₦airaland Forum

Mrs0J:
Lol, I weep for us(women). A man's infidelity is not enough for his wife to divorce him, but it's enough for the man to divorce her.

Mrs0J:
Op sorry ooooh, see as our men are saying you should up your bedroom game. No one is preaching leave his sorry ass. SMH

chibic:
The same way women cheats and find faults in their hubbies might have been at work here.

You may search within you and find out where you've gone wrong.

Personally, I call it boredorm. It is the same reason why women cheat but they will rather blame their husbands for lack of attention etc. Your hubby is bored and wanted excitement just like every men and women that foolishly think cheating is always the best way out.

If you were a man, I will advice you to DIVORCE the bitch because cheating wives are deadly. But since you are a woman, the ball is in your court. You can forgive him or divorce him only if you haven't cheated before or if you never dated a married man when you were single because, nigerian girls will date a married man but won't want another girl to ffuck their's. It may be karma working.

chibic:
Women sef!

I thought she caught the man with another woman. What is the big deal about smoking? This a man that does not abuse you, he treats you very well(according to you), so what else do you want? You think their's a perfect human in this world? What if he is a cheat who doesn't smoke, will you prefer that? Or an abusive husband who doesn't smoke. Which one is better?

Its better that he smokes and still be a very good husband IMO.
He might have been addicted to it but doesn't want you to know. He just doesn't want you to get hurt because he loves you. You should be greatful to GOD.

If a man is faithful, his wife will find another fault. if he doesn't stay out late, caring and loving, the wife must find another fault. if he's very wealthy, there must be one fault detected. This is the reason why women are hardly happy in their marriages. They seek for something non-existent.

torkaka:
https://cdn.pmnewsnigeria.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/05/DSC_2529.jpg

Wife of president-elect, Hajiya Aisha Buhari has admonished Iara, Governor Oshiomhole’s newly wedded wife, to learn how to prepare Nigerian food for her husband.

Hajiya Buhari gave the admonition on Friday at the wedding reception for the couple shortly after taking their wedding vows and signing the dotted lines at Iyamho, Oshiomhole’s hometown in Edo state.

Aisha described Oshiomhole’s new bride as beautiful. “For you to marry a Nigerian, you need to cook Edi’Kaikon, Egusi, and our Nigerian foods.

“God bless the marriage and we know as First lady you have a big task and God will guide and protect the family,” she added.

Governor Oshiomhole in his own comment, described his wife as very “understanding, caring and loving lady” and also expressed joy with his family for the support given to him to remarry.

“This is something that one is happy about. One is also happy that I have friends across all political divide, the occasion reminds me that across all divides we still have friends and we’ll wishers.

“She is very humble, she appreciates the nature of my job and life that it is one that one comes back home late. Sometimes 3: 00 a.m., she understands my weaknesses, she is more or less the mother of the house, the one that has accepted to be the mother of my children.

“I am happy that all my children are at home with ‎her and accept her as their mother even though she is not old enough to be their mother. She has accepted to fill that gap,” he said.

Commenting on the nationality of his wife which has been subject of speculations, the governor said, ” I have seen a lot of publications, some saying that she is Philippine, Dutch and several others, but she is from Cape Verde. And that is part of West Africa. And I hope that will rest the debate of where she is from.”

Governor Oshiomhole was particularly happy that both PDP and APC leaders attended the wedding, adding “it shows that despite political differences Nigerians ‎remains one”.

Former Head of state, Gen. Yakubu Gowon, who chaired the occasion, commended Oshiomhole for his decision to take a new wife and expressed optimism that more blessings will come to his life.

He urged the wife to be obedient and continue to show love to the husband and prayed that God Almighty will strengthen them with long life and prosperity.

http://www.pmnewsnigeria.com/2015/05/15/learn-to-cook-nigerian-food-aisha-buhari-tells-iara-oshiomhole/

Kimoni:
I honestly agree with you, even if it is one day after, let him remarry. I personally got no issues

The only problem will be when tables turn and the woman wishes to remarry, even when it's 10 years after, the whole world will remember she is a slut who never loved her husband and killed him so she could remarry several years after.

Women need to start thinking of themselves first and not what people will say. The word "woman" should stop equating to "suffering" in Naija.

Oahray:
Hehehehe... I actually found it funny. The truth hurts, and that tweet is proof.

Setaje:
The only part he got wrong is calling him a thing. I don't no of other women but it is not my wish to marry a man as old as oshiomole. So far my papa dey alive, e no fit happen. How will he even address my parents! Can't judge her though. Girl could have gotten her heart broken a lot of times by young men. Anyway the money means nothing if I have to kiss him like this.

missclasssy:
[color=#000050]First of all, I would say your friend is married to a loving husband who cares about her so much and wouldn't want to hurt her in anyway. She should value that.

