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cococandy: Yes ke.

Purity of heart is: Praise your mom who is a female governor.
But cuss those who started the process that enabled her the right to even vote much less contest.

LOL!

I just wanted to be sure

It is like me condemning LTGBs and enjoying a scholarship sponsored by them. Common sense would dictate

I either support them,
I am indifferent to them
or I condemn them and reject their scholarship.

Condemning them while enjoying their funds is eating my cake and having it

Bigsteveg: Well the issue is abt the man going to church or not.
And @tyms, an artist might end up lecturing a banker if it has to do with common sense.

Hmmm

@lastpage:

Good day

If God wanted polygamy, He would have created Adam and Eve. Adam saw Eve and said.. 'the bone of my bone and the flesh of my flesh'....

The fact tha David, Jacob etc. married multiple wives and God still loved them does not mean He approved of what they did. These people were not Christians and are not the role model of Christians. David killed, Abraham lied, Jacod cheated etc. should we say that those stuffs are not sins? If we say they were punished, what was the punishment for Abraham's lie? Issac did same years later and there was 'seemingly' no punishment too

Samson slept with a w.h.ore before uprooting the gates of Gaza through the strenght of God even though he met his doom later. What punishment did we see for Samson sleeping with her? He was warned as a narazene not to marry a non-Israelite but he did and what was the punishment?

Divorce was very common in the old testament even though it was not the will of God and He said so in the new testament.

God still uses some pastors even with their shortcomings. We have the case of Karthlyn Kulhman a powerful evangelist in the 70s. She married a divorcee (who left his wife because of her) and stayed with him for about 7yrs while she was still preaching and miracles happening till she repented and left him.

There is a perfect will of God known to Christians when they have the Holy Spirit. The Bible doesnot mention Indecency.graphy, pedophil.e or smoking but every believer knows that it is wrong.

ayinba1: @lastpage
Thank you. I hope all contributors actually read what you posted.

Just curious,

Are you a second wife or a child of one

or

Are you male?

You will make a very good ambassador of polygamy

dastranger: Forgive my being inquisitive, Pls I'd like you to provide me the verse where the Bible forbids polygamy.

The bible recorded God created Adam and Eve... For this reason shall a man leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife and the twain shall become one flesh Gen 2:24

The bible does not mention smoking, pornography, etc but any christian with the Holy Ghost knows that it is wrong

TribalEAST: gender equality/feminism is actually a spirit that operates in most ladies and makes them lack submission. Most of them don't know they are feminists until they come across the ideology which appeals to that spirit in them, a good reason why they accept the concept readily. The women with pure heart discard every inch of it cos they can see the end thereof.

And what is the end?

Dead babies and broken legs?

And these women of pure heart, do they by any chance enjoy the fruits of the labour of earlier feminists?

Niger marriage kwa

I wonder what some women have seen or been thought to give some crazy advices one read on NL.

@OP, pele

It is well

tintingz: and your adultery-monogamy in your religion is logical?


The Jewish book called bible is full of polygamous men of God.

My adultery-monogamy?

You mean all monogamous men are adulterous? That you lack self control does not mean that everyman out there is

@The Bible: It contains the lives of the men and women; their mistakes, etc. and we are to learn from it. I will advice you to stop referencing the Bible when it is clear you lack understanding how it will be fooli.sh of me to reference the Quran on things I am not sure of.

I ask again: How can it be logical for a muslim woman to divorce her husband when he picks a new wife when your religion supports it i.e. it is not a sin.

What will she be divorcing him for?

tintingz: oh lawd! I love this.

Very logical.

How can it be logical when your religion supports polygamy

I really admire your post

Nothing like letting each party the comfortability of doing what they can do best to build their family up

It is well with your family

vivalableue: Sir,

There's a difference between making or not making someone feel superior and allowing someone to be themselves and teamwork. I don't make him feel superior because he isn't superior. I am not concerned in or not making look superior. You see, his pride is in making us as a family happy. He rests on his laurels, he can stand on his own good works and feel the ego or pride that he needs to feel as a man. If a man needs to put other people down and keep them down in order to feel that he is superior or that he's better or the head... there's a problem. It continues as societies and cultures operate to keep the women in a certain position, a system is created to make young boys and the future men grandiose feelings in their head of authority. In teaching someone that their self worth is dependent on their own works and capacities and not on others, they will continue to strive in becoming superior beings.

When I said that I don't make him appear weak, I mean that I don't demean him for doing a traditionally female role. He is a chef, and his specialty is to feed good tasting and healthy food, if not for anyone why not his own kids? Is that not what every parent should do? I make furniture for enjoyment and am a IT consultant, does he demean me for making a coffee table or networking the home's wiring?

