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edwife:
It was a question actually. I only knew when soup is bad when i had multiple choices in front of me. My mum doesn't use Maggi and pepper when cooking(fresh pepper only) and i was used to that taste since infancy.I grew up cooking just like her,my taste bud was like that for a while. But today as i grew up and happen to cook for different people,i had to learn to cook with enough salt and pepper.Was my mum soup at the time the best,YES! unless it is very bad like putting sugar in the soup.I also think it is not a good analogy because love making and not sex is more about connection,attraction......

Many women don't know what orgasm is,it's a fact. We all know that sex is a communication of love especially in marriage.It is not just about reading or knowing the technicalities and the lingo.For many women, not climaxing can be caused by everything from unrealistic expectations, to awful sex, discomfort with their bodies, discomfort with their partners, or even discomfort with sex itself.

One thing is to remember that our bodies are not machines that all work identically. What works for A will not work for B.Many people have gotten the message that simply inserting part A into slot B should result in earth-shattering orgasms, and when it doesn't work like this, they feel like they (or their partners) are doing something wrong.

The fact is, most women orgasm from clitoral stimulation, not from vaginal penetration, and that stimulation often needs to go on for long time.It could be within a minute or hours.They are married,partners she has to let him know what makes her feel good like you said.that is why she is a virgin,she kept herself to experience all this with her husband.Communication seems to be their problem and all other troubles(critisism,lack of appreciation,tiredness......) make their way into the bedroom and make orgasm more challenging.

She communicated to him just that dude simply won't do it and that's a juicy part of the cookie to miss out on eternally . As for the food, mum loved her tomatoes not too fried, I ate it but always knew I don't like it, see.... no other alternative to compare with but it doesn't agree with my taste bud and I knew it instinctively . How you come dey write plenty epistle like this?

Armyofone surrogacy makes a lot of sense, but if am the man I will accept this as long as she is footing the bills .

She is being selfish here since there is no complication with previous births, trying one more for the sake of her husband isn't that bad. You can't deny one something very important to them and yet expect them to be happy. The man didn't ask beyond reasonable limits , adding one more will just make it 3.


Who knows the role this man played in the previous births, she might have her reasons. No one knows the whole story.

[quote author=edwife post=42097556][/quote]Edwife no be true oooo, somethings are instinctive. Everyone knows when a soup is bad but pretends is Ok not to offend Ma. You don't need to be experienced to know what feels good .

Op all I beg is please don't kill your self over nothing, it ain't worth it. Do what you can do and leave the rest.

You never see something , promiscuity comes with a price. Pay up and pray she doesn't die on you.

initiate:
no she no dey fornicate; she has her own husband and she remains faithful to him

going back to the initial issue, nobody holy pass but when you see someone flaunting a lifestyle of iniquity you have a duty to stop her from faking righteousness by leading prayers. would you allow a doctor who failed medical school and bought the certificate perform a surgery on your child

Thank you .

It's not a matter of forming holy, an obviously atrocious person won't lead me in prayer. The prayer of a sinner is an abomination to his sight.

It should be criminalised with nothing less than 5 years sentence in the slammer as penalty.

If you are young and unmarried , take the risk.

You started this ex contacting thing , you might not like where it will end. You know why she is hurt yet you came here to cry Wolf and make her look like the mad one here. You are bringing in the ants infested firewood, don't come crying when the lizards comes for visitation. When a woman stops caring, the marriage goes to hell,don't let your ITK do you in. I can see you totally feel it's Ok to keep the ex contacts.

bjcole:
There is nothing to be proud of in cheating, one of the things I do myself instead of complaining about cheating being on a high side is to consciously ensure that it stops with me. I have come to see cheating as devaluing my self, I loose my personality and I m not in control.

