₦airaland Forum

babyosisi:
This should be the standard but unfortunately society dictates the standard in many cases
We come from a society where sometimes the choice is not even the woman's to make and just as that choice was a collective one,her choice to stay or remain is also collective.
Believe me this thread has knocked and will knock many people's halos sideways because it varies with everything they ever believed
But I also assure you it won't change much about their actions tomorrow
That is how innate the problem is
The average man huffing and puffing about a barren wife after reading this thread will still be advised and will prefer to get a second wife in a case of infertility .

Anyway

cococandy:
forgive my pidgin Yoruba. bukatyne refused to teach me

honeric01:
Hehehe

Bukatyne

So this is how you're going to be for the next 4 years because we have a new govt?

I thought you were suppose to become more "conservative"?

This change is "one chance" tanoid style.

Zacking:
I for fear whether na old women dey wear am alone. Because some men like it on their women, men like me. I'm still young o lol

babyosisi:
This is for all you males that insist that you need to check out and make sure your wives can conceive
Facts are sacred
Dinachi ,timbuktou,harveyspec cococandy,keppyy,jahblessme,bukatyne,apextitan,njokusboy,kilode100,4teelaw

byvan03:
Lol, I will stick around .

FrancisTony:
Because they don't keep record.

Velocitron:
Doesn't sound encouraging to me personally, considering it's a graduation speech. More like 'but women are so oppressed' and 'men are so privileged'.

Segzay:
I quite agree with some of her speech,,bt wait o,,dose ppl over thr(western world) knws all dis tins nd yet dey record d highest divorce rate,,,d fact stil remain dat our cultures and our beliefs here is d best,,I believe dos dat created dis path for us to follow also made dem tru wisdom and critical tinkins,,its jst dt dey r nt opportuned to stand in front of ppl nd givin out speech like dis woman wey go stil mislead una,,,am nt disputin her words,,bt most of our girls here wuld mis-interprete her words,,gender equality is real nd true,,bt no too cari dat mentality reach una husband house o,,or else e go clear fr una eye wen dat humble,,cool and submissive woman snatch him frm u!

taryour:
I watched the exact same movie last night. to think the foolish girl he was going tru all of this for had betrayed him. nice file though.

Velocitron:
In fact, pay discrimination is very illegal.

It's because women work fewer hours and do less overtime in a pay-per-hour job. So who do you think is taking home more money for the same work? The woman who works from 9 to 4 or the man who works from 8 to 6 and does overtime on the weekends?

Velocitron:
One thing I haaaaaaattte more than anything is this victim culture women and blacks tend to have nowadays! As long as you're a rich, educated woman living in a first world country, you're more privileged than most people so you should be the last person whining about 'oppression'. So what if someone said something rude to you? So that's the definition of 'oppressed'?

No one is holding you back, no 'glass-ceiling', no pi 'wage-gap' whatever. We women are even lucky that we can use our looks or sex to get by. So stop the whining, please.

okotv:
A lot of 21st century folks aren't meant to be married. We marry for the wrong reasons and so we must face all these consequences. By the way, has anyone seen were a man divorced his wife in the scriptures

Let me add, no woman can commit the type of offence that Eve did but Adam forgave. So it can handle.

cococandy:
@topic, I will always gbadu chimamanda.

Under the sun and in the rain.
with dedication and selflessness.
Nigeria is ours Nigeria we serve.

Kpomkwem!!!

babygirlfl:
@ keppyy,

Your story just proved one thing I have said several times in this forum. When they say a couple should be honest, they mean the woman should be honest. When the say a couple should go for fertility test, they mean the woman should go for fertility test because in our part of the world and in their eyes, only a woman has problems.

keppyy:
Bukatyne, I must confess that you inspired me to say that (I was too drunk in love)...thank you

Cococandy, hmmmmmmmmmmm....I think he is just scared of the possibility of a bad result.

Is you aunt still with her husband?

Dheartless:
I meant to address the issue base on pastors insisting on continuation of an abusive and unfaithful marriage.

I think at the end of op, I stated that no one should be forced to remain in a bad marriage.

but do you think it's right for pastors to insist on continuity of a bad marriage?

keppyy:
I lied to my Ex about my virginity status and it hurt him so bad that he almost broke up with me...

I explained why I did it and apologised with the intervention of friends..

He said he'll only accept to it if I go for a comprehensive medical check-up, I told him it's not necessary because I've been celibate for 2years, I check my HIV status every 6months and I've never had an abortion...

He said the trust is broken and he needs medical proof...I was to test for HIV, Hepatitis B and C, several STIs, herpes and I was also to ascertain the competency of my womb because he according to him he was considering "Marriage"...