At the end of the day, our partnership worked because we take each other as we are, and encourage each other to be the best person we can be. The pride in myself, my self-confidence, my ability to feel like an equal partner is because I enforce that standard in my life FIRST! He was impressed in that because I believe in treating others how I treat myself. Once he applied that in his own life, the need to push others down in order for him to feel superior vanished. It wasn't overnight, but eventually he saw the benefit that true feminism is, equality!

This thread is hot

@OP: I am indifferent to male caregivers as at today

I understand that bad is not the face of any gender

When it is time to take my child to the creche, I will treat on a case by case basis

Bigsteveg: What if the husband is a Muslim, must everybody be a church goer?

Will you listen to an artist as regards banking?

shizzle11: "left his mum for a nursing student and died just as he was about to leave his mistress and reconcile with his wife. The woman later confessed (after running mad) that she killed his father". Read what Fela said below........

......"He died a mysterious death because the lady said, if I will not have you, nobody will. Few years later, the woman ran insane and was saying all over that she killed my father".


While we are quick to cast aspersions on the man, no one has even pondered on the bolded @red as to if the mistress used juju or love portion on him. Why has no one spared a thought on the emphasized? The man may not have been interested, but she obviously 'got' him through diabolical means and maybe fell short of abiding by the instruction, hence their (she and the man) death. In other words, you cant be too sure he started the 'chase'.

Not holding brief for him or justying his having extra-marital affair, but he could be innocent of his mystrious death.

Every body is innocent of their deaths mysterious or otherwise (except it is a case of suicide)

thorpido: He wasn't in his right senses only after he had followed the lady.

Thanks

For love jazz to work, the man must have slept with the woman or eaten her food once

It does not just fly in the air

diegs: You are right. If it were to be the man. They would tell her to stick with the man and forgive him and move on

You made me remember a man who insisted his wife and baby worship at Ota every sunday from festac.

Acidosis: Hmn, I have something different.


When a believer marries a non-believer, problems would always occur.

Acidosis,

You funny

That was probably why the wifey did not want to leave Ota branch. If she & hubby was going to church together and he raised their relocating to another church/branch, she might have been more receptive to the suggestion

It is sad

Yomieluv: and so? Was she not warned.

Rubbish,once again,serves her right.

Goodluck to you

pickabeau1: I've said it in earlier posts on this thread

My opinion though

I didnot take note of it

Will go back to look for it

Mattin: You just repeated what I said above; I am not against sharing responsibilities or teamwork in the home,I even support it(thou some men don't even wanna hear this), after all, the wife is not a slave.

The bone of contention here is when when the woman feels she can as well be accorded the respect due for the husband. FEMINISM will hint her that; hey, this man should not be pushing you around! Since you can do what he can do! We've seen women pack out of the house because they have the capacity to survive outside the marriage; which has in turn caused a lot of pain for children of single parenthood and our culture frowns at this.

I not here to bash the women folk...but to reinstate the culture that; Men must be the one in charge of home and his post as the head cannot be negotiated for anything.

And why should you push your wife around?

Your post is based on the following premises:

1.That women can be pushed around by their hubbies and they have no right to say no

2. Headship as stated in the Bible is a position of authority where he is not accountable to anybody

3. There is a special respect reserved for the husband alone

All these are faulty from a Christian POV.

You can use culture to support your points anyways

How can his parents be happily married and then his father mistakingly suddenly began an affair?

Is it one of those Nigerian type of 'happily married'?

I am happy he learnt from it

pickabeau1: being a while i plied that route though.... its a distance.... but that in my opinion is not d issue

What did you think the issue was?

Nashville: Do those people really seek the face of God or the face of man? Do they believe God ga?e them the child or do they think it was the prayer of a Pastor.

Most people worship man and not God!

It should be obvious by now that most Christians do not know anything about Christ or the Bible

A lot of man worship is in vogue now.

You will see all pastors in a mission mimicking the GO

diegs: The man has a job. He is working for one of these oil servicing firm but the woman is a teacher. She was said to be attending winners because according to her she waited for 5years to have a child and she said it was because she was attending winners and shiloh

The man is just so stubborn despite all pleas. I really feel for the woman

I understand where wifey was coming from though

Hubby not a christian is telling wifey not to go to a church she received her miracle.

She was not seeing the hubby's POV of safety

It is well

Yomieluv: Am sorry I have to say this,serves the woman right.

The man's action is justified,when a woman is adamant,whatever the outcome,she should bear it.

