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HealthRe: How Do I Get Rid Of My Keloids? by caandi: 11:47am On Sep 12, 2021
Rule no 1. Never! I mean never try to open it by creating sound of not it becomes full blown keloid jumps and treatment would be harder and it will spread more. I have a contact the baba helped my baby bro treat his and it worked, after being to AB bumps at Ikeja and different other places and spent more than half a million to no avail! But this babe therapeutic treatment works. Contact or Whatsapp me on 08177367875 for his details it’s 100% guarantee. Let me obtain his number from my mum cos she’s with it
Christianity EtcRe: TB Joshua’s Wife Evict Disciples From SCOAN (Video) by caandi: 11:35am On Sep 12, 2021
Please she should be discreet to avoid all these bloggers typing lubbish
FamilyRe: ”we Share Her Peacefully” – Twin Brothers Who Married One Wife by caandi: 11:25am On Sep 12, 2021
They’re just poverty oriented sickos. To think of it who owns the child? Lubbish
PoliticsRe: Sanwo-Olu To Jim Iyke: "You Are A Bad Guy" by caandi: 11:05am On Sep 12, 2021
They’re both bad guys
CrimeRe: Italian Kills Nigerian Wife For Filing For Divorce After Three-Year Marriage by caandi: 10:37am On Sep 12, 2021
The man looks demented and dangerous, he looks so shabby and old.. how could she have settled for this kind of man that’s old enough to be her father? Well that’s what the economy has pushed our youths to. It’s a pity
TravelRe: If You Could Live Anywhere, Where Would It Be? by caandi: 10:35am On Sep 12, 2021
Please all of you saying Canada should leave it for me. Tank u
TravelRe: If You Could Live Anywhere, Where Would It Be? by caandi: 10:33am On Sep 12, 2021
Snitch24:
Oman
I’ll live to go there for shopping. This I’ve seen. The best is coming
FamilyRe: What Is That Special Thing That Makes You Happy? by caandi: 10:32am On Sep 12, 2021
Hmmm what makes me happy
1. Serving God in truth and spirit and knowing that he’s pleased with me
2. Having a lot of money and being able to afford whatever I want
3. Traveling/ going to beautiful places
4. The fact I know that God is for me.
5. Seeing my family happy makes me happy , seeing their dreams being fulfilled is one of the greatest joy for me, cos when they’re happy I’m happy
6. Attaining my dreams.. inbtw I’ve always wished to own a skyscraper � . Thank you Jesus for its done
FamilyRe: Is There Such A Thing As Forgive And Forget? by caandi: 10:03am On Sep 12, 2021
binarymachine:
“Okay, back up a second, I can do forgiveness but you see forgetting? Uh uh I can’t. You see I come from a long line of historians, we keep track of people who have done us wrong, so I am definitely not going to do that. People do not actually change, they say they do but they don’t, you have to shine your eyes, watch out for the next time they are going to do the same thing, so you toss them off and move on”.

Wait- that’s a whole lot of work, to watch out for someone’s mistakes. Well let’s move on.
Now, What Does It Actually Mean To Forgive?
Well, from the English Dictionary It means;

a) To absolve somebody completely for a past or wrong doing;
b) to pardon with neither resentment nor a view to retribution.

Now To Forget means to overlook, pass over, disremember.

Look at the second definition of Forgive carefully, it says to pardon “without resentment”. How would you forgive someone and then still have that chip on your shoulder. Wait, What? What kind of chip? Well it’s the one you have as a constant reminder that somehow, somewhere that person you just forgave will repeat the same thing or even worse do something more terrible to you. So you tell the person you have forgiven him/her and you convince yourself that you have, but deep within, you sure know you’re holding back.

Robert Brault said- “If you can’t forgive and forget, pick one”. I would beg to disagree because you see,
If you pick forgiving and decide not to forget, often times you may find yourself stuck. How so? When you forgive an individual for wronging you, you give yourself the opportunity to move on,to grow. If the person is your friend, you know he/she won’t deliberately hurt you and even if they do, it would be a mistake, and they would immediately apologise.

