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JoeCutie:
Seriously...are you for real?

ferhyntorlah:
Ladies sha! Una dey try! As for me, maid of honour have do.

chattelle:
Assuming these five things are happening in your house at
same time, in what sequence would you solve them??
1. The telephone is ringing!
2. The baby is crying!
3. Someone's knocking or calling you from the front door!
4. You hang the cloths outside and it is beginning to
raining !
5. Tap running in the kitchen and water is already
overflowing.
In which sequence would you solve these problems??
My own na 53412

MojiDelano:
My very intimate friend was recently at the rough end of a physical assault from her husband. This has been going on for a while and as usual she found it very difficult to tell me because she knows I won't take it well. Her hubby was due to travel back to NIGERIA from the UK and as usual he was packing her designer bags as gifts to his younger sister who by the way was not on speaking terms with my friend. Her mild rejection of his plan which was all the more insulting since he did not take permission from her before just invading her closet got him mad and the beating and blows commenced.

She said this time, she was sure that he meant to kill her. He grabbed tight her throat, planning to choke her, scratched at her face all the while raining blows on her repeatedly screaming, the intervention of her kids and her father could not save her from this hell. When he was done, he left her utterly humiliated and headed for the airport.

To make matters worse, her parents not wanting the humiliation of a divorce are insisting that she should remain a good wife and even go and apologise to the beast for verbally and physically assaulting her.

I love her and remain deeply helpless as I see that this will not end. So I ask, when is it justifiable to beat up a woman or is it ever justifiable to do that?

What advise can I give her. I plan to rescue her but would she be alive by the time I am ready? I am afraid.

http://josephedgarng..com/2015/05/when-is-it-justifiable-to-beat-woman.html

Seun Ishilove TheRealMrStan, Lalasticlala

JoeCutie:
You're not serious!

shirazlova:
Im a regular contributor here on Nairaland but have had to create a new profile for the sake of being anonymous

My problem is that all my life I've struggled to make or maintain female friendships due to one reason or another. Distance, change of location, falling out/unresolved conflict, jealousy, fake friends etc.. It's something I'm ashamed of and I often feel sad that I don't have my clique of friends especially now that I'm about getting married. It saddens me that at this time of my life where I'm supposed to be joyous and be surrounded by girlfriends helping me with wedding preparations, choosing a dress etc, I have no one to call on. I've had to shop for my dress alone which was quite a depressing experience. Everytime my parents or aunties ask of my friends I come up with one story or another or just change the topic completely.

My fiancée is very much aware of my lack of friends but he's not bothered by it at all. I'm in my early/mid twenties and I feel so saddened to see other girls my age with lots of girlfriends. I have a big family however most of my cousins are male.

How do I go about doing my wedding with no bridesmaids whatsoever! It'll be such a mortifying experience for my wedding guests and family members to notice I have no friends.
What do I do about this?
I'd appreciate matured responses pls.

JoeCutie:
Of course.

I wish to be there for your wedding. Hope you'll invite me?

cococandy:
Yes ke why won't the kids like it?
Except she's the type that goes to look for what her in-law is not doing right and always formenting trouble, I'm positive the kids will enjoy her stay.

cococandy:
Yea. Hail the pyscho.

After you will come to another thread and pretend like you don't support emotional and physical abuse on women when the truth is that you do.

When asked you try whitewash it and make it sound like you don't know what you're rooting for or supporting.
We know all of you
Supporters of abusers are abusers themselves. there's no euphemism for it.

icedbeatz:
Nooooooo! someone didn't marry him rather a special, wonderful, amazing and graceful lady married him unlike you dumb, telemundo mofokas we see gallivanting and ranting about everywhere. Let me tell you something that lady is a rare gem because she has the qualities of a wife or a lady that deserves to be married.

1. her level of tolerance is adorable..
2. she loves unconditionally (like only a mother would)

3. she is caring to a fault which I and almost all guys would want in a lady.

4. she has a sweet heart that forgives so gracefully and that makes her an angel.

5. she's not vengeful like most of you mofos,

6. she knows/understands how a man's mind works (she truly thinks like a man) consciously or unconsciously which makes her a TRUE AFRICAN QUEEN,

7. Shes well trained because a lot if you would have killed that nigga or shower him with insults that are out if this planet because most if you are inventors when it's comes to insults, e.g here on nairaland.

8. she has a very strong mind and essence because after all she went through she didn't let it define who she is.