For me I believe this is a two way thing.
It's either the husband is going through tough situations that he needs to cool off the stress and frustration by smoking weed,
Or
He is an addict and has been hiding it all this while.

My advice is that the wife should bring up the topic at a time when the both of them are alone together and there isn't any tension, perhaps after sex, or when they are watching tv together, just when the husband is calmed down and in a happy state.
She should tell him exactly what happened and what she saw him do.
She should present the issue in a mature way and she shouldn't sound angry or annoyed with him.
From the brief description of the husband she gave I belief the husband will open up to her if she asks him.

The man is basically ashamed of this habit that's why he didn't say anything when she asked him that question.
If he tells her the truth,the wife should also let him know that she would always there to help him through whatever he is going through and if it's an addiction, she would help him put an end to it.

Op, I know you friend is a born again christian and she would be put off by this singular act, but she should understand that their are always set backs in our lives as humans and as christians also.
The husband is going through a phase that he is not proud of and from everything, beyond his control and he needs someone to guide him through it. The wife should talk to and with her husband about whatever the matter is and be there for him.
In her own time she should also table the matter to God, through prayers.

All is well.[/color]

soonest:
Juzzybabe, never you leave your child for anybody. Learn from others mistake. Children are harder on their mum than dad. I have a friend who wouldn't forgive the mum completely for 'abandoning' them. It's either you stay with your child or you leave with your child. Be wise

InvertedHammer:
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Nothing works in marriage.

Just assume that it is God's way of punishing you for all your sins, and you will be fine.

Not wealth, intelligence, aesthetics, etc. can make a good relationship because both parties will be coming from different backgrounds.

I never liked marriage. I think it is an emotional scam.
Well, unless you intention is to have children. That is the only unifying factor.
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Enahi:
OK am seriously tired of dating,am ready to take someone serious but right now I don't know who?

For instance the person am thinking of giving a chance to seems to act like a mummy's boy. He is not young,the few times we sit down to gist he always talk abt going to do stuff for his mum. Am very sure if his mum was based on the moon,the man won't mind going there to do stuff for her.

Am getting irritated,seems the mum controls his life.

Blackett:
[color=#150000]You are too inconsequential for me to deliver a hate speech to. What do you expect from a gathering of dumb guys? _stupid topics, of course.[/color]

natas22:
Am not here to say anything bad about girls, i do respect them but this days to have sex with one is like Good Morning. Can someone please explain why i just can't understand.

www.

Onegai:
Business owners, this is for you:

I believe the worst thing for a business owner is to have the "Boss Mentality". That means constantly thinking you're better than your employees, which is wrong, you're as good as your employees, not better. A leader must be as good as his followers, but be accesible: Christ came to earth and didn't come and sit on a physical throne. So, respect your workers and their input. Work harder than them and work beside them, listen to them. Listen to your customers, don't assume YOU KNOW ALL THEY WANT.

Get an accountant. I'm serious. Earning N5mil per annum in a business IS NOT A PROFIT unless it is N5million after all expenses used to run the business have been paid off.

As a business owner, you have to invest in your business. Constantly look for ways to do things more efficiently.

Does your business run on offering a service? Then let me say this to you:

UPGRADE THE QUALITY OF YOUR SERVICES

Over 70% of services offered in Nigeria are mediocre. Case in point, I don't believe we have good carpenters in Lagos, their workmanship is so shoddy, so I will never pay fullprice for one. Tailors are beginning to smarten up and do quality work (and charge premium): my friend goes from Festac to Agungi to meet a tailor that sews beautifully, finishes the fabric neatly and never disappoints.

So offer a quality service, not noise and no content.

babyosisi:
As long as there is life in me,I I will never forget them,
This is rough
I hope no one comes to my office today,
Today is just a sad day
I can't even focus on anything

thorpido:
lol,she knows already.

pretty050:
"Why do u think intelligent women allow themselves to be manipulated"

Ngokafor:
....@coco,chilli,buky,edwife you are all so funny..see claims and counter-claims


...no be small thing..i don laugh tire

thorpido:
Do men like the red pant and bra?I don't feel it though.
Pink makes more sense.

clevvermind:
i was going through my sister's phone, and i saw indecency films. i just feel like smashing her head that moment. i just manage to hold myself. i was very angry with her cos i don't want her to be watching such things. i should be the only one watching such films. i don't want her to corrupt herself. she is just 20.
please, what should i do to her? what punishment should i give to her.

Chillisauce:
Keep it up. It's very filling too

cococandy:
oh see the culprit

Chillisauce:
Carrots I eat raw when very very hungry.

cococandy:
I don't know o ask chillisauce and edwife.
It's one of them.
I suspect chillisauce.

DirtyGold:
You welcome dear.

You can also consider Diamond bank HIDA account. Its a high interest account like fixed deposit but you can withdraw your money any time like you would your normal savings account.

All the best.