₦airaland Forum

bellong:
If it was the Salami, you would have pulled through the 13 days

Family is doing great. Thanks. Yours?

dollarlander:
Una wan dig yam to the bottom of the pot, e ba!!! The one I divulged is okay. We. Live in one of the three most referred cities in Nigeria.

The fact I said my wife is not working is not to spite her, she is well educated and came from a well to do family. Just that her job hasn't come does not mean that she is not making effort to get one, I believe that hers will come soonest. But just that I want her listen to.me when I talk. We need to cut down every angle.

See most of people in Nigeria banking industry are loosing jobs and more will still loose their jobs because these institutions are cutting costs at all cost. Even oil and gas industries are doing the same.

If you are a CNN or aljazera person and listen to world views on economy you will understand you have to rigorously save for terrible days a head. If you are the kind of wife that all your life is on telemundo and these romance things that are not real especially given Nigeria economy you are due for a doom, because you don't know what is going on at the economic analysis of things, everyone is just saying things are not easy.

For instance beside the house I live is a 2 plots of land with uncompleted 6 flats. The owners are couples who had worked in the bank before but lost their jobs almost the same time, they have four kids, if you see them you will dash them money. The only grace they have is that they are able to build small rooms on the second plot and managed to roof the main uncompleted building.

Life is not easy for this couple. Imagine couple who were working, talk of only one working in this instance.

What I want is that we deny some pleasure so we might not suffer in the future.

Imaging saving 30k a month from that 100k and using the remaining money buying properties that appreciate over time. Land as asset are becoming expensive yearly. Its better to invest on landed properties than putting the money in the bank. Estate appreciate banks go on distress and your money also distressed.

If at all anything happens you can still continue your life without thinking of suicide. In my own case life continues, I've been through worst situations that did not end my life so from experience until a man dies there's hope to succeed.

People reason with me o. If you make bad monetary decisions people will spite you at the end. G

damiso:
Will do .but you have the proper boli in Lagos (I guess that's where you are based) joor all join with the dust,fumes( the day hubby analysed roadside food germs I almost fought him ) newspaper etc.na the germs dey make am sweet

Time2Smile:
He might not be comfortable with divulging more information, You don't want to bring all your family history to Nairaland. He must have learnt somethings from advices given him so far.

Mrs0J:
Abi ooo, no need to force the Op for more info.

oloyede252:
hello bae, naa so you jobless reach

so u wan begin analyze another person wahala,
federal govt is still employing people for grade 2 jobs

Oloriburuku

bellong:
@Bukatyne,

This temptation on your DP, I hope it wasn't part of your diet plan?

flyca:
Will I still see all the wonderful people I have on this thread there

simpleseyi:
Yes, it is for lazy wives just as automobiles are for lazy husbands. The distance from Lagos to Abeokuta is just 100 kilometres, hardworking and strong husbands should be able to stroll from Lagos to Abeokuta, afterall it is a straight line from Iganmu through Stadium, Ojuelegba, Oshodi, Iyana-Ipaja, Abule-Egba, Sango and finally Abeokuta; no turning, no sharp bend, just walk straight down.

ijustdey:
maybe she still believes she isn't fulfilled without him

edwife:
Really?i have never use it before...

I hope they sell it here.

Thanks.

edwife:
When my kids have cough,i don't bother giving them cough syrup,i just warm my palm oil and give them warm two teaspoons of palm oil and voila,after a day they won't cough.

I told so many mums at school and they all use it,even white mums....i buy for them.
When my brother swallowed batterie powder,he was given palm oil and that saved his life.

