocoa:
And that's supposed to be okay?

See my posts to bangleslover

bangleslover:
This is not the religious section and i won't like to derail the thread.

Really The bible is a holy book right? That means it should be perfect and easy to understand. if it is perfect then why try to twist it to your own version.

It doesn't make sense, though i know it is done daily. I don't see how that is a beauty. Rather i see it has a big flaw

The Bible is to be read and understood with the help of the Holy Spirit.

There is also the contextual meaning... Some people read one verse out to suit themselves when a whole chapter or book was dedicated to that issue.

The flaw is human and not from the Bible

silverbox177:
Hello everyone. I must say a big thank you to so many wonderful people on this thread. I started from page 0 to this level and I must say I have learnt a whole lot. I wish I can call every one's name but its not possible. Even people who posted issues here ended up encouraging me as well.

Now straight to my issue (that’s if I have one) I have been married for a little over 3 years. I got married as a virgin and my first full blown sexual experience was on the wedding night (you'll soon understand why I'm explaining all this) in a short while. Hubby was sort of a rookie as well although he had his fair share with girls but he said he wouldnt really have called himself a stud then. He was quite reserved and he claims he probably did it twice, thrice or so (dont really know about that and i don't care about it honestly) Lets just say we both learnt on the marriage bed.

Before then the boyfriend (now hubby) and I did a lot of petting, necking and the whole 9 yard apart from penetration. I liked what we did then and still do. I can say we have an okay sex life but …

I am satisfied sexually but sometimes I notice he comes rather quickly (let's say if we have sex 4 times in a week, he'll come quickly twice) Let me quickly add he makes up with good pre-intimacy session and he is not a selfish lover. I will be a bit explicit please pardon me here. Most times he makes sure I come (as in o.rgasm) before the penetration itself. However the penetration act is usually short. I don’t really really mind because most times when he makes me cum, I am actually tired at that point. However, I read somewhere a while back that the average sex act (penetration itself) is 5 minutes or so. Then women on that blog went on and on about 6, 7 10 minutes. Someone said if your man is averaging 2 to 3 minutes that’s an indomie guy!

I swear by God on that day, I was mildly stunned. That was the first time it occurred to me that perhaps just perhaps what I always thought was okay was not. I will say hubby averages 2 to 3 minutes on most occasions. Even though I knew he could be a bit quick at times, I never bothered because he satisfies me nearly ALL THE TIME. Another thing that raised a red flag for me is this - I have never ever had him say he wants a second helping after the first act. I thought this was a bit odd after the first year but I never thought too much of it. Like I say I am generally content with the sex life because it is frequent and he makes me come. He initiates sex nearly all the time and I do sometimes though he beats me hands down.

Please mature women be honest with me. Am I fishing for trouble where there is none? Is this normal sexual behaviour? Could there be something here? I once tried to make him go a second time not because i was starved on that day but to kill my own curiosity. As usual, he was fagged out (after 2 minutes penetration) and I couldn't really care less though I would have wanted it to prove a point and put my mind at ease.

In the over 3 years no second helping so should I be concerned. I'm not a sex freak or anything but I'm beginning to wonder if my man's engine is truly working at full capacity. (where is the sweat pouring out of face icon?)

Please feel free to be brutally honest with me. I opened this moniker for this purpose and I intend to deactivate once I am sated. We are both in our early thirties and we work.

CC: Babyosisi, Bukatyne, Mutter, Efemenaxyz, Thorpido (I really really need the men to talk here) Floodgater, Forexmart and all you wonderful contributors. Thanks

Hi Silverbox,

I would say you are fishing

Different strokes for different folks and the important thing isthat he satisfies you.

Take it as a weakness that he cannot go a second round... Ever heard 'not How far but How well'?

