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moca:
Buky Buky, u lv this topic gangan
My first heated debate with u was on this
When i used to debate small.
These days na trolling thing

Let me tag them for u.


With these people and those i forgot to mention, buky u will have a full house!

Hi moca,

Thanks

I wish you did not tag these people, the thread was not meant for some of them

If you can untag everybody, I will appreciate it

Thanks

pickabeau1:
Bukatyne

What are your own thoughts... we've had several debates on this issue and you've always had a defensive outlook in my opinion

I believe you say something along the lines of "it is desired a man should love first and the man will submit "

It goes back and forth and forth and forth then you say everyone else reads from the Nigerian bible

Tell us what you think from your own bible

That way no need for needless debates.

Also maybe this will be better in the religion section as not everyone is a christian and it will degenerate into the inevitable feminist debates

Welcome to the thread

Sorry pickabeau, I have not even started the thread. I was caught up with cooking and will update when I am done eating.

Hi Peeps,

Happy Sallah/Independence celebrations!

I have been wanting to create this topic but ... Anyways it is here now

This will be focusing on love and submission in a Christian marriage and major Bible texts taken from I Cor 13: 4 - 8, Eph 5: 21 - 33 and Proverbs 31: 10 -31.

Let's all enjoy and CONTRIBUTE (very important) but without insults (Even more important)



Thanks

omoajiri:
I no wan spoil her ni. You know dos people wey dem head be like garri ijebu. Once you let her know you really feel for her, she will most likely swith to 'sympathy/ pity' mode, to work go come be problem.
Thats why sir.

Are you talking about your wife?

The one you wooed and married?

If you don't compliment her, who will?

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EnlightenedSoul:
Well, as a preface, I don't raise a stink about daycare provided the child's guardian is wise, responsible, and tediously careful in their choosing. Much like assisted living facilities, child care services are very much a necessity in our society - I've worked directly with the two demographics, and I say this matter-of-factly.

That being said, I was raised by two working parents who absolutely despised the very thought of daycare, and a mother whose greatest horror tales involved babysitters. Yes, babysitters. I could tell you that I, as a child, had a more-than-healthy fear of strangers, and highly suspected everyone I didn't know of either being a demonic babysitter or ruthless kidnapper of sorts But I digress...

The framework simply involves the two working parents planning for the baby, and coordinating working shifts in such a way as to allow one or both parents to be there for the child at all times.

When a couple plan together for their kid/kids, it is easier to give them the needed attention and still build their careers or own lives if intetested

Congrats OP,

God bless your home

What a thread

shymexx:
Well, if single chics were to start closing their legs, a lot of things would change. Basically, the power to control the weakness of promiscuous men, who think it's a "norm" to sleep with all kinds of women still falls solely on women.

Men will always be men, but women can change a lot of things. They have got the power.

Lol at men will always be men

So let's just say men are immoral dogs who have no self control thetefore they depend on women to help them keep it in their pants.

If men like these will agree with my statement above and not piss in their boxers anytime women call them dogs, then the women fool.i.sh enough to roll with them will know how to keep them on a leash if they mind the faithfulness

However, if a man wants to be respected then he must earn it by becoming a moral compass to his family and society @ large. Like you rightly said in your post, respect is earned and only a bully demands respect which will eventually lead to disrespect.

You also know that a man is a leader in his home and should lead by example.Whatever you want your family to do, start showing them how.

A single lady knows she will always be the side chick same as the single guy and really have nothing to lose when all goes south.

The responsibility lies solely with the married party to cultivate and nurture his or her marriage. If he/she thinks sleeping around is what is needed to cultivate it, all well and good.

Men cannot keep eating their cake and have it; if they want to be without morals, don't fret when you are called names or disrespected.

Toks2008:
This is my candid advice for the young eoman out there who still probably have time talking about ladies of 25yrs or below.

I keep telling ladies and when i write things like this it seems im stupid or i too know.

Marrying a man is not about your feelings towards him but his feelings towards you and its not about six packs,tall height,cute looks or even the cheese in his pocket.

A lady needs a man that will truly cherish her and every other thing is secondary and if you think i am blabbing,go do your research and you will realize that no matter how you think you love a guy,if he treats you like serious shit,that love you have for him will fly through the window.