Now, the growth process will make this person (friend or not) to be a better individual if he chooses to. But most importantly you will be a better person and you will feel good, better you would feel great.
Look at it this way? How would you feel if you lashed out on your friend in anger. She is hurt and you apologise quickly, you didn’t mean to hurt her, but for your “quick tongue”. She says she has forgiven you and now you have the past behind you and both move on. Seems the friendship is progressing until six months later, you lashed out on her again, this time not deliberately.

The therapist you’ve been visiting for the past months said you breathe in and breathe out for at least five seconds before saying anything when angry. It has been working but today you slipped, this one time, so you apologise. She is enraged, she looks you in the face and says you’ll never change, that you’d keep doing the same thing over and over again, to make matters worse, she goes down memory lane to recount each of your past misdoings. Yes I know how you would feel. Your shoulders are slumped, you’re sorry and hurt.

You realize now, she didn’t actually forgive you, she just told you she did but she didn’t in the real sense of the word. The progress you were trying to make to be a better person now looks like a mirage. You feel terrible. Then you may decide to break off the relationship to stay true to yourself and be with someone who would help your growth process. Or worse, you may decide to believe that you aren’t going to be a better individual, that you will never change and pretty soon it will take a toll on you.
On the other hand, to truly forget a wrong, you have to go through a process of healing, which will make it easy for you to move on.

After all, Confucius said-” To be wronged is nothing, unless you continue to remember it”. This can’t really happen without you forgiving the person who hurt you and forgiving yourself. You forgive yourself for letting this person into your life, and letting him/her hurt you that way.

Now don’t take this the wrong way, forgiving and forgetting a person’s wrong shouldn’t make you to constantly allow toxicity in your life or allow people who constantly bring you down to remain. Sometimes if it’s a friendship, forgetting may mean to shut the door completely and never look back, never allow such a fellow into your life again. It helps your sanity.

