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netsurf:
Okay, for instance, when the baby came, she breast feeded him exclusively for six months and then the stage to introduce some food came..the baby wouldn't accept those frisogold, cerelac etc but accepts Ogi well but she continually force him to take those friso/cerel and each time, the baby cries endlesslly and later vomits everything. Then at about 10 months old, the baby would accept amala, and indomie on his own without been forced...then she brought in golden morn which the baby spits out the moment it touches his mouth...despite this, she started forcing him again...so the husband said don't give it to him any more...give what he is okay with. Rather than explain why she want to continue forcing him, she went and bought a bigger bag of the golden morn...then the husband threw it away...this happenned last Thursday and since then she has stopped greeting her husband and even prepare food when she like since then.

I can sense power play here

Some kids certainly like to be ajepako and Some ajebutter Lol! and as the husband pointed out, she should have fed him with What he was comfortable with aslong as it was healthy.

Besides, There seems to be a lot of communication issues. What changed the wife from a sweet fiancee to the stubborn wife?

And also, There is nothing wrong with consulting with Google. You tend to get a lot of expert advice (If you can sift) online.

netsurf:
There are just too many instances...pls read the first post again.

It may be strange to you but imagine a situation in which the man has no say in any descision on any subject...she always have her way...anything less, she complains endlessly.

netsurf:
How best to handle a stubborn wife...when I say stubborn, I mean vry stubborn...she doesn't listen nor take any advice or order from her husband...dosen't respect the man's opinion about anything...on a few occasions, when she accepts she was wrong, she also want to be the judge in her own case. If the husband view his opinion about any subject, she would insist she consult google for her to believe. It's no exageration...this is how exactly she behaves.
Pls note that she was the epitome of an humble woman before the wedding but as soon as the weding bell rang, she became another thing entirely.
Pls anyone with good idea on how to handle such women before divorce option?

I cannot see any instance in the OP apart from the always consulting google part.

Can you share other instances? It would help

Thanks

netsurf:
How best to handle a stubborn wife...when I say stubborn, I mean vry stubborn...she doesn't listen nor take any advice or order from her husband...dosen't respect the man's opinion about anything...on a few occasions, when she accepts she was wrong, she also want to be the judge in her own case. If the husband view his opinion about any subject, she would insist she consult google for her to believe. It's no exageration...this is how exactly she behaves.

Pls note that she was the epitome of an humble woman before the wedding but as soon as the weding bell rang, she became another thing entirely.
Pls anyone with good idea on how to handle such women before divorce option?

What made her change after the wedding? Any incidence the husband can pinpoint to? Can you give specific instances of her 'stubbornness?'

Thinking divorce because of stubbornness, strange.

Purist:
But rather conveniently, not a single soul in the entire school actually SAW a snake. Listen, I've told you exactly what happened inside your principal's office that day. You can call her to ask and she'll confirm my account.



She was clearly delirious. Did anyone ever see her fly? Was she ever recorded flying? Is there any proof that she could actually fly beyond her own claims?

Sounds like she suffered from Type I Bipolar Disorder (BPI), often accompanied by mania and delusions of grandeur. The same condition found in people who claim they're Jesus or Mohammed or some other famous figure.

Hallmark symptoms of mania include an abnormal, often expansive, and elevated mood lasting for at least 1 week. They may also include a decreased need for sleep, racing thoughts or a sense that thoughts are out of control, rapid and often pressured speech, increased goal-directed activities or projects, hypersexuality, reckless behaviors and risk-taking, and delusions of grandeur. Associated delusions frequently center on an expansive sense of self that goes well beyond narcissism (eg, believing oneself to have special powers or to be the chosen leader of the world or universe).
http://emedicine.medscape.com/article/913464-overview#a0101

bukatyne, this girl was no witch. She had a medical condition.



The cognitive bias I talked about earlier.



She could have been helped, not expelled.

If the woman who did not shed a tear publicly when she heard her daughter died and resumed after about a week ran out of her office without her iro, I am inclined to believe she saw a snake.

She was not delirious and nobody will wait to see her fly

We had people claiming several things and no one was called a 'witch'.

The expelling or isolation (if there was a facility for such) was the best option.

Nicepoker:
one may think u are in a serious relationship not knowing it was only an illusion.

True again

Ecclesiastes 6: 3

A man might have a hundred children and live to be very old. But if he finds no satisfaction in life and doesn't even get a decent burial, it would have been better for him to be born dead.

Maybe they are trying to obey this injunction

Their definition of 'decent' is the bone of contention here.

Nicepoker:
relationship is just the word. Forget about the word serious.

Serious matters o!

There are types of relationships

Gboliwe:
That one isn't even an excuse. There's no code that says she must be married in this lifetime sef. The way I have my mind made up, i'll rather remain single than marry a divorcee and one who may be twice my age? Yuck!

The babe is interested in marriage so just trying to gear her thoughts towards the solution.