It really matters to like the man in your life i know but trust me,if that man treats you well and i mean like a real queen,i give you a short while and you will wake up one day to realize how deeply you have fallen for him too even if he is a short fat ugly guy..Please think deep before falling for that sweet tongue guy.

As a lady,you an an endangered specie in this cruel world of man and your love for a man is so insignificant if he does not love you and your strong desire for a guy who does not truly desire you is the greatest mistake you will ever make.

The most unfortunate twist to this is that most ladies know a ,man who truly loves and cherishes them but they are always like "Tunde loves me i know but i don't love him" and she ends up with a man that will treat her like plague so i keep wondering that if ladies will only go for a guy who truly cherishes them, we will have many ladies settling down fast and will also have a very very low rate of divorce.

Be with a man who have strong feelings for you and not the one you have strong feelings for.

I can't stress this enough.

A true post

Nothing beats a man loving a woman

legalwealth:
Are you married?

See question

The thread says 'Which do you prefer in a nagging wife and a cheat'

The poster you quoted is obviously a female so can only talk about the type of husband she prefers

@OP:

What really do you intend to achieve with this thread?

Gaggi: I love kids but I've stopped playing with people's kids. There is no trust any more in this country. I just wave at the kids from afar and ask how they are doing.
It's the price we have to pay for what some deranged and depraved men have decided to start doing with kids. If u want to play with kids, go and have yours.

True

I helped a little girl cross the road and when we got to the other side, she bolted like Usain.

The world is not what it was anymore

People now frown with ladies playing with their kids just that they frown more @ guys

We hear of kidnap, molest, rituals etc daily

pickabeau1: Yes a married woman propositioning a young man for sex is out of the ordinary


However as you noticed but failed to comment on ..the man said NO...he lost d opportunity


Why can't girls say NO

Try n read other's posts n digest it before u jumpeefending women incessantly

The boy said no and the married woman's libid.o died!

Hurray! I am a sucker for happy endings

Defend women?

On this thread even when I have said severally that the married person man/woman is wrong?

You think if the guy slept with the woman, I will blame him?

It is strange for a narried woman to toast a boy but not vice versa?

It is well

udomafire: Oh you really like that one for Cococandy? i promise am gonna make a better one for you if you care.

Thanks

pickabeau1: How do these women proposition men..what boldness and self belief to believed they are still relevant in d market.


Don't they know men want tight punny..not old kid expanded ones..

I knew it

That your problem was with the women and not cheating singles

Married man chase single lady: lady should say no
Married woman chase single guy: How can an old expired lady toast a single guy

It is the ladies innit?

Not a bad thing.

I am sure you conducted a survey to know that married women's stuff expires.

It is all good.

Let married people keep waiting on singles to help them keep vows they made voluntarily.

1miccza: Me thinks another version of your question should be why would a married lady with kids fall over and over for a guy....Oya e don set oo

pickabeau will tell you it is because the single guy was wayward

What is the guy's own? Did he stand at the altar with the husband on their weddng day?

pickabeau1: If what has been said is not clear to you thus far
Let me reiterate

No party is solely to be blamed

The men are guilty
The women that open their legs are also culpable

Is that clear.....

The single ladies culpable of what?

Did they make a vow of faithfulness to the married party?

If there is no crack in the wall, no lizard can enter. If a married person doesnot make mockery of his/her marriage, no single person can.

Leave the singles, they are not the problem

pickabeau1: Just like you argue for the sake of arguments
A man cheats with a woman and in your book..the man is solely guilty..?

Absolute bollocks!

This is not clear...clarify...


Who knows...

What is not clear?

The OP was clearly referring to single men and women yet by magic, you pick only single ladies

A man sleeps with a single lady and the lady is to blame

I am curious to know who will be wrong when a guy sleeps with a married woman

SAMBARRY: chaiiii coco this ya tory sweet no be small. I enjoy am


but question for you

1.why did you bother explaining or trying to convince her that nothing was going on between you and him

2.throughout the wooing process did you collect money, I phone or clothes from him


don lie o God is washin you





Ahen as for the vegetable you asked for. It's here na

This your vegetable is so so yummy!

Cococandy, be nice enough to share

pickabeau1: Duh... Tell me something new.....so they solicit the woman for sex and companionship and suddenly their sense takes flight....
what is so exciting about another womans property..
Women just want to take something of another man's



We have heard enough of NL women's indignation on men
Why do these women have no self respect
Ehnnn..