Surprisingly, Some whose men go second rounds might still not satisfy their wonen

Count your blessings
1. You have a lovely husband
2. He is an unselfish lover.
3. He knows he doesn't stay long during penetration so he makes you come during pre-intimacy
4. You guys get down regularly
5. You are spent So it is not like you want more than he is giving.

Have a great time

P.S.: @ the 7 mins rule, never heard it.

tintingz:
What other meaning those the word submission have?

The bible said women are not allowed to talk.

It said slaves should respect their masters and those who do not believe in Jesus will burn in hell.

You are a Muslim right?

Concern yourself with the parts that address you.

bangleslover:
@bold wow!! that explains why we have so many confused christian folks and fake pastors

It does

If I want to encourage slavery, one or two verses will give me a leg to stand on.

Brokenbars:
Spank me and this is what i will do:
Touch me not for one month
No eating with you
No bathing
No watching movies together
I will sleep on the floor becos d bed is hot
No gisting
Cooking uninteresting foods
And.......
My husband doesnt beat though but wat he does hurt like hell. He becomes deaf and dumb.

Ma'am,

I know This thread is for the fun of it but

1. Is a punishment for a faithful man
2, 3, 4, 5 is a punishment to yourself.
6. A punishment for an husband that cares
7.He can eat outside or cook himself.

tintingz:
A good wife will submit to her husband.

I can 100% bet you do not know What submission is in a Christian marriage

Else you not post it like something from space

Trippledots:
dat first pix tho...had me in stitches looks like chisos on a grizzly bear or something.


he got talent ma'am.

Na real obara chisos!

So So funny!

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You have time travel machine to 2014?

Nice one

abdrazak:
My sister is having introduction next two weeks. I have informed my fiancee but I didnt want her to come.
The reason being that I didnt want all my house wives to know know of her yet and there is no how she is come without assisting them.
NB: My family and hers have done pre-introduction.
Please advice?

If you don't want her to come, tell her not to with reasons.

Full stop

You have Some nice points

However, some are a joke.

I should not answer my husband's polls but he can as answer mine

I am sure Sarah is not a godly woman... else Why would her maids cook? Or the noble woman in Prov 31?

The only thing she seemed to do is cooking...

Please stop making 'Christian' husbands sound like tyrants.

The beauty of the Bible is that you can twist it to whatever you like.

cap28:
The ideal woman for a Christian man:

The door mat - A woman who has no views of her own, no independent thought and lives to please the man without thinking about her own personal needs.

Lols

I will replace the Christian with religious

omostar:
Because you've been there abi?

From the Bible.

freecocoa:
Oh! Well, no need to argue because you believe in the bible and I don't.

Okay then

freecocoa:
And you know this how please?

The Bible

crackhaus:
Yea, God also determines how fast the sperm carrying the sex-determining chromosome travels.

You're the one who's a Christian feminist and I'm the one who needs to read the Bible some more?
Today must be clown Sunday, or is there a circus in town that I haven't been invited to...

Goodluck

Don't have time for any fruitless argument This beautiful afternoon.

abbey621:
My friend you have not been to heaven so you don't know what it entails. You can go by some books written for guidance or you can go by faith. The bolded part of your statement is intended to demean Islam and it's just sickening. If you cared to read the Quran, you would realize that the Islamic version of heaven is very similar to Christianity's version. Both promises paradise and paradise can mean different things to different people. You mention alcohol but in reality the word used was "wine" and I hope you know wine can also be non alcoholic?

The alcohol part was not to deride them. I have picked up severally that is the reason they are told to abstain from alcohol on earth.

I did not use the 77 virgins because I have heard a lot of them refute it.

I have also gotten the Christian heaven is dull

I have not been to heaven but I have the Bible which makes me believe in heaven in the first place.

crackhaus:
God created women more than men?
And I thought it was a purely coincidental biological process responsible for differentiation of the sexes - I'm learning...




Men can be polygamous because we can... good luck finding two men that have no problem being married to one woman when they're not living in India or Zimbabwe..