The mother might be tired of catering for her or thinks she is getting 'old' at home.

The said man might also be rich and maale wants to use her as money spinning machine

Purist:
I don't.

You don't believe in adult witches?

Well well.

@Purist:

I understand your lack of belief.

AS for gender... a witch is female... wizards are male

I was an eye witness in some of the instances and a lot of students were outside the Principal's office that day

We had the good, bad and ugly in my school... people saw black man etc. always... they were not labeled witches; some students were evil and did horrible things... nobody called them a witch... one of my colleagues used to have fainting spells where she just passes out after murmuring some stuffs.... we always rushed her to the sick bay. People had different illnesses/behaviors/attitudes... nobody called anyone a witch for all that

This girl was not poor or vulnerable... she was on top of her game. It was not an issue of picking on her. This babe said she could fly and it was initially treated as 'I am Obama's daughter' till they found out it was serious

I trust my Principal's judgment in this matter... She was not a woman swayed by emotions and had to be shown facts...

If students were called witches just because of one or two student account, then a lot of student would have gone home. We had the weird as they come. The School Authorities did not impose their 'ignorance' on the students... the students forced the SA to investigate and act.

Let's for the same of argument say this chick was not a witch. It is better for the School Authorities to err on the side of caution. She was placed with about 99 other girls in a dormitory and the School has the responsibility of protecting all students equally. If she has issues, it is the duty of her parents to care for her.

Let's disagree to agree.

Horrible

ewizard1:
Ha, But you're a Lady.

Ones who do it most are Men to Ladies.

Is it only ladies that should be courteous?

I do it to males and females

@OP:

How far?

I so love this

It is necessarily something big or expensive... a little here and there frequently does the trick

Many many more years of martial bliss

Fablady:
Amen! Thanks so much!

@OP:

Look at VolvoS60's post and see how it goes especially with the letter

bethyz:
I have been living with my mum for the fist time since I was five due to seperation. Coming back as a grown up has affected my relationship with her. I gree up in the east why she lived all her years in the west. We have had a lot of disagrEement to the extent I made up my mind no matter wat she does I won't bother myself to react to it.
Firstly she has been hammering on me to get married or bring a man home, she has virtually been disturbing my life with marriage. To cut the long story short . My mother brought her friends younger brother who has been married for 15yr with no issue and having problem in his home to come and ask for my hand in marriage. In the verge that he is planning to chase away his wife soon. During the visit I was just smiling because of how close I was to my mummys friend.
Now am asking how could my own mother ask me to marry a man who has been married for 15yrs and still lives with his wife to consider marry him. I have kept quiet since dis incident and I want to confront my mum with it. But I just feel if I decide to do that I will get so angry talking about it. I want to confront her to get it off my chest but then am having a second feeling not to but to have my decision in my mind. I am just 25 going to 26

Forget the 15yr old married man; he is bad news

Do you currently have someone you are in a serious relationship with?

greatgod2012:
i really didn't ask, but i'm a great giver too. She knows i give a lot but what humbled me is doing such at such a very tender age. The action just humbled me!

Happy Birthday to your princess

Your signature says it all

She obviously picked it up from you

Keep up the good work

ewizard1:
When some people dashes out "Thank yous" because someone accepted their Facebook friend request...

Na to tell your own wife go come hard?

Abeg talk that thing jooor...

My hands in the air

Tell people thank you for accepting me
Tell people thank you for sending me requests.

It is on NL I heard it is wrong

JoeCutie:
You may have gathered enough likes and shares which you so desire, but I'm sorry to burst your bubble this way.

It's NOT mandatory to greet your wife after meal. Let's get something straight here... Courtesy demands that you greet whoever is on the table with you after each meal including your wife; but then it should be reciprocal. There are things we do without making stories out of them.

Okay, if you should (or must) greet your wife because she cooked, what about you that provided the food cooked? Oh, you don't think the man deserves even more greetings from the wife? I know why... Because it's his "duty" to provide for the family, right? Bullshit! I've heard that before. Don't you think it's also the "duty" of the wife to cook? My brother, it's one of the primary duties of a wife to give food to her husband in so far as the man provides the money.

Whatever happened to the very simple, courteous, lovely and romantic gesture, "thank you, honey" from the both parties? These are simple romantic things a married couple should do without making a case out of it. They are called "the little things that matter".

Slave or no slave, the wife has the responsibility of cooking for her husband and children.

It is also a husband's 'responsibility' to provide food money... I am sure the husband will be happy If the wife never says thank you after he gives her... it is his responsibility right?

It is a child's responsibility to care of the parents when they are older... I am sure the child will feel so good if the parents do not acknowledge their care... it is their responsibility, not so?

liquidmetall:
what quality do you have?