Tell me.. i dey wait



if the sellers close their shop.. the market will close

Sambarry ... how market

Only women sleep with married men

crackhaus: I'm not actually anti-feminism, I'm anti-pseudofeminism

I am anti pseudo anything myself

I do not do 1 leg in and another out

crackhaus: Sounds like one, types like one, aggressive like one, never accepting her wrong even when it's clear - like one...and most of all, supports the eradication of gender roles.
I'm sorry but I'd rather she say she isn't one herself...you know, for posterity sake

carefreewannabe has admitted she does not support doing away with 'traditional' gender roles, I typed this again for posterity sake.

cococandy and bukatyne don't know what wave of feminism they belong to...typed again for posterity sake.

Why are you giving yourself headache over what wave we are?

We might never meet you know

Nashville: I am surprised that a feminist is cleaning, shopping and cooking just because her man is coming over.

Doesn't he have hands? Can't he do it himself?

Your actions doesn't sound like what you advise other women to do.

How does believing men and women are equal translate to not cooking or cleaning?

Does cooking and cleaning make a woman inferior?

Does driving wifey around make a man inferior?

Does bathing the kids makes the parents inferior?

If your friend is coming over (same age, same net worth, same build i.e. you are equals) is coming over,will you not try to put your house in order and arrange entertainment for your friend? Does that suddenly diminish your worth in your friend's eyes?

We were taught in sunday school and by parents years ago that hospitality is one of the attributes of a true Christian

Don't confuse lack of home training and manners with feminism

@OP:

Nice thread

Thank you and good morning

dytbabe: When I was a child
I was made to blv whenever rainbow appears
Its Gods promise

It is true

crackhaus: He wants you to see the light.

What wave of feminism do you belong to?

What light dear?

What wave of anti feminism do you belong to?

Nashville: WOW!!!

Very nice of you! Kinda surprised though!

Suprised as in feminists don't cook or eat?

cococandy: Abi o. All others living their monogamous marriages are suffering and smiling.
He's the only saint.

Or

Maybe he's giving his wife an indirect message
(It hasn't been only you these 45yrs)
I hope she reads between the lines

Seriously, wifey needs to do some research

TribalEAST: "I feel that ‘man-hating’ is an honourable and viable political
act, that the oppressed have a right to class-hatred against
the class that is oppressing them.” – Robin Morgan, Ms.
Magazine Editor


“To call a man an animal is to flatter him; he’s a machine, a
walking Love Machine.” -– Valerie Solanas


“I want to see a man beaten to a bloody pulp with a high-heel
shoved in his mouth, like an apple in the mouth of a pig.” —
Andrea Dworkin


“Rape is nothing more or less than a conscious process of
intimidation by which all men keep all women in a state of
fear” — Susan Brownmiller


“The more famous and powerful I get the more power I have
to hurt men.” — Sharon Stone


“In a patriarchal society, all heterosexual intercourse is rape
because women, as a group, are not strong enough to give
meaningful consent.” — Catherine MacKinnon


“The proportion of men must be reduced to and maintained
at approximately 10% of the human race.” — Sally Miller
Gearhart



“Men who are unjustly accused of rape can sometimes gain
from the experience.” – Catherine Comins


“All men are rapists and that’s all they are” — Marilyn French



“Probably the only place where a man can feel really secure
is in a maximum security prison, except for the imminent
threat of release.” — Germaine Greer.

OK OP,

You have confirmed all feminists are men hating women by the statements of less than 20 feminists.

What do you what us to do?

cococandy: Can be very amusing sometimes..

When you say feminists push for equal rights,they say they don't believe in equality.

When a guy calls them lesser beings,they begin to 'provoke'

The funniest are those who actually believe in equality but are against feminism.(Biko what is that)

Neither here nor their.

At least I'm not confused about which team I'm playing for.

It is all good

cococandy: Yet he's been married for 35yrs in a monogamous 'marriage-made-in-heaven' union.

Everyone else is living a lie except him.
Smh.

35yrs ke?

He said 45yrs and had a club promoting marriage for 35yrs.

He is the only saint na...

Abeg, don't rain on his parade