The babies just appear into the wombs..

Well God told Jeremiah that He knew him before he was formed in his mother's womb

God determines each child that is formed.

Read up your Bible Some more.

What is my business with polygamy? If two or more women have no problem sharing a did.ck, What really is my business?

It is not my husband they are sharing;
I am not asked to share...

How do I enter the equation?

babyosisi:
This is that link btw

https://www.cia.gov/library/publications/the-world-factbook/geos/ni.html

The countries that are the most polygamous in the world( Arab countries) ,have 2:1 male / female ratio or close
That is another thread I say
The lies we have heard our entire lives being debunked

You have forgotten that 75% of the men There are ghosts and spirits...

Only 25% physical...

How do you expect the women to cope

abbey621:
So you are God's secretary or you have some kind of knowledge that the rest of us are not privilege to? Be you Christian or Muslim, there's a consensus that only one heaven exist!

Both parties actually believe a heaven exists.... but they are not the same heaven.

The Christians believe you can only get to the Christian heaven through Jesus. They are told they will sing all day long etc.

The Muslim.s believe you can only get to the Muslim heaven through submission to Allah. They are told they will have alcohol to drink.

Etc.

A Nigerian in diaspora will sing... I am going home (to Nigeria ).

A Ghanaian singing same is also going home.. (toGhana)

babyosisi:
That is another thread altogether
This tells you that most things we heard growing up were pure lies fabricated by men and forced on society

Why would God create women more than men and still expect monogamy

kimond101:
The reality is what people fail to comprehend is that the one who strive to attain paradise is one who submits to the will of God and do righteous good deeds and avoid ascribing partners in worship with God.
Abraham submitted to the will of God
Joseph submitted to the will of God
David submitted to the will of God
Moses submitted to the will of God
Jesus submitted to the will of God
Muhammad submitted to the will of God
Everyone one of them was sent at a particular time. And whoever follow their way at that time shall not perish but have eternal life if God wills.
None of them ever said you should worship them neither did they call themselves God.
To submit to the will of God alone without ascribing partners with him is only defined by one religion and that is Islam.

Bro, you are mixing two things....

Muhammad and David surely did not go to the same heaven

Velocitron:
However you take it, I guess. Hopefully you see where I'm coming from.

I do

babyosisi:
If you are married off at 13 and thrown out at 15 because you couldn't conceive what choice do you have in your predicament?
Do you know it is more kosher to accuse a woman of infertility than a man
Women whose husbands have problems with infertility would rather admit the problem is theirs than tell anyone their man is carrying akamu instead of semen
Nne this is not that easy o

This is a different sneario; was focusing on consented relationshipa between adult and before marriage sef

Besides, that girl can still make something Good out of her life. It might just take her longer.

taryour:
I tell you sis, that's why its a Nigerian film. Lol. You already know the end of the film after watching the first 2 scenes. They just never have good endings.

They need to seriously up their games

babyosisi:
Nigerian population breakdown


0-14 years: 43.2% (male 39,151,304/female 37,353,737)
15-24 years: 19.3% (male 17,486,117/female 16,732,533)
25-54 years: 30.5% (male 27,697,644/female 26,285,816)
55-64 years: 3.9% (male 3,393,631/female 3,571,301)
65 years and over: 3.1% (male 2,621,845/female 2,861,826) (2014 est.)

The highlighted group above is most likely the population from which these studies are drawn

Rate of infertility ranges from 12-30% in subsaharan Africa
Out of that number how many know they are infertile
How many get tested?
A study spanning years at a fertility clinic in a teaching hospital of the males that presented for tests is valid as it can get and should be a true representation of the situation.
Anybody who knows anything about research work cannot argue with that

You can choose to make the SE study a representation of the SE Men and the SW study a representation of SW men
In either study, it is clear the men are just as culpable if not more in cases of infertility.

I wonder where people got porky stories that women are more to justify polygamy