From lekki to ota every sunday because of church is. Nonsense with a baby,God isn't hostile,and difficult as people paint him.

Serves her right.

On top the fact that the wife did not listen to hubby?

We are not talking car was snatched or wallet stolen

A whole child was lost + wife almost gone.

That is too harsh

bellong: Have you forgotten there is a specie termed hermaphrodite?






Hmmm, I smell the voice of YPP here.... Are you?

Na so we see am oo....

LOL!

Chillisauce: i know soaking the bitterleaf in hot water removes the bitterness.
2. boil your stock before adding cocoyam paste.

hello lyndaroyce

Hi Chillisauce

LyndaRoyce: My bad... Seems I omitted that in my recipe..... You boil your stock before you add the paste.. And yea, boiling the bitterleaf b4 wash is to remove the bitter taste......
Hello buka...hope u're good.

I am good, thanks

We wash the bitterleaf with palm oil

@Stock, I guessed as much

Thanks

dandydaniels: a book found in jars that yet breathe life into dead hearts?..a book written by celibate men that gives inspiration?...from first hand experience fellow I'vebcome to believe in that "archaic book" which I chose to call bible and in God too...sorry

Did you get this men are lesser (sorry women are lesser) from the Bible?

dandydaniels: don't involve my mum in this

LOL @ OP

I even thought you were serious about this belief of yours sef!

You never ready; when you are, you start by preaching to the women around you.

Goodluck

LyndaRoyce: There are various delicious dishes one could prepare with cocoyams.....
Personally, I use mine as a thickener...nothing more.
Cocoyam is the first ingredient to cross my mind whenever I decide to prepare my home made onugbu soup....
You must ve heard of it(onugbu soup), haven't you?
Okay, lemme share my recipe...
Ingredient..
--Cocoyams.....7small corms(depending on the soup quantity).
--palm kennel...(Optional) some prefer red oil...but I use palm kennel.
--assorted fish(dry fish,smoked fish,stockfish)
--beef
--pepper, salt, maggi, grounded crayfish and ogiri(to taste).

Before u cook.
Boil the bitterleaves for 15mins.... Wash with cold water such that there is lil or no taste of bitterness left.
Wash and boil your cocoyam and palm kennel till soft....
Remove the cocoyam peels, using a pestle and mortar to pound to smooth paste. Dish the paste out in a small plate.
Then u pound the palm kennel such that its oil would be easy to come off. Wash and then sieve out the oil frm the chaff.....
Preparation.....
Place the pot of the extracted palm kennel oil on your cooker....
Using spoon, Add your cocoyam paste to your mixture.....
Melt your ogiri with warm water, and also add to the pot
Close the pot and allow it boil for 15mins...
Add your assorted fish, grounded crayfish, pepper, maggi and salt to taste....
Stir and allow to boil for 5mins....
Add your bitter leaves....
Stir... Then allow to boil for 2mins.
Dinner is ready!!!
Can be served with semovita, wheat etc.

As regards to garden eggs, I use them to prepare my "african salad" tapioca or abacha....
And sometimes, munch straightaway with my peanut butter(osei oji)...

Wateryam? I don't like it.... Kinda tasteless in my mouth. And the kids? They won't even ve a bite.

How ve u been efe? Longest time
Chillisause lorreta edwife beeevann, how are you and yours?....

Hi Lynda,

Just want to ask a few questions

1. Is boiling the bitterleaf meant to remove the bitterness or does it do something else?

2. Did you boil your stock before adding to the cocoyam paste? I am thinking 5mins is short for it

Lathunjimi: If I had a wife, I would totally restrict her from Nairaland Forum b'cos all the 21st century girls here can easily corrupt her. Talking of the man who doesn't wear his wedding ring, it's not an excuse for the wife not to wear hers too as long as his reasons for not wearing it is genuine and not for the intent to indulge in infidelity. But Aproko ladies and guys here said things like "tit for tat", "that served him right" etc how is the case yours to judge, abi kilo kan yin mbe? The wife's better drop her ego for the marriage to work while the husband respects and love her cos that is his primary assignment not wearing or not wearing rings. To me it is a pure misplaced priority due to pride, ego, insensitivity etc. No wonder marriages don't last in our age cos it's mostly two stupid individuals in a goal-less union not marriage is what we have these days.

The wife cannot have a geninue reason not to wear hers abi her primary assignment is wearing rngs?

What is your definition of love and respect?

darlenese: U sound like someone who is cohabiting with a man, pls ask him to take u to the Altar, then u'll knw what a wedding ring means

A married man cohabiting with another man

Bellong I never knew you swing both ways