Surely nothing to be proud of, it's actually a disgrace to oneself but people got to cope somehow. I can't judge the extreme reactions of some people cheated on because I can't predict what I will do in such situation.

tearoses:
If I were cheated on it will be the lies
cos you would have had to lie over and over again to pull it off
therefore making me look like a fool
That will really pain me
People underestimate the pain of cheating

In an open marriage at least all parties are agreeing up front to what they intend to do

It's the lie that hurts the most not the actual physical contact itself. The fact that you have trusted the person, given your best to the relationship and yet taken for a fool. Oh yes!! People underestimate the pain, the reason I still believe that whatever your partner responds with because of your cheating is well deserved, I can never feel sorry for such a person.

Onegai:
cococandy nd byvan03 some MiLs will make you regret getting married where were you when last week someone said her MiL told everyone she was rude and refused to visit because she stopped the MiL from using engine oil to rub the baby's navel during omugwo?

What ? These mamas boys need to know that their mother 's reign ends in her husband 's house .

tearoses:
Especially in London
The ones I have heard about are jaw dropping
They cheat wella and life goes on

Many times the man is cheating too though
I know of 2 who cheated and their husbands turned a blind eye.

Another one introduced her boyfriend to her husband as her cousin
The husband is in Naija & wifey is in Obodo
The wifey sends her bf to their house in Naija
This is a true story . . .not nollywood.
The day hubby finds out, that bf is dead meat.

About a year ago there was a very public beef with all these London women exposing themselves and their escapades.
Many of them were married at the time.
Must be something in Thames water

My dear even those in Naija here are competing favourably, whatever in Thames water got here too .

Onegai the second marriage deserves to end, horrible!

bukatyne:
Which one be clapping again?

Lol, Buka how body jare?

Nigerians and their sense of entitlement, do you know how many people expecting something from him? He bought cars worth millions and so? It's his money not yours, if you don't need the money, give it to someone that needs it. No be only 300k, money grows on trees .

edwife:
You are right, most women don't forgive they just pretend to forgive. Many people think those women who stay in that kind of marriage are senseless,truth is they always clap back secretly.

For me men don't forgive because of Ego only when it's out in the public,those who forgive too will never look at their wives the same again,the trust is gone.

Exactly, that's why I really doubt the intelligence of men that fall for " women always forgive blah blah ". They clap back and face front, marriage continues.

No go train your children, when you dey dash your cookie to a useless married man you no know?

I don't believe that women forgive either, you will be stunned on the number of men that forgive once it's not yet public news. Don't let the E bravery they display here deceive you,nah wash.

Rubbish impossible gist.

A very selfless act, kudos to the officer.

mubzay:
How much is postpartum waist trainer? Will be needing one soon. Also, how do I measure myslf to d size dt will fit. Am pregs

Post partum belt is different from waist trainer , please contact for further clarification.

Scary!!! The comments here hurts badly, grown men thinking is Ok to defile a child .

So cool, lovely boys .

Exaggerated scribbles...

Age isn't just a number, the older the man, the bigger his baggage. It's better to stick to ones generation in matters of the heart, these old folks can be quite out of tune.

Let her stay elsewhere.

bukatyne:
Honestly, I do not get it

Must the OP be told to do chores before doing them? Even if he was contributing to the finances?

The sister better sends him away before he causes a friction between herself and hubby.

Even has the guts to complain that the man that has harboured him rent free is jobless. I can't believe he expects to eat free food and live in a free house but can't wash plates used by his older inlaw. Pride is his problem.

Poverty of the mind is the worst of it all.

Who are you expecting to do the dishes? You Are the youngest so you have to do it or move out.

U

Bisjosh:
His problem is not poverty. He's just irresponsible, stingy and archaic.

When u love someone, unknowingly u pay for some things. Did u read where d lady said she got gifts for him but he never did? (not even 500 recharge card haba!)it's just mere instincts to do so!

Poverty doesn't make u stingy. Whether rich or poor, if ur stingy ur stingy. The responsibility of ur marriage will be on u(children sch fees, hse rent etc)

And to cap it all, you're not of the same orientation,exposure and status. This will continually embarrass or limit u

My advice is this: have a deep discussion with him, watch for a month. If he doesn't change pls let him go.
You are a hardworking woman hence need a man that is compatible and would complement u.

Cc lalasticlala seun ati bebe lo

Please OP,this is the gospel.