I always put two table spoon in my soup,always.

damiso:
Kale like most people have said.. I have not even tried it just seen it on alot of naija food blogs.

egbedore:
#help. I am presently in dare need of a strong litigation lawyer,probably a SAN as the opposition has bluntly refused to follow the written judgement. I am presently watching "Disney Junior" against my wish of seeing the news. Remote control has been hidden and wifey has decided to camp with the opposition! NLders help!

mulanbaba:
yes, my friend is a single mother of two and all hubbys friends are divorced. his friends always used to joke that if he mess up they will marry me because good woman are hard to find so now i see it wasnt a joke at all.
our marriage was one of those that people always complemented because we were just good together.
we understood each other interlectually,emotionally and spiritually.
so i can safely say before this bombshell i could swear that my husband is not a cheating type. Now i dont know anymore

so my friends just want me to keep the perfect couple image and forget my pain

mulanbaba:
maybe i should explain in details how our marriage was, itwasnt just sexually driven as such, i just thought to mention it cos i thought man cheat because of sex.

my hubby and i had a very good and loving marriage, like when he comes back from work i will rush to the garage to greet him, kiss him and carry his computer bag in the house while i ask how his day was, and then i will warm his dinner while he goes to change and sit next to him while he is eating rubbing his shoulders while he tell me exactly what he did at work and then when he finish eating he will normally start rubbing my feet and ask me how my day was.
we will continue to just talk about the curre affairs and even gossip a bit. we would them go check the kids becauase they sleep at 7pm and he arrives later than that.

he will then run some water for us in the bathtub and we will both bath together and go to bed.

from friday when we both come home to sunday morning we hardly leave home unless we feel like eating out or there is kiddies movies playing in the cinema. so we are always together the entire weekend with the kids. our relationship was very affectionate and loving

when hubby is stressed from work and start snapping at me i will ussually shout back and we will maybe scream at each other for 3minutes and then after that we start laughing and he apologises, its a way for him to blow out steam.
he absolutely hates it if i ignore him when he is shouting.
i never discussed my marriage with my bf ever because hubby and i always solved our problems together.
this is the first time we are both dealing with the problem of this magnitude ever since we met.

i think his friends are betraying him to me because they know my stance on adultery so they already concluded that i am divorcing him and thus owes him no loyalty, so they think he wont find out since i am so angry at hubby that they think i would revenge myself on him with one of them. STUPID FOOLS SMH

dollarlander:
Let's don't go there, because that's another issue entirely.

cococandy:
lolz. you know flowers are some expensive stuff and Mother's Day is a never-heard-of-event that when you talk about it, it is showing off.

EfemenaXY:


Yes o! Save my "bole" for moi. I dey come...

Phema:
Buhahahahahahahaha!!!

Don't you just love Nairaland men with their double standards??

Bunch of jokers

mulanbaba:
ladies i suggested swinging because i wanted to see if his kinks goes that far but he definately was not interested at all. as for his friends he has always known that they find me attractive he just trusts me and he thought that they wont persue their feelings.

now that he opened the way they are all stabbing him in the back SMH. Humans. saying i dont need him, they have more money, he will take better care of me etc.

thats why i came here cos i hev no one to talk to. my friends are on hubbys side,his friends want me, my family deslike him so i wanted neatral opinions and somewhere to express my pain

Sophyrocks:
Hehehe. And i am also sure that yesterday's husbands date for long years, made ladies abort numerous pregnancies and had s.ex before putting a ring on it too. Maybe they also expected their wives to contribute financially or be breadwinners. Shior! I thought women are the only culprits that see life through fantasies. I never knew men also fantasize too like the Op. Any man expecting his wife to be just like his mother better wake up from sleep and face reality. or else he will remain single till death. Its on Nairaland i got to know the ridiculous fantasies of men that exist. No wonder they rant all day about women.

5minsmadness:
OP pls don't let this issue scatter your home pls! People have been envious of your marriage since and through the foolishness of your husband they have found a hole in the fence! Pls you and you alone have the power to close that fence, you alone have the key to close the door of perdition that has been opened. Pls he is miserable without you abeg pls let this matter rest. We are waiting for whatever conditions you want and he will keep to them biko.

Wedon:
I'm no longer surprise my sister. I have seen and heard it all.

No wonder people pity you when you have a female child and celebrate when its a male.

5minsmadness:
Don't mind them. I was going to ask something but there is no need cos they won't answer truthfully.

Ladies pls feel free to verbally abuse the men as much as you want. It's your right and not your fault. Do whatever you want to do to your man because it can never be your fault if the man retaliates. If he is silent he is childish, if he shouts back he is being emotionally abusive, if he strikes back he is a monster

No wonder women are the weaker of the species. They don't take responsibility for anything.