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EfemenaXY:


Of all things to say! See where your eye go.

damiso:
No o it's called Iya Oni boli ;Dbut I have noticed that's non Yorubas pronounce it


Ok I will send some you . Want to make some today but this time Efe style with spinach and the likes. Love plantain not a fan of the boiled version staying off deep fried food so bole is my only option.

Platnum1:
I sure can thank y'all v.much

babyosisi:
And I assure you it is impossible to be a physical abuser without being a verbal abuser
Look at the people supporting it,aren't they the most verbally abusive men on the forum?
The two things go hand in hand
What they call running mouth is when the woman speaks
As long as he is speaking,it is not running mouth
She is not expected to respond

Timbuktou:
Yes, we indeed do grow daily. But how could I know 0% of your worldview when you're constatntly posting on nairaland. I might not know everything about how you see life, but I'm sure it's greater than 0%.

You're welcome, ma'am.

5minsmadness:
Didn't see the post o.

We all know women are more verbal than men, so verbal abuse is mainly the domain of females.

However yes there are men that are blessed with the gift of gab and can give as good as they get. Such men are few and far between and I wish them luck in thier verbal tussle with their wives.


As per your last paragraph, that point should be left for another day cos I know that men are physically, physiologically and emotionally different from women.

5minsmadness:
If you are this hurt then maybe you still need him a lot.
You've driven him out of the house, you have shown your displeasure. Don't cut your nose to spite your face. Call him back for a reconciliation.

Men are beasts and make stupid mistakes. I believe he is sorry as well. Be kind to him and to yourself and forgive.

Wedon:
Wow!!

Human beings are really terrible.

If your husband keeps such friends then its not so strange that he will stoop so low as to cheat with your friend.

Na wah. I'm just soo shocked. Things are hapenning sha.

I think you took the right step by seeing a counsellor. If eventually you want to restore your marriage then you may need to go with your husband.

He needs to at least realize that what he did was unacceptable.

Na wah!

Wedon:
I can't even begin to imagine what you are passing through now. Having your trust broken by someone you have given everything . . Heart, body, soul, life . . . I totally understand your pain!!!


And yes, Nigerians are hypocrites. We live in a society where women are not even considered are real humans. Yes, we are wives, and mothers and people expect you to be just that. No one understands you are also a person with feeling and opinions.

Cheating is generally accepted for men in Nigeria. Very soon they will tell you to start praying for your husband that he has been possessed by some evil spirit. They will start seeing visions for you of how the devil wants to destroy your home. They will tell you the other woman went to juju to charm him bla bla bla. They will generally make excuses for HIM and help him justify his actions and avoid accepthing how badly he messed up.

I don't know wht to tell you. I wish I can say forgive him cos I can't. He doesn't deserve your forgiveness. You can forgive him whne you are done being hurt and angry. But for now, hate him all you want, he deserves it. HIM!!! Not the other woman, or the devil or the evil spirit, him your husband.

The man who held you all those night and took everything you had to offer, and still had the mind to betray your trust in the worst way possible (with your best friend).

I don't know how you can every recover from such betrayal. I pray for strength for you.

For now you need to pick yourself up and hold your head high. This is on him, not you. Your kids need you . 'You' need you.

Get back to your job and be awsome. Live your life and try to find hapiness again. Nobody deserves killing yourself over. Your life is a gift and your children need you.

I will say a prayer for you!

bennyrazz:
I will not experience such because I have laid my bed very well with the help of God. I did not say women can't cheat, I said it is not meant for them and there are consequences in taking what is not yours.

5minsmadness:
Don't mind them. I was going to ask something but there is no need cos they won't answer truthfully.

Ladies pls feel free to verbally abuse the men as much as you want. It's your right and not your fault. Do whatever you want to do to your man because it can never be your fault if the man retaliates. If he is silent he is childish, if he shouts back he is being emotionally abusive, if he strikes back he is a monster.

No wonder women are the weaker of the species. They don't take responsibility for anything.

Timbuktou:
Improved in your general worldview.

osile2012:
A young man has been dating this lady for about 2 years,They both have jobs, and get along well. The guy decides to take the relationship to the next level(Marriage). He calls his mother and tells her he will come to show her his wife to be. They traveled about 3 hrs to get there.

They got to the mans family house, she greeted the mans mother very well and everyone was happy. As the conversation went on, the mother inlaw went to the kitchen, came out and asked the girl where will she eat? in the parlour of dinning table? The young girl innocently said, "No ma, dont bother i am not hungry" . She said ok and brought pounded yam and soup for the man and he ate .

Conversation went on normally and they slept and traveled the next day.When he got back to base, called the mother and told her he had arrived. The mother said thank GOD, but what she wants to tell him is that, it is over her dead body that he will marry that girl that refused her food. He said all attempts to explain that they ate before getting there fell on deaf ears.

She said he has to choose between her and that girl.

I discussed this with some mothers, and they all said they would have done the same. No who is right and who is wrong ? Whose side are you on? the Lady or the mans mother.?

If you were the guy, what would you do? Marry her without your mothers blessing or find someone else ?

Obascoetubi:
Photo: 2-Year-Old Nigerian
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Wilson A Cute Kiss In
Exchange For Birthday Toy

Guys what do u think?

EfemenaXY:


Na Bole na. Pronounced as "bore-lerh"

pak:
I tire o.
What about the issue of security? Do they have a police escort? Especially since he now has a female co-trekker. Even when driving in a car from abuja down south, one is always cautious about security, talkless of on foot

keppyy:
That single lie made me tell a lot of lies....So, I was totally not comfortable with it anymore...I talked to a friend and she told me to say the truth.

I told him the truth and my reason for the lie but I guess the damage was too much for him to bear.

Timbuktou:
The part in bold nearly knocked me out. BeeKay, who have you been listening to. You dey improve o.

keppyy:
Oh my gosh!!! I've been crying all through the night and my Bp is terribly high I can feel it...

I really need your help, I know it's all my fault and I did something terrible.

I acted a lie for for so long and I know no reason is good enough...

I've destroyed the trust and love but I want another chance...Oh my gosh!!!

I've lost so many "supposed relationships" when I tell them I'm not a virgin but I don't want to have sex outside marriage anymore and most guys will tell me that if I'm not a virgin, there's nothing to preserve anymore...

I regret it all, please someone should tell me it's not over...

What can I do to prove to him I'm not a liar and a LovePeddler and my sole reason was because I don't want to have Pre-marital sex anymore.

Please, Help...I confessed and now it's over.

Thorpido
Bukatyne
Cococandy
Efemena_Xy
Babyosisi
Evina

Please, I need words from everybody in family section.

schmilez:
Thank you very much.really appreciate your input.Will try and do what you say.God bless you

damiso:
thank you I think its a mis spelling.

5minsmadness:
Ok.

So what were you trying to say in this your original post that took us on this long journey to nowhere:

olumba69:
Hi, I made something similar to yours which i found here... http://www.myactivekitchen.com/blog/2014/12/17/ownyees-island. TBH, I enjoyed every bit of it. Very healthy meal too.

damiso:
Hallo everyone not been here in a while.. Roast plantain (boli) and diced peppers with baked tilapia