I accepted but with the option that he would do the same with the inclusion of "Sperm Count" and he has to pay because I don't have the money to waste (because I trust myself)....

I can never forget that day because the lab technicians even commented that about to wed couples don't screen theirselves like this...He had an emergency that day, so I gave them my sample and left....I was told to come back One week later for all the results...

The next day I asked him if he has submitted his sample and he said he is busy, I travelled for about a week and I was not even bothered about the result because I knew I am clean...I went for my results and I was told he was yet to complete the payment and he never submitted his sample...

I realised that he was not even sure of himself and he made them screen me like a guinea pig...He told my Sister and Friend that as far as I attended University of Port-Harcourt, I must be do all the tests that Port-Harcourt girls are Whores and uniport girls are Supreme whores and avoided me like a diseased animal....

Days later he came to my house with a box of chocolate and wine (His peace offering and I guessed he must have collected my results)...He did not say anything about the tests and pretend all was well...

Anyway, I asked him about his test and he said he does not need it and that he is clean blah blah blah...I just told him that I can't date him any more till I get his comprehensive medical report...And we've not spoken ever since (I sincerely don't know what he is hiding, MR CLEAN)...

Sorry for the long epistle...

Dheartless:
I wonder why won't pastors talk about the possibility of divorce, instead they advocate for a never ending marriage between a man and a woman, even in cases when it is obvious that one partner may die before time while trying to endure believing the union will eventually work.

I will leave the old testament out of this because people might say "it was before the birth and teaching of the lord jesus, so those rules were amended by him"
But according to Mathew 19:9, a man is allowed to divorce his wife under the reason of unfaithfulness/adultery.

my belief is, I won't die or suffer unnecessarily in a marriage for a partners misbehavior, not only in cases of adultery but any intense level of insanity introduced into the marriage by my partner, Nobody, no pastor can talk or preach me out of divorce.
it is better for me to take that chances of committing a sin ,"which to an extent I don't believe is a sin", than bear hell given to me by my partner.

(with reference to the bible) I really don't know about how possible it is for a woman to divorce her husband.

But in all, I still think no one deserves to bear and suffer for their partners misbehavior and/or abuse [so long it is not an illness of the body organ(s)], SINCE EVEN ON JUDGEMENT DAY EVERYONE WILL BE JUDGED SEPARATELY/ INDEPENDENTLY.

if you don't agree, state your reasons .

I meant no insult to anyone else's belief.

eagleeye2:
Will you agree to sit down in the Kitchen or the so called beauty palour while your husband the president has all the fun?
.
The office of the first lady has come to stay. Whether GMB like it or not.

Ngoziada592:
Sure that's one of the reasons she closed it. They will soon accuse her of using her husbands position to promote her business. Plus it will be lobbyists coming in all day, it won't even be about beauty . Men sef will start going there CV in hand

Zacking:
And what is wrong with a lady wearing satin or silk underskirts?

eagleeye2:
If na you be Aisha, you go gree
.Abeg make una free our First Lady. All those talk by GMB na because of erectio.n

supereagle:
He said that it not in our constitution . The woman will still manage the wives of Governors and other women in Nigeria and Africa . So , the office has come to stay.

Kimoni:
I was going to ask the same thing

Buka buka

iykedare:
Let's forget the old buka.
I like the new bukatyne.

Dear lord,
Please continue to bless the person who orchestrated this change in bukatyne with even greater sexual prowess.

Only good sex can make this change possible.

Amen.

5minsmadness:
Amen!
There was a time Sophyrocks was behaving cool calm and collected like this but recently went back to being her vitriolic self... Wonder what happened

Timbuktou:
Hehehehe. BeeKay, peer pressure seems to be getting to you

okotv:
I have been receiving a lot of commendations lately. I just hope no one is deceiving me sha.

Stillfire:
Now being an empowered woman is not analogous to being unable to adapt to polite society. Ghetto, razz and crass women who want to hide under the cloak of feminism take note! Bad manners are just bad manners as a result of your bad upbringing.

MarvellousGod:
Really a great speech... Never do anything because you're a woman, do it because you want to. ..

Except the natural roles though. . Like giving birth, breastfeeding et al...

thorpido:
I agree with her words here.I don't agree with every statement of hers though.

Isn't it contradictory that women shouldn't do some things because they are women,yet they want political offices in Nigeria because they are women and should be given the opportunity.
As per doing some things because you are a woman,well who should stay with a breas.tfeeding baby?The woman because she is a woman or the man?
I believe man and woman are equal,they are just not the SAME.Like some silly girls (and men) started the free the nip.ple campaign.

Ladies should be taught to aspire towards their best and deserve all that men can get too.