Question

If you do not understand that the 'we' was referring to women in general,

Well well

Jman06:
Thank you @bukatyne. Was about typing the above.
Most Nigerian girls are confused and don't know what is good for them in relationships. I have dated a girl who said that I was 'too emotional' just because I was doing the lovey-dovey things with her,yet when you develop "iron" heart and stop showing them love, they still complain. They think that a guy showing his affections for the lady he loves is a sign of weakness, forgeting that it takes the love of a woman to calm even the strongest of men. Think about the biblical story of Sampson and Delilah.
Some of them also think that guys show affection only
when they are broke, so even when a guy is genuinely showing his love, they think he is doing that because he's broke. You see, confusion everywhere.
Thank goodness for your likes tho, who have got some functional brain cells in their skulls.

That is the issue

Everyone has different preferences...

There are more that 5m girls of dateble age; some like lovey dovey; some like commander in chief; some like tough love, some like beating etc. same with guys.

Get someone with the same preference as yours...

Purist:
100%, actually.



There are NO children who are witches. I challenge you to bring forward ANY case and let's examine it together.



How were they able to ascertain that this student was a witch? I'm genuinely curious.

She was behaving oddly (saying stupid things repeatedly(initially, her colleagues thought she was a joker till later on), attitude to mates etc.) and her mates reported her to the matron who punished them.

The rumors still continued despite punishing the rumor mongers(manual labor under the sun, floggings etc.) and the Matron decided to take it up (if students are willing to be deboarded because of their belief, it is wise to see how serious they are)

The issue got to the principal who called the student to her office. The girl started manifesting saying all sorts and allegedly turned to a snake and changed back. I saw my principal and Snr. Boarding House Master run out of the principal's office.

Needless to say, she was bundled back to her house that day and no student ever entered the bus used to transport her again

She also gave a mate of hers a lotion to rub on her lips that she will become popular. (The girl's lip became burnt and she did became popular).

If you believe there are adult witches, why can't some of them be witches from childhood

skylane:
u can see its not only hustling I mention,we nigerian men are actually known 4 taking care of the family,av met with many foriegners praising us 4 dis,religion actually said woman is under the man,but it doesn't mean she's isn't relevant,infact God said man are woman wud be one,so a man has to agree wit his wife b4 anyting is done,but I hope u don't expect 100% man?

Okay

scribble:
Women that like getting beat or think that's normal don't deserve a good man. They should just marry a panel beater with 7 years experience.

Luckily Some meet their soulmates; others have to make do with What they have.

skylane:
Op deep down because uv seen a lot of naija-girl-bashing-threads,so u felt u hav to post nonsense and now uv come up with pure lies,go to america its their women dat feed and house 75% of their men,because dia men are lazy and too ganster-living,bit come to naija on 9% ul see,cos we are all out to hustle to feed our girls and wives,even botswanans,SAans togolese women confesses we are the sweetest,4 the cheating part Naija women are the most unfaithful in the world,so pls keep ur ideas to urself ose

While Some of us appreciate the hustling part, it is not the only quality needed.

I thought the OP said many; Why the uproar?

Funny How everyone seems to discredit the OP...

However, they will consider a husband doing Those things as wrong.

Most Nigerian men, change o!

I personally think There are a number of good Nigerian men and as another poster said, a man in genuine love would do Those things/learn to do them or things that their partners cherish.

I would also say That Some of our sisters might not cherish all these 'serenre'. Beautiful home, good kids and a lots of loose money would do. Some like the beating and tough love part too.

Everyone should find a spouse who complements them.

Chillisauce:
Cereal is fattening too. Go for fruits., oats, eggs, moi moi etc for breakkie.

fill you up quick and less surgery.

Baby steps. You are on the right path.
I eat cereal and peanut for my cheat meals. It's like garri and pea nuts.
The taste is awesome

Yes mummy

Chillisauce:
Just throw all in the bin or give them out to your neighbor.

Your body is not a bin for junk food.

Try and reduce it. Baby steps.

Btw I ate ox tail and tohso in my souo
the thing so sweet 8 couldn't resist
I ate all the succulent fat inSide

Lol@all the succulent fat.

Funny enough, it is hubby's: I did not buy my skimmed milk. I was forming I can do without milk

Need to buy it asap before I explode.

Just finished a medium sized bowl of cornflakes with 3 heaped tbs of milk

One day it was 5

Chillisauce:
Thanks.

How's yours going?
I can tell you my 1 litre of palm oil is almost 3months. I'm doing a good work.

Weldon

Eating very healthy

However I have a very serious challenge with evaporated milk.

okotv:
and where in my post did I make allusions to women only ?

I must have misunderstood your post.

armadeo:
Interesting. My friend told me that when his dad wanted to marry a third wife the 2nd wife complained to his mum the first wife. His mum told her that she shifted for her to enter the house now they should both shift so the new wife too can sit down. That now she knows how it feels

Lol!

Kim baby relax and North Jnr will come that way faster.

Kim seems ready to do 'till death do them part'