9. She's secure because she knows what she wants like her husband and most importantly HOW TO GET IT, which most of you twerps just don't and because she didn't leave the guy just to prove that she's "secured" (insecure people always want to prove that they're not insecure)

10. I can go on and on but lemme stop here she's wise unlike most ladies that walk around with HALF BURNT BRAIN CELLS from the saloon drier.

@freecocoa ihuomadinihu bukatyne evegreen

cococandy:
exactly. Especially in the Nigerian situation. I feel sorry for old people I see living alone in the villages.
I imagine they must be so lonely.

My grandma couldn't stop crying when my youngest aunt got married. She said nobody to be with her again as my grand dad is late and she's always so lonely .

Old age can be lonely from what I see.

Na to travel from one pikin house to the other remain

lezz:
97% ? Don't we always have all the fools on nairaland on our side ?


every relationship has its own peculiar baggage and hearts will be broken with or without intent. torture is a relative term to a degree.
I deduce OP has had a bad relationship which made him went a little bit hard in testing his soul mate's fidelity.

but the beautiful part of his story(which is the most predominant) is the bonding and expression of love which this couple has found. THE POSTER NOW CHERISHES HIS WIFE.

it is ironic in life that most couples can only truly bond after a storm and if they do survive it the woman is often cherished by the husband. to be cherished by one's husband is the highest expression and display of love. it is awe inspiring and way higher than love.

ONLY FEW WOMEN EVER GET TO BE CHERISHED BY THEIR HUSBANDS IN LIFE.

Now what i find nauseating is your 97% who have no scruples about insulting a married man but also have the insensitivity to attack his family and innocent wife, calling her all sorts of name just to make their opinion heard. that is an all time low for anyone to descend to.

And those are the people in dire need of your advice

babygirlfl:
So true. It is really disturbing that somebody can be saying something horrible so callously and then while I thought he is just one sick person, you realize that he is not alone. You realize they are another potential 160+ people like him.

In addition to women praying, they have to realize that they are men that will treat them nicely, without putting them through that horrifying ordeal. Women need to start loving themselves first. Just like these men go through such length to pick their prey, women need to go to lengths to pick a good husband. In this section for example, judging by what they write, if I was still single, I know those I would consider for a date.

JoeCutie:
My point exactly. There shouldn't be any fuss about it; just two people enjoying and appreciating themselves.

But then, there shouldn't be any form of compulsion.

agborodun:
Everything

Fulaman198:
I prefer Nigerian women and African women to not dress like sluts and continue to be who they are

tchiwinnie:
Its nt strange o. No man ll want to live wt a woman who s as stubborn as described. D bible even says it better to dwell in d housetop dan live in d same house wt a woman who nags

netsurf:
He has a feeling she won't respect any family or third party opinion different from her own. reason he has not considered inviting any third party.

ibraheemoki:
If u still live her, try and google few issues on topic of discussion first b4 advising her so that by d time you tell her if she still insist on googling it she will find it to be true. After doing this for a while next thing u tell he she might not need to google for them before she belief u. Secondly in vase of the childs feeding, arrange for a doctor/nurse friend you van narrate the story to who van assist in discourage her by telling her the dangers involed in this fabricated or synthetic foods.

onoja12:
Nothing made her change there is a saying YOU CANT CLAIM TO KNOW A WOMAN UNTIL YOU MARRY AM.women pretend a lot just to get married,i don't know why

JoeCutie:
How would you feel when you cook, we both eat, after which I knack you better "thank you, honey" with one better peck, and you reciprocate?

netsurf:
The husband is not a Dangote son but he's not strugling either...for your info, he's a generous husband when it comes to finances and pls it's erroneous to think that money would make a bad woman behave well...if she's bad, she is bad. The husband have sat her down severally to let him know if any of his attitude is responsible for her behaviors but she couldn't pin point anything. The husband is ready to go all the way through divorce if she is not ready to back down.

JoeCutie:
Babe, if you read carefully, you'll see where I said it that it is the duty of the husband to provide for the family; then when he does provide it, the wife takes care of the rest.

Ok, from among the three parties: the husband, the wife and the children, who do you think has the duty of cooking for the family?

germainediva:
Abeg I nid encouragement.......am tired of ds marriage......been married for 14yrs.......no good sex,no money,full of emotinal abusive...........

SAMBARRY:
As Tony will say. Let me even quote him sef. Na the Genesis be this o

MuttleyLaff:
Without squinting the eyes almost shut you wont decipher it


Try this without using the phone though

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