In forgiving and forgetting, you get to be wiser, stronger and very powerful- you are in control of your emotions. You know the people to avoid in the future and you know the people to let in, you know the steps to take when wrong and you know how to let go and move on. I’ll conclude with this quote by Mahatma Gandhi, “The weak can never forgive, forgiveness is an attribute of the strong.”
Source:
https://flipmemes.com/2021/08/25/is-there-such-a-thing-as-forgive-and-forget/
nothing like long line of historians here. It’s your personality and temperament that played a major role in that. They’re people that forgive and forget and it all boils down to your temperament and personality
Jobs/VacanciesRe: 11 Financial Steps You Should Take Before Age 40 by caandi: 9:52am On Sep 12, 2021
Good advice but paper assets isn’t working for now cos of the bad economy. You see stocks and treasury bills ain’t paying now so for now don’t even try it.
CelebritiesRe: Sirbalo Comedy Builds An 8-Bedroom Apartment For His Mother (Photos) by caandi: 9:48am On Sep 12, 2021
I tap into this blessing amen
EducationRe: You’re Insincere, Deceptive, ASUU Tells FG by caandi: 9:47am On Sep 12, 2021
Imagine kettle calling charcoal black. Y’all are the same
TV/MoviesRe: What Is Happening To TSTV? by caandi: 9:46am On Sep 12, 2021
I read a particular news that they want to merge with mytv strong
CelebritiesRe: Annie Idibia Having Fun With Her Kids And Fans Despite Divorce Rumors by caandi: 9:39am On Sep 12, 2021
That’s why money is good. She’s got it , she’s enjoying it, y’all that carry the matter for your head. You don chop dominos or are you riding Benz? Nonsense and ingredients
SportsRe: Zlatan Considers Himself Equal To Ronaldo & Messi As The Best In The World by caandi: 9:36am On Sep 12, 2021
502 goals no be small thing, he should be addressed to as the greatest in Fball... just saying
TravelRe: Car Wash Attendant Crashes A Client’s Benz On His Way To Get Soap In Edo State by caandi: 9:34am On Sep 12, 2021
This is a good example of it is finished. Because he will soon be finished by the owner of “my car”
PoliticsRe: Gunmen Ambush, Kill Obi Alex Edozieuno, Chauffeur by caandi: 9:33am On Sep 12, 2021
Aguleri and Umuleri and fighting, evil are like 5&6.
CelebritiesRe: Tonto Dikeh Says She Is Heart Broken, Thanks Fans For Supporting her (Video) by caandi: 9:32am On Sep 12, 2021
I feel for her cos this scandal can spoil things for her, like contracts and co... she needs her peace of mind. Let her go and see her pastor for counseling
FamilyRe: A 50-year-old Man Impregnated My 16-year-old Sister. by caandi: 9:29am On Sep 12, 2021
Please let her not keep the child for the sake of her mental health. I feel for her.
PhonesRe: Cost Of Data In Nigeria Is Very High. Not Cheap by caandi: 9:38pm On Sep 09, 2021
Pls that’s not the situation here, the fact here is that whether the data is high or not, the koko of the matter is that it finishes in time. Their tarrif is too high
CelebritiesRe: Tonto Dikeh Remembers Her Dead Mother Following Breakup Brawl by caandi: 9:33pm On Sep 09, 2021
I send serious depression here
CrimeRe: Missouri Woman Losses $1.2M To Two Nigerian Men In Romance Scam by caandi: 3:34pm On Sep 09, 2021
When there’s no means of survival this is what our youths have turned to for survival
CrimeRe: Missouri Woman Losses $1.2M To Two Nigerian Men In Romance Scam by caandi: 3:34pm On Sep 09, 2021
When there’s no means of survival this is what our youths have turned to
HealthWhat Can Make A New Born Mother Of 7weeks Old Continue To Bleed by caandi(op): 2:58pm On Sep 09, 2021
I need advice from medical professionals in the house please. A newborn mother to a 7weeks old baby started to see her period on the 27th of August and then on the 31st and 1st of September it seized and then started again on the 2nd till date. Please note that it’s not a heavy flow, and today the color looks paler like lochia, she’s worried, is this normal or could it be that something is wrong somewhere? Pls note that she delivered via VD( vaginal delivery)
Pls any advice is welcome. Someone said she didn’t press hot water well. What do you think is attributing to this
PoliticsRe: Yul Edochie: I Will Defeat All Candidates In A Free & Fair Presidential Election by caandi: 2:46pm On Sep 09, 2021
Keep on yarning dust yul. How your sugar baby?
FamilyRe: Anthony Chijioke: Dr. Ozuzu George Davidson Slept With My Wife (Photos) by caandi: 6:02pm On Sep 08, 2021
Look at the woman tattoos, form there you should know she isn’t responsible
CelebritiesRe: Tonto Dikeh: I Would Have Killed Churchill With ‘Rat Poison’ (Leaked Audio) by caandi: 5:59pm On Sep 08, 2021
One thing I’ve learned for sure is that she’s dangerous
TV/MoviesRe: BBNaija: Tega Finally Meet Her Husband, Shares Kisses And Hugs (Video) by caandi: 5:42pm On Sep 08, 2021
It’s all scripted. The two couples planned this
Foreign AffairsRe: Indonesia Prison Fire Kills 41 Drug Inmates, 80 Hospitalised (Video) by caandi: 5:38pm On Sep 08, 2021
Kk
CelebritiesRe: Chioma Shops With Ubi Franklin (Pictures) by caandi: 5:36pm On Sep 08, 2021
Uni isn’t a good influence babygirl
CelebritiesRe: Pasuma And Wife Visit Their daughter Khadijat,a US Naval Officer At Her Base by caandi: 5:34pm On Sep 08, 2021
This man is responsible

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